I (28M) recently started dating my current girlfriend (26F) about two months ago or so, and she’s my first official girlfriend after my previous long term relationship ended about a year ago. I have talked to some girls between now and then, always with the intention of ending up in a long term relationship, but none of them have worked out for various reasons, and my girlfriend is the first girl I felt deeply emotional enough toward and confident about that I knew I had to make it official. And there are so, so many positive qualities that my girlfriend has. Enough that until now I have been able to handle some behavior that I would normally consider red-flag behavior. But it has recently become a bit too much for me, especially since I’ve communicated with her about it and she promised to try to fix some of these issues, but I haven’t felt like she’s really made any progress with them, and I have been stressed out because of it.
She is very controlling, especially with my communication habits. I am a really communicative person, and I’m always open for texting or calling when I can. But I’m not always stuck to my phone. Some of the things she has gotten upset at me for are not letting her know when I go somewhere and do something (like going to the gym, or going shopping outside, or even just going on a long walk around), especially if it deviates from my normal routine. I’ve compromised on this and I’ve told her I don’t mind letting her know when I go to and from the gym (an all male gym, mind you, right down the street).
She’s also gotten upset at me for not answering the phone and calling her back 15 minutes later. I was playing a game and my phone is always set to silent for my own reasons, mostly that it’s not good for my phone to go off at work with the job that I have.
She’s gotten mad at me for accidentally falling asleep before texting goodnight, even though I do that nearly every single night. She also gets upset when I don’t text her good morning as soon as I wake up. This happened this morning, even though I texted her good morning. It was just a little later than usual because I was rushed and not in a great mood this morning. I sent her a very nice good morning text and she was still upset.
She’s also gotten upset at me for seeming “too cold” over text, when I’ve felt like I’ve been texting normally. Recently she got really upset that I take my phone into the bathroom with me, and I really pushed back on this one because I don’t find it to be an issue. But in the end I decided it was better just to leave my phone out when I go.
There’s also the fact that my current two close friends are female (I recently moved countries and this is just the way it’s turned out. I want more close male friends but haven’t met many yet). She is fine with me going over to their houses, at least she said, but she gets really emotional and withdrawn when I’m over there for too long, and once asked me to send pictures to make sure I wasn’t sitting on the couch too close to my friend, which I didn’t do. And bear in mind that I maybe hang out with these friends once a month for a few hours at most.
She’d explained that she had a very long term boyfriend in the past that cheated on her and that this is why she’s this way. Also that she comes from a culture (different from mine) where cheating is super common and it’s more normal to be worried about these things.
It’s just that I have been trying my utmost best to be a good boyfriend these past couple of months because I really want this to work out, but honestly it is excessive and I feel untrusted despite doing nothing wrong, and despite my own efforts to compromise. Is there anything I can do?

I (29f) am going to be solo traveling for work for a few weeks in July and will be stopping in 7 countries and spending 1-2 days in each place. Looking for some help on my itinerary. Please note that I cannot change the days/times I'll be working each of my work events, so I'm trying to plan around them the best I can where I can see some cool things in each country without getting too fatigued/burnt out. If it's helpful to know, I'll be traveling from east coast, USA. Currently, I've tried to plan one "event"/tourist attraction to see each day, and whatever other free time I have in that country, I figured I'll casually explore the city, find some good food, stay at the hotel pool, etc. But I have a 5 day gap between HCMC and Tokyo and am trying to decide between a few options listed below. Also looking to see if my itinerary seems doable in the time I have. Additional info: I enjoy nature/scenery, beaches, cultural stuff, art/architecture, honestly just wanna see some beautiful places. I'm not into drinking so don't care for nightlife kind of things. Not super concerned with travel & transportation budget as my job is paying for most of it, but would like to keep activities to $100ish USD max a day.
July 19 - arrive in Jakarta
July 20 - walk and explore city during the day
July 20 - 6-10pm work event
July 21 - fly into Singapore, walk around/explore city
July 22 - 11am - 3pm work event/relax rest of day
July 23 - Gardens by the Bay (all day)
July 24 - fly into Kuala Lumpur midday, relax for the evening
July 25 - Batu Caves/waterfall 9-3pm; 6-10pm work event
July 26 - fly into Bangkok (land 8am), check into hotel 11am, take cab at noon to ethical elephant sanctuary in Pattaya for a tour from 2-5pm
July 27 - work event 6-10pm
July 28 - fly into HCMC Vietnam, explore city
July 29 - work event 11am-3pm
\July 30-Aug 2 - SEE OPTIONS BELOW**
Aug 3 - work event in Tokyo 6-10pm
Aug 4 - Fly into Seoul (I've lived in Korea so I will end the itinerary here as I don't need any further insight into this country).
Option 1:
- July 29 fly to Northern Vietnam in the evening, and spend July 30 & 31 seeing one or two of the following places: seeing Hanoi, Ha Long Bay, Ninh Binh, or Sa Pa. From my research, these sound more interesting to me than the options I'm finding in HCMC (not really interested in the war museum or Cu Chi tunnels)
-Aug 1 fly into Tokyo, spend Aug 1-3 exploring Tokyo
Option 2:
-July 30 fly into Okinawa, spend Jul. 30 & 31, and head into Tokyo July 31 night. Aug 1-3 explore Tokyo
Option 3:
- July 30 head straight to Tokyo and spend 5 days exploring Tokyo
I love the idea of seeing more of Vietnam because I've heard how amazing it is, but if it's a hassle to get to the places listed from HCMC, then maybe it's worth heading straight to Japan. If I head straight to Japan, is it too much to try and do Okinawa and Tokyo in the time allotted? Is 3 days enough to get a good feel of Tokyo? Would also be open to hearing suggestions of other good beaches within an hour or so from Tokyo if there are any.
Also, does my itinerary as a whole sound doable? I know I have extremely limited time in each country and ideally wouldn't want to move around so much, but can't change the work schedule unfortunately. Thanks in advance!!

I'd like to try to ordegive away a binder to 4 people. If possible I'd ideally like to let the winners pick specifically what they'd like me to order though ideally it would be one that isn't too much more than $45 (not counting shipping) and of course we need to look at where companies ship to and such. I'm also okay helping someone find one if they aren't really sure what they want. I may post this give away in a few places but I'll be giving 4 total not per place I posted. Feel free to show this to people.
Details:
- To participate just post that you are interested in a post I made about the giveaway before the deadline
- I will choose 4 winners at random.
-I will PM the winners to they'll have to be comfortable discussing with me over PM and giving me info on how to get it shipped to them, the size they need, etc.
-Some companies have options for discreet shipping (like GC2B) so if you need that please let me know and we'll try to find somewhere where we can do that. Alternatively if you need some kind of message on the package I can see if the seller has an option for that.
-Some shops have varieties in different skin tones, or solid colors or even a few pride patterns and if there's something like that you need / really want we can hopefully try to find something
-If you want specifically a swim binder or a full length that can kind of be shapewear too there's definitely places to do that. If you don't know what kind you want my general recomendation is a basic half-back binder.
-Responding on multiple posts does not give you more entries
Deadline to enter: 23:59 Pacific Standard Time Sat 6/24. I will try to contact winners some time on 6/25 just to let them know they won / start figuring things out especially if they know what they want already and can just link it, but otherwise will work out details with them over the next week or two.
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If I do other giveaways / as I figure this out I'll post them here: https://www.reddit.com/lgbt/comments/141cet9/i_had_a_bunch_of_fun_ideas_for_random_free_lotery/
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Intro

I wanna make a post for people to read that isn't too boring, long / short, or cheesy as I have a habit of talking about my emotions + feelings when it comes to this sort of thing, that's mostly what I talked about in my last post... I'm hoping I can get at least someone's attention by writing the right and necessary words on this subreddit... So, where to begin?
I guess I'll start with what I'm looking for in terms of dating. A fresh, warm, healthy and positive long-term relationship is what I've been craving for the last 4¼ years (after getting a taste of it 4¼ years ago then it was instantly taken away), not as in desperate or obsessed with it, more as in yearning for that right person to come along and bring sunshine to my life for the first time in a very long time. Someone who'll accept me for who I am and not care about what I have / don't have, someone who'll understand and accept my insecurities and flaws, not to mention me doing the same for her as well. I wanna have that happy and bright future with that special someone, similar to all the couples I see on Instagram who laugh, joke, tease each other, flirt, do fun activities together both indoors and outdoors, purchase matching items for them to wear and hold dear, hold hands... I want the dream.
However, I do understand that relationships need time to form and grow in a healthy and positive way, so maybe we could get to know each other first and see where things lead?

Personality (100% the truth)

As you might have guessed, I am a hard core introvert. Although I get along with people irl; I briefly chat to them by saying the usual "hello" or "alright?", I then usually keep to myself from them most times to avoid feeling ignored / unimportant / irrelevant in their eyes. This is because I'm not that great at socialising in public places like the club or anywhere else, and also due to the fact that I feel extremely shy whilst meeting new people. However, if others ARE willing to get to know me and want me in their presence, I will perk up and be quite a confident individual once enough time passes :)
Other things you should know about me is that I'm extremely loyal and will never hurt the people I love and hold dear, no matter what. I care too much about the people in my life, including family, and I also will never let them down or disappoint them in any way.
Just a little fun fact about me, my zodiac sign is Cancer ♋️🦀 for those of you who are interested and if that matters to you at all. This is related to what I've just written above in the second and fourth paragraphs.

Hobbies

I'm an indoor type of person. I like:
•Watching TV shows like Doctor Who when new episodes come out, The Simpsons and Hollyoaks 5 days a week, and binging on a ton of movies.
•Listening to music pretty much every single day as I'm a huge HUGE fan of it.
•Gaming on PC games such as GTA, Red Dead, and Minecraft.
•I may stay indoors most of the time, but I DO also enjoy doing outdoor activities like spending my days out in places in the UK like Scarborough, Blackpool, Hornsea and Withernsea. I'm going to a place named Filey late next month so hopefully I'll get to take a load of pics to show you if you're interested :)
•I'm also interested in Photography, taking stunning photos both indoors and outdoors to store and save for later. Wildlife, sea life and everything else in between is what I'm most interested in :)
•Playing different sports such as Badminton, Bowling, Cricket, Dodgeball, Tennis and Volleyball on the beach are activities I really enjoy doing, but I haven't played them recently thanks to a lack of others playing them with me.
•Gardening and working with plants is something that really fascinates me, planting and watching plants of all shapes and sizes grow is everything I've wanted to do since my late high school days. Also getting a bit of sunshine on my neck in the summer does me some good lol.
•I occasionally like doing artistic activities like card making, paper crafting, drawing and painting, but only on special occasions.
•I also like to read from time to time.

Physical Appearance

My appearance is quite normal:
•I'm 5'8 in height (1.73 m)
•Eye colour is dark blue 💙
•I've got quite the decent body shape
•I have no tattoos but I'm considering getting a few in the future
•I've got a small amount of facial hair
•I've got quite a lot of dark brown hair on the top of my head but keep it in control most times with hairspray
•I've got an average to slightly above average face imo (pics can be exchanged if you're interested in knowing what I look like)
•I'm healthy with no health conditions or concerns
•I wear normal clothes such as buttoned t-shirts, hoodies / denim jackets, jeans / tracksuit bottoms, and leather jackets in colder weather.
•I also have a balanced diet as I go grocery shopping at least once a week. I shower 7 days a week and I brush 🪥 everyday too.

Important Topic to Cover

I'm not gonna mention what my source of income is because I don't want anyone to message me just because of that, like so many people have done before.

Preferences In You

I don't have many tbh. Just as long as you
•Live in the UK, or at least in different countries that are close to the UK like Norway, Ireland, Sweden, Belgium, Denmark, France, or perhaps even The Netherlands, since all have shorter time-zone differences to the ones in the UK which will make it so much easier to chat at similar times (but you can message me wherever you are on the globe)
•Don't smoke or do drugs
•My age limit is between 18-23, but people that are past that age range can also message me.
•I'm not religious, by any means, but I don't mind dating people who are.
•Come as you are, no sugar coating, be real, be genuine. 🚫No NSFW content please🚫, that's all I ask.
It looks like the Reddit chat is finally redeeming itself by not glitching out every 5 seconds and sending messages to one another on time, so feel free to message me wherever you feel most comfortable on :D

Outro

Welp, this is me signing off and seeing what happens now. If you've read this far, then I appreciate you for taking the time out of your schedule to read my post all the way through :) I hope you have a nice rest of your day 🙏🏻👋🏻 Come say Hi if you're feeling up to it! :)

The entirety of Harry "Truck" Hannah's major league career came with the New York Yankees -- all three years of it. But if you include his participation in the minors, he had a long career, beginning in 1909 with the Tacoma Tigers in the Northwestern League and ending in 1940 with the Memphis Chickasaws in the Southern Association. He is one of only a handful of players to have a hit in five different decades!
Of all the forgotten Yankee with memorable nicknames -- No Neck, Stanky the Yankee, Sailor Bob, Spud, Slow Joe, The Mummy, Birdie, Bump, and Grandma Johnny -- there's something to be said about the sublime elegance of a big, brawny catcher nicknamed Truck.
James Harrison Hannah Jr. was born 134 years ago today, on June 5, 1889, in what was then the Dakota Territory. (It would become the state of North Dakota about five months later.) By age 2, the family had moved to Seattle, Washington.
As a kid, he was called Harry, but by the time he was playing baseball, he was universally known as Truck. There are several stories as to how he got the nickname. Some said it had to do with his imposing size -- he stood 6'1" and weighed a solid 190 pounds -- and others because of the way he could block the plate as easily as a truck could block a street. Other sources say the nickname wasn't comparing him to a motor vehicle but to a horse, or rather a truck horse, as horses that pulled heavy wagons were called at the time. His daughter, Helen, said he got the nickname simply because he was "big and slow."
Another explanation, a little less colorful, was that Hannah paid the bills in the off-season by working as a truck driver!
Hall of Fame Umpire Billy Evans said Hannah was adept at the catcher's trick of distracting the batter with a steady stream of banter while behind the plate:

"Truck Hannah always has been an object of interest to me when catching. Aside from always doing a pretty good job receiving, he never failed to have a line of conversation that would make a bigger hit on the vaudeville circuit than some of the stuff used by some monologue artists. Hannah keeps up a continual chatter from the time the game starts. Of course, his conversation is largely directed at the batter, in the hope that his line of talk will take the mind of the batter from his work, the making of base hits. He seeks to keep the batter from concentrating, and from the many strikes slipped over by the New York pitchers, I would say there was merit in his system. Hannah's conversation is never objectionable. He usually has the batter laughing at some of his talk, rather than sore."

But Hannah used more than just banter to distract batters. As the pitch was being delivered, he would sometimes spit tobacco juice onto a player's shoes, toss pebbles onto the plate, or throw dirt at their hands on the bat!
Hannah got his start in professional baseball as a 20-year-old third baseman with the Tacoma Tigers in the Northwestern League. When the team needed an emergency catcher, Hannah was put behind the plate and stuck there for the rest of his career. Over the next five years he played for five different teams in four different leagues, until in 1914 finally catching on with the Sacramento Wolves in the Pacific Coast League. The PCL at the time was considered by some to be a third major league, or at least the minor league closest to major league competition, and Hannah was regarded as one of the best catchers in the league. He drew interest from several major league teams, including the Tigers, Phillies, and Browns. But it was the Yankees who finally acquired him, paying $4,000 to acquire his rights after he hit .292 in 569 at-bats in 1917.
Truck pulled into the Polo Grounds -- not Yankee Stadium, which wouldn't be built until 1923 -- as the foundation was being laid for a dynasty. Jacob Ruppert and Tillinghast Huston purchased the Yankees in 1915 and immediately set about reversing the fortunes of what had been for years one of the worst-run teams in the American League. The Yankees, as they became known in 1913, had only winning season in the last 10 years.
The new owners set about making changes, acquiring a number of valuable players: Wally Pipp, Home Run Baker, Ping Bodie, Aaron Ward, Urban Shocker, and previously forgotten Yankee Bob Shawkey.
After the 1917 season they made the biggest change of all, firing well-liked manager Bill Donovan and replacing him with former St. Louis Cardinals manager Miller Huggins, who over the next 11 years would lead the Yankees to six pennants and three World Series.
Huggins made another move, acquiring from the St. Louis Browns future Hall of Fame pitcher "Gettysburg Eddie" Plank and veteran second baseman Del Pratt. The latter would be a good player for the Yankees, hitting .295/.348/.394 (106 OPS+) over the next three seasons, but the 42-year-old Plank refused to report and retired instead. In return, the Yankees shipped out five players... including starting catcher Les Nunamaker, who had been with the Yankees for four seasons.
And so, needing a catcher to replace Nunamaker, the Yankees paid the Salt Lake City Bees $4,000 for Hannah. He was expected to battle 22-year-old Muddy Ruel to be the backup to the 25-year-old Roxy Walters, who had been Nunamaker's understudy since September 1915, but Ruel would be drafted into the U.S. Army and Walters broke his finger in an exhibition game 10 days before Opening Day. By the time Walters was ready to play again, Hannah was hitting .288/.432/.356 and had thrown out 19 out of 34 basestealers; over the rest of the season, he would maintain that pace to lead the league in CS% (55%) as well as in double plays as a catcher (16). His batting average would fade dramatically, however, dropping all the way to .220 by the end of the season, but he was still contributing with a .361 OBP in 312 plate appearances. Walters's bat never got started at all, and hitting just .199/.239/.236 in 205 plate appearances.
Technically a major league rookie when he joined the team, the 29-year-old Hannah was treated like a veteran from his four seasons in the well-respected Pacific Coast League. In addition, he was -- literally as well as figuratively, at 6'1" -- one of the few players on the team who could see eye-to-eye with the 6'2" Babe Ruth when he was acquired prior to the 1920 season. When Ruth got into squabbles with diminutive manager Miller Huggins, it was often Hannah's duty to keep the peace.
Yankee shortstop Roger Peckinpaugh, the Yankee captain from 1914 to 1921, described one such incident to long-time Yankee PR man Marty Appel in 1974:

"Once we were leaving Boston after a tough loss, and Babe was drunk, and he said he was gonna throw Huggins off the train! He was heading for his drawing room. On the way he stopped in the men’s room and punched this huge mirror. It fell into a million pieces. Me and Ernie Shore and Truck Hannah pulled him down to the ground and sat on him until he passed out. Truck — a big guy — puts him over his shoulder and moves him to the next car."

At the end of the season, the Yankees were happy enough with Hannah that they traded Roxy Walters to the Red Sox. For the next two years, the catching duties were almost evenly split between Hannah and Ruel, who was back from the Army with the end of World War I.
The "Muddy-Truck" tandem was colorfully named but disappointing, with Ruel hitting .255/.325/.306 (71 OPS+) in 560 PA and Hannah .243/.313/.317 (70 OPS+) in 553 PA. Catcher in those days was very much a defense-first position, and both had good gloves, but the Yankees (even with the newly acquired Babe Ruth having an 11.7 bWAR season) finished three games out of 1st in 1920.
Ruppert and Huston asked Huggins what the team needed to win, and his answer: a catcher.
At the end of the season, the Yankees sent Hannah back to the Pacific Coast League, and traded Ruel to the Red Sox for previously forgotten Yankee Wally Schang, the first in the long line of great Yankee catchers. In his five years with the Yankees, the switch-hitting Schang hit .297/.390/.406 (105 OPS+), and in the 1923 World Series -- the first of 27 won by the Yankees -- Schang played every inning of every game, went 7-for-22 (.318) with a double and three runs scored, and allowed just one stolen base.
Hannah would stay in the Pacific Coast League for the next 22 years as a player, coach, and manager. He had a great year with the Vernon Tigers in 1923, hitting .346 with 23 doubles and 6 home runs in 370 plate appearances. His final plate appearance came on May 19, 1940, when he was managing the Memphis Chicks. Two weeks shy of his 51st birthday, with both his catchers injured, Hannah caught both ends of a doubleheader and went 1-for-6.
Hannah retired from baseball two years later after his St. Paul Saints lost 15 games in a row -- 11 of them by one run! He said he couldn't sleep anymore, replaying every loss in his head over and over, second-guessing every decision he made as manager.
He retired to his ranch in Southern California, but remained active enough in the regional baseball scene that when the Los Angeles Angels played their first major league game in 1961, Hannah was selected to catch the ceremonial first pitch.
Truck Hannah died on April 27, 1982, five weeks shy of his 93rd birthday. His wife, Helen, died in October, a month before what would have been their 70th wedding anniversary.
Keep On Truckin':

• One of the more interesting aspects in researching information about Truck Hannah is in looking for pictures of him, you come across many photos of trucks owned by women named Hannah.
  
• Hannah made his major league debut against the great Walter Johnson. In his first major league plate appearance, he singled up the middle! He popped out his second time up, then struck out. His fourth time up he drew a walk against Johnson, advanced to second on a single, and scored his first major league run on a double, and the Yankees won, 6-3. Not a bad debut against the future Hall of Famer!
  
• According to his SABR biography: "Hannah’s daughter may have led a more interesting life than her ballplaying father. Helen Lorraine (Hannah) Campbell was one of the first women in Los Angeles to enlist in the Marine Corps during World War II, and retired from the Marine Corps Reserve in 1975 after 32 years of service. She was also a chaperone for several years with the Muskegon and Kalamazoo teams in the All American Girls Professional Baseball League, the league that inspired the 1992 movie A League of Their Own. At the age of 75 she went parasailing for the first time and at 78 sailed over Africa’s Serengeti plains in a hot-air balloon. She died in 2013 at the age of 97."
  
• On May 12, 1920, Hannah went 4-for-4 (all singles) with two runs and two RBIs in a 14-8 rout of the Chicago White Sox. Hannah singled twice in a seven-run 6th inning, as did pitcher Bob Shawkey; it was the first time in major league history that a pitcher and catcher each had two hits in the same inning.
  
• That was Hannah's best day as a major leaguer, but he had another four-hit day on September 11, 1920, with a double and three singles in five at-bats against the Cleveland Indians.
  
• Truck Hannah was the first major leaguer born in what would become North Dakota when he made his debut on April 15, 1918. He also is one of three Yankees born in North Dakota: Ken Hunt, an outfielder in the Yankee farm system from 1952 to 1960 who had a couple cups of coffee in the Bronx, and later played for the Angels and Senators; and long-time Cleveland Indians 1B/DH Travis Hafner, who ended his career with the Yankees in 2013. The most famous Yankee raised in North Dakota is Roger Maris, but he was actually born in Minnesota. The family moved to Fargo when Maris was 8 years old. A total of 20 major leaguers were born in North Dakota, and the best, by bWAR, was Angels outfielder and two-time All-Star Darin Erstad.
  
• Hannah is on the All-Palindromic Last Name Team, along with Dean Anna, Toby Harrah, Eddie Kazak, Dave Otto, Glenn Otto, Dick Nen, Robb Nen, Johnny Reder, Juan Salas, and Mark Salas.
  
• In 1917, Hannah was behind the plate for the Salt Lake City Bees in the Pacific Coast League when former New York Giants outfielder Fred Snodgrass came up to the plate for the Vernon Tigers. Hannah, by this time a 28-year-old nine-year minor league veteran and hitting a respectable .292, wasn't impressed. "So you're a big leaguer? I guess you're going to come out here and show us how the Giants used to do it, eh? Let's see if you can hit this one." That off-season, major league teams asked Snodgrass for his opinion on the top players in the Pacific Coast League, and his report on Hannah: "I don’t like him personally, but I must say he is the best all around catcher in this league, and my dislike for him does not blind me to that fact."
  
• George Halas -- who would later be the founder of the Chicago Bears -- was a 24-year-old rookie on the New York Yankees in 1919. He was on the bench sitting next to Truck Hannah during a game against the Tigers, staring wide-eyed as his boyhood idol, the legendary Ty Cobb, strode to the plate. Hannah, maybe pranking the rookie, told Halas he ought to razz Cobb to try to throw him off his game. Halas did as he was told, and to his surprise, got a reaction: Cobb dropped his bat, marched over to the Yankee dugout, and pointed at Halas. "Punk! I'll see you after the game! Don't forget, punk!" Halas, a Navy veteran and a college football player, was no punk but not exactly looking forward to a brawl against the famously irascible Cobb. He stayed in the locker room as long as possible, hoping Cobb would be gone by the time he emerged, but when he finally came out, the Georgia Peach was waiting for him. "I like your spirit, kid," Cobb said, "but don't overdo it when you don't have to." Halas said it was a lesson he never forgot.
  
• Speaking of Cobb, he told a sportswriter he didn't care for Hannah's distracting patter behind the plate: “This fellow Hannah of the New York club keeps me busier at the plate than any other catcher in the league. I don’t like letting a recruit outtalk me, and in my effort to keep my end of the conversation, I had my work cut out for me making base hits off those Yankee pitchers.”
  
• Carl Mays, who had pitched for the Red Sox since 1915, was acquired by the Yankees on July 30, 1919. Delighted to go from the 38-48 Red Sox to the 48-38 Yankees, Mays made the rounds in the clubhouse, shaking hands. When he got to Hannah, he offered his hand, but Hannah shoved him away, then charged after him. Mays backed up until Hannah vaulted over a table and cornered him against a wall -- and only then did Hannah shake his hand. "We're even," Hannah said, grinning. Since the previous season, Hannah and Mays had been feuding. Mays took great pride in keeping his uniform spotless, and hated Hannah's trick of spitting tobacco juice onto his shoes while batting. So every time Hannah came up to the plate, Mays came "up and in" to make him hit the dirt. In April, the last time they'd face each other, Mays plunked him. But now they were teammates and all was forgiven. Ironically, a year later, Mays would kill Cleveland Indians shortstop Ray Chapman with a pitch that hit him in the head.
  
• During the off seasons, Hannah played in the California Winter League, believed to be the only integrated league in professional baseball at the time. Hannah also played against Negro Leaguers when barnstorming with Babe Ruth in 1920 and Dizzy Dean in 1935.
  
• Prior to the 1927 season, Babe Ruth made a silent movie called Babe Comes Home. Based on a short story called "Said With Soap," it had quite the plot: Ruth is Babe Dugan, a ballplayer whose tobacco-chewing habit means his uniform is always stained. He falls in love with Vernie, the laundress who cleans the team uniforms, but she wants him to stop chewing tobacco. Babe then goes into a slump, and finds himself on the bench. Vernie finally relents and gives him a plug of tobacco, and Babe hits a game-winning home run. The movie was filmed at Wrigley Field -- not that one, but a field with the same name in Los Angeles. It was the home stadium for the Los Angeles Angels, and on the Angels were several ex-Yankees, including Truck Hannah. Ruth was much more interested in his old pals than in the movie, and the exasperated director struggled to keep Ruth's attention. Finally, he moved Ruth to a distant park of the stadium, as far away as he could from Hannah and the other ex-Yankees. But Hannah and the others kept mischievously hitting balls in his direction, causing Ruth to botch take after take!
  
• Hannah was in two movies himself, both times as a baseball playing extra. The films are notable because they are both early "talkies". His first appearance was in 1928's Warming Up, about a pitcher (played by Richard Dix, later a star in westerns) who falls in love with the team owner's daughter (played by Jean Arthur, who would later co-star with Jimmy Stewart in Mr. Smith Goes to Washington). A year later Hannah was in Fast Company, about a baseball player (Jack Oakie) who is inspired to greatness thanks to fan letters he thinks come from a beautiful woman (Evelyn Brent) but are actually written by his conniving manager (Skeets Gallagher). In 1940, Oakie was nominated for an Academy Award for his performance as a parody of Benito Mussolini in Charlie Chaplin's The Great Dictator.
  
• Joe DiMaggio, still a teenager, played for the San Francisco Seals in the Pacific Coast League from 1932 to 1935. Hannah, with the Los Angeles Angels, played against him often. Prior to DiMaggio's debut with the Yankees in 1936, a sportswriter asked the former big leaguer for his scouting report on DiMaggio. "They'll be comparing him to Tris Speaker and Harry Hooper and those fellows in a year or two," Hannah said. Truck was right: Speaker and Hooper were both Hall of Fame outfielders, and of course, so was the Yankee Clipper.
  
• In 1936, Hannah was a playecoach for the Los Angeles Angels. Ted Williams, already a legendary hitter (and pitcher) from his exploits at Herbert Hoover High School in San Diego, was being courted by both major and minor league teams. Ted's father, Sam Williams, was acting as his agent, and he arranged a meeting with Truck Hannah to talk about a contract with the Angels. "When my dad went down to talk to him, Hannah said, 'Where's the kid?'" Williams later recalled. "Dad says, 'He's not here.' Hannah said, 'Well, for crying out loud, go get him. He's the one I want to talk to, not you!'" Insulted, Sam Williams walked away. Instead, Williams -- after turning down offers from the Yankees and the Cardinals -- signed with the newly formed San Diego Padres of the Pacific Coast League. Had he signed with the Angels, Williams likely would have been a Cub, as they were a Chicago affiliate. (But Williams, a San Diego native, likely would have signed with the Padres even if Hannah had made a better impression.)
  
• Hannah's mouth almost cost his team another teenaged prospect. In 1934, 16-year-old Steve Mesner went to an open try-out for the Los Angeles Angels, and Hannah was helping to evaluate the prospects. He took one look at Mesner and shouted, "Get out of here, kid! You're too little!" Mesner started walking off the field, but someone told him to go back. During batting practice, he hit three balls over the fence! During a fielding drill, he was handling every chance, and the coach kept hitting them harder and harder, expecting the teenager to boot one. He didn't, and the team gave him a contract. Mesner hit .328 in three years with the Angels before going to the Chicago Cubs and later the Cincinnati Reds.
  
• The winter of 1918-1919 was gripped by the "Spanish Flu" epidemic and, in a scene that would be familiar to all of us today, the players, umpires, and fans in a Southern California winter league wore face masks during the game. A photo ran in the newspaper with the catcher misidentified in the caption as "Trash" Hannah of the New York Yankees!
  
• Hannah is a member of the Pacific Coast League Hall of Fame. Some sources say he was an inaugural member when it was created in 1943; other sources say he was inducted in 1950. Other notable Yankees in the PCL HoF include Frankie Crosetti, Joe DiMaggio, and Casey Stengel.
  
• Hannah's daughter, U.S. Marine Master Gunnery Sergeant Helen Hannah Campbell, went to Whittier High School with Richard Nixon, and later served as a docent the Richard Nixon Library and Birthplace in Yorba Linda, California. Richard Nixon, who grew up watching Hannah as a player and manager in the Pacific Coast League, said in a 1983 interview: "I remember Truck Hannah. He was a great catcher and could hit."
  
• In 1925, Hannah helped organize the Association of Professional Ball Players of America, created to assist former professional baseball players who are injured, elderly, or destitute. The APBPA is still in existence today!
  

Near the end of his career, Truck Hannah was interviewed about the rigors of being a catcher. He said during his 30 years in baseball he'd broken every finger on his right hand at least twice. "What the hell, it's all part of the game," he said. "It sure was fun while it lasted. Even with busted hands and fingers and everything else, I wouldn't have missed it for the world."

Intro

I wanna make a post for people to read that isn't too boring, long / short, or cheesy as I have a habit of talking about my emotions + feelings when it comes to this sort of thing, that's mostly what I talked about in my last post... I'm hoping I can get at least someone's attention by writing the right and necessary words on this subreddit... So, where to begin?
I guess I'll start with what I'm looking for in terms of dating. A fresh, warm, healthy and positive long-term relationship is what I've been craving for the last 4¼ years (after getting a taste of it 4¼ years ago then it was instantly taken away), not as in desperate or obsessed with it, more as in yearning for that right person to come along and bring sunshine to my life for the first time in a very long time. Someone who'll accept me for who I am and not care about what I have / don't have, someone who'll understand and accept my insecurities and flaws, not to mention me doing the same for her as well. I wanna have that happy and bright future with that special someone, similar to all the couples I see on Instagram who laugh, joke, tease each other, flirt, do fun activities together both indoors and outdoors, purchase matching items for them to wear and hold dear, hold hands... I want the dream.
However, I do understand that relationships need time to form and grow in a healthy and positive way, so maybe we could get to know each other first and see where things lead?

Personality (100% the truth)

As you might have guessed, I am a hard core introvert. Although I get along with people irl; I briefly chat to them by saying the usual "hello" or "alright?", I then usually keep to myself from them most times to avoid feeling ignored / unimportant / irrelevant in their eyes. This is because I'm not that great at socialising in public places like the club or anywhere else, and also due to the fact that I feel extremely shy whilst meeting new people. However, if others ARE willing to get to know me and want me in their presence, I will perk up and be quite a confident individual once enough time passes :)
Other things you should know about me is that I'm extremely loyal and will never hurt the people I love and hold dear, no matter what. I care too much about the people in my life, including family, and I also will never let them down or disappoint them in any way.
Just a little fun fact about me, my zodiac sign is Cancer ♋️🦀 for those of you who are interested and if that matters to you at all. This is related to what I've just written above in the second and fourth paragraphs.

Hobbies

I'm an indoor type of person. I like:
•Watching TV shows like Doctor Who when new episodes come out, The Simpsons and Hollyoaks 5 days a week, and binging on a ton of movies.
•Listening to music pretty much every single day as I'm a huge HUGE fan of it.
•Gaming on PC games such as GTA, Red Dead, and Minecraft.
•I may stay indoors most of the time, but I DO also enjoy doing outdoor activities like spending my days out in places in the UK like Scarborough, Blackpool, Hornsea and Withernsea. I'm going to a place named Filey late next month so hopefully I'll get to take a load of pics to show you if you're interested :)
•I'm also interested in Photography, taking stunning photos both indoors and outdoors to store and save for later. Wildlife, sea life and everything else in between is what I'm most interested in :)
•Playing different sports such as Badminton, Bowling, Cricket, Dodgeball, Tennis and Volleyball on the beach are activities I really enjoy doing, but I haven't played them recently thanks to a lack of others playing them with me.
•Gardening and working with plants is something that really fascinates me, planting and watching plants of all shapes and sizes grow is everything I've wanted to do since my late high school days. Also getting a bit of sunshine on my neck in the summer does me some good lol.
•I occasionally like doing artistic activities like card making, paper crafting, drawing and painting, but only on special occasions.
•I also like to read from time to time.

Physical Appearance

My appearance is quite normal:
•I'm 5'8 in height (1.73 m)
•Eye colour is dark blue 💙
•I've got quite the decent body shape
•I have no tattoos but I'm considering getting a few in the future
•I've got a small amount of facial hair
•I've got quite a lot of dark brown hair on the top of my head but keep it in control most times with hairspray
•I've got an average to slightly above average face imo (pics can be exchanged if you're interested in knowing what I look like)
•I'm healthy with no health conditions or concerns
•I wear normal clothes such as buttoned t-shirts, hoodies / denim jackets, jeans / tracksuit bottoms, and leather jackets in colder weather.
•I also have a balanced diet as I go grocery shopping at least once a week. I shower 7 days a week and I brush 🪥 everyday too.

Important Topic to Cover

I'm not gonna mention what my source of income is because I don't want anyone to message me just because of that, like so many people have done before.

Preferences In You

I don't have many tbh. Just as long as you
•Live in the UK, or at least in different countries that are close to the UK like Norway, Ireland, Sweden, Belgium, Denmark, France, or perhaps even The Netherlands, since all have shorter time-zone differences to the ones in the UK which will make it so much easier to chat at similar times (but you can message me wherever you are on the globe)
•Don't smoke or do drugs
•My age limit is between 18-23, but people that are past that age range can also message me.
•I'm not religious, by any means, but I don't mind dating people who are.
•Come as you are, no sugar coating, be real, be genuine. 🚫No NSFW content please🚫, that's all I ask.
It looks like the Reddit chat is finally redeeming itself by not glitching out every 5 seconds and sending messages to one another on time, so feel free to message me wherever you feel most comfortable on :D

Outro

Welp, this is me signing off and seeing what happens now. If you've read this far, then I appreciate you for taking the time out of your schedule to read my post all the way through :) I hope you have a nice rest of your day 🙏🏻👋🏻 Come say Hi if you're feeling up to it! :)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and it's always been like this. He lies a lot and we've had many talks about it but he just can't seem to stop (or he just doesn't want to). I have both anxiety and chronic depression, and of course this whole deal just seems to have me paranoid at all times, but something happened this last weekend that made me want to vent here.
For some context, he works Monday through saturday from 10 am to 6 pm in a restaurant and then on saturdays he usually works at a friends-owned bar from around 7 pm to 6 am.
This last Friday it was his birthday, so he told me he was leaving work and he was going to a friend's house to play some videogames and relax, I said okay and decided to do something nice for when he came back home. Since we're kind of short on cash, my kids (just mine, not his) and I made some homemade pizzas and when he arrived he was extremely happy and grateful, we ate, sang happy birthday and he couldn't stop thanking me and telling me how happy he felt. I was so happy to see him enjoy even though it was something little and intimate. Then we went to bed kind of early since he had to be up early the next day to get ready for work.
Saturday came and when I woke up I saw him getting ready. He kissed me goodbye as he always does and I wished him a great day at work. Throughout the day I texted him which is something I always do, but he was kind of unresponsive. A few hours later he replied apologizing and telling me that he was too busy at work. Then he went on to tell me that the owners of the bar where he works (his friends) wanted to throw him a birthday party that night, and that he would go but come home early... Then he added "well you can come if you want to". I pressed him a bit and he admitted that most of his friends were going to be there (I'm not too fond of them but it's not like we can't stand each other). Well anyways, his ""invitation"" didn't seat well with me but I still wanted to come and be by his side, as I have always wanted him with me on my birthday celebrations, so I got my sister to come watch my kids. Then, when I asked him if he wanted me there he said "as long as you bring someone along, in case I can't pay attention to you"... Well this made it evident he didn't want me there, but there I went again saying "Well I mean, you know I'm very social so it won't be an issue, I'll just chat with anyone if you can't be with me", and it was then when he started putting money as an excuse saying he didn't have any, his friends were paying for his drinks and that if I came he wouldn't be able to pay. OKAY, got the hint. That's when I told him that it was okay, I understood he wanted to spend time with his friends and though it hurt a bit seeing him posting an invitation for anyone to go but still didn't want me there, I hoped he had a great time.
After my kids (both teenagers) went to bed, my sister and I sat on the backyard and drank a few beers. It was nice to chat and we got carried away talking, and after a while we went to bed. I was a bit worried since my bf wasn't back at about 6 am (he had made it a point to tell me he would be back early) so I texted him, first worried, he got all of the texts but answered none, then I noticed he was going online-offline a few times so I got angry and started thinking the worst, like he was with another girl or something like that, so I kind of went off on him a bit. He answered saying he was at his friends house playing videogames and having the greatest time, and I went to sleep annoyed. He got home at around 10.30 am, drunk out of his mind, went to the backyard where some of the beer cans from the night before were and started texting me saying why was I bothering him when I was clearly having a good time myself and so on. Then went to bed.
I spent all Sunday very upset but most of all I felt the weirdest vibe coming from him. Something didn't feel okay, and as I said, he has a habit of lying, so last night, when he went to sleep, I decided to check his phone (I know it's wrong but I was going crazy). Well I started going through his messages trying to find anything about a girl or something like that, but there was nothing, so I decided to check his friends group. Well, he never went to work on Saturday (1st lie), one of his first sent messages was letting the guys know he was coming and bringing some meat and beer to make a BBQ (this one hurt because we're really struggling and though I do understand it was his birthday he had been hiding some good money to be able to buy all this stuff - we live in a country where meat is really expensive), so when he literally told me that he had gotten "really busy at work", well he was just chilling with his friends (2nd lie). Then the texts read about buying a lot of alcohol to be able to invite anyone who wanted to come (except me I guess?). Well, this went on. He had the greatest day/night but decided to both not invite me and lie about the whole day. I just don't understand after how grateful he was on Friday, how could he just turn around and do all this?
What really bothers me the most is the fact that I can't believe anything that comes out of his mouth. If he went about a whole 24 hs day telling me lies, then how can I trust he wasn't with someone in the party, or he didn't do anything inappropriate? Also, he skipped work, fully knowing we need the money. Oh! I just remembered he also told me on Friday that they hadn't payed him because of some broken dishes or something like that. I guess that was a lie too, and he was hoarding the money.
Anyways, I know I made this way more unnecessarily longer than it needed to be, but I feel so sad and honestly don't know how to hold him accountable without having him shut down on me or trying to turn the situation around. Anyone has any advice? Maybe I'm the one wrong in this whole thing? Anything would be appreciated.
Also, so sorry if I misspelled anything or if my grammar is bad, English is my second language.
Thank you for reading , 🙏🏻.

My boyfriend(30M) and I (27F) have been together for almost 2 years, living together for 1 year. Everything has been absolutely perfect. We rarely fight, have a great split of household chores, and amazing chemistry. We used to drink a lot, like have a drink almost every night of the week and even more on the weekends. We decided we wanted to be healthier so we did "Dry January" to start the year off. We made it to the 28th, I caved because my best friend had some into town and I hadnt seen her in over a year so we went to a winery for the day. We did better after dry January because it made us feel so much better and cut down on how much we were drinking.
The last 2 months, Ive only been drinking on Friday and saturday nights, and not nearly as much as I used to. I thought my boyfriend was trying to do the same...I knew occasionally he would have a super long day at work and come home and pour a drink, which i totaly understand; He works construction and occasionally they have 12+hour days.
But a few weeks ago I saw 2 empty small bottles of whiskey in his old lunchbox in the garage, weird because we only buy handles of alcohol. I asked him about it and he said it was an old habit from college where him and his friends would buy small bottles when they could afford it to fill up the handle because they couldnt afford to buy a handle. I thought that was werid but moved past it. Then this past weekend, I was emptying the trash in the basement (his mancave) and saw an empty small bottle of a brand of vodka that we have never bought along with a bunch of seltzer and beer cans. I didnt know how to bring this up to him yesterday, but its just been eating away at me.
Neither one of us are much for feelings talks, but I dont want to just ignore this if he truly does have an alcohol problem. We want to have kids in the future and I dont want someone who is drunk all the time around my kids.
How can I talk to him about this is a good constructive way?

We just celebrated our 7 year anniversary and he had proposed about 8 months ago. We were planning on buying a house so we had moved into his parents house a few weeks after the engagement to save up and because our rental property lease was up. A couple months after that he had just started a new job in the city and that's when cracks stated to show. We were commuting in together but because his parents lived a little far out we were losing a lot of sleep with these commutes and not only that, he started to lose a lot more patience I think just being around his parents all the time - I think he felt like he had lost a lot of his independence. The purchase of the house was also taking a lot longer than we expected which was also taking a toll on the both of us because we just really wanted to move to get our lives back. We spoke about and it was difficult for the both of us but we were kind of struggling together so I was never truly worried that we were going to break up. We did start to fight a little more but we always figured things out and still wanted to just focus on the future. But then about 4/5 months into his new job he tells me that he has a crush at someone at work and that there was a conversation where they were discussing who they would sleep with in the office and they both said each other. I was a little taken aback but he assured me that there was nothing to worry about and as we both had dealt with crushes before I wasn't too worried. But then more started to happen with this girl. She was in a long term relationship too which put me at ease but there was one night that he stayed over at hers after a work do because it would have been difficult for him to get home (I didn't have an issue because I trusted him) and after that night she was apparently super cold and mean to him. He was DISTRAUGHT I had never seen him this upset about the "potential loss of a friend" and so I had to talk to him a lot to help him through this as I thought it was just his anxiety getting the better of him. But then she came to him apologising for the coldness and basically told him that it had "messed with her head" the night he stayed over so then, the first betrayal, he told her that he also felt the same way but wanted to keep things as they were at work. He didn't properly close the door on her until after we had discussed it ourselves which really hurt because he couldn't even see why he was playing with fire. I didn't tell him to cut contact or anything, I was actually trying to help him figure out how he could still be friends with her without it becoming anything more. But then after he closed the door on her saying that he didn't want anything to happen between them, they ended up getting closer at work and his feelings started to develop. During this time we were trying to plan the wedding, we were sorting out the invites and were hoping to send them off within a month or so. But whenever we sat down to sort out the wedding he would get super stressed and so I asked him what was going on and he said he was starting to have doubts and he was worried about his feelings for this girl. These conversations about doubts etc went on for a few weeks but I always tried to reassure him that doubts were normal and that actually I had had most of the thoughts that he was having and I had come through the other side. I had also had a crush at someone at work which highlighted to me some aspects that I didn't like about our relationship but then we/I worked through them and I thought we were in a much better place. I told him about my crush at the time but didn't tell him to the full extent about my doubts of the relationship because I have anxiety so didn't want to talk about them until I was sure because I didn't want to ruin what we had. But then I had come out the other side and was super happy with my choice so I was trying to tell him that he just needs to make a conscious choice about who he wants (I was presuming he still wanted me) and then set the appropriate boundary with this new girl so that he can still be friends but we would be committed to each other. We had lots of conversations about how love was a choice and that commitment was a choice and we usually ended those conversations saying that we ofc want to still be together and that he was choosing us and me. And I believed him - I always asked him to be totally honest even if it was difficult to say so that it wouldn't eat him up and I always gave him the space to not judge his true feelings etc so yes I believed him. But then about a week ago he comes home after a night out where he had gone to dinner with this girl and another friend from work and just tells me that he doesn't think he can marry me anymore. It turned out that she was still super into him and had left her boyfriend (who was supposedly abusive so probably for the best) but wanted to be my fiancé. And he told her that basically he was confused but has feelings for her too. And then they shared an intimate moment of holding hands as if they were a couple. This was all devastating to hear but the only thing I needed to know was what did he want - me or her. And thus began the longest week of my life. He couldn't choose between us and kept making up his mind back and forth which was so painful because every time he would say he wants us to get back to where we were he just seemed so distant and was basically thinking of her the whole time. We had a weekend away planned together so we thought it was a good idea to go on that to salvage our relationship but he was still in turmoil about his decision I was just in tears the entire time we were there. So we get back home and he finally says that he chooses me 100% and that he's going to work on us to get us back but I could see it in his eyes and the almost resentment he had towards me that he still didn't know what he wanted. So we decided to give each other space for a few days so he could stop being distracted and start to focus on us. After no contact for 2/3 days he says that he's found his truth and comes to me and says that he's not leaving me for her but he's leaving me because he doesn't see a future with me anymore. He says that he feels that we had everything he wanted but that there was something missing but nothing he could tangibly tell me of and that he's been putting off these thoughts/doubts for a long time even before the proposal.
So now I feel so lost and broken because in my mind we were a team we always tackled everything together and I still don't understand how he was sure enough to propose to me 8 months ago and saw the life he wanted with me but now absolutely nothing. I refuse to believe that this girl had nothing to do with it because despite him saying that he's not leaving me for her, he had reinitiated contact with her over the week where we were giving each other space, and just 24 hours after we broke up when I went back to his parents house to start packing up, he leaves the house and spends about 5 hours with the new girl. He said that it was none of my business because we had broken up but it just felt like he threw me away so easily and had no respect left for the relationship we had. He said that he still loves and cares for me and that he was very ashamed of how this all turned out because he told me that I had done nothing wrong but he just seems like a completely different person to me now. I can't see the person I fell in love with anymore and it breaks my heart. He also said that he still wants to be friends in the future after a long period of no contact so we can move on from each other but I don't think I can just from how much he has hurt me and how quickly it feels that he threw me away and the 7 years we were together. I think he is definitely going to regret his decision of leaving me but I think with the damage done and how clearly he says he is thinking I don't think it will be any time soon enough to ever make it work between us again. I am in so much pain and hurt and he says he is too but i still don't think I have properly processed everything that's happened because I was so happy with us just 2 weeks ago. Maybe I was being delusional too but I just still can't believe that we were planning our lives together and now it's just gone. I don't know why I needed to post this but I just needed to put my story out there because I'm still so confused about what happened with us because I truly thought he was the one and that I could always trust him.
I think we did get together too young (we were both 19) and so I think we didn't learn what kind of life we individually wanted so I think he feels lost because of that and the stress of commitment brought out a lot more of these doubts. But then I still don't know why he proposed when I didn't ask at all for it and he was also the one keen to buy a place together. I suggested that maybe we should live separately for a while and just go back to dating so we could figure out how we actually wanted to live our lives (together and separately) but he said that his heart just wasn't in it anymore. Because of how quickly I feel this all happened I honestly refuse to believe that he's not leaving me for her but he's just not seeing it himself yet. But I guess it doesn't matter anymore because I don't think he ever wants to get the life we planned together back.
TLDR - My fiancé breaks up with me 8 months after proposing saying that he doesn't see a future with me anymore. During those 8 months we were living at his parents, trying to plan the wedding, trying to buy a place and he developed a crush at work. He says he still loves me but there's something missing and insists that he's not leaving me for her but I don't see how it could be any other way.

here are pictures before and after, plus the inspiration picture i showed her: https://imgur.com/a/TbDnWlo
TLDR: - told receptionist to make sure she booked me for enough time with my stylist for back-to-back foils for bleach because i have long hair and last time it took hours - i asked stylist to make my hair golden and NOT ASHY - she does my hair. she says there wasn’t enough time for bleach and to “give her a heads up next time” so she just put a color in my hair. charged $245 for color and asked for a tip - my hair looks further away from the inspiration picture than when i came in. my hair was already golden when i came in. she made it look ashy and grey. it’s the exact opposite of what i wanted. she books me for 2 weeks later for the actual bleaching session i originally wanted…

• she should’ve told me “sorry there’s not enough time today, can you come in 2 weeks?” but instead she put a color that i didn’t even want and now i have to try and wash it out in the shower. and i lost nearly $300. for hair i think is ugly

my hair was originally dark brown and i’m in the process of going blonde. my first session with this stylist took about 6 hours of back-to-back foils of bleach because my hair is so long.
it’s been a month so i scheduled the next session. i tried to communicate with the receptionist that i have long hair and last time we did back-to-back foils of bleach. i even asked if she was sure there was enough time because i was there for hours last time. “yes, there’s definitely enough time”
i show up the the appointment at 11:00am thinking i will be there for 6 hours getting another bleach session to go even lighter. i show the inspo picture. i say “i want it to be golden- i DON’T want it to be ashy”. 2 stylists look at the inspo pic- one of them even says to her “wow it looks like she has NO toner in there at all”
they put me in the chair. they talk to each other in the background about lightening my hair for 15 minutes and doing a “pre-toner” and keeping the warmth. i think everything’s fine. after 1 hour and a half they start blow-drying my hair. no foils were done. no bleach was done. i was like “that’s weird, how am i done already”
i look in the mirror. i see my hair is GREY. ashy. it already looked golden before i came into the appointment- and they did the OPPOSITE of what i wanted. it looks even darker then when i came in. my hair looked more like the inspo picture BEFORE.
i literally want to cry. they ask to take pictures for their instagram and i let them. the stylist says “next time you have to give me a heads up before you come in because to get you lighter it would take HOURS”. i’m so confused because i already told receptionist it would take hours of back to back foils and i asked the receptionist to make sure there was enough time. the stylist said “we just did a color today so it shouldn’t be too much”.
i want to cry in the salon but i’m thinking “okay it’s just color- it shouldn’t be too much maybe $80”. then they said $245. she asks for the tip so i tip her 15% on the ipad. i book an appointment with her for two weeks for the ACTUAL bleaching session i wanted. i go cry in my car because now i have ugly grey hair for 2 weeks and wasted nearly $300 for hair that i hate and think is ugly.
i feel scammed almost because she could’ve just told me “sorry we don’t have time today, can you come in 2 weeks?” but instead she put color in my hair that i DIDNT want and made my hair look the OPPOSITE of what i wanted

I mean some people need to take 150mg to get high, I took 30mg as prescribed for chronic pain, and ended up sedated the entire day with feelings of comfort and happiness.
Did this dosage for a few weeks and then I stopped because I wasn’t taking them for pain anymore. I couldn’t even formulate phrases or think during the effect. Not 24 hours after I stopped, I was having hand shakes, nausea, dry mouth, extreme cold, yawning, pain in my wrists…
My therapist saw me last Friday, she said I looked like a zombie, and that I stared at a wall for minutes like I was brain dead. I don’t understand why such a low dosage caused me so much harm.

A very long post about something that happened at a gig which I just can't seem to stop worrying over - thanks for reading!
My partner and I were at a gig on Saturday night, it was a really busy gig and there was a group of girls stood near us throughout the whole evening. They were probably in their late teens, just there in a group of four. Early on, we saw a guy approach them, he was a lot taller than them and looked a lot older and he kept leaning his head into their group and shouting a comment, which they all acknowledged briefly, but werent trying to engage in conversation with him. I made eye contact with one of the girls who gave me that, eyes-widened "Oh my God, wish this guy would go away look". He stood next to them for a while, with the girls ignoring him, and then seemed to get the message and left.
About an hour or so later, he reappeared. Exactly the same, was trying to start a conversation, they were ignoring him completely or just saying a single word to him. He stood next to them, tried to involve himself and eventually disappeared. After he left, we heard all the girls saying "I'm so glad he's gone, he's so annoying".
Half way through the main act, he came back again and did the whole thing again. He was tall, so it was inconvenient having him in front of us, but also it just looked really dodgy and we'd seen the girls reaction to him twice now and he was just doing the same thing again, so my partner tapped on his shoulder and said "look mate, can you leave these girls alone, they're obviously not interested" the guy immediately started saying that he knows these girls etc etc to which me and my partner said, sure you do. He got the attention of one of the girls and said "you know me, don't you" and she nodded - i thought somewhat reluctantly. And he said "I know I look older, but I'm actually 19. I see what you're doing, I get this all the time, but it's not what you think." I said "sure, but we're just saying that these girls don't seem keen to talk to you and you'd be better going back to your other friends". My partner puts his hand on my shoulder and says - let's leave it. We've done what we can. Again, this guy stays there getting zero from these girls and eventually leaves again and we enjoy the rest of the gig, feeling a little bad that we'd misread the situation.
Saw the group again at the end of the night where two of the girls have dropped back from the rest and he's hurrying them along and one turns to the other and says "I wish he'd fuck off". So we felt a bit better after that.
I've felt a bit conflicted about it, I stand by what we did - because if he had been harassing those girls then it would have been a different situation. I hope getting confronted makes him realise that even if his intention isn't to harass, if this "happens to me all the time" then maybe you need to take a look at yourself... and also that he shouldn't be trying to hang out with a group of girls who don't want him there. I don't blame the girls - we've all been there in late teens/early 20s when there's a guy you don't want around, but you can't seem to get rid of him and it is difficult to know how to handle it properly. Still, if someone else in the crowd is confronting the guy, it would have been useful for them to have said something either in his defense or to say thank you afterwards considering we'd tried to get rid of him.
The whole thing has just sat with me trying to work out if we did the right thing or if we should have just ignored the situation completely. I've never confronted someone before, so that might be why!!
Tl/dr: confronted a guy at a gig when we thought he was harassing some girls. Turns out they knew each other, but they still obviously didn't want him around. I shouldn't be feeling conflicted about confronting him, but I've never confronted someone before so I'm feeling weird!!

I had an assignment due 5 hours ago and I submitted it, but ever since I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life. My friend gave me his code and while I modified it a lot, I do not feel comfortable knowing that I submitted that assignment because I did not do it on my own. I’m considering confessing and trying to make amends later on today, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea. I just want a 0 on the assignment at this point. I have put myself under extreme amounts of pressure and while it is just starting to pay off (I got a scholarship after working nearly full time on top of a 4.0), I feel like I have just flushed it down the toilet. If I confess and beg the teacher for a 0 before they even start grading it, while I still be reported? If so I don’t know if it’s worth it since I will lose my scholarship, which I have been working for without cheating for a really long time. I hate myself for what I’ve done, should I beg for forgiveness?

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32F, 5'3, appx 160lbs
I have a history of "bad knees," from being a catcher in softball for 8-10 years when I was younger. They ache all the time, and I need to stretch them frequently. I can't sit, stand, or lay in one position for too long, without needing to stretch them and readjust. The last few years, they've also started popping sometimes when I straighten them (the popping feels like it's behind the knee cap and is not painful). Maybe 0-2 times a day - not every time that I straighten them.
Where I work, I have to frequently reach far over a high counter, where there are metal shelves that hold things at about knee -level. For the last year, since I've been at this job, I have started to have a new pain on the back of my knees - seemingly from hyperextending them mildly, but often. This is more of a muscle/joint soreness, unlike my usual aches and pains (which are more in the middle-front of the knee). This is the opposite of the problem that I've always had with my knees from catching (now that they're bending the other way).
Maybe 6 or 7 years ago, I tore my meniscus in my right knee (other knee). I did not have surgery to repair it, but it healed itself well enough over time between RICE and a cortisone shot. Besides this, my left knee has always felt like my "bad knee," feeling weaker and being more painful.
No history of broken bones.
So 2 weeks ago at work, I was walking and ran into a low hanging metal shelf with my left knee. The shelf has a corner that juts out, which is where the point of impact actually was - on the meaty part of the muscle to the left of my shin bone, just below my knee.
There was also a non-slip mat on the ground there, which caught my foot & prevented my foot & lower leg from continuing with the forward motion of the rest of my body. My knee hyperextended and I felt a pop. This did not feel like my usual knee-pop that happens on occasion when I straighten it. Those typical pops that I sometimes feel - feel like they're behind the knee cap. This felt like it was further back towards the back muscle of my knee.
It was immediately harder to walk, with the impact site being the least painful part. It was most painful all along the back side of my knee, running through to the outer side of my knee. If I'm looking down at my own knee, it would be like the back left quadrant. It was also painful on the back right quadrant, but more so on the left side. The actual knee joint (in the middle) was also definitely painful. I was limping considerably for the rest of the night (more so as time went on) and it especially hurt to straighten my knee, and I felt something moving around in there when I did that, so I stopped. It was like the sensation of a guitar string being held taut over a surface, and it moving/rolling side to side over something.
The next day, I had a nasty bruise & egg where the actual impact was, and I was unable to fully straighten or fully bend my knee in either direction. I had a hinged knee brace that I put on and went back to work (thinking I'd be ok until I could make it to the doctor, since I was off the next 2 days).
This is when it started to get much worse, much faster. I stand and walk pretty much the entire time I'm at work, and just being on it for several hours was making it noticably worse. By the end of my shift (which was cut short due to the injury), I was having a much greater difficultly walking, even with the knee brace.
When I got home, it was clearly swollen and much more painful in every way. But again, the actual impact site was the least painful part. I iced it and stayed off of it for the rest of the night.
The next day, I could barely walk. The swelling was worse, and I couldn't move my knee much past a certain (slightly bent) angle in either direction, nor could I really put any weight on it. I wasn't able to take steps with this leg because of it, so I was pretty much just dragging my left leg/foot along, and hopping little tiny, easy steps on my right leg/foot.
I went to urgent care, per worker's comp, and they examined me and took x-rays (no broken bones), and put me in a wheelchair to move around the facility. They sent me home with crutches and a hinged knee brace, prescriptions for Tylenol, Diclofenac Sodium Gel, and Methocarbamol 750mg, and ordered an MRI and physical therapy.
I started physical therapy right away, have been going twice a week, but the soonest they could get me into an MRI will be this coming Friday (nearly 3 weeks from the date of the incident).
They initially diagnosed me with:
Left Knee Sprain Contusion of left lower leg Left hamstring muscle strain Muscle strain of left lower leg
The doctor said he wanted to wait and see what the MRI said, because he "didn't like" how I couldn't put any weight on it, and how much difficulty I was having walking. At my last checkup, I had definitely improved a lot, but he still wanted to wait and see what the MRI said before he lifted any of the work restrictions.
A couple of days after the initial doctor's visit, things started to improve pretty quickly, getting noticably better every day, which has continued. At this point, I don't need the crutches, and I feel like the brace does more harm than good...
I feel like I need the support of the brace when I'm walking (simply due to instability) but when it's tight enough to give me any support, it's too tight on my upper calf and lower thigh (it feels like it's limiting circulation & I get numbness in my foot) - but when I loosen it up enough to not do that, then it feels like it's just hanging loose on my knee and not giving it any support at all. I discussed this with the physical therapist, and he said it's okay to try not using the brace. So far so good. I'm just trying to take things easy and be very careful.
Even when I haven't been wearing the brace, I sometimes still get tingling in my left foot when I'm sitting down, but not outright numbness like I get with the brace. I never had this issue before this injury, in either foot. But the tingling is not severe, it's more of a minor annoyance.
I'd say for about a week now, my biggest issue has been the instability in my knee. It feels wobbly and unstable, and feels like it might give out, especially whenever I put weight on it. But it no longer hurts to put weight on it. But like I said, the knee brace either supports it & limits circulation to my foot, or just hangs loose on my knee joint when it's "properly fitted" on the calf & thigh.
My range of motion and strength have been continuing to improve every single day, and I almost can't believe how quickly things have gotten so much better. I've really only been doing the physical therapy exercises at the appointments, and just trying to do normal stuff around the house slowly and gradually. Things like just walking a little more, and gradually putting more weight on it and working on my range of motion. It seems to be working very well.
But when I tore my meniscus in my other knee several years ago, it wasn't nearly this bad (pain & symptoms-wise), but it took much longer to heal and make progress. I never had to use crutches for that, but was wearing the knee brace for at least 6 months. (Torn meniscus was confirmed with ultrasound at that time).
I thought for sure with this recent accident, that I had torn (maybe even ruptured) at least one ligament or tendon in my knee because of how badly it was affecting me in the beginning, and because I had felt a pop (different than any other pop) at the time of the injury.
But now, with how quickly things are improving, I'm not so sure. I don't really know what to think. I still have definite instability in the knee, but only mild pain at this point, and a quickly-improving range of motion.
Despite it continuing to feel unstable, I'm able to put nearly my full weight on it when I walk. But I do still walk with a slight limp, because of the instability and the fact that I don't quite have full range of motion yet...like I'm not able to take a full-size stride with that leg yet, but it's definitely much much better than it was.
I'm really just so very curious to see what the MRI says. Did I just pull some muscles? (It sure felt worse than that, but now I'm second guessing everything). Did the muscles actually tear? Did I pull some muscles and tear a ligament and/or tendon? Is that why I'm improving so drastically in many ways, yet still feeling very unstable in the joint?
I just can't quite make sense of how this was so much worse pain & symptoms than the meniscus tear, but seems to be improving so much faster. This is what I'm asking your opinion on, since the MRI isn't scheduled until Friday night.
I'm wondering your thoughts on what this might be and why, and I'm happy to answer any additional questions you might have. Thank you

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It's week after the first Test of the summer so what better time to look at the eldritch abominations the nightmare ridden graphic designers call cricket shirts this season.
There are some fantastic kits this year, and some absolute stinkers. If there is one definitive loser, however, it's Worcestershire. Their kits don't factor into this, but they've got by far the worst website of any county side and for ages the only photo of their kits they had this year was this one. They weren't even selling this year's kits until the end of May, ffs. Sort it out lads.
The County Championship
18: Essex
This is an easy one to display my criteria for the county kits. One visible button so it looks like your options are either being choked or looking as louche as a music producer in the 70s; pinched mid arm sleeves to show off the bowler's muscles; a reasonably boring shade of white; and a quite cheap looking trim stitched onto the collar and nothing on the sleeves or sides of the shirt and a double collar sponsor too.
I do like the nice, big, clean badge though, so it's not all bad.
17: Middlesex
Again with the covered buttons. Doesn't make the collar look any better, lads. The white is a bit dull again, but nothing too bad, and the sleeves are an appropriate length but still a bit short.
Fuck me though. What are they doing with the double chevron? The pink and black would make a love bit of trimming but straight across the chest just looks like it's trying too hard.
Bit amused by the fact they've chosen a shirt with a frayed seam on one sleeve, though.
16: Worcestershire
Finally we've got visible buttons! But why is it so long? Goes all the way to mid-chest. You're just asking for a medallion at that point.
Aside from that and the double collar sponsor it's OK, just a bit bland. No trim and an off-the-peg white. Moving on.
15: Northamptonshire
Literally just the Worcs kit but the button length is a good length. Not much else to add, other than that's a sexy badge. Somehow seems cluttered, despite there not being anything at all on the kit.
14: Durham
Back to the shortened sleeves - Stokes and Wood have had a word there I think - but continuing the bizarrely long button train and it's a colossal sponsor. I think it's a nice sponsor, it's just massive.
Lack of a collar sponsor entirely bumps it up the rankings.
13: Hampshire
This is certainly a kit. Nice button and collar set up makes it the passable bare minimum but it's just so...nothing. They've even gone for a crisp white, which was specifically designed as the most neutral white.
Maybe they were hoping the soporific element to the kit would allow Abbas and Abbott to take more wickets by lulling batters into sleep.
12: Yorkshire
No collar sponsor: check. Fully visible, good length buttons: check. Collar looking like it's out of a Hammer horror: check. Now we're getting somewhere. That stitched badge is delightful too.
Shame about the lack of trim making it a bit washed out. Top of Division Three is a good standard though.
11: Leicestershire
God I love this kit. I also hate it. It's a lovely shade of white, the trim is perfectly placed and is coloured nicely, and the foxes in the colour but also inlaid into cloth is a fantastic detail. Gorgeous. The collar is nearly perfect as well.
But it's covered in betting ads. The double collar alone is bad but the sleeve sponsor and back sponsor all being Dafabet is just horrible. Not least because they've got the naffest logo of all the Asian internet betting companies. Such a waste of an otherwise amazing shirt.
10: Surrey
Looks like a rugby kit, the buttons are too long and the sponsor is far, far too big.
But it's got panache, it's got style, it's got a lovely shade of white. Really annoyed I like it so much. The Prince of Wales feathers in place of the Surrey badge makes it, I think. Irritatingly likeable.
9: Kent
As we hit the top half the problems begin to roll away. Double collar sponsor aside this is a lovely kit. Button train is a bit too long but that deep blue for the Castore and horse badges is cracking and all the other sponsors look great. The sleeves are a good length and it's a nice shade of white.
Very funny that Ben Compton appears to have burnt his skin on the camera flash.
8: Glamorgan
Same stylish cut as the Surrey kit but just done better. Sleeves are a bit too short but the collar is pretty much perfect. The Welsh flag neatly balances out the cringe of having a hashtag on the kit and the chest badges look superb.
If I'm nitpicking the main sponsor could be a touch lower, looks awkwardly high. Good solid effort.
7: Warwickshire
That shade of white is gorgeous. Really makes the dark blue and yellow trim pop and contrasts nicely against the blue of Bears badge. Really does a lot of the heavy lifting though, because we're back to a hidden button set and a double collar sponsor - which, for some reason, reads in the same direction? Very weird choice.
6: Sussex
This is a just an all-round nice kit. Double collar sponsor but it's limited to a tasteful logo and then you move on to the ivory and blue trim combination which is one of the best colour pairings of the season. The webbing in the fabric is nice, the Surridge and Sussex badges look well proportioned for the kit, and the sponsor's logo isn't awful. Sussex by the Sea is a nice touch on the collar if just a little too twee for me. Great kit.
5: Nottinghamshire
Here we go then, into the top 5. Simple, clean, lovely to look at. No collar sponsors, no big corporate logos. Just a nice collar, the sponsor in a nice red placed just under the chest, which contrasts with the green of the Notts badge and the black of the adidas logo.
Elegant to look at, I imagine even more elegant to wear while you're throwing eggs at Joe Clarke from the stands. Delightful.
4: Lancashire
Christ that red trim is fantastic, isn't it. Absolutely gorgeous, plays nicely off the gleaming shade of white they've chosen so it really pops. The boxy Hilton logo would look out of place in a differently cut shirt but it all comes together superbly. Hidden button train holds it back from being in the top 3, but otherwise it's immaculate.
3: Derbyshire
I'll start with the negatives: the sleeves are a bit short and the trim is only half-sleeve. That's it. Everything else about this kit is a delight: the big collar, the visible buttons with the inlaid trim, and the hospital charity sponsor is fantastic. The choice of trim colours - chocolate, gold, and teal - is just my favourite combination in the whole league. I love it.
2: Gloucestershire
Phwoar. The dark white colouration; the thick, wide collar; the short, visible button train. The perfectly placed yellow and black trim down the sides and inlaid into the buttons. The stitched, monochrome club badge. It's an outstanding effort.
Even the goofy Cayman Islands sponsor works with the effect of the whole thing. 9/10 would buy three times.
1: Somerset
Mate. That maroon is just incredible, stitched into the neckline, the colour, the button train. And the curly little detail up the sides is a fantastic, novel little design that makes this a unique kit. Nice wide collar, big old wyvern, and for some reason I love the big block BUPA rip off sponsor. It just...works.
That's it for part one. The ODC Organisation will follow soon...
PS: Things I Would Buy From Each Club Shop Animal Edition
Nutts the Squirrel. Ah come on. Look how adorable he is. That's a great gift. I want one.
The Yorkshire Duck. Do I have to say more? Cracking stuff.

It's Monday and there's not much going on today. But still... here it is. I'll take a brief moment and say thanks to everyone here that subscribed to the newsletter. That thing blew up and in three months got to numbers I would be happy with after two years. I hope you enjoy these updates, even on days that are slow like this one.
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Frederique Constant’s New Highlife Automatic Is An Interesting Rolex Oyster 36 Alternative At 1/5th Of The Price
Ask on a forum what would be a great alternative if you weren’t ready to spend about $10.000 on the really nice and colorful Rolex Oyster Perpetual 36, and the two most likely answers you will get are the Tissot Gentleman (which lacks the range of colors) and the Casio Tsuyosa (which is all about color). And these are two mighty fine watches. But they are also sub $500 (depending on where you shop). And it’s very clear that they are not luxury watches. Now, if you want a great alternative to the Rolex Oyster Perpetual 36 that is trying to make a break towards the luxury watch market, take a look at the new Frederique Constant Highlife Automatic. Not only are they introducing a bunch of great colors, they also have a very interesting dial. And they’re almost 1/5th of the price of the Oyster Perpetual.
Frederique Constant might be a watch that’s not on your radar every day, but they offer great value for money, entry level luxury - especially in the Highlife Automatic - with some pieces that can get up there in price. Their entry into the same realm as the Oyster Perpetual comes up a bit short, at 34mm, but with the trend of customers wanting smaller and more vintage-looking watches, this is a great option. Most of the case is brushed, with polished links on the integrated bracelet. The watch also comes with a white rubber strap.
Where the watch majorly differs from any competition would be the dial. It comes in ice blue, champagne gold, and blossom pink, with a subtle pattern which looks like the grid around a globe. This is a pattern found on many FCs. Inside the watch is the FC-303, based on the Sellita SW200.
The Frederique Constant Highlife Automatic watches in the new colours are unlimited and available now, priced at $1,895.
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The Porsche Design Chronograph 1 Celebrates 75 Years Of Porsche’s First Car
75 years ago, Ferdinand “Ferry” Porsche built one of the most influential cars to ever exist - the Porsche 356 Roadster. Not only did that car change the car world by itself, it also set the groundwork for one of the greatest sports car brands in the world. 24 years later, Ferdinand “Butzi” Porsche (yeah, they weren’t all that creative with their names, Ferry’s dad who constructed the Beetle was also named Ferdinand) created a company called Porsche Design, a production design studio that will take the Porsche ethos and apply it to stuff that isn’t cars. One of the things Porsche Design perfected is watches, and to celebrate the anniversary of the 356, Porsche Design is releasing a new version of their Chronograph 1 – the 75 Years of Porsche Edition
The original Porsche Design Chronograph 1, manufactured by Orfina, wasn’t just popular because of its looks, but also because of its technological advancement. It was the watch that pioneered the use of PVD treatments on watch cases, making a fully black watch. It also appeared on the wrist of Tom Cruise in Top Gun. The new model isn’t a replica of the old one, but look at them side by side and you see a clear evolution.
The Chronograph 1 – the 75 Years of Porsche Edition is made out of titanium, 40mm wide, once again gets a matte black finish and paired to a textile leather strap with light-blue decorative stitching and a central red stripe or the included black leather strap with matching black stitching. The anti-reflective, matte-black dial was inspired by the dashboard in the cockpit of the Porsche 911, but the case has been updated to titanium instead of the original stainless steel used in 1972
Interestingly, the old Chronograph 1 was powered by the Valjoux 7750, and the new one has the WERK 01.140 which is, in essence, a modernised version of that movement. Very modernised, very upgraded. It has a flyback chronograph functionality, black-coated decoration and COSC certification that ensures accuracy within +6/-4 seconds per day. Also, the automatic winding rotor has taken the shape of the legendary Fuchs wheel with a Porsche crest
The watch is limited, frustratingly to 475 pieces. Yes, I get you would like to sell more watches, but 475 doesn’t mean anything. 75 means something. 356 means something. Anyways, sale starts June 8 and it’s priced at $11,000.
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Chopard L.U.C. Full Strike Gets An Update In Full Blue Sapphire
The Chopard L.U.C Full Strike is an award winning watch, and it’s no wonder why. Introduced in 2016, it was the brand’s first minute repeater and just look at it. It’s a perfect blend of tradition and innovation, exhibiting exceptional construction and decoration. Now, Chopard is releasing a new version of the watch - this time in a blue sapphire case. So, if you ever wanted to get the Hublot Big Bang Integrated Tourbillon Full Blue Sapphire, but wanted an actually fantastic watch, here it is!
To use the biggest cliche of them all - this is not a revolution, it is an evolution. But it really is an evolution, as it is a color update to last year’s Full Strike Sapphire, with the 42.5 mm case, and crown with its integrated minute repeater pusher made of sapphire. It still has the same insane sapphire crystal gongs, machined from a single sapphire block.
The dial is made of sapphire, too, with the movement in full view. For easy reading, the railway-type minutes track was engraved and painted on the crystal, and eight rhodium-plated, shaped hour markers, positioned from 12 to 7 o’clock, were applied to make the chapter ring.
The L.U.C 08.01-L hand-wound movement is COSC certified and bears the Poinçon de Genève quality hallmark. It comprises 533 parts, beats to the frequency of 28,800vph and has a power reserve of 60 hours.
Unlike the Hublot, which comes on a full sapphire bracelet which many watchmakers have called an impossible dirt trap, the Chopard L.U.C Full Strike Blue Sapphire is offered on a blue alligator leather strap and it’s limited to just five pieces. The price is on request, but last year’s clear sapphire version was rumoured to cost $450.000
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The Norqain Freedom 60 Chrono 40mm Ice Blue Limited Edition Is A Summer Ready Baby Blue Watch
Norqain is only five years old and yet, it currently has more than 50 different watches in their lineup. Started by Ben Küffer who brought over a bunch of people from Breitling, where he worked, one of their early successes was the Freedom 60 Chrono, housed in a 43mm case. People loved the watch, but they loved the 40mm version launched last year even more. Norqain is now releasing a limited edition of the 40mm chronograph with an ice blue dial.
It’s the same old watch as it was last year - 40mm in diameter and 14.9mm thick, with a box-type AR sapphire crystal and 100-metre water resistance rating. There are three strap options and Norqain is proud that they are all animal cruelty-free - a stainless steel bracelet, a black Perlon rubber strap and a linen Nortide strap made of recycled plastic recovered from the ocean.
The dial has a tri-compax layout and gets a new color palette with a sunray brushed ice blue dial, with black subdials and silver applied indices. There’s a colour-matching angled date at the unfortunate position between 4 and 5 o’clock. Inside the watch is Norqain’s calibre NN19, based on the Sellita SW510, a cam-operated chronograph with 27 jewels, 28,800vph (4Hz) and a power reserve of 62 hours. This is an update last year’s 40mm model, which had an ETA based movement.
The Norqain Freedom 60 Chrono 40mm Ice Blue Limited Edition is limited to 300 pieces and retails for CHF 4,250 with the steel bracelet, CHF 4,150 with the rubber strap and CHF 3,990 with the Nortide strap.
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Revolution’s Latest Collaboration With De Rijke & Co. Gives Us A Whimsical Miffy Watch With A Sapphire Dial And Great Price
If you are by chance, like me, a parent to a little girl, you know all about Miffy. If you are not, all you need to know is that Miffy is cult Dutch cartoon bunny created by Dick Bruna, whose books have sold more than 100 million copies since 1955. Miffy being Dutch is appropriate, since this watch is made by De Rijke & Co, a relatively young Dutch watch brand that was started after it’s owner Laurens de Rijke in 2013 took his fifty year old Vespa scooter for a trip on the Silk Road, covering a distance of 11.000 kilometer, he past countries like Azerbaijan. Turkmenistan, Uzbekistan, Tajikistan and Kyrgyzstan.
Born from this trip was an inspiration to create a watch, and it’s very interesting. While many brands want to create a fully modular watch, it always ends up being cumbersome. De Rijke went another path - he created a two part case that allows you to spin the internal part that holds the dial, crystal and movement, up to 90 degrees, allowing it to be positioned wherever you wanted for comfort. The lugs of the watch are also unique, solid and made for straps to pass through them. All of this gives the watch almost as much modularity as a modular watch, while still being a good watch.
Also, this is not the first time you will find Miffy on a De Rijke & Co. watch. They have a completely sold out collection of four Miffy watches differing only in color and limited to 25 pieces per color. The watch is powered by the Sellita SW 288-1, a movement that has been seen modified for the MING 37.05 Moonphase and unmodified in the Farer Moonphase. All of this makes sense, as the De Rijke & Co. Miffy watch is a moonphase watch, where the moon is replaced with an illustration of Miffy.
And now, here comes Revolution magazine with their special edition of the De Rijke & Co. Miffy, but this time it’s the Double Moonphase. This version of the watch has a translucent sapphire dial, which allowed them to add a second Miffy, which turns the watch into a dual-hemisphere moonphase indicator.
Production will be limited to 100 pieces and the watch is priced at EUR 3,100, which is EUR 400 higher than the already sold out Miffy’s which don’t have the sapphire dial. Available for purchase on 6 June 2023, 10pm SGT 4pm CET 10am EST
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The Romain Gauthier Introduces The C Titanium Edition Four In Black And Blue
There’s a certain type of watch one expects from an independent watchmaker. Serious, classical, with all the watchmaking talents on display and highly personal. Romain Gauthier took all of those characteristics and applied them to his watches. Then he decided to create the Continuum, which is, in fact, an independent’s version of a sports watch, filled with Gauthier’s trademark touches. The model was later renamed C by Romain Gauthier, but the series retained the essential idea and continued to evolve aesthetically. The brand has just revealed the new edition of the C by Romain Gauthier Titanium in a Grade 5 titanium case coated with black ALDC.
If you follow the work of Romain Gauthier, the new C by Romain Gauthier Titanium Edition Four will look very familiar to you, for the watch sports the same 41mm x 9.55mm, 50m water-resistant case crafted from Grade 5 titanium, with a black diamond-like carbon coating, as the Edition Two from last year. All of the titanium used also gives the watch incredible lightness and the whole thing weighs just 55 grams.
The new reference is distinguished mainly by coloured elements. The crown at 2 o’clock features a blue rubber ring. The main dial plate in black Grade 5 titanium received a straight-graining finish; the slightly off-centred hours and minutes are indicated with the white Super-LumiNova-filled 18k white gold hands and applied numerals and hour markers.
But all of this is secondary to the movement. It is a contemporary in-house calibre, manually wound, with exceptional decoration and finishes. The movement with signature Gauthier-reinterpreted historically typical finger-style bridges in natural titanium and rhodium-treated gears is the same as in the previous Continuum editions. It beats to a frequency of 28,800vph and has a power reserve of 60 hours.
The C by Romain Gauthier Titanium Edition Four is a limited edition of 38, and comes on a black textured rubber strap with satin-finished and polished Grade 5 titanium pin buckle coated with black ADLC. It’s priced at CHF 38,000 and while this is an insane amount of money for a watch, I can think of many mass produced watches with less impressive materials and movements that will ask you for much more money.
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On hand - a selection of reviews

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A review of the Bulgari Octo Finissimo Skeleton 8 Days watch, ultra-thin and all-titanium
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Hands on with the very controversial Patek Philippe Calatrava 6007G
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Watch Worthy - A look at an offbeat, less known watch you might actually like

Classy, With A Touch Of Sportiness; The Moritz Grossmann Power Reserve Vintage
Made out of solid silver, the finishing is outstanding. The elongated black Roman numerals exude elegance and are embraced with a very fine minute track. Look closely and you can see small blue markers at every five-minute increment, a touch of colour that ties in with a key element on the dial: the power reserve indication. This simple little horizontal display is very practical on a day-to-day basis when dealing with a hand-wound watch (which this is).
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Hello everyone! It has been already a long time since the Grand Final, and now that the excitement has settled, I'd like to share an idea I had regarding the voting scores. Also, finally the megathread is gone so we can discuss this in a better quorum (in my opinion).
Disclaimer: this is not a rant. I'm perfectly fine with the results. This is something that I have been thinking for a long time, through many editions, just in the spirit of continuous improvement.
My proposal is to change the televote system (only) so that points are allocated to all songs, ranging from 0 to 24 in the case of the Grand Final. While this solution may not be perfect and won't solve all the issues, it comes with several significant benefits. Let me outline a few of them:

1. Adjusting the Weight of the Televote: Many people have expressed their desire for a change in the televoting system. While I fully support retaining the juries, I believe Eurovision has matured enough to slightly reduce their influence. With this model, we can achieve a ratio close to 1/3 vs. 2/3, which is higher than the 25% requested by many but still lower than the current 50% split.
   
2. Ensuring Every Televote Counts: One common criticism has been the increasing cost of each vote, which has led to the perception that individual televotes hold less significance. Under the proposed model, being ranked 14th would hold a different value than being ranked 13th.
   
3. Mitigating Block Voting: Currently, there is no distinction between ranking a song 11th or 26th, as both positions yield no points unless the song reaches the top 10 at least once. By implementing this model, having a song ranked 11th twice would be more favorable than being ranked 9th once and 26th once. This change would help reduce the impact of block voting.
   
4. Preserving the "Douze Points" Tradition: The proposed change to the televote system does not interfere with the cherished tradition of awarding "douze points." As the current voting presentation only explicitly uses "douze points" when announcing the jury voting, we can maintain this strong tradition within the show.
   
5. Avoiding 0 Points in the Grand Final: In the current system, receiving 0 points in the Grand Final can be quite cringeworthy for the competing act, even if it's a rare occurrence. However, with this new model, getting 0 points becomes nearly impossible unless the act is unanimously ranked 26th. Eliminating such uncomfortable moments has been suggested by many as an improvement for the show.
   
6. Minimal Changes to the Current System: It's important to consider the practicality of implementing any proposed changes. Operationally, adopting this new model would primarily involve the EBU internally translating the current system to the new one (ranking each entry and assigning a corresponding value), summing up the results (as they already do), and presenting the updated scores. All other aspects of the voting process remain unchanged. The judges can continue to announce their votes as usual, and the graphics can remain the same—we'll simply see larger numbers in the end.
   

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feedback on this idea. Let's discuss how these changes could potentially enhance the Eurovision voting experience!