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People I'm currently staying with have been caring for stray cat family for almost a year now, and the family is now a size of about 8-12 (and pregnant again).
We've looked into the local TNR, but even if we trap and get them each neutered, rather than release, the TNR wants to enroll them into a shelter for adoption "if their temperament is suitable" (probably non-hostile).
The concern is breaking up the family, having them caged in a shelter(s) for however long, with some possibly getting euthanized if not adopted in time.
The people I'm staying with already have a dog that doesn't play nice with other animals, so they can't take the cats in even if they wanted to.
There's another local program that fixes strays at a reduced cost of about $50/60 (male/female) which we're considering doing for at least the 5ish girl cats, but the mother cat is very cautious (rarely even coming out of hiding except to eat sometimes; I have yet to see her, myself).
I also have my own one cat that keeps yowling at them that I'm not sure what to do about. I'm temporarily staying in a small guest house that would normally be reserved for the landlord's parents when they're in town.
Any insight on a solution would be greatly appreciated!

So my wife(24) keeps calling me a narcissist. However everyone in my life that has ever known me would say I'm the exact opposite. I hate being the center of attention, I have a lot of empathy for others, and I really don't see myself as better than others. I do take pride in my work and strive to be the best, but I don't see myself as above anyone else. On the other hand, I actually think my wife is the narcissist. She has to be the center of attention at all times, she's verbally abusive a lot, she doesn't like any of my family and none of them really like her either at this point. So I'm basically isolated from them. Everyone that knows my wife says that she is a very mean person. I think maybe over the last few years I have possibly picked up some narcissistic tendencies after all the verbal abuse and manipulation from her? I'm not sure. I think my head is just cloudy and I can't think straight about it.
TLDR: My wife calls me a narcissist, however it seems like she displays the definition of narcissist almost to a T.

I don't understand people hating on Everybody Loves Raymond. I watched it as a kid but didn't understand everything. Watching it as an adult on i'm belly laughing almost every episode.
I notice people comparing it to Seinfeld as well which is weird but both are great shows with different dynamics. ELR obviously focuses more on family topics/issues, keeps it PG, which might make it more suitable for kids. So i don't understand the comparisons. Why can't we appreciate both shows?
The toad lady episode was hilarious. And the one where Debra and Amy are plotting against Marie, and Frank is just like "If you cut the head of a lizard it just runs around all crazed-like". I spit my water out laughing

I spend an unhealthy amount of time reading Harry Potter fanfiction and I've noticed that a majority of them portray Lucuis Malfoy as an awful and abusive father.
I guess it comes from the way he was portrayed in movies (which was more cold in my opinion), but he doesn't seem abusive to me at all especially in the books. In fact both Narcissa and Lucius seem to really love Draco. Sure their values are awful and cruel in general, but I'd never say that they're abusive! In fact they seem like a really close knit family.
What do you guys think?

I want to print out my 2FA backup codes to keep them in a safe, but I don’t own a printer, and I haven’t bothered buying a new one, since my old printer broke down. Where should I print my backup codes? Library? At my school? Ask a family member I trust to print it at their office? Friends house?
I’ve read online that some printers may save printed file copies on a hard drive or a server. If that’s the case, a hacker or possibly even work staff with bad intentions that has access to the hard drive that stores saved print file copies, could use these printed backup codes against me.
I know that this is probably an unrealistic scenario, but optimally, I rather play it “better safe than sorry”. Thoughts?

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My boyfriend and I are very different people. Here is a quick summary:
I grew up lower class in an unhappy and dysfunctional household. I had no access to therapy and developed severe mental health problems which culminated in alcoholism at a young age, as well as obesity. I experienced domestic abuse. I dropped out of college and nearly ended my own life in October 2019.
Since then, I have lost 125lbs. I am 19 months sober currently, I’ve worked through my biggest issues with therapy, I’m fully employed and go to school part-time. I am close to achieving an engineering degree. When I graduate I will be an experienced engineer with a decent career. There is a redemption arc.
On the other hand, my boyfriend was born into a well-adjusted, middle class family. He has always been intelligent and successful, and has never been diagnosed with any kind of physical or mental health condition. He graduated as expected, has an amazing lucrative career, and loves me very, very much.
We’ve moved in together recently. Due to the location (extremely expensive - this was non negotiable on his end, whereas I WFH and can work anywhere) I can only afford to pay about 1/4 of rent. He earns about four times what I do, so it’s not an issue.
I just… I guess I find this relationship so uncomfortable because I do not feel that I deserve it. I constantly feel that he should be with someone more similar to him. His ex girlfriend had a similar background to him. I don’t know.
TL;DR my boyfriend feels way out of my league. I don’t know how to convince myself that I’m not doing him a disservice by dating him.

so growing up with in my "family" i always got yelled at for making other people upset, with no one even talking about their feelings so i had to work on overtime to know what others wanted. and the worst way this showed itself for me was that i'd avoid being too interested in anything that was for me, in case i got yelled at again, so i ended up only doing the same things that everyone else did. i didnt dare go any further and writing all that now is making me realise how messed up all that was

I always knew I'd have to do something like this in the future but I never knew it would be so soon.
From 2014, the day I got my first 2ds system for my birthday, I had never really been too invested in my console. But now, on the dawn of the final day, I now look back fondly on those memories and wish that they could still be so. For many of us, we remember taking our eshop cards out of our stockings on Christmas and buying some eshop games, diving under the Christmas tree to unwrap some physical releases, and for some of us, even unwrapping brand new consoles.
But now, Nintendo is taking this feeling away. All the joy of getting a new badge on badge arcade, playing a new game, or spending your allowance on new games. They've put us into a state of panic buying since then but now the time is nigh for the end of it all. However, know that even though the eshop may be gone. the memories aren't. You might not be able to make new ones, but you can never forget the good times. So, I round this out with a quote that stands true now and forever.

"Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all."
- Alfred Lord Tennyson

May the Nintendo 3ds family of consoles and Wii U rest in peace. Gone, but can never be forgotten.

This started off as a response to a comment, but I realized I didn't want to come off as dumping on the commenter. So I decided that it was better suited to a new post. I'm gonna start on what appears to be a tangent, but it's relevant, I promise.
IRL, I watch a lot of YouTube channels discussing the problems the US faces that are caused by low-density housing, urban sprawl, and car-dependent regional-planning. (Strong Towns, CityNerd, City Beautiful, Not Just Bikes, RMTransit, and this great video by Climate Town)
It's resulted in a lot of cookie-cutter neighborhoods throughout the US that look ugly, and make their regions financially insolvent due to unbearable maintenance costs. NIMBYism campaigns by their residents lead to local governments deciding not to fix problems, and has led to a nationwide housing crisis. This is a GROSS oversimplification of a very complex and nuanced topic, and I'm not looking to start a political argument here.
While none of the political or ecological forces discussed in those videos really apply much to the channel - I'm recognizing that my fellow redditors are also planning their valleys with the mindset of desiring low-density, single-family homes that all "look good" together, with each home on a large plot of land (a.k.a. the "American Dream") This mentality, which has permeated post-WW2 US society (and is communicated globally through US pop-culture), is bleeding is over into Dreamlight Valley.
I'm bothered by the negativity that people have towards Woody's Carousel home. As someone who temporarily lived in an RV for the better part of a year while searching for permanent housing after moving across country, I'm offended by the elitist comments against the appearance Buzz's RV "ruining" their villages. Living in a real world where desperately needed multi-family homes to address housing crises are prevented from being built in communities because it would "ruin the local aesthetic / charm" and "hurt property values", it pains me to see these attitudes reflected in negative comments by people complaining about the potential addition of high-rise housing coming with the apartment building from Wreck-It Ralph.
Diversity in housing is beautiful, and interesting. It offers opportunities for people for find unique solutions to tie multiple visually distinct structures together with landscaping, paths, and fun public areas throughout their biomes.
So many people post that they can't figure out how to decorate their valley, or that they've hit item limits. It's because we're still in Early Access, and there are not enough houses yet to fill up the space. So people make grand estates and max out their item limits filling up one biome - because there's too much empty space. So many people post and comment about how they're out of space and there's no room for upcoming houses, so they want more biomes.
I'm not against adding additional biomes to the game, but there's already an insane amount of real-estate in Dreamlight Valley, and only a few houses currently available in Dreamlight Valley to fill it up. There's an achievement/trophy/Dreamlight Task for repairing 30 villager homes, and we currently only have 12. That means there are plans for at least 18 more houses coming to our villages. Once there are 30 -40 houses in the valley it'll be a much smaller task to decorate, and the restrictions / limitations will help remove the creative paralysis that too much freedom of choice causes for many players.
I'm HUGELY in favor of great parks, walkable city centers, and fun third places, in the real world, and also in Dreamlight Valley. Parks full of fountains and shrubs, cool beach areas, bars, ski resorts with saunas and igloos all provide unique charm and character to the valley - they can and should be part of people's design toolbox.
Sorry if this is a lot, and a bit heavy for a cozy game like Dreamlight Valley. I just had to get this all off my chest. Let's keep the discussion focused on Dreamlight Valley design and steer clear of the real world politics I mentioned, as they are better suited for other areas of Reddit.
Thanks for listening to my TED talk.

I honestly do not know where to start with this, and I am just really hoping my girlfriend won't see this since she is a frequent user of Reddit. But I cannot turn to any of our mutual friends and talking to her about the subject would break her heart.
This is the situation: met on a dating app, have been together for over 4 years. She is very present on social media since that is her job, has a large following etc, and oftentimes talks about getting engaged on her various social media platforms. She has mentioned wanting a proposal, the type of ring she would want etc. She has also discussed her wedding plans on social media (and with me), and I feel like the more she does this, the more pressure there is on me to get things moving forward. We have discussed engagement as well and I have told her that I have a proposal plan, but do not want to give her details.
The truth is, I am having second thoughts - not about our relationship though. I want to be with her and only her, not date others (which she asked about in a recent discussion relating to us getting engaged). I love her so much, and we are moving in together, and I absolutely see a future with her.
I come from a background of divorce. A large portion of my family members have been through divorce, and that's why I've always been quite nervous about the idea of getting married. Spending my life with her does not scare me, the marriage itself does. We have discussed kids, and are both on the fence about that. We also both have our own incomes.
We are planning a trip to Paris this year, and a part of me is quite sure that she might be expecting a proposal there. I have not bought a ring. I am not planning to propose in Paris, and I am extremely anxious about going there, because I know that her coming back to the US with no ring might just break her heart, and that's the last thing I would want to happen.
So dear Reddit. I want to spend my life with this woman, I love her to pieces, and would be devastated if she decided to break things up because of my hesitation regarding engagement and marriage. And the last thing I want is for her to think there is something wrong with her, because there absolutely is not. How do I tell her my feelings on the matter honestly and ensure that we are able to make it through this and that even if we do not get married that I promise to love her for the rest of my life?

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I’m a month away from my scheduled sleeve and am having that backing out feeling. I posted here before. I wake up in the middle of the night and say to my self I shouldn’t do this I’ll regret it. I’m only 20 years old and fear I’ll regret it. I enjoy food (I know it’s not healthy) I’m just being honest. I want to enjoy Chinese food, I want to go on vacations and be able to go out with my family and friends and eat. I want to enjoy a drink from the bar( in a couple months), but I also don’t want to be over weight. I tried hired a personal trainer, nothing. I tried the gym, nothing, I tried eating healthy, you guessed correct nothing, I even tried to starve myself ( went 4 days without eating anything just drank water), nothing. I’m tired, I’m so depressed, I’m not confident, I had been over weight my whole life I have lost 100 pounds prior went from 300-200 in a year (turns out I had c-diff and ecoli for a year and didn’t know) when I lost that weight I felt happy, I smiled all the time, I was more active I just felt amazing. Now I gained weight and am back to being overweight, I’m so eager I even tried to get cdiff and ecoli again (ik I sound crazy but I’m desperate). I really think the surgery is the only thing I can do to lose weight. I’m so confused and lost, I’m going to schedule a appointment with a therapist soon. I have already paid my deposit and took 6-weeks off work for the procedure. I’m just so lost and confused I’m going through this process alone. Please anyone be blunt with me I need someone to give me the hard truth. Thanks for reading!

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How does one feel feelings again after leaving the person you love for better.? How does one get through the day without even the inkling of the affections of that person appearing in their mind? When will it not hurt as much not be gone, just not hurt as much. I feel like s*** still for some reason, I know the reason, I. I feel like I'll get over it but I still feel it so hard and it hurts because I haven't felt this much for this person this intently in a year and a half. That breaks my heart. The love that burns so intently is now Flint and wood, two parts of the fire but no longer a flame without one another. I'm just ranting on about what comes in my head if you read it please don't mind it it's fine I'm just a random person letting my emotions go as they come out most of you don't know me or none of you will know me and maybe one of you who might read it might understand what I'm going through. I love you all I love myself I love my family and I don't want to die

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well my situation got worse and honestly thinking about running away because my family said if i was trans they wouldnnt love me anymore and my mom said "never be trans i love you the way you are" and they just dont get it.. i also asked to trim it andddd they said never again so

Hey guys, Sorry if this isn’t set out very well, I have a newborn baby and am really bloody sleep deprived.
My husband and I are based in London and he has a masters from Cambridge. I need someone to explain the likelihood of a career in academia to me like I’m 5.
We’re currently looking at moving out of London and my husband wants to move back to Cambridge to focus on his PHD in history.
He really wants to do his PHD and work in academia for the rest of his career - it’s his calling. He tells me that a PHD from Cambridge will carry far more weight (I get that) but is a career in academia a realistic outcome? Do most people who get a PHD end up working for universities as lecturers etc? Or a very small number?
Essentially - does a PHD necessarily lead to a career in academia or could we be relocating my family and two kids for a slim chance?