Tamil matrimony usa doctor sozhiya vellalar

1. Kal Penn was born Kalpen Suresh Modi in New Jersey. He originally anglicized his name as a joke to prove his friends wrong. However, after noticing his audition callbacks increase by 50 percent, he decided to keep it.
2. John Cho was born Yo-han Cho — or, rather, Cho Yo-han since Korean names follow Eastern name order, in which your surname comes before your given name — in South Korea. His father, who was a minister, named him Yo-han (like Johan) after John the Baptist. When John was 6 years old, their family immigrated to the US.
3. Kelly Marie Tran was born Loan Tran in California. However, her parents — who immigrated to the US as Vietnam War refugees, adopted English names, and met in an English as a second language class in San Diego — legally gave her an English first name so that she would, as Kelly described to the Washington Post, be accepted and feel comfortable within American society. After months away from social media due to online harassment (including racist and sexist comments) by Star Wars fans for being cast in The Last Jedi, Kelly penned a New York Times op-ed asserting her identity as a woman of color and revealed that her real name is Loan.
4. Mindy Kaling was born Vera Mindy Chokalingam in Massachusetts the same year her family immigrated to the US. However, Mindy revealed she's never been called Vera. "I've been Mindy since I was born," she explained. "When my mom was pregnant, my parents were living in Nigeria and wanted a cute American name — because they were moving here — and they knew Mindy from Mork & Mindy." After emcees constantly butchered her last name at comedy shows, Mindy decided to shorten it (with her parents' OK).
5. Lana Condor was born Lan Đồng Trần — or, more accurately, Trần Đồng Lan, as Vietnamese names (last name, middle name, first name) follow Eastern name order — in Vietnam. Her parents, Mary and Bob Condor, adopted her at 4 months old and renamed her Lana as a variation of her birth name, Lan.
6. Steven Yeun was born Sang-yeop Yeun — or Yeun Sang-yeop in Korean — in South Korea. When he was 4–5 years old, Steven's family immigrated first to Canada for a year and then to the US, where his parents ultimately opened a beauty-supply store in Detroit, Michigan. "My first name is Sang-yeop originally," Steven once told Conan O'Brien. "Then [my parents] changed it to Steven because we met a doctor, and his name was Steven."
7. Simone Ashley was born Simone Ashwini Pillai in England to first-gen Indian Tamil parents and often spent her childhood summers with relatives in California. After being cast as Kate in Season 2 of Bridgerton, the show's writers changed Kate's surname from Sheffield (as the character is named in the books) to Sharma to reflect Simone's Indian heritage.
8. Michelle Yeoh was born Choo Kheng Yeoh — again, that's actually Yeoh Choo Kheng — in Malaysia. In the mid-1980s, Michelle began her acting career in Hong Kong. In hopes of making her more marketable to Western audiences, the film production company she worked with credited her as Michelle Khan. However, when Michelle did debut in the West in the 1997 James Bond film, Tomorrow Never Dies, she changed her stage name to Michelle Yeoh.
9. Tia Carrere was born Althea Rae Duhinio Janairo in Hawaii. She got the nickname "Tia" from her younger sister, who was unable to pronounce Althea, and took the last name Carrere after actor Barbara Carrera.
10. Jimmy O. Yang was born Man-sing Au-yeung — Au-yeung Man-sing — in Hong Kong. When Jimmy was 13, his family immigrated to the US for him and his brother to have access to a better education. Though his parents named him Man-sing because it means "10,000 successes" in Cantonese, Jimmy jokingly revealed that they picked Jimmy because it was an arbitrary English name that was easy to pronounce.
11. Sir Ben Kingsley was born Krishna Pandit Bhanji in England. As a boy, his friends called him Krish. When he began auditioning for roles, Ben used his real name, but it was often mispronounced, so his father suggested he use a more English name. Together, they came up with the surname Kingsley from King Clove, the nickname of his grandfather, a successful spice trader from India. He eventually played the titular role in Gandhi (1982) and remarked, "The irony is, of course, I changed my clunky, invented Asian name to a more pronounceable and acceptable, universal name in order to play Mahatma Gandhi."
12. Aasif Mandvi was born Aasif Hakim Mandviwala in India before his family immigrated to England when he was 1 year old. In the early 1980s, when Aasif was 16, his family then moved to Florida. "I think it's often the journey of the immigrant to assimilate and then go, 'Who the fuck am I?'" he told the Tampa Bay Times.
13. George Takei was born Hosato Takei in California in 1937. His father later gave him his English name after King George VI, who was coronated less than a month after George's birth. In his autobiography, George explains that Hosato is Japanese for "Village of the Bountiful Harvest," and that when choosing an English name, his father — an avid reader and Anglophile — was between George and Neville, after UK Prime Minister Neville Chamberlain who took office a few weeks after King George VI's coronation. "To them, this baby was as great as a prime minister, even a king," he describes.
14. Bruno Mars was born Peter Gene Hernandez in Hawaii. When Bruno was 2 years old, his father nicknamed him Bruno after professional wrestler and WWWF (now WWE) World Heavyweight Champion Bruno Sammartino. Though Bruno has said his father called him Bruno because he was a chubby child, his older sister has said it's because he was a confident, strong-willed, independent, and brutish kid. His stage surname, Mars, comes from a joke he made in the studio one day after telling people he was "out of this world."

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My experience followed by questions:
My parents asked me if I wanted to start looking at age 23, for context- I'm 32 now. I was hoping for a new start with a new family away from my controlling and toxic one so I said yes. My parents are both arrogant narcissists with no social circle so I'm sure they wouldn't get much alliances that way for sure. We are from a small community that is too proud of its stupid caste and my very educated parents also cling to it like fools as if it has any relevance to our lives. They started hosting the Church people of our ancestral church at home often (which we had never attended in our lives till then), making me sing at functions to let them know there was an "eligible girl" at our home. Nothing happened lol.
Dad created a profile on Tamil Matrimony- a 10k per year membership I think. Mom will conveniently say "your dad is the head of the household" and did not get involved. One guy called from the company about having a personal profile manager and asked us to upgrade, he made a new profile with really poor copy pasting and bad grammar, asked us to make the payment and just stopped replying within a week. We got scammed. I was angry- that was big money to me! Dad didn't care much.
He told me AM search would be unnecessary stress and distraction for me so he wouldn't give me the password to see. He'd casually look once in a while in between his free time. Mom was totally unbothered. He'd occasionally send stuff- weird ones usually. He believed I should go settle abroad and this isn't a country where people would appreciate me- because I'm dark and have always been chubby. He'd ask me to send pictures to use sometimes- he had been using THE WORST clown make up sort of unflattering pictures that he found somewhere. He refused to show me the portal saying it's depressing- that I'm getting unqualified and bad matches. He'd keep saying "see, boys shouldn't feel ashamed to be on stage with you- what'll society say about them and their motives?" I felt so bad- who talks to their kid like that. He was like "your mom and I are top shelf- we saw only 1 or 2 and instantly it clicked for us at 24, 25. We have to be more realistic with you". Again.. who the FUCK talks to their kid like that??? There was no freedom in our house to disagree or talk back. My mom always takes his side "ofcourse people see the appearance first". They did this clown show for years. Once at around 27 when they were desperate they wanted a good "matrimonial photo set"- took me to Chennai, got me western and traditional outfits, a photographer and "professional" make up- they made me look like an Oompah loompah/ a pumpkin. It cost 40 fucking thousand bucks and the photos were fucking unusable. But that shows how desperate they were feeling.
Dad found out an overweight cousin got a "good boy" through some service so he went to a town 3 hours away looking for that small broker agency. I think he went to Sowcarpet once too. But they'd chase away "predator brokers" who'd randomly come home with pictures.
I never reached the "talking stage" or "visit stage" with any guy. I turned down a few interests for valid reasons (I already heard bad things about some of them, 1 or 2 wanted big dowries)- overall less than 10 profiles I guess. I later found out dad had been rejecting guys based on his own ideas and telling me nothing was coming coz a school senior told me they had been turned down saying "we don't want engineers". I started online dating at 28 (that's a whole different shit show). My evil younger sister told my dad I was meeting guys and he started calling me damaged goods and that no decent family would marry me (but apparently it's different for guys- he confessed once that he was having casual sex even in UG days). Dad gave me the password after I turned 30 and finished postgrad. I finally found a good partner on a dating app last year. I told dad to stop renewing his current membership- these days he'd keep sending me fake profiles (they're so damn obvious I dunno how he doesn't see it! The skeleton profiles with no info, random stolen photos, all settled abroad- he was forwarding all of those! He's a doctor trained in the US- HOW can u be this dumb?!) I guess AM was never meant for me. But I have to ask:

1. Certainly we all have our flaws, but how do your parents handle it? Do they highlight your positives more talking to you and AM contacts? Anyone with an a*shole like my dad?
   
2. When it comes to small communities what works better? Brokers or parents having good social networks and a good community circle?
   
3. How thorough were your parents when looking at matches, etc.? Were they casual and careless like mine beleiving fake profiles and all?
   
4. Any positive criticism on how I could have handled my situation better? Or comments on what happened with me.
   
5. Open for general discussion and debates on parents' role in AM hunting.
   

If commenting please specify your age and gender and maybe relationship status. Thanks 🙃