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2019.05.22 03:53 dreetea Boramiyu (보라미유)
Boramiyu (보라미유) is a South Korean solo singer who debuted under Shofar Entertainment (쇼파르엔터테인먼트) (formerly Shofar Music (쇼파르뮤직)) on November 21, 2018. She is known for her various covers on YouTube, performing on I Can See Your Voice / ICSYV (너의 목소리가 보여) 5 (as Jang Boram (장보람)), and releasing several singles, mini albums, and OST's for K-dramas such as: Once Upon a Small Town (어쩌다 전원일기), Now, We Are Breaking Up (지금, 헤어지는 중입니다), Do Do Sol Sol La La Sol (도도솔솔라라솔), Into the Ring (출사표), 제3의 매력.
2023.06.07 12:11 sky20212 M looking for date with couple or female
I am 33 male from lahore looking for couple , lonely wife or single girls who loves to have good time. Experienced bull, had relationships with couple. Well groomed and well educated and very good in bed when comes to performance. Make adjustments accordingly though I love doing rough. Will travel if we click Pro: no extra baggage or ex drama Cons: You will never know when I’m joking and Might give unsolicited advice that no one asked for.
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2023.06.07 12:09 Sweaty_Mulberry_3344 Friendly reminder to you all- make sure you’re getting enough sleep!
I recently finished reading a book called ‘Why We Sleep’ by Matthew Walker, and it kinda changed the way I thought about sleep and living with this disorder.
Mania, depression and psychosis can completely mess with our relationship with sleep, and in the book I also learnt that taking massive doses of Ambien and Lunesta are not always the best way out of this.
Sleep is golden, literally. I’ll emphasise I’m not manic, I’m not delusional and I’m certainly not wrong about this. I am more than aware that for us, sleep is tough and I am one of those people who has to have a stash of Ambien in my drawer and finds sleep really damn difficult to keep up with. Here’s a few simple things I learnt from my new favourite book:-
- Sleep is golden and can’t be interfered with. If you’re not sleeping, see your doctor. Not sleeping can trigger psychosis even in a a healthy person, let alone people with this condition.
- Make sure you’re treating sleep with the respect it deserves. If you can, go to bed at the same time every night and wake at the same time every day. If you can’t, speak to your doctor about things they can do to help.
- Make sleep one of the talking points when seeing your doctor. When I lack sleep, it’s often that I’m getting depressed or manic without realising it.
Those are just three take homes I hope will help you all.
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2023.06.07 12:09 Quick_Wallaby_01 Cost for re-wire + switchboard
What sort of cost would I be looking at for a re-wire, new switchboard (to replace the dusty fuses) and some new wall sockets? 1970s brick veneer on stumps. The internal wall linings will be removed to studwork in most areas - does this make a difference. Would a re-wire normally be done under the house or through the walls?
If it makes a difference I'd request the new switchboard have circuits added (or at least available) for future use with PV panels, car charger, shed power and house extension.
House is 3 bed single storey, easy access all around, east of Melbourne. I'm hoping for under $8k. Am I far off?
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2023.06.07 12:05 SnekkinHell I think I might have this.
I don't know exactly what to type here so I guess I'll give examples of what I guess would be the "symptoms"
When I was like 10/11 I started skipping school sometimes for a week long by pretending to be sick. Of course this rarely worked on my Mum but she would give in because I would just lay in bed pretending to sleep even if she yelled or tried to wake me up physically.
In highschool it escalated a lot, year 7 was fine I made a few friends but year 8 was horrible for me. I would skip school all the time and I remember one time I didn't want to go so bad that I shoved my bed against the door and sat at it while yelling at my brother and mum, I think I was threatening to off myself but it's hard to remember due to my horrible memory. I would also go and hide in the park right behind our back fence, and I would sit up at the fence to use the internet since I didn't want to go to school but I didn't want to stay home.
It was so bad I was put in a special class for year 9, it was just one teacher and one classroom which helped me a lot. Year 9 and 10 passed and I was still skipping a bit.
I didn't even start year eleven before I dropped out, and I had already had my books and shit bought so I wasted money. But as soon as I woke up on the first day I was just scared of going for some reason. I ended up just dropping out.
I've never seen a therapist/psychologist even though I've wanted too, I always told myself I'd do it in secret when I turned 18 so my family wouldn't know, it's not like they would really judge me anyway so I don't know why I'm so scared of seeing one.
I also have 0 friends, haven't since 2018 since I didn't use social media and I would always skip school leading to me basically ghosting any friends I had.
Another symptom I saw listed was making up fantasy lives in your head, and while I haven't done it recently much I used to do this a lot especially when I was lonely.
So yeah my current life for the past 2.5 years has been the exact same basically since I don't work and only have tafe once a week(which I haven't gone to in a month anyway).
I'll probably delete this anyway so thanks for reading I guess.
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2023.06.07 12:04 Rolosrawesome My life-long dog passed today and I don’t know how to cope
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I’ve had my dog, Alfie, for as long as I can remember. I grew up with him from when he was 2/3 and I was 6-7 until now, 16/17 (him) to 20. He was a rescue dog, the craziest looking one in his photo apparently but he turned out to be an absolutely sweetheart when my parents went to see the dogs at the rescue centre. We’d recently lost our pup, Ruby, at the time from complications at about 18 months so after we’d grieved and were ready, my parents decided to get a rescue and we were blessed with Alfie Moon, and continued to be blessed with him for 15 years. He is all I’ve ever known, he’s been with me through the ups and downs of my life and I don’t know how to process that he’s gone. submitted by Rolosrawesome to GriefSupport [link] [comments]
He’s been sick for a while, so it would come eventually, but I didn’t expect it to be today. Earlier this morning, he’d be bright and eating cheese off of my pizza thing. Couple hours later, he suddenly collapsed and declined over several hours no matter what we did. The vet couldn’t get here in time and we took him out to the garden so at least he could see nature one last time with us all around.
I already miss him laid on my bed with me, he was my best friend through everything I’m already dealing with and I don’t know what to do with myself.
2023.06.07 12:04 igloohouse Need some help picking out Motherboard / Memory for am5
I haven't upgraded my PC since 1st Gen Ryzen, so re-using some parts where I can. I mainly use it for gaming, and I'm going to keep my 1080 until it starts struggling a bit more on medium/high for some games.
I've been reading so much on memory / motherboards but I'm struggling with the mass amount of information, and I would greatly
appreciate some help on choosing them.
Here's my build so far: PCPartPicker Part List
Thank you so much in advance!
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2023.06.07 12:04 tdlb_ UCR housing for 2023 summer 1 bed 1 bath
I currently have a 1 bed 1 bath unit in a 2x2 apartment available at University Riverside Gardens. Move-in date as early as late June 2023 and with an option to renew. Rent is $1250 a month and did not furnish. About 15 mins walk to UCR and it's a safe community. Parking space is available. Feel free to contact me at 8052808813 for more details.
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2023.06.07 12:01 Panaceum2 The best, biggest orgasm in years
Yesterday, I took part in a tantra workshop. Afterwards went home and fucked my fleshlight. Guys, I had the biggest, most intense and best orgasm in years. The cumshot was enormous (and it had only been 2 days since my last orgasm).
For a couple of weeks now I have been taking sunflower lecithin and l-arginine. On top of that, I take zinc with magnesium before bed. I live a healthy lifestyle, exercise a lot and hydrate well.
While I do think that the tantra workshop contributed to the intensity of the orgasm, I believe that stack added to the volume - I have been recently getting more and more comments on how my loads are big - "I can't swallow it all".
DM me if you want to see how much I came.
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2023.06.07 11:59 Previous-Insect1049 Fake scents/tastes or sensations
So I’m currently trying not to panic becuz I was laying in bed and felt like I could taste bile. I felt like I was like tasting it or smelling it so therefore I was about to tu*. So I kinda just got up and started chewing gum. But has anyone ever like tasted that or smelt that before or thought they did? I can’t tell if it was real or not? Maybe I tasted like bitterness of reflux or maybe I’m just anxious and delusional or idk. I think this is the first time I’ve experienced that BUT IDK IM TRYING SO HARD NOT TO PANIC. I’ve had a headache for idk how long I haven’t been able to sleep in fear I won’t get comfy from idk what. I ate junk today cuz I went out to the movies with friends. Idk just has anyone felt that bile thing?
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2023.06.07 11:58 honeyredscreams My cauda equina story
Mostly just posting this for therapy, but also thought people might be interested to hear the variation in CES symptoms. Mine is a little different from most of the others I have read in this sub. This is my (relatively) pain-free cauda equina tale!
I had sciatic nerve leg pain for 4 months prior to getting CES. It was mild and I ignored it for six weeks before going to see a physio. They assigned stretches and did massage but things didn’t really improve. It never stopped me from doing anything, just made things more annoying/less comfortable.
In early January I woke up in the morning and sneezed. I felt bolts of pain shoot down both my legs, and struggled to get up. I had three days of 5/10 pain in my lower back when I moved around, but icing and an electric blanket helped and I went in to work on the fourth day.
The following day I sneezed again, and went right back to square one. 5/10 pain, hard to get up, couldn’t sit, pain all in the lower back and tailbone.
On advice from Healthline I went to see the after hours doctor who tested my muscle strength, gave me muscle relaxants and codeine and told me that if the pain persisted for more than six weeks I might want to get my discs checked out.
Went home, did more ice and heat and two days later was well enough to walk to to the supermarket and carry my groceries back.
That evening a hot, burning, bruised pain started in the backs of my thighs, a consistent pain where the other had always been movement related. When I went to bed I had to take a codeine to sleep, and I woke up as soon as it wore off (about 2.5 hours later).
At around 5.30am I noticed numbness in my mons pubis. The sensation was just gone. No tingling, not coming and going, absolutely nothing.
I immediately knew I was in trouble, because every single medical professional I had seen about my leg/back pain over the past four months had stressed to me, if you ever have numbness, tingling, incontinence, call the ambulance right away. No one had ever said cauda equina syndrome, but they were all so consistent and emphatic and clear. And that really helped, because I was so reluctant to call for help. Being scared, not wanting it to be serious, not wanting to take up resources if it wasn’t serious.
Once I ended up at the hospital I had a pretty speedy journey. Saw a doctor within an hour at ER, they pretty quickly checked if I could pee (no), did some more checking (iykyk), and then it was MRI time. From arrival at ER to going into surgery it was about 7 hours. I was so lucky and am so grateful.
I’m 5 months out from surgery now, and doing okay. Some numbness in my right heel, thigh, both buttocks and slightly beyond. I have a little limp. My tailbone hurts when I sit for too long or in a hard chair. I was horribly constipated for weeks, but have pretty much found equilibrium now. I’ve never really had any pain post surgery (other than my tailbone).
This has been my first experience in the healthcare system and it has been an eye opener. The emergency care was fantastic, the follow up care has been non-existent. It was so scary to have an uncertain recovery, for everything to be so hard, to need so much help.
The best advice I got was to keep a diary of your progress. It helped me see the improvements that I couldn’t feel whilst in the middle of it all. Reading that a month ago it took me 20 minutes to limp to work, whereas now I’m cruising along in 10 helps me see and appreciate that things are still getting better.
Congratulations to anyone who got this far, thank you to others who shared their stories, and if you’re newly diagnosed please have hope! It is so rough in the beginning, and you just need to be patient and see how your recovery goes.
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2023.06.07 11:58 stay_athome_mom Husband touching in the morning, am I overreacting?
Husband is very touchy feely and I nearly verbally abused him on Sunday. To put this into perspective, we have an amazing relationship. We kiss and cuddle at night, and at times I am “all over him” before bed. I tell him he’s in most amazing man in the world, and do things he likes like cuddle his bum while he’s sleeping. We also have sex a few times a week. I am not a morning person. In the first 4 months of our relationship, he would touch me sexually in the mornings. First my bum, then boobs, everywhere, basically initiating sex. I hated it and put my foot down very forcefully. I made a rule that there’s no touching before 8.30am. At times he’s adhered to my rule… On the positive side he goes to work at about 7am, 6 days per week. Which means he doesn’t try to touch me and wake me up 6 days of the week. Well on Sunday, he was touching me before 8.30am, AND he hadn’t made my green tea which I wanted to wake up with. I very sternly said to ‘go away until 8.30’. He didn’t listen, and then I proceeded to threaten ‘touch me again and I’m not spending the day with you’. He then called me the B word and went off sulkily to make my green tea… I was in a super bad mood for about 2 hours after this. I just hate being woken up with unsolicited touching! Especially because if I allow it, it turns into sexual touching! Im half joking about the green tea thing. But everything else is serious. This is the biggest problem in our relationship. Am I being a psycho about the touching or is this valid?
TL;DR- Am I over reacting to husband touching me in the morning or is he in the wrong?
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2023.06.07 11:57 jupitercitylightss Purple Mattress In A Bag Promo Code
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2023.06.07 11:57 mArKoLeW My dreams seem dumber and dumber the more time I spent here
DISCLAIMER: I am no professional and trying to educate myself on the go.
Hi, I started to plan a homelab for myself and did quite a lot of work on that so far. Planned nearly everything out and am currently looking for HW and starting to feel down. I layout out my future rack
(left is front, right is back) and noticed it's going to be expensive but that's fine as I am going to do it modularly so step by step. Even though it's going to stay in the planning state for quite some time as I want to do it properly and not spontaneously.
In general, I want to have something like a "three node" setup (one node optimized for cpu power for tasks like virtualization and for example cfd, one node for gaming and GPU accelerated computing, and one "node" [consisting out of at least 3 low power nodes] for HA and serving services like DNS, pihole, website, etc) The Diagram
is quite complicated but you maybe get the idea. I want to only have the HA nodes running all the time and powering up the "bigger" ones only when I need them.
My main focus for hardware is the ability to scale the "power" nodes up. So a great mainboard in which I could for example easily put more and more ram or more GPUs without having to change the mainboard. Feeling like "Oh I need more RAM" Okay just buy it, put it in, and be done without the overhead of needing to change the mainboard and so on. The goal is to make them more overpowered as money finds its way into my pocket.
What I am struggling with now is finding suitable hardware for that purpose and it makes me question the whole project. So I just thought I could share my progress so far with planning, maybe a lil sanity check, and some recommendations on trusted stores for used commercial-grade server components to get the motivation up again. Also, a lot of concerns in posts on here about noise and heat, and the classic only get what you need is stressing me a bit out. So as I plan and read on here I feel more educated but also more delusional about my project.
Also how much did you guys plan and how did you cope with struggles while doing so? Or did you just go with the moment?
If someone feels like talking about it on maybe discord or sth I would be more than happy about that.
Just for fun here is my network diagram
but I don't think that is important. I am going to try to realize it with Proxmox and VLANs.
Please ask for any more information you want/need and give feedback on my post itself.
By the way, I see the whole planning and homelab as a hobby so I am not interested in rented or cloud solutions.
So please share your thoughts if you have time and maybe I get a great new idea.
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2023.06.07 11:57 StellaStars222 I am so desperate to escape my controlling, racist mother
I (25F) live in California with my mother. If you don’t know, California is a very expensive place to live, so I’ve been taking advantage of the opportunity to live at home whilst going to college. I love school, my grades are great, and eventually, I will collect a degree in psychology and find myself a good paying job. However, while I am still young it’s been my goal to spend my college years traveling and preforming with the Circus. For the past 7 years I’ve had my mind made up to buy myself a truck and trailer and spend a few years with them, for the experience. While I’ve obtained the skills necessary to work in the circus, I haven’t been able to make this a reality for a variety of reasons, but mainly because of my mother deliberately doing everything she can to stop me.
So my mother has always been very opposed to my plan of joining the circus, and she’s done a really good job over the years at making that crystal clear to me through her words and actions (the reason is because she is racist and believes that the people in the Circus are all criminals and shady people. Even though they are literally just acrobats). Her first step in hindering my plans was to buy herself an RV(literally as soon as I asked her if I could buy my own to park in our driveway)- which eliminated the possibility of me buying my own trailer and putting it close enough to my home to work on it. Without anywhere to put an old beat up trailer that I could work on, my only option would be to buy an RV that’s already in livable condition (which I simply could never afford).
Fast forward to last January, I’m starting to feel desperate. I feel like I have no options left but to give up on my dreams, because I can’t make them a reality. I’m extremely depressed, and I try to talk to my mother about it because she recently sold one of the cars and now there is finally space for me to put a trailer. I reached out to her, I was honest and open about how I felt like she’s holding me back from my dreams and I need to do this in order to be happy with my life… She completely shut me down, acted like I was attacking her and wouldn’t even talk about it. She has been stonewalling me ever since (so 6 months now).
Before I attempted to talk to her about the parking space in January, she he had planned to gift me her old car when she bought herself a new one. Well now that she is stonewalling me for the last six months she has decided that she doesn’t think I “should” own a car yet (on the basis that I smoke weed). It’s feels like such a bold attempt at gatekeeping that I can’t even wrap my mind around it. Again, I’m a 25 year old woman. I’m going to get a car when I decide to get one. I feel like this is just another way for her to hold me back in her mind.
Living with a mother that’s this controlling is really starting to hurt my mental health. I honestly have no idea how to get myself out of this situation. I know my first step would be to buy a truck, that way I can haul a trailer somewhere where I can actually work on it. The problem with that is I have no idea how to look for a used truck that’s in good condition, and nobody willing to help me. I think I might have to go to the dealership by myself and just accept the fact that I might get scammed. I wish so bad I had parents who were willing to help me, or at least some adult who knows what they are doing. I’ll take any advice I can get…
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2023.06.07 11:57 Jaded_Beginning_1222 My husband has been paying for sec for over a decade
Hello, everyone. This is my first Reddit post, please excuse any mistakes. I’m also not great with the acronyms…
Title is self explanatory. We have been living together since 2009, married in 2022, and he first had an EA (which became a PA!) in 2010. We had a one month ‘break’ then he started paying for sex around 2012 (I think he has always done this, but I can only find proof going back to 2012)
I found out on April 1st 2023. He doesn’t know that I know, but I have over 300 screenshots of him looking for sex online and offline.
I don’t know for sure why I’m posting here, I just feel so alone in this situation and perhaps need some advice and to vent.
We used to have sex fairly regularly, I am 37 yo F HL and always thought he was LL but I guess I was wrong, he did want sex (perverse that is!) just not with me.
He said to me once that he didn’t want to have sex more often for fear of getting bored of me! We haven’t had sex in nearly 8/9 years (at least, I haven’t!)
I am booked in for STI tests already. I know I should get a divorce and leave him, I’m just scared of his reaction and that I will be alone. Not that I really want to be anything besides alone right now.
This all came out at the same time I found out I had been abused as a child…
I’ve been reading posts on here and it does help a little, I though maybe posting may help even more. I will keep doing it
The biggest thing for me right now is to tell him that I know (he is 43yo M, by the way- online he pretends to be 35-38!)
I’ve written a letter (which is way too long to put on here, I tried) but haven’t had the strength to read it to him.
He couldn’t talk to me about what he wanted in bed but he could easily talk to strangers!
I just need to talk to him and I don’t know how…
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2023.06.07 11:56 mike5537 Birmingham Council Clean Air Zone Error
Hoping someone might help me put this to bed. This is in England
Just over two years ago I went to Birmingham, drove in the clean air zone, my partner in the car paid the charge on her phone whilst we were driving.
About a month later I moved in with her (right before the first lockdown hit) it was all done in a rush and that was that.
Fast forward to about 6 weeks ago I get a call from a collection agency claiming I owe them money, I knew nothing of it so thought it was a scam and hung up. I called Birmingham council to double check what the agency claimed and they said there was an open case against me! So they had been sending all correspondance to my old address, hense me knowing nothing about this for years. They got the address from my v5 at the time.
After a few phone calls to the council I found the proof of payment, got confirmation from the clean air company themselves and sent through all the proof that I did pay the charge at the time.
The council have said that because the fine has moved up the ladder, there is nothing they can do, I have to go through a late payment request, through some court system to which I cannot talk to, and it was rejected becuase I put my old address on it.
I have spoken to three different departments and no-one can fix it, it is always someone elses job to sort it but no one can tell me who can sort it.
I have refused to give them my new address because I do not want bayliffs turning up to my house for a fine I do not owe.
Can anyone shed any light on how I can get this resolved becuase I am having to take time off work to call them, chase everything up all for a fine I do not owe. All the burden is on me to prove my innocence rather than them admitting their error and sorting it out.
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2023.06.07 11:56 -anklebiter- Back to school
I’ve had an awful morning with my (awaiting diagnosis) 5 year old boy. He always seems to dislike going back to school after having a break. The morning started ok, but then he refused to get dressed and refused to brush his teeth.. after I eventually managed to get both done to an extent (with him crying about brushing his teeth), I noticed he’d disappeared and got back into bed, hiding under the covers. By this point we are running late already and I still need to get his shoes on and get his snacks/drink packed. I told him he needs to get out of bed because we are going to be late, and that if he doesn’t start behaving himself, he will not be allowed to play on his games later. He then started screaming at me until he was red in the face and crying more. He was saying “you hurt me” even though I didn’t touch him (which is something he does all the time.. if he falls over, it’s “you made me fall over” even if I was nowhere near him). I was beginning to lose it by this point (I have anxiety and one of my things is being late), so I went downstairs and got his bag packed. He then came downstairs, still crying and when I eventually got him outside, he was screaming in the garden. I told him we had to be quick as we were going to be late and he stopped around the corner of the house and said he needed a tissue for his face. I told him he would have to wait until he got to school as I didn’t have any on me and he started following me saying that school doesn’t have any tissue. We then get to a small hill that has a tall ledge at the side of the path that merges with the hill. Every day to and from school, he walks up the ledge using me to balance- which is time consuming. This morning, he just stood at the bottom, waiting for me to hold him. I reminded him that we didn’t have time to do it today, as we were running late. He threw himself on the grass, crying and whining, refusing to move. I don’t believe in being physical with my son, so I would never drag him or anything. What works best is to walk off and when he realises you’re going, he will start to follow. I did just that and he started following, as soon as I turned around he stopped again, he kept throwing himself down crying.. when he got to the top of the hill, he was covered in dried grass. He then kept shoving me in the back from behind and told me I was the worst mummy in the world. By this point, I’m fighting back the tears.. we got close to the school and he just stopped walking again and had a scowling face on. After a few minutes he finally started to move and he held my hand to cross the road and I dropped him off at school.
It’s been an awful morning and I don’t know whether he is just being defiant or if the change in routine is affecting him. He’s usually pretty happy in the morning, for the most part. Now I’m sat here feeling truly awful because I didn’t sort it out with him before he went in to school :( his only interests are playing Minecraft, Roblox and watching tv. Games are the only thing he cares about having taken off him. Even then, sometimes nothing works! I’m so tired of everything being a battle but I don’t know what to do anymore.. he so stubborn. When we get into a good routine, he’s mostly ok, but now it’s back to school day and his daily routine has changed, it’s like all hell has broken loose. He shows no empathy either and never feels bad for anything, so never seems to learn. He is never sad.. either happy or angry/annoyed! Every little thing is hard work.. taking him to the park is hard work because he throws a huge crying tantrum when we have to leave, even with time warnings.. I just want to enjoy our time together but I’m dreading the summer holidays. I feel like I’ve tried so many different ways of dealing with things and nothing really works! He is getting worse.. the screaming is a newish thing he’s started. Sometimes he hits himself too! I feel like I don’t know how to act because we don’t have a diagnosis yet and I don’t know if I’m doing the right or wrong thing. I am generally very lenient with him and don’t know whether I’ve caused this myself!
Any advice would be appreciated!
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2023.06.07 11:53 Its-delicat 2 years after “the change” and it’s not getting better
I’m at my wits end. I don’t know why I feel the need to chronicle but I feel like it’s been built up and I’m so frustrated and at my wits end I need to somehow write this all out. Maybe once it’s in text it’ll make more sense to me? Now that I wrote it out im realizing this is the longest rant I’ve ever written and it’s pretty stream of consciousness. I’ll summarize at the bottom for ease because you definitely don’t need to read my scattered frustrated tirade!
We’ve only been together 3 years (30f, him 33m). It started with multiple times a day, which I know is not sustainable and I did not expect to last after puppydog stage and that was FINE. After about 2 months it dropped to a couple times a month, with a little vibe action on the side or mutual parallel play, also very satisfying and fun and felt like a great settled-in normal. Things were fun, experimental, and we bought lots of fun toys and gear to try out and explore! It was going great and we were creating a life and home together and delving into left field sexually and it was working GREAT! From my perspective and according to all conversations (which felt honest and open the whole time) we were having fun and always excited for new things!
After the first 10 or so months, one day little did I know was the last time. Suddenly he’s “too tired” or “not in the mood”. We were on opposite shifts but every weekend I fucked up MY schedule to be on his. I was up 36 hours straight or slept 4-5 hours over 3 days so we could spend time together. He never stayed up late or got up early… how the fuck is he “too tired”? I was ready to go all the time and it was always a no. After a full day of dirty talk and expectation I’m getting all done up in something kinky and crawling into bed ready to realize a days worth of conversation and innuendo and “ahhhhh well maybe not tonight”. You can only shamefully shed a strappy skintight bodysuit so many times and stuff it back in the drawer embarrassed before you just stop trying.
But then when I try initiating in a baggy T-shirt and briefs I “never dress up” and “sometimes guys need to be courted too!”. So I dial up the dirty talk, I send little peeks from the stall at work, I flirt by text, send sexy memes. I take him out, buy him dinner and random “just cuz I love you!” Gifts. I flirt and grope and hint and it’s always met enthusiastically and positively when it’s just talk, but it goes from “let’s go shower! I’ll suck your dick!” met with grins and nods, to “hey can you move I need to wash my hair… ok all done here’s your towel”.
Multiple MULTIPLE discussions of “well work is really hard right now” or “I’m just tired” “I just haven’t been in the mood” etc. If I directly ask it’s “well I’m not in the mood but please don’t go look for sex elsewhere”
A year and a half. We had sex once last summer out of the blue. Just trying to sleep and I had hands on me and I was so excited. I don’t know what I did and that was awesome!….and next morning back to the same. We went on an extravagant vacation in December. Lots of alone time, beautiful places. We had sex once, out of the blue, so drunk I don’t know if he remembers and I hardly do. And we got home and back to the same. I beg and flirt and ask and I get “well I’m not in the mood but please don’t go look for sex elsewhere”.
Dressing up, making an effort, rejected over and over. Stop dressing up, bring up my frustrations and it’s “try dressing up and flirting more im just not in the mood TODAY”. Always that unspoken hope of maybe tomorrow? Until tomorrow I get “well I’m not in the mood but please don’t go look for sex elsewhere”.
Then in January I suffered a significant spinal injury. For the last 6 months I could hardly walk, constantly in pain. I basically just did physical therapy, slept, and suffered. And it became “I’m so sorry we can’t have sex, but with your injury I would never be able to without hurting you!”. Which was true. I couldn’t think about sex when I needed all my energy and focus to walk across the room, and even then I was in blinding pain.
During my worst pain and nerve impairment in my lower body he was so supportive! We had consistent eager sexual conversation, constant encouragement and support for masturbation because it was all I could handle. I really felt that once I healed we’d be back on track.
Then 3 weeks ago I finally hit a milestone in recovery. Thanks to the most recent treatment I have full feeling below the waist, and full mobility. I can work out, walk, lift, jog!! Everything seems perfect! My body is back! During those 5 months I gained about 10lbs because of the immobility. I’ve always been very fit, almost no jiggle and work a very physically strenuous job so I had no issues with staying trim and small. Im tall so 10lbs on my frame filled out my hips a little, a little more cellulite but no rolls, no belly, no face changes. I cannot honestly believe my body changed so significantly it’s no longer attractive and he still insists he can’t even tell. Tells me I’m still just as attractive and my body is perfect, but I touch him and it’s like I’m a hideous beluga from hell. Chaste kisses and quickly flipping to face the other way.
Verbally he seems so proud of me, so interested and so flirty ALL THE TIME, but we climb into bed and it’s “Goodnight!” Quick flip, lamp off, snoring.
The worst part is my worst day was the time we finally had sex again. Once again, out of nowhere lusty kisses, sex, everything I’ve always liked. All the details with a cherry on top! I don’t know what I did.
Now a couple weeks go by and it’s chaste closed mouth pecks, “goodnight” quick flip away, lamp off, goodnight, “too tired”.
I express how I’m finally back in my body and after so long I finally have my libido back and how amazing, exciting and wonderful this is. Every time the conversation goes “well I’m not in the mood but please don’t go look for sex elsewhere”.
How does someone with the libido I saw for those first 10 months just turn it off for YEARS? I’m struggling and he says he’s fine just whacking it out. That’s all he wants or needs. He’s not straying, we’re pretty tightly scheduled, we have shared GPS, we’re in touch pretty much all day every day. He’s not getting it elsewhere, but for me this level is not sustainable or survivable.
I always thought a DB was the sign of a relationship in decline but outside of sex our relationship is so strong and open and developing into the life I want… Except I need the physical connection like I need to breath and I’m fucking suffocating. I can’t even put myself in a headspace where you’d live like this by choice, so I simply cannot understand how this can seem ok.
TL;DR: 10 months of our 3 years was an active experimental sex life. And then like a flip of a switch one day he’s always too tired, or not on the mood. Verbally always eager, complementary, and excited for sex, but it almost never actually happens. In the last 2 years I can remember having sex 3 times, all out of the blue, no explanation or attempt on my part it just happened. But come morning we’re back to chaste kisses that get broken off if I try to turn them into anything.
I got injured and couldn’t have sex, which in retrospect seems like it was the best thing ever for him because I stopped asking. Once I healed and expressed my return to HL, I feel like I got one night of fun and now it feels like the expectation is we return to no-sex status quo.
Despite every other aspect of our relationship blooming and becoming better over time, the bedroom is dead as doornails and I feel I can’t get past it.
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2023.06.07 11:53 throwawaydaterequest Bf screamed at me for the first time. Now what?
Tl,dr Had a fight with my bf and he screamed for the first time. Not sure where to go from here.
This happened yesterday and I'm still a bit shocked, so I need perspective.
My boyfriend 34M and I 26F have been seeing each other for 6 months now. He is usually really nice and we have a good relationship, as such.
There is only thing that I find a bit annoying is that he has poor time management skills, he's usually pushing things by an hour or so because he's running late.
Yesterday I was feeling a bit low, so I didn't wanna hang out with him. But he insisted that he wanted to see me and since he was gonna come over, I was like OK, why not.
Well he ultimately came in 2 hours later than the decided upon time (10pm vs 8pm). Admittedly, he had his reasons like the gym was crowded, he was on a work call, and he had to do some personal admin to do.
(Note that he called me from the gym at 8 to say he was gonna be late and I insisted to just come over, but he wanted to finish his workout.)
I was still really annoyed because it has happened other times in the past as well. So when he came over, I was trying to tell him that being lackadaisical isn't gonna ensure solid interpersonal relationships, to which he snapped back and said "I am acting preachy and it's probably cultural" It's worth mentioning here that I am Asian while he is Irish/English. This is another thing that he often brings up doing fights, accounts for anything I say that he disagrees with on being cultural, so this annoyed me a bit as well. I snapped back saying I feel a bit offended and honestly it sounds a bit racist when he brings up my culture like that.
He BLEW UP. He alleged me for "not being able to articulate a very simple point" and basically accused me of making wild/ false allegations and just stormed off.
That really confused me because English is my 3rd language and he has studied humanities while I have studied STEM so I was maybe I missed the differences between culture and race, so I sat there googling, trying to figure out if I was wrong.
Meanwhile he came back and just screamed at me for the next few minutes for 1. being holed up in my apartment and that I don't have a life and I'm not able to perceive that other people do (I am introverted and like spending time by myself but I sure do have a life).
- he also said that I'm very incoherent (...May be?)
- it could be because of the way I grew up ( I did grow up in an intense, isolated way, I used to self harm and he knows that)
The screaming had rendered me catatonic and I just laid in the bed for the next several minutes whisper crying and I could not really say anything else except sorry a couple of times.
He did apologise in a bit and tried to hug me for the rest of the night and then in the morning before leaving.
I just don't know, it feels like something has shifted between the 2 of us and I just don't see him the way I used to before.
This is the 1st time he screamed at me so maybe I was at fault, too? It's also worth mentioning that we hangout couple times during the week and over most weekends so it's not like I hadn't seen him so maybe it was OK for him to be 2 hours late?
Also it's important to know that we have a vacation coming up in a couple of days which is completely paid for between the 2 of us, so I'm not sure if I should go or if I should cancel.
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2023.06.07 11:51 lasocs On This Day, June 7th, 1968: RFK's Death Mourned
2023.06.07 11:51 Illustrious_Ad_8372 My ex boyfriend (24 M) broke up with me (23 F) out of the blue about two weeks ago. He finally admitted today that he spent the night at a female coworkers (23 F) house and slept in same bed but states, “it’s not like that”.
My ex boyfriend (24 M) broke up with me (23 F) out of the blue about two weeks ago. We live together and share a dog. We have been together for three years. He says he wants to be by himself and feels he hasn’t been able to make any selfish decision in our relationship? He doesn’t want to work on things and wouldn’t even allow me to try and come up with compromises with him . He seemed so detached and cold. He finally admitted today that he spent the night at a female coworkers (23 F) house and slept in same bed as her but states that “it’s not like that”. This is the same coworker that he constantly told me not to worry about and I caught him deleting messages from her earlier in our relationship. I have been begging for him to just admit that he atleast emotionally cheated but he will not and is making me feel crazy for even considering that . He even said “yes I have obviously thought she is attractive before but that has nothing to do with why i wanted to break up.” If he really needed time alone and to be by himself how is he already sleeping in a another girls bed two weeks after he ends things. WE STILL LIVE TOGETHER How can he after three years not at-least owe me the truth. I just need closure I feel so worthless.
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