Call me kevin

In April I discovered my SBTXW was having an affair with a coworker that started in the middle of February. After I discovered the affair, I separated from my wife because the living situation with her had become too toxic. Before leaving she told me she ended her affair, wanted to reconcile, had set up marriage counseling for a few months while she finishes up her fellowship, and then hopefully things would go back to normal and we’d move to DC together (as planned) in August.
My wife seemed to waffle during the reconciliation phase for several weeks, she kept repeating she didn’t know what she wanted and didn’t know if she’d ever feel the same way again about our relationship. After a contentious phone call 3 weeks ago, she told me she was filing. At that point I wasn’t surprised, and was content to move on.
On Wednesday I received a barrage of texts messages from a coworker of my STBXW and her AP. The AP is engaged himself, and my STBXW is his mistress. His mistress before my STBXW is the person who contacted me. She let me know that my wife’s affair never stopped, has been pretending that I’m still in Miami with her, happily married, and I’m just oblivious to her affair; everyone in their office talks about her affair and how bad they feel for me.
This former mistress hired a PI to expose him to his fiancé, me (she didn’t know I discovered the affair 2 months ago), and to their HR department. The former mistress was also unaware that he was engaged, and that he was just using her for fun.
I’ve been in contact with their HR department and their is an active investigation. My SBTXW is on vacation this week, but her AP was called into HR yesterday and then sent home. I turned all the salacious info I’ve been sitting on.
The best part? This former mistress gave me the phone number of AP’s fiancé. I called her to tell her about the affair. Turns out…this is his ex fiancé from years ago; the PI got the wrong number. We hit it off talking, and now have a weekend rendezvous planned. She’s more attractive than my STBXW, and has already serenaded with me with some lovely photos.

Hey, I have tried installing league of legends on Arch Linux using the leagueoflegends-git aur package, I have installed all necessary dependecies. I am using wine-lol-staging and winetricks-git.
After running

leagueoflegends install 

I get this output:

[+] Creating wineprefix: /mnt/g/Games/leagueoflegends 004c:err:ole:StdMarshalImpl_MarshalInterface Failed to create ifstub, hr 0x80004002 004c:err:ole:CoMarshalInterface Failed to marshal the interface {6d5140c1-7436-11ce-8034-00aa006009fa}, hr 0x80004002 004c:err:ole:apartment_get_local_server_stream Failed: 0x80004002 004c:err:ole:start_rpcss Failed to open RpcSs service 0054:err:ole:StdMarshalImpl_MarshalInterface Failed to create ifstub, hr 0x80004002 0054:err:ole:CoMarshalInterface Failed to marshal the interface {6d5140c1-7436-11ce-8034-00aa006009fa}, hr 0x80004002 0054:err:ole:apartment_get_local_server_stream Failed: 0x80004002 007c:err:ntoskrnl:ServiceMain Failed to load L"C:\windows\system32\win32k.sys" 007c:err:ntoskrnl:ServiceMain Failed to load L"C:\windows\system32\drivers\dxgkrnl.sys" 007c:err:ntoskrnl:ServiceMain Failed to load L"C:\windows\system32\drivers\dxgmms1.sys" 0090:err:wintrust:DllRegisterServer Failed to acquire cryptographic context: 122 00d4:err:wintrust:DllRegisterServer Failed to acquire cryptographic context: 122 wine: configuration in L"/mnt/g/Games/leagueoflegends" has been updated. 0134:err:wineboot:process_run_key Error running cmd L"C:\windows\system32\winemenubuilder.exe -a -r" (2). [+] Installing winetricks verbs: vcrun2019 win10 warning: You are using a 64-bit WINEPREFIX. Note that many verbs only install 32-bit versions of packages. If you encounter problems, please retest in a clean 32-bit WINEPREFIX before reporting a bug. Using winetricks 20230212-next - sha256sum: 38156a2b155ce6a42850aff06c2676c2a03158386b1f9b0ac10c88ccc8cbfb75 with wine-8.5 (Staging) and WINEARCH=win64 Executing w_do_call vcrun2019 0054:err:ole:start_rpcss Failed to start RpcSs service warning: You are using a 64-bit WINEPREFIX. Note that many verbs only install 32-bit versions of packages. If you encounter problems, please retest in a clean 32-bit WINEPREFIX before reporting a bug. Executing load_vcrun2019 Using native,builtin override for following DLLs: api-ms-win-crt-private-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-conio-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-heap-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-locale-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-math-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-runtime-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-stdio-l1-1-0 api-ms-win-crt-time-l1-1-0 atl140 concrt140 msvcp140 msvcp140_1 msvcp140_2 msvcp140_atomic_wait msvcp140_codecvt_ids vcamp140 vccorlib140 vcomp140 vcruntime140 Executing wine C:\windows\syswow64\regedit.exe /S C:\windows\Temp\override-dll.reg Executing wine64 C:\windows\regedit.exe /S C:\windows\Temp\override-dll.reg grep: warning: stray \ before / warning: Working around wine bug 50894 -- Working around failing wusa.exe lookup via C:\windows\SysNative Executing wine winecfg -v winxp64 warning: Running /opt/wine-lol-staging/bin/wineserver -w. This will hang until all wine processes in prefix=/mnt/g/Games/leagueoflegends terminate Executing cd /home/use.cache/winetricks/vcrun2019 Executing wine vc_redist.x86.exe /q 002c:err:wineboot:process_run_key Error running cmd L"C:\windows\system32\winemenubuilder.exe -a -r" (2). warning: Note: command wine vc_redist.x86.exe /q returned status 122. Aborting. 

If I run in again after it does allow me to select the region and start installing, but once starting the game download I get multiple wine errors that CrashServiceHandler.exe and other programs could not be started and then it just quits.
System specs:OS: Arch Linux x86_64CPU: AMD Ryzen 5 3600 (12) @ 3.600GHzGPU: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3060 TiRAM: 16 GBDE: i3

Villain 1 opens to 9 bb.
I look down at AKo, call.
Villain 2 calls.
Flop comes king high, monotone ❤️❤️❤️.
I Check.
Villain 2 puts me all in for 28bb.
I call.
Villain shows 10❤️6❤️.
Get the fuck out of here man. Why are you calling off 9 bb with that hand pre flop?

So in 2017 my father committed suicide and didn't leave a will but I was his only heir so I shortly after I ended up going to jail and I gave my aunt power of attorney and appointed her administrator of the estate. Long story short she gave me most of the money but there is still 70k left. She recently lost her husband and is taking care of my grandmother who is disabled and has dementia and she's taking her problems out on me telling me shes not going to give me the money and to take her to court and if I do she will file for conservatorship and use my criminal history and drug addiction as a reason to control my funds. I don't know how to go about getting the money from her seeing as my dad died in NJ but we both live in NY. Also I called multiple courts and lawyers and kept getting the run around. I feel there should be an easy solution to getting the money back without having to spend all the money. Also she has used my money in the past without my permission on things that were unnecessary. Can she get conservatorship if I sue? I'm a 28 year old abled body male with a only a history of drug abuse and a felony for making a threat 10 years ago. She seems pretty confident she will get control over money and she said she will utilize my money to pay for lawyers to help her win conservatorship. Would I be able to report her to the police? Or do I have to sue? Can anyone give me advice here?

Our Sin
Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: (Rom. 5:12)
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; (Rom. 3:23)
As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: (Rom. 3:10)
But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away. (Isa. 64:6)
But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear. (Isa. 59:2)
For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Rom. 6:23)
And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death. (Rev. 20:14)
God’s Grace
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. (Rom. 5:8-10)
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. (Eph. 2:8-9)
God’s Propitiation
Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: (1 Cor. 15:1-4) [Gospel]
For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. (2 Cor. 5:21)
Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God; (Rom. 3:25)
And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission. (Heb. 9:22)
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. (1 John 1:7)
And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life. These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God. (1 John 5:11-13)
Our Lord and Savior
Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Heb. 12:2)
Therefore being by the right hand of God exalted, and having received of the Father the promise of the Holy Ghost, he hath shed forth this, which ye now see and hear. (Acts 2:33)
In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise, (Eph. 1:13)
For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; (1 Tim. 2:5)
Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. (Acts 4:12)
Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. (John 14:6)
Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. (John 8:12)
Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it. (Mat. 7:13-14)
Praise be to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! For it is by His blood, His glory, His power, His grace, His mercy, His righteousness, and His love that we are gifted eternal salvation and everlasting life! For the LORD is our judge, the LORD is our lawgiver, the LORD is our king; he will save us. (Isa. 33:22) Amen.
More context, but denser reading below:
Our Heavenly High Priest
Now of the things which we have spoken this is the sum: We have such an high priest, who is set on the right hand of the throne of the Majesty in the heavens; A minister of the sanctuary, and of the true tabernacle, which the Lord pitched, and not man. For every high priest is ordained to offer gifts and sacrifices: wherefore it is of necessity that this man have somewhat also to offer. For if he were on earth, he should not be a priest, seeing that there are priests that offer gifts according to the law: Who serve unto the example and shadow of heavenly things, as Moses was admonished of God when he was about to make the tabernacle: for, See, saith he, that thou make all things according to the pattern shewed to thee in the mount. But now hath he obtained a more excellent ministry, by how much also he is the mediator of a better covenant, which was established upon better promises. (Heb. 8:1-6)
But Christ being come an high priest of good things to come, by a greater and more perfect tabernacle, not made with hands, that is to say, not of this building; Neither by the blood of goats and calves, but by his own blood he entered in once into the holy place, having obtained eternal redemption for us. For if the blood of bulls and of goats, and the ashes of an heifer sprinkling the unclean, sanctifieth to the purifying of the flesh: How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God? And for this cause he is the mediator of the new testament, that by means of death, for the redemption of the transgressions that were under the first testament, they which are called might receive the promise of eternal inheritance. For where a testament is, there must also of necessity be the death of the testator. For a testament is of force after men are dead: otherwise it is of no strength at all while the testator liveth. (Heb. 9:11-17)
And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission. It was therefore necessary that the patterns of things in the heavens should be purified with these; but the heavenly things themselves with better sacrifices than these. For Christ is not entered into the holy places made with hands, which are the figures of the true; but into heaven itself, now to appear in the presence of God for us: Nor yet that he should offer himself often, as the high priest entereth into the holy place every year with blood of others; For then must he often have suffered since the foundation of the world: but now once in the end of the world hath he appeared to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself. And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment: So Christ was once offered to bear the sins of many; and unto them that look for him shall he appear the second time without sin unto salvation. (Heb. 9:22-28)
Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; (Titus 2:13)
By the which will we are sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all. And every priest standeth daily ministering and offering oftentimes the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins: But this man, after he had offered one sacrifice for sins for ever, sat down on the right hand of God; From henceforth expecting till his enemies be made his footstool. For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified. (Heb. 10:10-14)

Hello guys and girls, maybe i can find an answer to this question this way. I'm flying for a big european carrier out of Germany mainly to the south of Europe.
Everytime we fly via France and check into French airspace we can continue to our cleared waypoint as cleared. After maybe maybe 1 or 2 minutes the controller tells us to "maintain present heading" sometimes adding something like "for separation" to it but not all the time. We continue to fly on that heading for maybe 4/5 minutes till we a cleared to continue to our previously cleared waypoint. While we are flying on that heading we are not really deveating from our previous track to the waypoint, maybe maximum of .1nm or even less. This procedure repeats itself like every 10 minutes even if there is nobody around us or even if the frequency is super quite.
I don't really understand this procedure to be honest because it's only happening to us when we are in french airspace. In all the other european countries I fly, they will always give you a new heading away from the traffic/direct to a waypoint to stay clear of traffic/speed/altitude assigned to really seperate us. In France you stay on the same track, same speed and altitude just in a different mode and nothing changes.
Maybe someone has some more insight into the procedures of french ATC an can help me with that?
Are they getting paid for every heading call they do? /s

1. Mentor up! It can be less formal than an official mentor. But find SOMEBODY you look up to and ask for help. Ask to do a mock call, how your script sounds. Helped me so much with anxiety over the phone. My AE is a weird Comic-Con Stan but she’s good at her job. When I opened up to her I actually found her cold call style super refreshing.
   
2. Cold call openers. I worked at Gong where they talked about the classic “27 seconds to tell you why I called” stuff. It honestly works a lot, but to me it’s cringe. Everyone does that.
   

I’ve ditched the ‘is this a good time’ rhetoric and started valuing TIME more. I say “how’s it going?” Then just shoot. Unless I noticed they opened my email a bunch of times or something I might say “I sent over an email is it a good time to talk quick?”

1. Post “how’s it going?” My AE says try to pitch in 15 seconds. So what that means is specific company/industry observation and question regarding potential pain.

For my industry i sell to complex manufacturers. So I say “hey saw ur leading construction equipment sales @ __ and noticed a lot of your products are super customizable, I’ve heard this can pose a challenge of the time it takes to get quotes out the door, is that something you’re dealing with? (Etc..)

1. FIND A BUDDY at ur job you vibe/relate to and rip dials. Someone u can see and go “they don’t like this shit either but we’re both doing this so let’s get it”

Goodluck yall

Hi, I never posted on this sub before, so I don't know if there is a format for this. I didn't post the app in the title because I didn't want people to think it was sponsored.
The app is called: How we feel.
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I (29F) got this tip from a friend, the app is free and in English. Sharing of personal information is not needed. The app lets you select between: high/low positive energy and high/low negative energy. Then you see a screen with bubbles that have the names of different types of feelings in them, you can scroll through them and see a small description of what they mean.
When you found the feeling that you feel suits you the most you can add: a notition, select where you are (home/work/study/commuting etc), with who you are, what you are doing, you can also add voice notes.
The app can send you reminders if you want, for checking in with your emotions. You can also see the emotion you felt the most during the week and reflect on how your week was. There are also short video's that give information/education about emotions, or how to deal with being overwhelmed etc.
Having ASD and alexithymia (not a diagnosis, I scored very high on this subscale. Alexithymia translates to; not being able to find words for feelings) this app has helped me a lot to ground. I hope it will help anyone that reads this!

i feel cringed, when people say i have problem making friends, i am an introvert etc I'll be honest i can make friends literally anywhere, literally everyone who knows me is my friend, and even if it gets awkward sometimes just accept it or laugh it off....like once i was walking with 5 friends and i saw another friend who was also walk on another side of the road so i yelled and called him, he didn't reply...yes i did feel awkward for a moment but i laughed it off. i have many examples like this, there is no point being an introvert.

I'm a few months on T, and a few months before that I came out to my mum who told my stepdad (my dad's not in the picture). And I'm just kind of in a weird position, because he has started treating me very differently than he used to, he treats me like "one of the guys", even sometimes seems to forget I'm not a cis guy, by suggesting things I can't do. Yet he has not once used my correct name and pronouns, he still calls me she/her, and the masculine version of my deadname (he used to call me this sometimes as a nickname pre-coming out, but now he only uses this version).
Correcting him feels more difficult for some reason because of these things. And when I manage to correct him, usually he'll just kind of ignore it and move on, but then occasionally he'll say things like, "oh yeah I'm not supposed to call you that now" and other weirdly supportive things but he won't actually say my name or correct himself. My sister always correctly genders me and uses my name, and my mum mostly does, but she would never go out of her way to do something supportive that inconveniences her, like correcting him. I'm also not that close with him, I can't really just sit down and have a chat, I can barely even do that with my mum. I'm just not really sure what to do. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?

Id been dating this girl for nearly a year. A couple of months after we started dating it was her birthday I sent flowers to her workplace on her birthday as a nice surprise and took her for dinner a few days later where I presented her with a gift that she had mentioned on her twitter feed that she liked.
My birthday was nearly 8 months later and we’d had some ups and downs but I’d gotten her a bag for Christmas and was always generous when we went out paying mostly for meals and drinks. Although we did split other means too.
I would also add that we had an argument about gestures whereby I was being taken to a very fancy restaurant for work. Few days before the dinner she kept sending me messages saying that it would be a good gesture if I took her along or had food sent over for her. I knew she was joking but she kept going on about it until I snapped and told her that gestures work both ways… she still didn’t get it and made a joke saying something like it’s thumb wars. I sent her a voice mail saying look I know you’re just joking but you literally went to Paris a month ago and didn’t bring me anything back despite me saying that I loved French wine. She bought the cheapest bottle she could find for 8-10 euros (her words) for us to share…
She apologised and we made up. But what made me upset was that she didn’t just get it and apologise she made it about her which she has done in the past. Prior to that she had messaged me saying that she’d watched a tv show about working in finance which is what I do. I sent her a funny video of me receiving an award and an old report I’d written to give her context about what I do given she was interested. She didn’t respond even just to say thanks I’ll take a look or whatever. Couple of days go by it was the weekend so I left it. Monday morning I sent her a message saying hello everything ok? She responded but didn’t mention my message regarding the video or report.
I sent her a voice message on WhatsApp telling her I was upset at her non response to my earlier message. She responded by saying that she’s rubbish at communication and emotion and apologising saying that she was waiting to come back regarding the video and report as she didn’t know what to say. This maybe should have been a red flag for my birthday…
So I was planning to go away for my birthday with friends but then didn’t and my gf asked if she could take me to dinner.
She was away the week before in Greece seeing her dad but we had agreed a date for my birthday diner not on the day itself but towards the end of that week.
Day of my birthday she texts me at noon all of my friends and family had texted or called earlier.. to say happy birthday can I book the restaurant now. I was a bit surprised she hadn’t done it earlier but ok.
Day of my Birthday we meet for dinner no card or present but she did pay for dinner. Couple of days later she’s like she would like to surprise me with some new lingerie and asked me what I liked. I’m like whatever you like but she insisted that I give her some options - sent her some and said should I get it for you? She was like yes. Few days later after discussing with some friends I asked why no card on my birthday.
She told me she didn’t think she had to as she was meeting me after my birthday and that she never does blow out dinners like this so I should be lucky. We been out for dinner before so didn’t get this…- subsequent arguments about this and fact I’ve brought her lingerie she finally mentioned that she doesn’t do gifts as she thinks their tokenistic but she does experiences instead. For me dinner on someone’s birthday is a low bar… she told me I should draw a line and she’d do better next time but thanked me for letting her know…
This is something I couldn’t get over and while she offered to return the lingerie we continued to have massive arguments where she finally told me I need to just draw a line under it.
I think my gf likes receiving gifts more than she likes giving them. Should I dump her or try again to explain why I’m hurt?

Hi everyone, this is a throwaway for obvious reasons. I am getting this off my chest of this situation. Sorry for the grammatical errors in advance, this was typed on my phone.
I (22F) have made an agreement to be FWB with (24M) let’s call him “A”.
This past Saturday, “A” connected with me on social media and we started texting and getting along well. We discovered many shared interests and found out we live close to each other. He was hinting at signs of wanting to be fwb a few days ago and we have sexted and mutually masturbated together on FaceTime 2 times.
However, yesterday I pulled it out of him and found out that he is in a three-year relationship with his girlfriend, and I revealed that I'm also in a three-year relationship (that's currently going through a rough patch)
We both follow the Christian faith, and he has an extensive history of cheating on his girlfriend. He admitted to having online friends with benefits and a few casual encounters (no penetrative sex, just oral sex, as per his words) during the entirety of the relationship.
He explained that he struggles with lust and knows his girlfriend wouldn't engage in those activities with him, cause she’s also of the Christian faith. He also mentioned that they have a lot in common, which is why he hasn't ended the relationship despite his infidelity. I confronted him about his behavior, questioning his love for his girlfriend. I acknowledge my own hypocrisy in the situation, as I've never engaged in this kind of "entanglement" before. I encouraged him to make some serious reflections on why he's still with his girlfriend, considering their incompatible core values and his continuous cheating and having to continuously look elsewhere to get his needs met. During our conversation, we discussed our sexual preferences and fantasies. I asked him if he ever thinks of his girlfriend while watching prn and masturbating, to which he responded negatively. It amuses me how we both maintain a "good Christian" image in public while secretly indulging in and sharing our desires. I never *ever thought I’d find someone of the Christian faith with such a dirty, sinful mind, I have met my match (lol)
Despite knowing all this, I agreed to become friends with benefits with him. I’ll be doing many of his “firsts” soon. I think the allure of the “forbidden fruit” aspect, being of the same faith, and his sexual dissatisfaction in his current relationship attracted me. I might have a chance with him, but I am aware of the big red flags he has and the need to be cautious and consider to run for the hills and not get entangled any further. It’s like if my heart wants me to selfishly do it and have fun (yolo) meanwhile my mind is saying no to run away, wanting to protect my heart.
I admit I am naive and probably don’t know what I’m getting myself into.
I can’t tell anyone this situation (only my therapist) because I already know everyone I know will just be reiterating how seriously morally fucked up this is, which I am well aware of.
My dilemma is should I follow my instincts and end the friends with benefits arrangement to protect my heart and avoid further entanglement, leaving him to deal with his own relationship problems, or should I continue with it, disregarding the immorality and my awareness of the red flags?
TL;DR: I (22F) connected on social media with “A” (24M). I am in a 3 year relationship that's going through a rough patch and I recently found out “A” is also in a 3 year relationship. We found common interests, and engaged in sexting and mutual masturbation on FaceTime. However, I just discovered that "A" has a history of cheating on his girlfriend, which he attributes to his struggles with lust and incompatible desires within our shared Christian faith. I confronted him about his actions and questioned his love for his girlfriend (hypocritical, I know) Despite knowing all this, I still agreed to the FWB arrangement because I'm attracted to the forbidden aspect, our shared background, and his sexual dissatisfaction. I'm aware of the red flags and the need to be cautious, but I feel torn between my desire for fun and my instinct to protect myself.

Hi everyone! 32, M, here asking a question.
TL;DR: What are some rules that make for a healthy and long lasting relationship?
I had a thought the other day. The only relationship I was ever in that involved outlining rules was a polyamorous or nonmonogamous relationship. In that relationship me, and my then girlfriend, outlined "rules for engagement" when going on dates with other people and what we needed to be secure. This included: letting the other person know when you had dates planned, using condoms when sexually interacting with others, affirming one another, not texting in the company of other dates, etc. While the relationship didn't work out, I credit this open relationship and the tenants of it, to helping me become a more effective communicator.
In reflecting on this I realize that in my other relationships, my monogamous ones, I never collaborated with girlfriends/partners on rules or guidelines to our relationship. Most of the rules or guidelines to the relationship were pretty much implied; the most common being: don't cheat, no abusive behavior, mutual respect, and some mode of privacy. I've asked several friends about this in various forms of relationships and they too agreed they don't really formalize any rules regarding their relationship and that the vast majority of said rules are said to be implied.
When I speak with my friends most of them discussed that they never really outlined rules to relationships until they began to seriously start to settle down and think about marriage. The rest of the time they just sort of took things as they came and addressed them then and there in the moment. I acknowledge that this will have to happen because you can't predict everything that comes up in a relationship. But it still seems like a good practice for people to normalize rule making or agreements at the start of a formalized relationship. In other words, you both decide you want to be exclusive or partners or a defined couple and should come to relationship agreements/rules.
With that introduction I want to ask: What are some rules, agreements, parameters that you have found helpful in your relationships? I want to open this up to any form of relationship.
I can start: It is important that when I have disagreements with a partner that we can disagree, argue, or communicate kindly. That is to say no name calling, accusations, or abusive behavior during heated moments. I found that arguing in a nasty manner makes me lose respect for the other person and can often lead to statements that you'll later regret/escalate things quickly and out of control.
What are your rules, agreements, parameters that have worked in past relationships or that are foundational principles for your vision of a healthy relationship?

Hi All,
My Husband came back home last night drunk and called me over giggling. He then pulled up his sleeve and boom he had my name tattooed.
I know this may be seen as sweet but it feels a bit off, I don't like him having the tattoo. Also, he tattooed my English name and not my "ethnic" one that I go by with my family.
The worst part is that we both work at jobs requiring us to look extremely professional and formal at all times. For example, my coworkers and I will often wear heels and a blazer to work everyday and for him a suit. Nonetheless, even if the tattoo could be hidden in a jacket, it won't be when he's wearing something short sleeves which we often do at work dinners etc.
I talked about it with him and he said he's sorry for not asking me (but not for getting it) and that he thinks its okay because marriage is supposed to be permanent anyways so a tattoo is no harm. Look - I have no doubts about marrying him, but i just really don't like the idea that I have to stare at my own name all the time (especially when its not really my name).
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Last night was the first time me and him had a big fight. We've only been married since december of 2022 so I'm kind of stressed. He doesn't want to get laser.
I know there is not much I can do, but some advice on how to deal with this would be helpful (if any) and how I should react too. I will probably end up deleting this soon so he doesn't run into it.

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Hi, Katya here. 7 y.o. tuxedo girl kitty.
Some background about me: I was born in something called a "garbage bin", and not long after I was born, cat-momther left and couldn't come back. After that, my siblings and I moved in with pet ambulance lady, and we lived with her in the ambulance until I was big enough to move in with Big Ape (the most amazing creature ever 😍😍😍) and Wife. Wife is okay, but not as amazing as Big Ape.
When I moved in, there was another cat called Dragon. His favourite person is Wife, but he also wants to own Big Ape, even though I think than since there are two ales, maybe we could have one each???
Here's where I think I might be the cloaca, though I'm not sure why. See, a few years ago, Big Ape and Wife brought home a Miniature Ape. Miniature Ape was kind of boring to start off with, but now she runs around and tries to carry me everywhere, and this is Scary. Last year they also brought home Micro Ape. Micro Ape also started off boring, but now she chases me with toys and waves them around, and I just don't know what to do.
And Big Ape and Wife seem to love Miniature Ape and Micro Ape, and say they lofe them more than they love me, even though I constantly let Big Ape know that I love him more than anyone by hiding underneath the seat next to him so I can watch him and drool.
Meanwhile, Dragon has been getting even more possessive about the house and Big Ape and Wife, and he's been treating me like I'm the cloaca and has been fighting me and biting me and chasing me.
I think that I must be the cloaca somehow, because why else would Miniature and Micro Ape chase me and Big Ape say he loved the other apes more than me, and Dragon fight me? But I don't know what I even did to be the cloaca?
Can you help me figure out what I did wrong?

honestly couldnt think of a better title lmao. but i loved this video, the vibe of it, the filming and camera shots and how beautiful vietnam was. i really appreciated the different filming style, howver, i just felt bad for her grandma the whole video.
i know this 24 minute video isnt her whole relationship with her grandma, but mai kept talking in english (as she should ofc) to the video and her poor grandma would just wait for her to finish because i dont think she understood english 😭 mai is 100% obligated to speak english especially for her viewers, but personally i would've just spoken in Vietnamese to the video or not film the day i meet my grandma is so long. i think its somewhat basic respect because i wouldn't want my grandma feeling left out. this is such a fucking stretch i know omg feel free to call me out for being stupid.
i thought to mention it because a couple months ago people were complaining about michelle choi and her weird relationship with her mom, and how she was filming her disabled grandma or somethn and waiting ages to help her get up? like how she waits to set up the camera and then use her grandma for views.
but this video was actually so pretty in my opinion

Pup is 9 weeks and mostly house trained. He responds pretty consistently to "come here, hop up, get down, lay down, sit, let go, wait/stop, go, fetch, spin around, be gentle" and even has stopped begging for food most of the time.
But I feel like guests to the house (especially people with small children) and even other members of the family who live here are expecting absolutely ridiculous obedience from him for such a young dog while being total a**holes.
They don't respect his need for quiet time to nap, they try to get him excited to play again when he's overtired and attempting to lay down. They scold him when he chases running children, pushing him away with more force than would even be necessary and then call him vicious when he protests with barking or biting.
They drop choking hazards all over the floor, and leave tasty smelling food and drink within his reach. I spend all of my weekends and evenings supervising him super closely and almost constantly asking him to give things to me, which he does reluctantly - but the frustration builds up and eventually when they finally piss off I'm left with a very frustrated pup who doesn't want to follow a single command and refuses to take a chew instead of my legs and fingers.
I feel like my dog is smart and the adults/parents are the stupid ones who need to learn manners. If you're bringing your kid around to someone's house to meet their puppy who is only just old enough to leave it's mother - then it's as much your responsibility to watch your kid and teach them appropriate behavior not just yell at my dog for doing something that is normal and expected for his age in these circumstances.

My wife (26) who is 7 months pregnant calls me from work. She works part time serving breakfast at a hotel. From her tone I can tell she’s having a rough morning. She tells me there’s a family being difficult who came down early and is demanding the breakfast be served immediately. My wife tells them that breakfast isn’t until 0700. They go to the front desk and complain that my wife is being rude.
Fast forward a few minutes, my wife is setting up breakfast and has food in hand. All the kids in this same family (this family has 4 kids) comes up to my wife to take the food out of her hands. They are pretty much surrounding her and when she tries to back away from them she ends up falling. She falls on her shoulder and her hip. She’s tells me that the baby should be fine though. She’s obviously very upset and I would like to take action against the family but they’re children so I understand if that can’t be done. This happened like an hour ago so she hasn’t gone to a hospital. And I’m not exactly sure if this rates workers compensation. Any advice would be nice!