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I currently have a 5 week old daughter and my ex partner keeps on getting in trouble with the law, he was arrested once whilst i was nearing the end of my pregnancy and social services became involved: he didn’t turn up when we had important plans to due to him using drugs the previous night so I ended things, that night he attempted suicide by crashing his car. The police were aware of this event and I had a phone call from social services. He is on the birth certificate and has been having supervised visits, however, he was arrested again on Wednesday night, he gave me a story that I’m sure is a lie. He was supposed to see our daughter again today but hasn’t turned up, I am expecting a call from social services as I’m sure they are aware of his recent arrest. What is my best action to take? I don’t want to get into any trouble for refusing him access to seeing her, however, he doesn’t turn up most of the time and I’m worried how this will effect her when she grows up. Also, I don’t want to be seen as irresponsible by allowing him to see her despite all contact being supervised by myself.

I don't have any adult family members or older friends to explain or teach things to me, I'm 17 turning 18 at the very end of the year. I feel ridiculously stupid, immature because trying to understand all this college, university, licences, jobs, registration, money, identification shit I don't understand any of it.
The only adult I have to teach me is my 64yr old guardian, she hasn't worked since her 20s due to being unable to and therefore being paid. Anything she's given me advice on, has ended up being outdated and corrected by friends my age. Admittedly, she's got a lot of abusive tendencies. My older brother, who is stuck in the same boat, listened to me about this. We both sorta said it feels like she doesn't us to be independent, and cuts us off from a lot of things or doesn't teach us.
In Australia, we get centrelink money from the government when unemployed to live off of. at 18, you get it directly to you. My guardian doesn't let us have it if we are still living with her.
I'm trying to do little things, teach myself how to cook properly which is so humiliating to type out but so much of my childhood was abuse and neglect. Then my upbringing with my guardian was therapy, and this overguarding.
I'm trying to understand things on my own through reading things about university, how to get my learners license sorted and then how to drive, how to just..know what car to buy.
but even reading these things, I can't wrap my head around it. I get stressed, my brain shuts off and I get nauseous. I feel stupid because I don't understand all of this, nobody is telling me how to do it, I don't have anyone to do so and I feel moronic nearly crying whenever my friends talk about future plans and how their parents are explaining things to them.
I am trying to get a job, and trying to give a good impression on interviews though I have severe anxiety and struggle socially still from how I was raised but it clearly isnt too well. I've been doing volunteer work to add to my resume, I can't seem to get employed still.
College is mandatory in my country & state unless in a fulltime job or apprenticeship, so it's my last year in college which I utterly fucked up. I was on and off meds last year with depression, this year dealing with insomnia but attending more. I didn't pass any of my courses last year, this year isn't looking so well.
How do I figure shit out on my own, how do I fucking do all this stuff to live normally. I feel like I'm suffocating and I need to do something to leave but I don't know how.

So throughout my posts and comments I have already shared a few of mine.
This particular one covers my headcanon on his pre-Hogwarts and summers during his first four years at Hogwarts: https://old.reddit.com/HPfanfiction/comments/13gfgtx/tom_riddle_discovers_his_love_for_reading/
Some other ones that I have:

• Lestrange and Avery were his best friends. Lestrange (the one that was contemporary to Tom's time in Hogwarts) was the closest thing he would ever call a friend. In fact he might have been his first and last true friend, while Avery was mostly what Pettigrew was to James and Sirius. Later in life, when the Death Eaters were formed, the trio wielded almost equal power within the organization. However Tom was the real charismatic leader, while Lestrange was the cautious voice of reason. Avery was pretty much the weak link. When Lestrange realized what direction Tom intended to take the organization in (and refused to listen to his advice) and furthermore saw his children, Rodolphus and Rabastan admiring more Tom's ways than his, he decided to turn informant for the Ministry. This lead to a lot of arrests and even deaths. Lestrange also tried to turn Avery to his side and kick Tom out of the organization, but Avery much more preferred Tom as he saw him as a real leader so he snitched on Lestrange. Upon finding out, Tom was heartbroken and that's the point he became extremely cynical and refused to allow anyone else to get too close to him. He captured Lestrange and brutally tortured him, ripping his tongue out in the process. Then he presented a nearly dead Lestrange to the Death Eaters and said the Aurors did this to him. He convinced his sons to kill him "to put him out of his misery" as a last mocking to his former best friend.
  
• Tom and Dumbledore had a similar relationship as Harry and Snape. Tom perceived Dumbledore as being unfair towards other houses and favoring Gryffindors and while, unlike Snape, Dumbledore never showed direct cruelty or meaness towards Tom, he always kept a close look on him and would often tax even the smallest mistakes he would catch Tom making.
  
• In his first two years Tom was really withdrawn, behaved mostly like at the orphanage. He spent of his time in the library and his classmates found him rather creepy. He was trying to figure out his ancestry but since there were no records of a Riddle family and Marvolo was not a notable man enough to be recorded anywhere, he was getting nowhere. He did however excel in his classes and occasionally helped Avery (who was sort of like Neville and he kind of felt pity for him) with his homework and Avery tried to form an awkward friendship with him. However when the Gryffindors decided to pull a prank on the Slytherin's new chaser, Lestrange by disillusioning a bunch of snakes and hiding them in his Quidditch uniform, Tom Riddle used his Parseltongue to control the snakes (kind of paralleling Harry's reveal in book 2) and chase away the Gryffindor bullies. It was then that he formed a close relationship with Lestrange, after the latter asked him if he was related to the Gaunts. Partially out of interest for the source of information that Lestrange could provide and partially because Lestrange was genuinely a likeable person, Tom developed a close friendship with him. It was also due to the information provided by Lestrange that he was able to track his ancestry to Slytherin.
  
• In the third year, due to unforeseen circumstances, the Qudditch game between Gryffindors vs Slytherins also got switched to the last one to parallel PoA. Tom Riddle, now becoming more outgoing, decides to help the Quidditch team to pull a prank on the Gryffindors. I haven't thought exactly what but likely something to do with hexing brooms. That's when he earns the respect of Nott, Rosier, and Mulciber which are older students in the team.
  
• I have detailed in the link above Tom Riddle's brush with death due to Dragonpox in the link above and how he came to name himself Voldemort as well as his rising interest in defying immortality so I won't bore you again with it. However the Dragonpox epidemics also affects professor Merrythought who is quite old. She has to take a sabbatical year to recover. In turn paralleling the events from OotP, the wife of the first muggleborn head of DMLE is hired as a supply teacher (she's also a Muggleborn). Due to the atrocities committed during WW2, she starts pushing an agenda of Muggle tolerance and using magic to help them. This annoys the purebloods of Slytherin and it is during this time that Tom discovers the Chamber of Secrets. He plans to use the Basilisk to terrify the new professor. After several attacks that fail to chase her out of school, he decides to finally kill her but he accidentally kills Myrtle. This scares Tom and makes him back out of his plan. Still since he already killed someone, may as well try his hand at creating a horcrux. However Myrtle's death does also manage to chase away the supply teacher from the school. This leaves several students without a DADA teacher before the OWLs. In an attempt to fill that demand, Tom starts a study group with his fellow Slytherins where he teaches them dark arts, and paralleling it to Dumbledore's Army, he calls it the Knights of Walpurgis since the study group is started on the night of the 30th of April, as Tom is a huge fan (as I detailed in the link above) of astronomy.
  
• However not all Ministry workers are satisfied with the closing of the Chamber of Secrets case and an over-zealous Auror lingering on, accidentally overhears Tom bragging to his gang about the Chamber of Secrets and how he plans to reopen it again next year. This prompts him to keep a close look on Tom and under the pretense that he thinks a student might have been involved in the murders of the Riddle family, he is reluctantly allowed to return to Hogwarts the next year because of a compelling argument he made to his bosses that he has suspicions a child might have been involved since the Trace got activated despite no known magical child living in Little Hangleton. And since Dumbledore conveniently left the school to get more actively involved in the war against Grindelwald, this Auror replaces him as a Transfigurations teacher. This annoys Tom to no end since he feels the new Transfigurations teacher is hounding him even worse than Dumbledore and he can't afford to reopen the Chamber of Secrets.
  
• Meanwhile Tom learns of a legend that the four founders once saved some goblins from a "sticky situation" and befriended them. At the Hogwarts inauguration, an envoy of goblins came and presented them with four gifts. For Gryffindor it was a sword that would make him as powerful as every enemy he defeated, for Ravenclaw a diadem that retained the wisdom and knowledge of all its wearers and transfer it to the current wearer, for Hufflepuff a cup which when filled with something it would never end (kind of fits the protections in Gringotts) and for Slytherin, who was blind and relying on snakes to guide him, a locket that would allow him to see as far as the soul of humans (hence the eyes within the locket that Harry sees when he opens it). Tom instantly becomes obsessed about possessing this items. Also realizing he has no chance of reopening the Chamber as long as the Auror is within Hogwarts, he will want to leave it as a legacy and thus creating other horcruxes. It is then when he realizes that if he made an object out of each of the founders' relics and the ring he stole from his uncle (which while he didn't know what it was sensed its immense magical power) and becomes fascinated by the idea of splitting his soul in seven. Hence his question for Slughorn.
  
• In the following year, he researches all the relics. He manages to find from Helena what happened to the diadem, learns that the locket stayed with the Gaunts and makes the connection with what Morfin said that his mother stole the locket, learns that the cup also stayed with the descendants of Hufflepuff which are now called the Smiths and learns how to get the sword. So he starts a plot to steal the sorting hat but when he manages, the hat is quick to read his mind and tells him that he'll never be able to make the sword his as Gryffindor left it to the Gryffindor house since he did not have any children and enchanted it so that it will forever remain to the worthy Gryffindors. This prompts Voldemort to drop his plan of making it a horcrux and decide he will in time find another powerful item to use it as a container for his seventh part of the soul.
  

That's it for now. If you have any other headcanons about the lesser known deeds of Tom Riddle, feel free to share. As for me, I have developed a biography for him a while ago, but seeing that I am too old to write fanfiction anymore, feel free to borrow also any of the ideas.

Sooo I was watching this youtube video and it made me remember this MCPE server that I used to play nearly every day. I played around 2013-2015? I can't remember the exact year. I was an admin in this server, or use to be. It was called greasy screens and I played from Australia so I'm assuming it was in the Oceanic region. There is like no trace of this server anymore, I remember some other admins, one called Arno? His profile picture was Arno from AC. Anyways I searched up greasy screens and all I could find was this twitter status; https://twitter.com/sakolabumi/status/495177557638004736
Also I found this website in chinese that has a photo of the forums of the server. I remember it looking like this too but the website doesn't have anything else helpful ;(
https://www.wandoujia.com/apps/7199944 - This is the chinese website I found.
If anyone has any memories of this server please share it as it would mean a lot to me. This server existed around 8-10 years ago so if you know anyone who played MCPE servers back then and could share this that would really help. I have some very fond memories and if there are any questions I can hopefully answer but this was a longgg time ago.
ALSO I JUST REMEMEBERED NOW THAT THE SERVER WAS A CREATIVE BUILDING SERVER AND ADMINS WORE DIAMOND ARMOUR (idk if that will be helpful).

Hey Everyone!
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This is my 2nd post here and the first Question i asked was very informative and the comunity here was very helpful.
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Now i got another Question. Im German and i play the game in German so i hope what you mean by the Title if i Talk about the Outerworldly Milestone Shards we get for the Gwenpool Event.
Usualy if we get milestone Shards they dont appear in the Game because they just move the Milestone Bar forwards. But now i got Millions of the Outerwoldly Shards and nothing where i can spend them on.
Do you know why we still have them? There is even a extra rider in the Shop with the Symbol of this Shards but you can only Spend Gold here.
Will there be extra Orbs in the near future or something? Sorry if this is a dumb question but sometimes its not easy for Non-english Speakers to find the right informations in the web.
I hope someone could be so kind and help me...
Thanks for your Time.

I know this topic has been raised several times already but can we talk about how loans and transfers in general are a complete mess in FM23?
Im a mid Bundesliga Team in 2030 and everytime im looking for a loan player I get obnoxious offers.
You want to loan a young player from MUC thats a decent Bundesliga midfielder? How about you pay all of his wages and 2M € monthly while played, 3,5M€ when unplayed. So if I play him every game that would be 26M€ in loan fees. Thats nearly my complete wage budget.
A quick google search for the highest loan fee IRL brings me to Alvara Morata (which im convinced is used to money launder between clubs)- His loan fee apparently was 12M € per season (so roughly 1M€ per month).
And I dont even wanna talk about how the AI can get players for way less than me. Everytime I want a half decent young player I need to overpay like crazy. This happens in the top european leagues and in other leagues aswell.
Why are those things so broken and unrealistic in FM23? They have been way better in earlier versions. at least thats how I remeber it. Or is this just a projection what football will be like in 10 Years? And the immense spending of clubs will keep going?

Hello, ladies (and please, only ladies!) of Reddit...do you like in-shape men in their late 30s? I like to think we're experienced enough to know how to treat a girl right, but still young enough to actually be ABLE to treat a girl right haha :) Do you like men in uniform? I find that tends to be a popular demographic as well...
Just to set expectations, you and I would likely not meet in-person. That's because I am nowhere near my usual East Coast home, and am in fact in [redacted] for the next [redacted] months. So, what I am looking for is a casual, flirty, sexy online relationship of sorts, the parameters of which we can dictate together!
I imagine our conversations would be a mix of smutty and non-smutty topics, though considering what I log onto reddit to do, likely skewing much heavier towards the smutty-- but again, if we click and have some stuff in common, who knows! I don't want to put up any arbitrary rules on it, label it, or establish any expectations-- you have a real life, I have a very real life right now, so let's keep it loosey-goosey and just have fun when the timing works out.
To be sure, while I advertised for college-age girls, anyone over 18 is more than welcome to apply-- I just mentioned college-age in the title because I suspect based on this subreddit, those are the type of women I might attract.
If you're into military guys, great! If not, also great! I don't usually lean too hard into that stuff, but if it gets your motor running I am happy to oblige ;)
One important caveat, please read-- as an experienced Redditor who has engaged in very brief smutty engagements (i.e. erotic roleplaying), I typically have never asked to "verify" the gendeage (roughly) of my counterparts, because, for a quick little anonymous fling, who cares, right? But if we are going to have something more than that (which I hope we do!), I'd ask that you be comfortable sending a verification pic of sorts, and of course I am happy to reciprocate. It certainly does not need to be a nude, or contain your face! And it doesn't have to happen right off the bat either, we can chat and see where the conversation goes first for sure. But I would like to know that the person I am talking to is in fact a girl and of legal age and has the username you contact me under. Hope that makes sense and doesn't come across as creepy or anything! I could explain my rationale, but it's basically that I still continue to get messages from guys...which again, for a normal RP, fine, but I'm not looking to "get to know" another guy.
So ladies, give me a shout if you think you might be interested!

So I have been getting closer and closer to buying a second car for fun. Been getting unlucky on some specialty runs. GR Corolla had like ten that came to my region. Civic Type R may not happen with no dealer knowing how many they will be getting now in my area. So I started reviewing my list of wants and moved over to 2 door sports cars.
Ultimately started sending out interest for the 2024 year, which lined up with when I wanted to spend the cash and find dealers near me have never been allocated for a manual version.
So this lead me to my curious question if you couldn’t get your hands on the manual would you settle for automatic or move on to find a different car or find an other dealer even if the distance is far away?

I’m 28f. Someone messaged me today from my past, we never slept together but did go on a date ages ago and it was a very sexually charged convo when we did speak, he said he had my number and was clearing out his phone so I insisted I had 0 clue why or how he got it as he kept mentioning a name I don’t remember and the number wasn’t in my phone anymore and at this point I had no recollection of this person. Anyway he reeled off some stuff and I then said oh I remember you, why are you changing your identity when it’s clear I know you’re lying.
Anyway, long story short he asked what I was doing career wise so I answered, then he was asking if I still stayed on at the place I originally planned and I said no times change etc. I gave my own flat. He then said it’s near him Then he said “maybe swing by mine” I said nope thanks I’m happily taken and married (I’m not married but I imagined that would shut him down) anyway later on he said “I saw the old conversations and they were very messy” I said out of respect just delete them I’m not the same person as I was thrn. He then kept insisting I was lying to put on a front or that I was lying to myself. So I laughed and corrected him, saying that I just matured. He kept banging on abouy the conversations and sent me inappropriate screenshots of old things, so I said, I don’t believe I acted in the way you say so can I see these chats. He pulled the worst ones involving sex and I just said delete it all, but it’s funny how I replied at 7 am after a night out and I go to work at that time lol how life changes. He then said”I don’t keep girls numbers if we didn’t have sex so I’ve defo had sex with you” I said “no wouldn’t be me. I wasn’t interested (laugh emoji)” he then insisted we did and said I would call him for it I said “look I don’t know who you’re mjxing me up with but that behaviour is tragic and wouldn’t be me. If it was I was probably off my head”
He kept saying it gets worse with some screenshots that he sent me and I said. I’m not that girl I don’t need to see it. To which he then said, well I’ll leave you to it but it sounds like you still have a thing for me. I ignored it and decided not to play into it.
Then later, he said “oh I saw your Instagram pictures, you’re so punching above your weight with him” I got annoyed and then said how rude it was and took a second to educate him. To which he then said “it was a joke, you know you’re very pretty” at this point I said “delete my number, leave me along and let’s not continue this anymore”
He then said “if I were him I wouldn’t be too happy we were chatting but it sounds like you wanna carry on”
I ignored and blocked.
Tldr: spoke to a guy and I feel really guilty and like I’ve done something wrong entertaining it. Have I done wrong here?

Hi guys,
I've gone through 3 different models of 5G modems and on all of them I get a signal strength of around -100dBm on all of them.
I've tried putting the modems in every part of my house ( ground floor ) as well as taking an extension cord, stepping outside of my house into my small yard and trying to get signal strength to only get to -90dBm.
My ISP said that I am in 5G coverage by a hefty lot but it seems I'm living in a faraday cage. . .
What would be the best course of action except moving because unfortunately I can't at the moment.
All I'm looking for is a good and stable connection, I work from home and I'm constantly in call via skype/zoom/slack/discord and I need to have my camera on as well as screen sharing.
Is there anything like an external antenna that could help?
Note : Near me I have a LTE B1 B3 B7 B28 tower ( >640m away from me ) & a LTE B1 B3 ( >300m away from me ) hopefully that might assist in figuring out what's best because personally I am at a loss.
Thanks in advance.

For context; we're married for 14 months, both 29 yo.
Overall everything's fine. And I'm happy but this weekend we had continuous fight.
We don't live together since my marriage, he comes on weekends.
We both are doctors.He works in a basic health unit in a village and I live in the city with his family (who are nice to me). Professionally I'm senior to him. 3 years almost. But he's financially more stable by his family. But I always want him to succeed. He tries but not like I think he should do. He hasn't passed a single exam. He has alot of family business in the village to deal. And then alot of travelling for his health unit. And then on weekends he has to play pub-g.
The only reason of our fight. I can overlook the facts his time getting wasted for family matters in the village but when he intentionally does this it boils my blood. No matter how much I try to control and not be bossy, I keep interfering, he'd be apologetic (while playing game) and then at 1 point he'll lose his temper too.
He's been constantly playing game since friday. After every game he'll come to me trying to be playful, took me on long drive and other things. And again he'll go play game with his brothers.
And if I ask him to leave it again and again, he says I'll start studying from monday. And I just cant get this digested. He's not a school going kid. I took a promise from him im ramadan that he won't play it for 1 month and he fulfilled it. Now he's doing it again.
It's not that he's always doing it, but when he does he just won't stop and exam is near.
I've been grumpy too. I don't know if I'm wrong or just making a mountain out of rye. But we're expecting a baby and I want him to be mature.
tl;dr: couldn't put every detail, that would be long but I really need help. It has strained our relationship. And that's bothering me the most. But how can I just overlook the reality.

When I speak with other Lagotto owners, they often say that these dogs need jobs. They need to work. One women nearby even says "we're going to work," instead of "we're going for a walk, etc."
I don't really get it. I mean, I do, but I don't.
I play two games with him. I play nose games at the park. I throw treats in the grass and he races around finding them like a damn detective. The other game is more like fetch, but for fish. He jumps into the river and swims around, sometimes into the current 😳 waiting for me to throw a stick or a ball. As soon as stick number one is retrieved, he swims around again, sometimes pretty far out, waiting for number two, three, five, twenty. He never gets tired. The only way he stops is if I walk away from the shore. He needs to be near me.
Is this what folks mean by "work." I mean. There's no benefit to society here. No monetary compensation. Nothing to show for it minus dirty paws and dusty snouts.
To a dog, I guess, this is an important vocation. Finding stuff. Swimming after things. Following commands and pleasing this weird two-legged provider of room and board. But this thing people have where they say "We are going to work." Or "Lagottos need a job," feels pretentious.
Am I missing something? Can we just say, "we're off to the river," without making it sound like this bozo is some kind of professional?

For context; we're married for 14 months, both 29 yo.
Overall everything's fine. And I'm happy but this weekend we had continuous fight.
We don't live together since my marriage, he comes on weekends.
We both are doctors.He works in a basic health unit in a village and I live in the city with his family (who are nice to me). Professionally I'm senior to him. 3 years almost. But he's financially more stable by his family. But I always want him to succeed. He tries but not like I think he should do. He hasn't passed a single exam. He has alot of family business in the village to deal. And then alot of travelling for his health unit. And then on weekends he has to play pub-g.
The only reason of our fight. I can overlook the facts his time getting wasted for family matters in the village but when he intentionally does this it boils my blood. No matter how much I try to control and not be bossy, I keep interfering, he'd be apologetic (while playing game) and then at 1 point he'll lose his temper too.
He's been constantly playing game since friday. After every game he'll come to me trying to be playful, took me on long drive and other things. And again he'll go play game with his brothers.
And if I ask him to leave it again and again, he says I'll start studying from monday. And I just cant get this digested. He's not a school going kid. I took a promise from him im ramadan that he won't play it for 1 month and he fulfilled it. Now he's doing it again.
It's not that he's always doing it, but when he does he just won't stop and exam is near.
I've been grumpy too. I don't know if I'm wrong or just making a mountain out of rye. But we're expecting a baby and I want him to be mature.
tl;dr: couldn't put every detail, that would be long but I really need help. It has strained our relationship. And that's bothering me the most. But how can I just overlook the reality.

In the middle of my six-month contract with a client through an agency, my manager unexpectedly inquired about the end date of my contract and whether I had considered transitioning to a permanent position. (On a side note: is it appropriate for my manager to ask this question directly, considering my contract is through an agency? Shouldn't this query be directed to the agency?)
How should I interpret this situation? Could it indicate a cost-cutting measure, aiming to convert contractors into permanent employees? Alternatively, is there a positive angle where my manager views me as a valuable asset to the team and intends to include me in long-term plans?
I am inclined to believe the latter since the company appears to be financially stable, and I have performed exceptionally well on the assigned projects.
When faced with this question again as my initial contract nears its end, what would be the best response? Ideally, I desire an extension and a higher compensation. If my manager's interest in transitioning me to a permanent role suggests a desire to retain my services, I could potentially leverage this to my advantage by requesting an increased daily rate while "considering the possibility of going permanent."

For context; we're married for 14 months, both 29 yo.
Overall everything's fine. And I'm happy but this weekend we had continuous fight.
We don't live together since my marriage, he comes on weekends.
We both are doctors.He works in a basic health unit in a village and I live in the city with his family (who are nice to me). Professionally I'm senior to him. 3 years almost. But he's financially more stable by his family. But I always want him to succeed. He tries but not like I think he should do. He hasn't passed a single exam. He has alot of family business in the village to deal. And then alot of travelling for his health unit. And then on weekends he has to play pub-g.
The only reason of our fight. I can overlook the facts his time getting wasted for family matters in the village but when he intentionally does this it boils my blood. No matter how much I try to control and not be bossy, I keep interfering, he'd be apologetic (while playing game) and then at 1 point he'll lose his temper too.
He's been constantly playing game since friday. After every game he'll come to me trying to be playful, took me on long drive and other things. And again he'll go play game with his brothers.
And if I ask him to leave it again and again, he says I'll start studying from monday. And I just cant get this digested. He's not a school going kid. I took a promise from him im ramadan that he won't play it for 1 month and he fulfilled it. Now he's doing it again.
It's not that he's always doing it, but when he does he just won't stop and exam is near.
I've been grumpy too. I don't know if I'm wrong or just making a mountain out of rye. But we're expecting a baby and I want him to be mature.
I couldn't put every detail, that would be long but I really need help. It has strained our relationship. And that's bothering me the most. But how can I just overlook the reality.

last year i ran away from home and came to live with my boyfriend at his parents house. our plan was to get a job and save money as quick as possible because his parents are also abusive. when i got here though, it was super difficult to get a job. i have really severe anxiety that i’ve been trying to get treated, but it’s been taking so long just because it’s impossible to find a psychiatrist accepting new patients that accepts my insurance. i’ve been going to therapy and she has been helping me get into a psychiatrist, but she says my anxiety is to the point where medication is really the only thing that will help.
yesterday, i woke up with a feeling that something terrible was going to happen, but also woke up feeling depressed, so i tried so hard not to overthink it, and went out and did a couple things while my boyfriend was at work. on my way to meet someone, the battery light on my car came on, so i pulled over and googled what to do and everything i found was all saying it’s not safe to drive, so i turned around and went to my boyfriends job and waited until he was done because of my battery was going to die i wanted to at least be with my boyfriend so we didn’t have to find two different ways home (he doesn’t have a license). while i was waiting, my car battery actually died and his boss came and jump started it and we made it home. i only know a little bit about cars but my brother was helping me over the phone. the alternator in my car doesn’t work, so we were trying to take the battery out last night at 12 am so the battery doesn’t drain and i’d have to pay even more to get a new alternator AND new battery. but we didn’t have the right tools to do it so we had to just leave it.
now, it’s the next day and i don’t even know what i’m supposed to do. last night i was drafting texts to send to my grandpa apologizing for leaving and begging for help. and i don’t want their help but i don’t know what to do. i have no money, i’ve been driving with no car insurance, i don’t have aaa, my car has needed to be serviced for months, i can’t get a job. now my boyfriend has to ride his bike to work and back in the dark after working 12 hours shifts 5 days a week and it could have been prevented if i just could take care of my car. my 12 year old brother is in the hospital right now and i have no way to go visit him. i didn’t drink or eat anything yesterday and the thought of eating now makes me want to vomit.
because i don’t have a car i have to stay home alone with my boyfriends parents all day and i am petrified of them, they are nearly identical to my grandparents (behavior wise) and the anxiety i have from that is paralyzing.
i so badly wish i was able to prove my grandparents wrong but i am just proving their point. i cannot take care of myself and this feels like the end of the world to me.

I'm 29, Asian (living in a western country). I'm thin, own my own apartment, have a great career, work out regularly, awesome friends and hobbies. However, I'm shy and introverted. Due to my culture, I am more conservative. I've only ever slept with one person. The reason why I think I haven't had a relationship, is I've never found a person who I'm attracted to and connect with.
Something else as well, is I struggle a lot with physical and sexual intimacy. I'm learning in therapy that I find it hard to feel safe in those situations, so to be intimate with someone, I need to trust them, know them well and emotionally connect with them.
The problem is, on dating apps it feels like nobody ever wants to give me a chance. People either want a short, casual relationship and to jump right into sex. Or people ghost me. Or we match and they don't respond. I try to meet people in real life, and it's hard because I'm shy. There have been two occasions where I plucked up the courage when out to speak to a guy and ask for their number: one guy was taken and another ghosted me :( The thought of a guy who I'm attracted to and really like, ever willing to be patient with me and give me the time to trust them, feels near impossible.
Thinking about this brings me to tears. I feel like I'm broken and somethings wrong with me where clearly people just don't want to date me. I'm trying to work out why...all i can think of is that I'm shy. In my culture and how I was brought, being silent and quiet was encouraged. It's hard for me to break out of my shell if I don't know you. once someone gives me the chance and time, i can break out and be more confident.
Generally though, I have good interpersonal skills (I'm actually a therapist myself. In that way, my self-reflection is good, and i help lots of clients with relationship problems, so while I don't have a lot of personal experience, have developed a lot of values surrounding what I feel is important in a healthy relationship).
I've asked my guy friends what it might be. They said it might be because I'm Asian. Is that so?
My friends often describe me to be gentle, kind, intelligent, empathetic and thoughtful. I do think I'm relatively attractive as well. I get lost in discussion about things I'm passionate about. I love creating new things, going on adventures and eating food. I just want to meet someone who wants to connect and do those things together. I don't even care if it doesn't eventuate into a relationship...I just want someone to give me a chance to connect.
Is there anything I can be doing differently? Please help. I'm going to therapy and trying to unpack it all, but I really just need some solid advice.

I usually don't rant about clubs on the internet, as all clubbers have different tastes and priorities - but sorry, what was that at aeden BCCOxStorno yesterday?
We bought tickets on resident advisor and arrived quite early at around 7pm. At that time, the ticket queue was still empty and we were in after a few minutes. Another friend who was supposed to join us arrived at around 9pm and wasn't able to get in. The ticket queue wasn't moving at all because they were lacking staff. At the same time it looked like they were still letting people from the box office queue in...
Inside, the club was super packed. The toilet and bar queues were insanely long and the bars were super slow. It took us nearly 45min to get something to drink. The outdoor floor was way too crowded with people/groups running around the floor all the time so it was nearly impossible to dance. When the outdoor floor closed and the other floors opened it got a bit better. Though, the main indoor floor seemed to have little to no ventilation. It felt like you can't breathe and you were instantly soaked. Don't get me wrong, I like sweaty parties but this was way too much. Never seen something like this before. Second indoor floor downstairs was ok, for my taste a bit booring / could do more with lights.
As the night progressed, it all got a bit better but I don't want to imagine what people have to bear going for the second day...
TL;DR stop letting so many people in, or open more floors and hire more staff. A good lineup doesn't make up for shitty organisation.

My mom and her husband were functioning alcoholics and would drink heavily and fight almost every single day off (fri-sat, holidays) and occasional weekdays to spice things up from when I was 7 to around 24. I could come home from school and just feel the tension and know that there would be a +5 hour screaming match today. Then the next day, they would act as if nothing happened. I remember one time when I was around 9 years old during the summer holidays. They had been fighting for several hours multiple days in a row and I just remember thinking "I am just living with these people. They are not family". We never spent any quality time together during the weekends or holidays. They would go out drinking and I would just be happy that they were out of the house for a few hours - but I would often wake up to screaming and shouting once they got back home. The summer holidays were the worst, as all my friends would go travelling with their families while I was stuck at home with two people who never got along and would drink constantly. The more time they spent together, the bigger and fierce their fights would become.
No matter how much I would beg and cry, they would just keep going. They promised to be better, but nothing ever came of it. After a while, I just became resentful and stopped crying. I hated them deeply, especially my mother who I thought was neglecting her child for selfish reasons. She sacrificed me for her own whims and desires. I felt as if I was an accidental child (was born 10 years after my sibling) and that she had just decided to make up for all the lost fun time when she had my sibling. She would often ask me why I was so angry all the time with her, as she had no clue as to why. I never acted out besides being moody after their screaming matches, was never out late, never did drugs or partying, had amazing grades, never talked back to them. I somewhat thought this would make things better, but it never did.
I felt constant stress over the fighting, never knowing when it would come, if they would separate and me and my mom would have to move, if friends were to drop by right in the middle of their arguments. Constant worrying over the future. It has affected me deeply, and I have a very hard time trusting people, social anxiety. If you feel your own mother neglects you, then what would stop anyone from being better? I hate conflict, arguing and any sort of attention, I just want to be left alone. I don't really care about anything and feel that all the things I was dreaming of as a child (good job, living by myself, having money) would fix my problems, but you soon realize that nothing can fill the void.
I moved out 3 years ago, but still live close by. I see them weekly and have felt that finally, for the first time in my life, I can actually stand them as they have calmed down significantly. They have helped me from time to time with stuff, which I have appreciated. This makes it even harder, because they put me through hell for almost 20 years, and now when they are older, they want to be close and have the benefits of having a child nearby. None of their other children (1 on moms side, 3 on her husbands) are seeing them as often as I do. They meet up maybe 1-3 times a year.
One part of me want to break it with them and never see them again. Another side of me want to try forgive and forget as the time is running out. But man, it is hard. Especially since they never have really acknowledged how they acted during all those years.
I wanted to take them both out to dinner today for mothers day, but then from nowhere thought "why should I?". I broke down crying for the first time in years, just thinking of all the missed time, all the hurt, all the damage they caused. And I feel as if I am the bad guy for not being able to move on.

On Thursday, I was eating my dinner outside and I accidentally swallowed the skin off the kidney beans. I was so anxious so a ew minutes later, I could still feel the sensation in the back of my throat and I tried to cough it out, to no avail. I then drank lots of water to try and wash it down but still felt it there. I then, had this feeling that most of what I ate had not been chewed properly and was stuck in my throat as well (chilli con carne with rice). I kept on drinking my water but felt like it did nothing, I even had lemon & ginger tea.
Symptoms: * Dry feeling in throat * Fullness in the throat * Discomfort in throat * Food stuck in throat * Chest burning/tight sensation * Food stuck in chest * Frequent burping * No pain * Feel like I can't breathe * Altered breathing * Possibly wheezing (?) * Gassy stomach (noisy, bubbling, etc) * Food lodged in throat * Fluids not going down * New foods not going down * Salvia not going down * Food impaction * Lump in throat * Feel like vomiting will relieve symptoms
Fast forward to Friday, I wake up with the sensation still there throughout the day. I'm hungry, stomach is rumbling but I feel like the previous food is still lodged in my throat and is putting me off chewing and eating. Anyway, I attempt my lunch and dinner with anxious thoughts and I continue to drink water but I feel like it still doesn't help.
The same symptoms have been present since Thursday and it's now Sunday. I'm so scared and I do suffer from my anxiety. Thoughts keep going through my mind about *****. Distractions don't work as I can still feel the lump in my throat.
I thought it was globus sensation at first but it doesn't feel like my typical globus experience as it feels like food is actually stuck in my throat. I still haven't told any of my family about this issue because I'm afraid they'll dismiss it as anxiety and I'm "thinking about it it". But the symptoms feel very real and I'm concerned that I have some undiagnosed condition that needs medical attention ASAP.
In terms of seeking help , can't do anything as its bank holiday tomorrow and the hospitals / doctors near me will be closed so will have to wait until Tuesday.
I've been following home remedies like drinking cold milk and drinking tea and they aren't helping. I don't know what todo next.
I'm quite worried that it's serious and I'm going to *** at 24.
I'm on here just looking for advice, and possibly a solution. Does it sound like GERD, cancer, food impaction, globus sensation? or any other throat related condition? Help :(