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2023.06.06 17:34 moosita_ Dreading the visit to my in-laws
So after being VVLC, DH and his mom started to talk again. I won't get into the details there because what's done is done. We are going down to visit them soon... I think this weekend.
This will be the first time they've seen my son in person since he was 3 months old. My son is now 12 months old and thankfully he is healthy and very attached to me. However, since he's not a newborn does the whole don't kiss baby, don't pass him around like a hot potato, etc... still apply? What boundaries for a one year old do ya'll enforce with "faMiLy"?
Also, what's the best way to handle snide comments from your just nos? My JNMIL and JNGMIL may behave during this visit (fingers crossed) but I'm trying to mentally prepare myself. Ignore them or bite back? I've stayed pretty quiet since the original ordeal and still only "defended" myself when I responded to her Xmas text. I've got a lot bottled up lol.
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2023.06.06 17:33 Alkyanne [A4F] Not everyone can be a hero - PART 2 [Established relationship] [Powerless Listener] [Gifted speaker] [Comfort] [TW : War, Angst]
Author’s note : Everything’s free to use and monetize or paywall as you wish, just remember to credit me please.
Summary, Reader perspective : You’ve fled the city to go far from the fights and arrived at your partner family house.
[ ] = stage directions
*\* = sound effects
I told you, your mother was fine!
Good evening Ma'am.
Oh! Easy with the hugs, You know I’m not a very touchy person..
Your daughter is an exception..
You’re welcome, but you know how much I love her. There is no way I would have let anything happen to her. I gave you my word I would protect her at any cost, and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing since then.
Thank you Ma’am, but I’ll come inside later, I’ll have to put some gas in my bike. If we ever need to get out fast, we need to be ready. If I remember correctly there is a station not far to the west, right?
Alright, I don’t need much time. I’ll be back shortly. You both should be fine until then.
Ma’am? Can I talk to you real quick?
Yeah.. So.. She saw a lot today.. She might have to talk to her mother.. Yeah.. please take care of her.. I won’t be long.
See you later.
Baby? come here.
Settle down with your mother, get comfortable, I’ll be back soon.
I love you too.
*bike engine starting and sound of it going away\*
*sounds of the bike returning\*
Hey my love, what are you doing out there? Aren’t you cold?
Waiting for me?
I told you I wouldn’t take long!
I miss you too darling. But I knew you were safe here.
Yeah I guess you couldn’t know I was too. I’m sorry, I should have taken the time to reassure you before leaving.
Come inside now? To the warmth?
*doors opening and closing\*
Hello again Ma’am!
Hmmm that smells delicious ! How did you know we didn’t eat anything yet?
Yes, that's true. Do you need help with anything?
Alright, we’re gonna go upstairs to rest a little before dinner.
[The mom making some comment about sexy time, making reader uncomfortable]
wha… Ma’am !! No ! We’re not.. How can you..
No I didn’t see that joke coming !
I didn’t see that coming. Oh god..
I.. I don’t see anything. I don’t know what’s going to happen ! How is it possible ?
No baby you don’t understand ! How can I protect you if I don’t know what’s going to happen?! You’re in danger, I can’t keep it that way, I need to get my powers back ! Now !
Of course I’m panicking baby ! What if you get hurt or worse when I’m like that?! I could never forgive myself !
How do you know it’s not my fault ? We don’t even know why they’re gone ! Or how, or since when !
Baby I can’t lose you !
*starting to hyperventilate\*
I.. I can’t.. breathe.. baby..
*tries to get a long inspiration but fail\*
*multiple breathing exercises, breathing in and out loudly\*
Alright, I’m ok. I think. I’m sorry. I lost it.. I was so afraid for you.
You’re right. I said that. We are safe here, we’re far from the fights. And we’ll have time to see them coming if we need to flee even further away..
Let’s eat.. Your mom made her delicious lasagna, I’m sure I’ll feel way better after that !
I’m good ma’am, sorry for the inconvenience.
[they start eating]
Mmhhhh that’s so good ! You need to teach your daughter how to do that !
ouch.. ahahah i don’t say you can’t cook my love, I just say you never do this. And I like it very much, maybe you can try when we get home?
Oh yeah that’s right, our living room is just a giant hole now…
Oh one of their attac…
What the hell? can we put the volume of the TV up please?
They.. they have that kind of weapon? But.. Wait ! The army has a weapon to suppress powers ?!
For how long? Wait and how long does it last? Is it permanent?!
Yeah sorry, I’m listening baby.
Oh thank god.. It’s not permanent.. That means I will still be able to protect you..
[listener doesn’t look happy]
My love? What's wrong? It is good news, why do you look so.. upset?
I thought.. Do you.. Not like how protective I am? Does it feel too much for you?
What is it then?
No baby, it’s not nothing.. You seem very upset, talk to me…
Hey ! where are..
[listener stand up and leave]
[listener is hiding behind the door, so the last part sounds muffled]
Ok… I’m listening..
[pause while the mother is explaining]
But I don’t care if she has no powers! I know almost everyone has something.. Even if it’s useless.. But I never thought less of her because she doesn’t have anything. I don’t care about that! It’s not like she has any choice anyway, it just is. And I love her for who she is, powers or not !
Alright.. I understand…
I’m sorry, I didn’t think of that.. Yeah I will tell her when she’s back. I think she needs some time alone..
I didn’t think she could interpret my reaction to having no powers like that.. I was just so worried for her safety.. I can’t lose her, you know?
About marriage and children, maybe we wait after the war, don’t you think?
Mmmh yeah that’s true…
Some happiness can’t hurt.. Having a wedding now could bring some joy around us, amongst our friends..
But I’m not sure I want to bring a new life into this kind of environment..
Maybe now that the army has a weapon capable of neutralizing powers the war will be over soon..
We’ll see with time I guess..
[listener coming back in the room]
No no, I’m sorry! I didn’t think of how you’ll feel about all this…
You forgive me?
Good, come here please.
What? Your mom is the one making sex jokes, she can watch you sitting on my lap right?
Alright, maybe we should go upstairs now..
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2023.06.06 17:33 thedowcast The dire consequences of Germany's current recession - a warning from Keynes
A book called "The Fall of the US Dollar: A Second Coming of the Non-Aggression Pact" explains why US and EU sanctions against Russia only further increases the ruble's value. However, this book tries to articulate that the real consequence regarding US foreign policy is not just related to the eventual collapse of the US Dollar or rise of the Russian ruble. The main consequence that this book tries to convey comes about from a continued refusal to heed warnings from John Maynard Keynes about obstructing Germany's economic well-being. This warning applied before World War II and it still applies to this day. Keynes warned that not allowing Germany to trade with her neighbors will only compel Germany to compete with the west for resources. Here is a quote from Keynes "If we do not allow Germany to exchange products with Russia and so feed herself, she must inevitably compete with us for the produce of the New World"
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2023.06.06 17:32 ZealousidealFan9219 Why can I only run my Java programs by typing java instead of java ?
I'm really confused. For some reason, everytime I try to run my programs using "java , I get a "Could not find or load main class test" error. I checked everything, from the classname I used, to the classpath, to the folder in my terminal, but it still doesn't work. But when I add the .java extension, my program suddenly works? Why would this even happen?
My programs compile, but they cannot be executed.
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2023.06.06 17:32 theravenkiel Can’t trade with my friend (couch co-op), PSN needed?
Hi everybody. Hopefully someone knows why this is happening. When I try to trade to my friend in couch PS5 co-op, we get the message “Trade is not available at this time”. We could trade during the server slam. Is a PSN needed for couch co-op trading? Or is it an error? Any help would be super appreciated, thank you!
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2023.06.06 17:32 BabySchizo How do you handle the resentment?
My mom has apparently been drinking since she was 15. She's in her late 40s now. I'm 20, and I only picked up on her habits about 5 years ago. She started acting significantly different then but I didn't quite pinpoint it until about 3 years ago. She's a violent drunk. She's hit my dad, hit my brother, and has attempted to hit me. I guess she thinks they won't hit her back but I will because we're both women. I don't wish to lay hands on my mom.
She's also bipolar and often doesn't take her medication. She's not supposed to be drinking with her medication as it worsens everything. She starts from early morning until night. I think she believes shes a functioning alcoholic but she's far from it. She has lied about where she's gone, went drinking, and tried to drive back but my dad got her to pick up the phone and pull over before she got too far. She got drunk at a party that my brother was also at, hit someones mailbox and jumped a ditch in her car. This is when we tried to get her into AA. She went for a week, actually stopped drinking, started talking back with her best friend (they cut each other off because they had a drunken fist fight) and relapsed. She proceeded to lie to us and everyone in the AA meetings because she didn't want to "be like the others" and have to go back and get a day one chip or whatever.
She got drunk one night, tried to leave on her car but my dad and I blocked her from leaving, she proceeded to push me almost to the ground to get inside the car but my dad stopped her. She called her best friend to come get her. She screamed at the top of her lungs that alcohol meant more than her family. She told me that being groomed as a child from people on the internet was my fault. I was 8/9 years old. That's when I lost it. I lost my cool, I lost my respect for my mom, for a while I felt like she didn't love me anymore but thats when I knew she didn't. After she left, I cried in my dads arms for the first time in a very long time. When she came back a day later, she didn't even remember what she said but she tried to apologize. I ignored her. Another time, my dad had surgery to remove cancerous tumors from his kidneys. The surgery didn't work and he was very upset. He was grumpy from the medication and being in pain. My mom proceeded to tell him she didn't give a fuck if he died or not. She still to this day doesn't feel bad about saying that.
She was fine for a while. Still drinking but didn't have a freak out like the previous times. Until my dad had a re-do on his surgery. My boyfriend came to see me a day or two after. My dad wasn't feeling well and was running a fever so my mom drunkingly called me 3 times in the span of 15 minutes to go and get a thermometer to check his temp. Although it was not at all that pleasant, I got called every name in the book and she swore I was hiding the thermometer. She demanded I go buy one and be home in 10 minutes. I was at work, and work is already 15 minutes from home.
When we got there she kept screaming at me until I was hysterically crying in front of my boyfriend. Normally I wouldn't of let her get that deep to me but she was doing this in front of my boyfriend and telling me I didn't care about my dad because I didn't get home quick enough, along with other things. I went to my room and my boyfriend was behind me. We sat for a few minutes as I just cried in his arms. She came to my room, and kept screaming. My boyfriend kindly asked if we could separate for a bit so everyone in the argument could calm down. She went off on him telling him to stay out of her fucking business etc etc. She was making him apart of it, she called him a pussy for dealing with me crying and told him she had lost all respect for him. He said that he had lost all respect for her and she demanded he leave. She left for 5 seconds, pretended to talk to my dad (he was upstairs and we didn't hear her go upstairs) and she came back saying he demanded my boyfriend leave as well. He was going to leave before my mom snapped out of it. I don't know if this was the bipolar or the alcohol or both. This has been my absolute last straw. I told my dad about the ordeal and he said she never spoke to him and never even told him what happened. He apologized profusely and understands now why I'm so eager to move out.
Since this last occurance with her, I keep having dreams of her screaming at me and trying to hit me, and we end up in a fist fight. I don't feel safe in my own house anymore. I set up cameras in my room because I have cats and I'm scared she'll be mean to them. When she went to search my room for the thermometer she angerly turned both my cameras over, because I guess she figured they're more for her than they are for my cats.
I get angry every time I see her or speak to her. I get angry every time she texts me. I'm full of anger and resentment.
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2023.06.06 17:32 2003041 New Rugrats: Search for Reptar All Levels WR (First New Record in almost 5 years)
So this was a run that came out of nowhere and there's some things to go over. The Rugrats community as a whole thought both the All Levels and any% records for this game set by RagingRedneck were basically untouchable, with Redneck getting the All Levels WR title in Jan 2018 with his best time set in July 2018 and the any% title in May 2018 with current WR time set in Sep 2019. But these runs weren't just the WR times, they had basically obliterated 2nd place times with the any% getting to within 27 seconds and AL getting to within 1 minute. This run is only the 3rd sub-26 run ever done for context with Redneck getting the first 2.
That being said, this was one of the first Speedrun games I got into when I really got into speedrunning back in 2018 with this being my oldest speedrun game (I did an IL of Ice Cream Mountain (Mini Golf) way back in 2014). I always loved this game as a kid growing up and would try and beat every level in the time I was at a friend's house after school waiting to be picked up, so I guess you could say I've been running this ever since about 1999. Big thing for me is I only had a fat PS2 model since the slim I owned was ruined when I let my sister and one of her exes borrow it well over a decade ago, so when it came to current day speedrunning I was at a disadvantage. I tried to fix the slim recently to no avail, which ended up with me investing in a 90k PS2 Slim, but only after I broke the sub-27 barrier on the fat. Knowing my runs were getting better, I knew the only way to get better was with this investment and it's turned out to be one of the best investments I've made recently.
Honestly, with this being one of my original speed games, I never thought I'd have a WR in this game and am still in shock that it happened, but now we know that Redneck is not completely untouchable. At this point the question in my head is do I swap to any% to go for that record or continue All Levels and chase the next minute barrier and I'm most likely gonna chase that 24:XX mark, especially since Redneck has seemingly gained renewed interest with someone actually breaking one of his records. Other reasoning to continue with this is the routing for each category is pretty unique since any% goes out of the way to get some Reptar bars and I don't want to ruin the flow that I have going with AL. The community has done amazing in finding 2 new tricks, 1 clip and 1 upwarp that save quite a chunk of time (Upwarp may not even be needed), and I'm sure the next minute barrier will be broken in the coming weeks!
WR Run Here - https://youtu.be/VDEIQ4U79Lw
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2023.06.06 17:32 Used_Big_4264 Any runners?
I’ve just started running within the past three months and yesterday I did my first 5k. I am having some pretty garnly cramping, assuming this is from not having enough of some sort of nutrient in wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to deal with this without adding more food to my diet I already eat more cals than most people on this server I feel like. I’ve been stretching using icy hot and a cramp relief gel. I already take magnesium supplements fish oils and daily vitamins. So if anyone has any suggestions for staying in my calories but still fueling my body enough for a run. Really stuck between a rock and a hard place with this one because running brings me so much joy but I’m not willing to sacrifice my weight loss to fuel my longer runs.
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2023.06.06 17:31 XParzival22 Diablo 4 download issues?
I'm running into a weird issue. I purchased a digital copy of Diablo 4 for my Series X through Amazon. They sent me a code that was redeemed with no issue, but when going to download the game the name downloads and shows in my library as "Diablo 4 - Server Slam" not "Diablo 4 - Standard Edition".
If I use the manage game option to go to the Microsoft store it shows as the server slam product page, and when finding the standard edition it shows I need to purchase it still. After downloading it just gives an error about servers.
I'm in the Austin, TX region. Shouldn't the game be available already? or do I need to wait...I purchased the game on Amazon but from Blizzard (versus a reseller) so I figured the game should work.
I got it from this
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2023.06.06 17:31 jrose26 Stuttering Gameplay
Recently, like with the past week, everytime I play valorant my game stutters quite a bit. During comp games it mostly happens when I bunny hop, take a gunfight, try to get away quick, but it cpuld happen anytime as well. It's caused multiple deaths for me and jerks my crosshaor off target. It also happens all game long in deathmatches which I'm assuming is cause there are more people in the server? I have 1 gig internet with ethernet connection so I don't believe my internet is the reason this is happening. I've only noticed it happening everyday in Valorant, not other games. Are there any solutions to try to get the game to run smooth again? I have a new pc so I don't think it's hardware related either, though maybe something is failing. Not sure. Please let me know of any and all solutions you guys might have. Thank you.
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2023.06.06 17:31 Kadkata_the_Great Tips on climbing with Gwen and her role in the team.
Hello, I am a Gwen main that recently hit Masters for first time playing on a 10 years old forgotten by the MMR gods account with abysmal LP win-lose ratio bringing it up from Bronze to Masters in 457 games with 57% WR overall and 62% WR on Gwen from 301 games. This post has few purposes:
- Share disagreements I have with common points on this subreddit - about Gwen's role in the team, her itemization, her strengths and weaknesses.
- Give certain formulaic tips that will help you cheese games even if you don't really understand why on the grand scale of things. This is not a guide on becoming a very good player, it's a guide on climbing the ranks with Gwen.
- Link it everytime someone asks what is Gwen's role in the team and how to play her.
BAD takes that you should not follow
- Shadowflame instead of Nashor's Tooth - Gwen's strengths are splitpushing and she does this extremely well. Trying to turn her into an assassin with items that harm her splitpushing potential is counterproductive. Enemies in Plat, Diamond and Master aren't beasts that can evade all your abilities. They are inters, just like almost everyone in soloqueue. Chances are you will never meet a truly great player in the enemy lobby or have one in your team. Once they are slowed down by your ultimates first cast, it is trivial chasing them down and finishing them off. There's no reason to build her like a C tier assassin when full duelist splitpusher build will do the same damage in teamfights. You will just get your damage items faster, because the splitpusher playstyle generates more gold.
- Ignore Rabadon in favor of X - Third item Rabadon is what allows Gwen to turn around games and turn from an okay teamfighter to a great one when the player uses their ult well. After buying Rabadon she can 100 to 0 anyone who didnt build more than 1 MR item. Rabadon is what allows you to dive their fed 500g bounty player 1v2 and kill him.
- Gwen has bad early game - It might take a bunch of games to see it, but when Gwen early is played correctly, she has better pre 6 than most enemy toplaners who are supposed to be stronger early. Her Q damage is very high, low cooldown, has mobility, increased ranged, untargetability, increased resists, ability to poke without drawing minion aggro. Noone will punish your champions vulnerabilities even in Masters. Two big reasons for it: Gwen is a rare pick and the enemy doesn't know what to expect from you, and because majority of players Masters and below haven't learned all aspects of the game equally well. They have learned to play into very specific things that allow them to win games (exactly what I do with Gwen). Whether its one tricking champions, very good vision and macro, great mechanics - it doesn't matter. They will start inting as hard as a Bronze would when you throw a wrench in their plans. More often than not they start to play a bit more careful when trading with you if you scare them with a great trade early on in the game which allows you to punish them even harder.
- Play safe and farm up for late game - If you just hug your turret, avoid fighting and prioritize on last hitting minions, then you will miss out on the snowball opportunity from plating and turret gold. It is a very suboptimal way to play Gwen.
- Riftmaker is a bad mythic on Gwen - Very common argument that I have read here is that Riftmaker is a bad mythic. That it has awkward stats or there are tankier options, items with more mobility, with more damage etc. Riftmakers main strength over any other mythic is the omnivamp it provides. The omnivamp is crucial for those 1v2 and 1v3 fights that you will be often fighting when playing very aggressively. The healing increase is miniscule, but it is enough to have an impact. Yes, you can fight enemies when outnumbered with other mythics too, but going anything other than Riftmaker takes away from your potential to be hyperaggressive. Going Riftmaker also creates an illusion for the enemy in which you are far squishier than you actually are which has helped me secure many victories after enemies get baited into fighting me. The health, AP, ability haste, omnivamp, increased damage, true damage - all of this works great on Gwen.
Key concepts that you have to understand to make this playstyle work for you
- Plates - 15 plates, each worth 175 gold. Consistently you can get around 5 plates per game which is 875g + 300g from turret kill + 150g from first turret = 1250g - more than 4 kills worth. Gold generated through plating does not grow your shutdown gold. Plates are better than kills for this reason. It is worth it to die for plates if minute 14 is about to hit (Plates despawn on minute 14).
- Inner turrets on side lanes ( second turret on bot and top ) - Destroying a secondary turret alone gives you 600g total. With demolish rune and completed Nashor's Tooth you need just a few seconds to push the turret. If you have vision on more than half the enemy team then it is risk free gold.
- Herald - Taking herald gives you 300g and the herald eye which can help you get either plates or inner turrets.
- Splitpush - Allows you to push the inner turrets and reach their inhibitor if the enemy team does 1 macro mistake. Sometimes when you take the inner turret the enemy team won't respond to your threat hoping that you will just give up and recall. If that happens you continue to push onto the inhibitor turret. In other situations your team will be 4v5 at drake and spam pinging you to TP. That can be the correct play but more often than not I decide to ignore the pings and keep on pushing. This often results in the enemy splitting up in the middle of the fight to try to do both drake and also protect their inhibitor and base. Your team might win the drake fight this way and you got yourself a free turret or two. Your team might also get completely wiped on drake, but that gives you more time to push. Maybe you even get to take 1 nexus turret. Gwen with Riftmaker, Nashor's Tooth, Rabadon Deathcap and demolish melts turrets in seconds.
- Nexus turret pressure - When inhibitor goes down you often have the opportunity to damage or destroy one of the nexus turrets. It is good to destroy one as it allows for you to no minion push the last nexus turret at a later time and cheese the game.
- Lobby pick order - Always try to be last pick in the lobby. Chances are your Silver, Gold, Plat etc. teammates aren't the most proactive players and they won't benefit as much as you would from being last pick. You don't want to blind pick and end up playing vs Akshan or Fiora. You don't necessarily have to counterpick the enemy, but you don't want to be counterpicked. If you aggressively spam the "Swap Pick Order" button it is possible your teammate won't give it to you out of spite later if he declined the first time. Which is why if that person declined once, wait for the enemy team to pick a few times. Then you notify them in chat that their lane opponent picked and if they can swap with you. There are 3 other people in the team so you don't always have to instantly go for last pick either. Try to weasel your way down slowly by asking those directly after you if last pick doesn't work out from first attempt. If blindpicking is unavoidable then pray the enemy is clueless.
- Playing hyper aggressive and money hunger - Sometimes it happens that your botlane goes 0/7 in the first 10 minutes of the game and enemy ADC is very ahead. This shouldn't make you play safer. If the enemy bot has 500g shutdown on their head then if there is an opportunity it is better to dive them 1v3 with the chance of getting that shutdown bounty rather than playing safe. Whenever you are forced to teamfight your primary goal is to get all the shutdown bounties on the enemy team. Gwen loves AP and AP costs gold. The more gold the better. It is okay to die if it means that you also got gold. Because gold on you is way stronger than gold on their champions. There are exceptions to this. For example if you are very fed with kills and have 700g shutdown on your head then it is not wise to jump in a suicidal fight when moments later a better opportunity will arise.
- Number of games played - Keep spamming Gwen and Gwen only. Play her against every matchup on top atleast a few times to know what your champion can do and what you can do. Don't wildly change your runes every few games. Stick to the same runepage. With time you will see and understand the key moments in the game where you can dish out the exact ammount of damage to kill an enemy and survive. Whether you can push down a lane, greed for a turret and get out of it alive. Whether you can jump in 1v4 and survive.
Tricks that you might or might not be aware of:
- Gwen Q does not trigger minion aggro if you do not autoattack so you can harrass through a wave.
- You can queue up an autoattack if you right click the target during the Q animation and if you are in range it will instantly autoattack when Q cast ends. Works great with E -> Q right at the end of your attack range to do a little bit of extra damage. This will trigger minion aggro.
- Going 2x Blasting Wand on a back with 1700g is better than going Leeching Leer ingredients in majority of cases. It helps you do as much damage as you would with a completed Riftmaker but way earlier into the game helping you snowball harder. Also you can push turret plates way faster with the extra AP. The second blasting wand can later be used for building into Nashor's Tooth. I prefer going Riftmaker first because it makes you tankier and allows you to do easier 1v2 plays when you get ganked.
- Your W can be used to tank Baron and Dragon attacks if you cast it at the proper location where the edge is right infront of the monster without touching it.
- You can use your W to push turrets and plates even if its protected by the enemy. If you are ahead of your laner and the wave is crashing on his turrent you can walk up and cast your W in a place where its edge allows you to autoattack the turret without moving the W. This way if the enemy wants to push you off, they have to walk directly into you which accomplishes 2 things: gives you an opportunity for an easier dive and/or the enemy misses a bunch of farm trying to protect their plates.
- If you are ahead you can skip completing your boots item and stick with normal boots or no boots at all. The speed difference hardly makes a difference in the early game but you can get your item spikes way earlier. Your slow from your R and your dash are more than enough to stick to targets.
- When you are trying to push a structure as fast as possible E on top of yourself immediately after your autoattack completes. Your dash is not a fixed distance and you can dash very small distances which is a quicker way to reset your E AS buff.
- Gwen Q executes minions below 20% HP which works on super minions too. This makes her one of the fastest clearers of super minions in the game and guarantees that you will get the 90g from them if there are teammates present.
- Even if your minion wave is very small when you are approaching a turret, it is worth it to push it. After Rabadon all you need is 2-3 minions to push a turret safely. You might tank a few shots but the damage reduction that turrets get without minions doesn't apply instantly the minion dies. You have time to push the turret.
- You can cast E while you are casting Q. This will move the damaging area of the Q together with you. Can be used in many situations that require it. For example if both you and the enemy are on low HP and you have pushed the wave into his turret. If you dive him with the standard E -> Q he might react, flash away and CC you. But if you pretend to be cleaning out his minions with Q and then E towards him right before the final snip which deals the most damage it is unlikely he will expect that and be able to react to it.
- Jump in a fight right when you are about to level up. If you are leading your enemy on XP then the level up from 5 to 6 often enables a kill opportunity. Learn to level up your spells with your keyboard, not a mouse click. Watching other people play in real life, I notice that even some mechanically good players keep using mouse clicks to level up their spells. When playing Gwen this should become a habit. You level up -> you rank up spell - even if you are in the middle of the fight. It happens frequently because of her AOE spells killing a few minions in the middle of the fight or you were just randomly near a level up. It has happened too many times where a level up in a spell that I did in the middle of the fight saves my life and changes how the rest of the game goes.
I build in this order in >90% of my games. Go Nashor first if splitpushing is going to be completely uncontested. Start Doran's Ring unless its against a lot of poke in which case go Doran's Shield. Do not buy HP Pots, only buy refillable.
FOLLOW UP OPTIONS: Cosmic Drive
Good AP, CDR, speed. Frequent build after Rabadon. Void Staff
When more than a few enemies have MR items. Overall increses damage. %pen is strong. Frequent build after Rabadon. Lich Bane
Good for faster splitpushing or nuking their squishies with E->AUTO. I recommend as last buy or sell boots to buy this when you have enough gold at full build. Shadowflame
vs frequent shielding and squishier teams. Good AP ammount and pen. I would buy this against a fed ADC with enchanter support. Zhonya's Hourglass
vs fed AD assassins or generally AD heavy teams. Morellonomicon
vs teams with a lot of healing. I never build this. Thornmail
vs AD heavy teams that also have a lot of healing. Occassional purchase. Randuin's Omen
vs teams that have a lot of damage from critical strikes. Example: Yone top, Yasuo mid and Draven ADC. Spirit Visage
vs teams with a lot of AP damage and prolonged fights. I do not build. Force of Nature
vs teams with a lot of AP damage. Generally better than Spirit Visage. Abyssal Mask
Great cheap item vs a lot of AP damage and when you have 2-3 AP on yours.
There are other items that could work like Wit's End or Death's Dance but it is extremely rare that it would be a better choice than any of the items above.
I have bought all boots on Gwen except mobility boots. It is very dependant on enemy champions and how ahead I am. Usually I buy Mercs into a lot of CC, Steelcaps into AD heavy teams and Lucidity boots if I am very ahead.
RUNES AND SUMMONER SPELLS: These runes will be most useful to you in majority of games
. Swap armor and MR runes depending on your matchup. Go Second Wind instead of Conditioning vs poke matchups like Teemo or Gangplank. I like to pick Bone Plating against burst champions like Pantheon or Renekton. I climbed from Bronze to Diamond without Demolish, but my climb would have been way easier if I went Demolish instead of Unflinching due to the extra plates it can secure. I take it every game now. Presence of Mind is unnecessary and Triumph enables you to fight multiple enemies easier. It also gives you 20g per takedown extra which at the end of the game if you had 15 takedowns ends up being 300g. In my many games playing Gwen I can recall only a few times I wished I got Presence of Mind over Triumph. If you are nearing 0 mana then shove wave and walk up in river to get green slime plant.
Teleport is too useful not to take every game. For second spell I go Ignite for most games. Take Ghost if the kill pressure on lane is small AND the rest of their team is very mobile/ranged, for example a Malphite top lane with Kalista Rakan botlane, Azir mid and Hecarim jungle. That is a comp that you pick Ghost against. If the enemy team doesn't have a lot of mobility or you have easy lane on top then you should take Ignite. Makes tower dives much easier.
I cheese my games. I play around my enemy's mental and abuse Gwen's strengths. The account I played on was hardstuck Gold for many seasons, sometimes ending in Silver. My mental is not strong, I ran it down many times out of spite towards a teammate. My average vision score is 2x lower than that of an average Iron player. Despite all this my climb was steady with the exception of spending a decent ammount of time and games in D1, because I relaxed too much in my games. My point is that if I manage to climb like this, so can you. Just follow the template each game:
- Pre min 14: Get plates, plates, plates, shove waves, try to get herald if theres good opportunity, if not shove wave get plates.
- After min 14: Inner turrets! Bot and top, when you see 3 people on enemy team on one side of map, you go to the opposite and push the lane.
- Don't walk around aimlessly on map, walk up that sidelane and push the wave. Repeat.
- Enemies are guarding their towers too well? Farm their jungle. Join up for teamfights only if it is absolutely necessary. You will know which are if you keep playing the same runes, items and champion every game.
If I think of something else I will add it in an edit.
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2023.06.06 17:31 spicyspirit444 Woman keeps putting off my interview/rescheduling it?
I applied for this job the day it was posted to Indeed, then called & asked if I could come in & fill out a paper application. This is my usual strategy when I really want a position.
I was informed there was no paper app, because the building is still being built, but that some staff are already meeting/training at another location. Cool.
During the phone call, we set an interview for 2 days later. I was absolutely thrilled.
Until about 10 minutes after the call, when she texted that she was actually way too busy, & would have to set our interview for.. 2 & a half weeks from now?? I already knew something was up.
Anyway, I continued my job search, & about 3 days before my interview, I texted to reconfirm my interview. Glad I did, because she responded “oh, yeah, the positions still open but” (according to her) she had me written down for that Thursday instead of Monday, which she said was her bad, reviewing our text messages. She was going to be out of town till then. Ooookay. Only a couple more days no biggie, but clearly she’s a mess.
A couple days later, 3 days before my interview, she texts AGAIN. “Sorry to keep putting you off” ya I don’t think you are. “I’m headed back to town tomorrow & my day is already sooo full of issues, (ok dramatic) can we meet a couple days more late?” I haven’t responded, I don’t plan to.
💀 this shit has been wild. I considered the fact I have some experience with costumer service, but not in this field & I’d have to learn a bit about sales. It’s a sauna using LED technology, so like any basic spa/sauna reception/sales position. But I’ve run a store before so, I can learn.
I’d understand if there were more qualified applicants, however I was passionate & had a bit of knowledge/interest about the job from personal experience. Essentially, I’m already a costumer & know a bit about the technology.
Why would someone post a job application & then not have a single time slot in over 2 weeks for an interview? Either someone is doing interviews, just not mine, or this woman has no clue what she’s doing.
Which also wouldn’t be shocking, considering she keeps being soo busy she has to reschedule my interview 3/4 times. I’ve never met someone so busy.
I’d consider it’s a new business but I think more likely this woman is just completely unorganized or playing a game with me. It’s clear I’m not a highly valued candidate which I understand but I’m definitely not giving this woman the idea my time is just up to how she feels that day.
I am a bit bummed as I was pretty excited for the job. Anyway, anyone have any ideas for what this lady is on? I’d love to know, lmao.
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2023.06.06 17:31 lastgreatdynasty24 A post defending Akshay Kumar's title of 'Fuckshay' on this sub
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Part 1: Flings 1) Akshay and Pooja Batra
Akshay Kumar and Pooja Batra
Akshay and Pooja dated even before joining the film industry. Since Pooja was a renowned model and a well-known actress in her initial days, she helped Akshay to set his foot in the film industry. However, after a few years of togetherness, they both parted ways to make their career in Bollywood. 2) Akshay and Ayesha Jhulka
Akshay Kumar and Ayesha Jhulka
Akshay and Ayesha became overnight stars with the release of their hit film Khiladi. Soon, their on-screen chemistry started getting visible off-screen too and rumors were abuzz that they are the new couple of the town but after some time both the stars went their separate ways.
Sources: https://www.postoast.com/akshay-kumar-love-affairs/ Part 2: Cheating and Affairs 1) Akshay and Raveena Tandon
Akshay Kumar and Raveena Tandon
Akshay and Raveena were one most talked about couples of the 90’s. They were one much in love couple and after being together for almost 3 years everyone was eagerly waiting for their marriage announcement. But their relationship could not last long as Raveena was tired of Akshay’s flamboyant nature as he was always linked with his female co-stars, firstly with Rekha and later with Shilpa Shetty.
Raveena said that the two got engaged in the late 90s. However, the two parted ways in 1998 after Akshay was rumored about dating his co-actresses. Talking about Akshay’s loyalty Raveena said this during an interview, “We started off as friends. We got to know each other only when we went together for a few shows in America and Canada. I think loyalty meant a lot to me, but it did not mean so much to him.” Raveena talking about how Akshay was engaged to multiple women at the same time
Raveena talking about Akshay in a tabloid
Raveena Tandon's tweets supporting Tanushree Dutta during the #MeToo movement. Lot of people speculated that she was talking about Akshay Kumar 2) Akshay and Rekha
Akshay Kumar and Rekha
The actor was once rumored to have dated the veteran Bollywood actress Rekha. During the shooting of one of the films from Khiladi series, Khiladiyon Ka Khiladi, the makers insisted the two grow close to each other. However, Raveena Tandon later revealed that nothing was going on between them she said, “I don’t think Akshay ever had anything to do with Rekha. As a matter of fact, he would run away from her. Akshay tolerated Rekha because of the film. At one point she wanted to get lunch dabbas for him from home. That’s when I put my foot down. I felt it was taking things a bit too far.” Reportedly, Rekha was also responsible for their breakup.
Source: https://www.hindustantimes.com/entertainment/bollywood/raveena-tandon-said-akshay-kumar-tolerated-rekha-wanted-to-run-away-from-her-101659778258185-amp.html 3) Akshay and Sushmita Sen
Akshay Kumar and Sushmita Sen
Miss Universe and Bollywood veteran actress Sushmita Sen was once associated with Khiladi Kumar. Yes, the two were caught red-handed by Raveena Tandon. In an interview, the actress revealed that she had once caught Akshay red-handed with Rekha and Sushmita Sen. 4) Akshay and Shilpa Shetty
Akshay Kumar and Shilpa Shetty
Akshay and Shilpa affair was always under media glare but after staying together for almost a year, the actress left Akshay because he was reportedly two-timing her with her best pal, Twinkle Khanna.
During an interview, Shilpa said: "Akshay used and cheated me twice. When he found someone else, he shunned me. I am lucky that I have the strength to come out of it but I will never forgive him, nor will I work with him again. Shilpa said during a conversation, Akshay Kumar gets engaged to girls to win their trust. He takes his girlfriend to the temple late at night and promises to marry her in front of God, but as soon as someone new comes in his life, he forgets all the promises and vows."
Shilpa, who was still nursing a broken heart decided to do a tell-all tabloid interview about her relationship with Akshay. In the interview, Shilpa called out the actor for allegedly cheating on her throughout their entire relationship. Pouring her heart out, the actress had then said, 'I never imagined that he could two-time me, and that too all along our relationship. Akshay Kumar used me and conveniently dropped me after he found someone else. The only person, I was upset with, was him. But I'm sure he'll get it all back.' 'It's not easy to forget the past so soon, but I'm glad I've had the strength to move on. Today, he's a forgotten chapter as far as I'm concerned. I will never work with him again. Professionally, things have never looked better.'
Source: https://m.timesofindia.com/videos/entertainment/hindi/when-shilpa-shetty-accused-akshay-kumar-of-cheating-on-her-he-used-me-and-dropped-me-after-he-found-someone-else-im-sure-hell-get-it-all-back/amp_videoshow/82294064.cms 5) Akshay and Priyanka Chopra
Akshay Kumar and Priyanka Chopra
After a few years of marriage with Twinkle Khanna, the news of Akshay being in a relationship with Priyanka started surfacing as they did four films together.
Their on-screen chemistry was started getting visible off-screen too. Apparently, Twinkle not allowed the actor to work with Priyanka.
According to rumours, it is said that Twinkle and Priyanka had a big fight over the phone which Khanna couldn't take and she immediately reached the set of the film 'Waqt: The Race Against Time' where Priyanka and Akshay were shooting for the film. Khanna was so angry that she would have even slapped PeeCee but luckily she wasn't there and Akshay Kumar, who was trying to calm her down, had to bear the brunt.
After all this, Akshay released an official statement and vowed to never work with Priyanka Chopra.
Source: https://www.herzindagi.com/society-culture/when-twinkle-khanna-wanted-to-slap-priyanka-chopra-over-akshay-kumar-article-157872 Part 3: Sexual Harassment and #MeToo 1) Akshay and Mallika Dua
Akshay Kumar had come under fire for making an inappropriate comment to comedian Mallika Dua, his co-judge, on the show The Great Indian Laughter Challenge. As the format of the show requires mentors and judges to ring a huge bell that is on an elevated platform. Akshay "jokingly" told Mallika, "Mallika ji aap bell bajao, main aapko bajata hoon."
the comment was edited out of the episode. Mallika was ousted from the show along with two others, and the makers believed they weren't getting the required TRPs for the show. However, a clip featuring the comment was leaked on Twitter recently. Mallika posted it along with the words, "So, I want humor to be limitless. I also don't want to be uncomfortable at my work place. The lines are blurred. ”
Her father, veteran journalist Vinod Dua, lashed out at Akshay Kumar in a Facebook post that was deleted later, saying, "I am going to screw this cretin Akshay Kumar for telling his co-worker Mallika Dua that "aap bell bajao main aap ko bajata hun" at 5:26. This is his sense of humor and language
Akshay made no remarks but his wife Twinkle did release a statement clarifying his joke
Twinkle Khanna's statement clarifying the joke
The video has been removed from Facebook, and is no longer available anywhere
Source: https://www.ndtv.com/entertainment/akshay-kumars-insensitive-remark-on-mallika-dua-rebuked-by-father-vinod-dua-1767087/amp/1 2) #MeToo
In the wake of MeToo movement, - a Twitter account run by Rohit Chopra, an academic based in San Francisco, and Bunty Bolta, shared an anonymous account which claims that Bollywood actor Akshay Kumar has paid off a few people along with a few media houses to quash stories about his MeToo episodes.
The Twitter handle of IndiaExplained shared a screenshot of a WhatsApp chat where the anonymous person spoke about the rumours of Akshay Kumar paying off the victims to keep their mouth shut that have been doing the rounds in the industry.
The screenshot https://www.ibtimes.co.in/anonymous-accuser-claims-akshay-kumar-paid-off-victims-media-houses-quash-his-metoo-stories-787596 3) Akshay and Aditi Rao Hydari
Aditi had worked with Akshay in the 2013 movie Boss. Aditi on working with Akshay in Boss, "In this film there is no girl opposite him. When I first met him he said we thought you are simple, sweet girl next door but later they saw my photo shoot and found me glamorous. He found me hard working and talented and good actor,"
In 2018, during the #MeToo movement Aditi had shared her experience on twitter
Aditi Rao Hydari's tweet
Later in 2020, a twitter account by the name Sameet Thakkar accused Akshay Kumar of paying 2.5Cr to Aditi to stop her from revealing his name during the #MeToo movement
Sameet Thakkar's tweet accusing Akshay Kumar
To conclude the post, I'd like to say that Akshay's current flair is perfect for him and I request the mods to not change it.
2023.06.06 17:31 Thin_Investigator873 In another mess!
I 27F, am in my second "affair". The first one was so magical, so perfect. I fell in love with him, I left my very stable/loving relationship for him. I never quite opened up to him enough to let him know directly how I felt - but I believe that he knew just because our experiences were so, so special.
Anyway, it was a LDR, really a summer fling based on how long it lasted. He became interested in someone else and now they're married. I blocked him about 4 years later just because I knew I wouldn't be able to deal with seeing anything about the wedding/marriage. I do really believe the connection was there and I fumbled it by being too unavailable/seeming too aloof. Still haunts me to this day.
Now I'm with an AP and I find myself imagining and romanticizing everything and hoping it'll be the exact same situation (this could be unrealistic but I digress). Because of my current relationship dynamics ( living with my SO), I feel like I can't actually get time away to experience everything I want to experience with this new AP. I want the magic, I want enough fire under my ass to actually leave my partner. I'm trying so hard to get all of my ducks in a row financially & with a new roommate, to truly end it. I don't have any real desire to be with my partner. He's cheated on me before this and the guilt is pretty nonexistent on my end. I don't really think he'd care if I ended it either, but I am scared at how explosive it could be if he found out. My partner is volatile, but I also think he's pretty stupid. The main issue would be someone seeing us together, I don't think I need much OPSEC. None of my friends really care for my SO - not really keeping this a secret.
My AP is single. Not long distance. I imagine he has a lot of women throwing themselves at him. I don't want to ask, but of course I want to know/see what I'm up against. I have trouble opening up to literally anyone. I really don't want to let this fizzle out with him... it's kind of fizzled out with him before and I let it. I don't know if we're getting anywhere in this. I have a lot of pride and I want to be chased. I want to be chased excessively!!! I want to have this insane passion and I want more. I don't know how to articulate this at all. As you can see I'm very mature!!! /s
I think it could take a few more months until I can securely end things with my partner.
I do know that if I keep acting wishywashy with this guy, there's a very very very good chance he can lose interest. I want him to take me seriously and not just think I'm in this for sleeping with him, and I do genuinely think he likes me beyond just that. I'm also afraid of falling really hard for him and then being single and alone and spiralling again! I already have feelings for him at this point.
My questions are:
How can I send better hints and seem more engaged without actually being an open book (I feel like this would be impossible for me)? How can I stop being afraid to actually be single for once in my life? How can I use this affair to be a strong catalyst to make the final push and actually leave? How can I facilitate more special moments (with no overnights)? How could I use these experiences as lessons? How do I make him more obsessed with me???????
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2023.06.06 17:30 1realHan Me [23M] talked to my (idk ex?) Gf [20F] about last chance
Hi everyone, I'm not really good at writing so I apologise in advance.
I have been in a relationship LDR for 2 years now and everything was good until last 4months. Background about us: we are from different cultures tho we agree on a lot of things. She knows I don't like girls with best guy friend or a lot of guy friends around. She isn't that type or at least wasn't and we even talked about it.
4 months ago she started playing with 2 guys she met online in a game it wasn't much until one day I found out that she lied about going to sleep when she was actually playing with them "weird but she said she would focus and embarrassed to text after it's late" I confronted her and we went pass that.
She started playing with them more and more calling and playing almost everyday. I talked to her that it's getting too much specially she talk with one of them more. She said we just friends and thar kind of talk.
We had a little fight but we went through. Then she started delaying our stuff to play with them or even sometimes forgot about out plans while playing. We had a big fight and I told her texting a guy online everyday calling and texting a lot is too much she agreed and said yeah not respectful since she is in a relationship. Ofc every time we fight so I can make her actually talk about the problems otherwise she just avoid.
Then next week kinda after that big fight she slept accidentally on a weekend we were supposed to call. Next day apologised and we wanted to make it out that day. So night come and she is on her friend's stream watching him and texting while I'm waiting to call.
I got so annoyed to be honest and talked to her at the time that it's not right how she is prioritising him/ them. We broke up/she wanted space because we have been fighting a lot. During that space she was mostly online playing with him mostly. During that month I texted her sometimes to fix things but she is avoiding ofc. We called one day and I got that they have now group on snapchat not just discord anymore and she text that guy like way before and call with him one on one till late night "playing".
We had some fighting I managed to in a way now we talked today that I want to fix this and let's work on it even though she says she doesn't know how we can fix it. We called she cried ofc and I tried to be as calm as possible not asking or talking about that.
So now I'm planning when she stop thar annoying avoiding to talk and if she doesn't cut it off with boundaries I will be the one who leaves.( kinda I want a real closure that she really doesn't give a shit not that there's some mistakes.) She didn't give closure when she broke up so that's probably why I want this. Don't get me wrong I really want it to work I still love her but she treated me bad and its all around this guy. Not like I have problems with her having a guy friend because she actually have but not that close so fast to a point she talked to him after we broke up tell him that she was sad "her excuse was her irl friends don't know about us and he knows".
I'm overthinking and I don't know what's going on I know I'm trying hard to make it work. I'm not stupid but I just don't want to give up because I believe that she just in her first real relationship and she is dumb with it. So please be harsh I don't care. What you thinking. I'm not gonna text her tomorrow and will see if she gonna initiate for the first time in months.
If you got to here thank you for reading..
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2023.06.06 17:30 seperation_sadness How to move past separation for young married couple (20s)?
Hello everyone! I'm (20F) posting on behalf of my failed marriage mainly for advice moving on. I've pondered on posting to Divorce
yet we're planning on staying legally married for now as the residence benefits were taken into account.
They officially ended things with me this past SAT 6/3/23 when I mentioned that I feel disconnected and felt like I didn't know what the point of being in a relationship with someone if you're still going to feel lonely despite understanding they're alright with being alone for many hours, maybe even days, without talking to me or anyone else because that's what they feel like. Things ended that night and later (6/5/23) I've found out that they were having sexual role play and romantic conversations with others which led to a formation of a relationship later in the night where I felt homicidal, suicidal, etc and overall worthless alone for a bit. What type of support I'm looking for
Ideally people who've went through breakups including short-term and/or long-term separations including divorce and how you navigated that. I'm still navigating clicking on videos like 'manifest them back' and more yet I don't want to beg them to be into me life especially seeing as I've poured my heart out, cried, tried to talk more, etc. Here were some of our recurring issues we had which spanned mental, emotional, financial, etc. Financial
This spans their parents nagging us regarding money and now we're to a state of being able to pay them back and even help out as my father-in-law is in debt. I hate them for it. It didn't help for them to nag about money cause it not only made me feel stupid but doubtful of why I'm staying with a non-breading winning 'male' even though they brought more value into my life than money could ever dream of stating. We've stressed about money before and agreed on a 50/50 money share where me and them both receive a fixed-price weekly and the remainder goes to bills as the country we stay is pretty affordable and my rates accounting for the living costs and more as I'm the financial provider.
By principle I don't believe in coercive relationships and partially wanted financial independence for both of us cause I worried if they'd be here with the money as it felt like we changed as people.
I sometimes feel like I sold my soul for our survival and regret it not only for what it's done for my individually but interdependently to bring to the relationship as my anxiety and depression has worsened. I appreciate all that we've learned from each other. Some things I've said recently during our relationship
Some things they've said recently during our of relationship
- Getting mutually counseling. They've said the bad outweighed the good in total spanning from being together to be separated now as each bad time and break up broke them bit by bit.
- Consistent care. I'd like to spend 2-4 hours daily just enjoying our time together which likely would be evening to night just unwinding.
- Radical realness. I'll admit I've sometimes made it an unsafe space to express emotions yet really appreciated when they just have a heart-to-heart with me explaining what they felt as I feel they bottle up emotions and experiences a lot.
Something about me is that I need to be told the sugarcoated truth about things and they've spoken to me as such cause reality will seem a bit more real if it's spoken like that.
What we're feeling about the relationship
- They said if they could they wouldn't live with me anymore and want to move to another country. They've even talked with their new 'girlfriend' about wanting to kiss, cuddle, move in, etc alongside generally wanting to be alone in their room and interacting with people whenever they want versus being around people as the default.
- They said that they're unsure if they have romantic capacity. They're surely burnt out with me yet want to rebuild that to connect with others in the future. Right now they're in the dating phase with someone they got with the day they officially ended things with me cause this person is 'nice' and they want to 'see where it goes' yet it wasn't 'preemptive cheating' because they were already out and disconnected from despite me explaining why it would be a betrayal to allow those connections to form in a monogamous setup.
- They want to be solo polyamorous. This fits them best as they'd like to have multiple, unlimited meaningful relationships in their life without artificial restrictions and conventions. I scarred them with my jealousy and controlling in the beginning regarding same-sex friendships and I regret it. I saw so much cheating that my dad did and I hated the sneakiness and that message was confirmed throughout despite getting over it after a few months of being together. They also mentioned needing to have someone close in their life and them needing to seek that out... and not feeling close with me for months besides snippets and not engaging in their hobbies. A previous breakup would be when they considered polyamory while LDR and broke up with me as that'd be a incompatibility towards wanting a more connected lifestyle with boundaries. I tried getting over them and they reached back out and we got back together cause it wasn't a need.
- They said 'get over me and get on with your life'. They have no emotional or mental attachment to us working out and would rather not think or talk about anything regarding our relationship in the past. I feel like a bad memory that she wants to forget as I kept asking questions towards the end when they were in the other room and they kept repeating 'let me go', 'I already said everything that needed to be said', 'you already know the answer', etc. I left the door frame cause they were so angry and they seemed done with me. We talked later today and we had a relatively civil conversation minus me letting my emotions spill out and taking jabs at their overall secrecy.
- They said it was stupid and 'one of their biggest regrets in life' to get back with me out of pity. This happened around 2 months ago when they broke up with me last despite me trying to cry in silence and not bother them and try to actually move on cause I felt unsure of how many heartbreaks I could go through.
- They missed the old me. I apparently was a bit sharper, playful, etc in the past and most recently they've sought people out like that to fill a void yet can't pour it back here. I'd also say I was prettier and happier as I had more home-cooked meals and less stress.
Some notable points about where we're at in this relationships
- Some things they've said about us would be that 'we peaked last year', 'I don't think I can do (romantic) relationships anymore', 'I want to keep everyone in my life at a (platonic) friendship level', etc. I feel like I've ruined love for them and that hurts too because I not only knew and believed we had potential but want it to continue.
- I don't feel like I'm in the state to do much radical change cause I need to pick up the broken, bashed parts of me or else I'm just going to go into bad cycle of changing for a little bit or not ... fully understanding how to root-cause change and add more trauma to them.
What this relationship left me insecure about
- Some things that still upset me would be that they don't greet me or sometimes lock their door at night which I don't understand. I've never done anything harmful to them while they're sleeping but did look at them a few days ago while they were sleeping because
- Talking to me minimally because I'm draining in the background. They've said they just can't do 'this' anymore and I assume that's just talking to me so I'm trying to keep conversation brief and basic.
What type of attachment misalignment I'm going through here
- Some things I'm left dealing with would be feeling like I'm unlovable. They were many things I admired and aspired to be like especially since I didn't have a stable male figure in my life. Their willingness to stand on their beliefs despite many like it will always be one of the top things that drew me to them despite it coming from a dark origin of their authority figures spanning teachers, parents, classmates etc either actively or passively allowing people to bully them. They also had a caring, compassionate view of allocating resources to people which fit well as they used to take care of their sister.
I know other people are out there yet I don't want
to love anyone else. They were special to me. Our history is still special to me as we're a former LDR couple. We were 'defeating the odds' and I'll always hate how we grew apart... what I played into it at least. Some things that scarred them would be our 2 physical fights (e.g. them slightly choking me and us mutually slapping each other) and countless other verbal fights.
I'm also dealing with the disappointing feelings I have in myself because I feel like I become a similar toxic version of my mother with all of the emotional instability and volatility. I know I haven't been keeping up with my mental health well besides just maintaining my states and not getting stressed. I honestly feel scared looking inside sometimes and after a bit I felt like, "I'm always needing to be improve something for you" and in the beginning it was shame-based yet felt like a memorable martyr in a sense cause I 'killed the go' for love despite it turning into rejection sensitivity and getting de-motivation cause I let myself double down. THE POST SUMMARY
TLDR; Young married individual currently navigating an unrequited separation with actionable tips to minimize dwelling or depression if possible amidst still living together.
I'd hope we can get marriage counseling but have decided one of the best ways to radically split is to bear the pain without the idea of 'hope' getting in the way cause you might feel safe and not do it for the best reasons including chasing someone's external validation over your needed internal victories.
Earlier today I told my father-in-law how I was feeling through a piece of paper and some of it was translated including the online secrecy with romantic and sexual conversations, ignoring me most of the day, feeling unsure about staying here, etc. He justified it if it wasn't physical cheating yet don't agree with that as that's something you discuss with your partner before.
I know all of this sounds like pretty much a lot and why am I even wanting to stay but whatever advice you can give I'm willing to hear it. Just try to be considerate despite feeling like this is a 'stop' sign.
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2023.06.06 17:30 YoMrPoPo I wish this was satire
2023.06.06 17:30 Specialist_Mine1767 This might disturb you but it’s true.
Has anybody met a person by the name of Abhishek Anand, who 10/15 days after meeting you, claims to be the devil by doing some sort of magic on you, and leaves some sort of jinn/spirit in your soul that constantly annoys all the time no matter what you do? Like trying to make you kill yourself, or telling you to do absolutely objectionable things to yourself/people around? Whatever he has left in me talks to me, doesn’t even let me walk straight at times and tells you Shit that isn’t true? He tells you to have sex to remove that magic (through that jinn) but I did and it’s still here. It’s been 2 years I’ve been facing it and I’ve been to temples and shit but nothing happens. I’ve told people but they don’t believe me. That person wanted me to sell my soul to him for weird ass favours like money all that through potions and Shit. Does anybody at all know about this? I can go on and on but it’s really disturbing and I’m not making Shit up nor I’m crazy. (I’m a 25 yo Lawyer in Supreme Court FYKI) thanks
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2023.06.06 17:29 VB112 Should I (16M 55kg 160cm) work out?
This may sound dumb, but is it okay to not work out?
So I (16M) never really cared about working out and staying fit. I am not fat, but I am not fit either. However recently my gf started talking about how she wants to go to the gym. I didn't understad why she would want to do that because she is skinny already. I told her I am hapoy for her, because I am trying to be as supportive as possible. However I started thinking about how weak I am and how everyone is going to the gym except me. I looked at my body and thought how lazy I am. You could say "well, if you don't like your body, you can go to the gym like your gf!" and that sounds great, but I don't have money (my parents give me money very rarely), I don't have much time (I live far from any gyms andthe closest one is in a different city than my school, so I would have to get back from school and then go to the gym, which also sounds okay, but my school is 1 hour from my home by bus) and I am anxious. I am feeling horrible about myself. I would like to be fit so much, but I know that even if I had the money, the time and the self-confidence I would still fail. I don't want to look bad next to my gf. I don't want people making fun of me, because I'm weak. I don't want people to make fun of my gf, because her bf is weak.
Should I start working out at home? Or should I wait until I can afford to go to the gym? Or should I wait untill I have my own place to stay and then go to the gym? Feel free to give me suggestions. Also, just to clarify, I just want to look good and be a little stronger, I don'twant to be ultra ripped.
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2023.06.06 17:29 EmpiricSpirit Am I still trans if I stop taking hrt?
I was on estradiol for almost 2 years and I loved every single change but a few.
- I gained al ot of weight on estradiol. I ran on the treadmill daily but my endo said that it increased my insulin resistance (or decreased I cannot remember).
- He also said it might cause hypothyroid as my mom had it and dementia/stroke as my grandma had it and that with my dad's heart issues I am like very at risk
- and the scale showed 110kg. I was obese! I was 70kg before transition. I know I gained a lot more than my other trans friends.
- My anxiety disordre got stronger on estradiol
- The worst thing was that I really couldn't go out as a girl. I was able to only do it a few times and I felt really really happy when I did that. But people looked at me and I saw it in their eyes that they will never see me as a girl. Whenever I tried to talk to a guy he said "I'm not gay" I tried to flirt with a guy who would have sex with ANY girl, but nope he said "I ain't gay and you look like a guy with tits". That made me cry too.
- And my girlfriend (we're poly) said she doesn't feel safe in this cconservative small town if I wear female clothes outside. I didn't pass enough to pretend I wasn't trans. And this town is very clear on the politics and my mom said I couldn't do that, and I already have a strained relationship with her
- Everyone says I got fat. I was anorexic once (40kg) and it really really triggers me.
So I'm off from estradiol for a year now. Can I still even consider myself a trans girl? Or a girl? I will probably never pass- i started too late. I fought so hard to get diagnosed and get it prescribed but it now all seems like a waste.
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2023.06.06 17:29 supertutti Is there a way to change enrollment adviser?
I completed my application weeks ago. I submitted all transcripts 4 weeks ago. I had my first call with the advisor 3 weeks ago, and he said we would chat every week same time. The following 2 weeks he never called, does not pick up the phone, or respond to emails. My transfer credit analysis has not been completed still and I have no idea how to move forward.
Any advice on how to proceed?
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2023.06.06 17:29 Tasty_Ranger_1868 Can finance terms be changed once contract is signed?
Hello all! Apologies if this sort of question comes up a lot. Three days ago i closed on a used 2021 Rav4 from a Hyundai dealership (i’m in Alberta). Budget was around $35k; the car’s price $36,500. Test drove, all was fine, started to talk numbers. I put 10k down + 5k trade-in, if that matters. They presented all the add-ons - a $3600 package that includes oil changes; another $1500 for car protection (paint, 3M tape, etc) - I rejected all but the mandatory admin/financing fees.
Met finance mgr who tried to upsell oil changes again, plus other stuff, but i said no. I was there over 4 hours, in and out of the mgr’s office, waiting for financing approval and such. I even complained i was tired and hungry, hoping they’d speed things up. I tried to keep vigilant on the papers, and even spotted some extra charges they casually tried to slip by me. Finance mgr said they’ll gift me some of the protection for free anyway, like the 3M tape and some coating or the other.
Eventually signed everything, awaiting pick up in a few days. Was so busy over the next 2 days, I only just now brought up the bill of sale to go over again. I saw car price was set at $41,000! Looked around and saw that they still added the protection and maintenance packages ($5,100!!!) which I declined several times. I should’ve known as the bi-weekly payments were way more than I’d estimated.
It goes without saying - I messed up big time. I was not sharp in looking over the documents and somehow missed this glaring addition. Financing is processed, bill of sale signed, auto payments start in a week, i pick up the car tomorrow. While i await the finance mgr who’s away from office till later today, i’m here asking for advice. Can anything be done at this point?? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
Oh and I put down $1,000; have not paid the rest of the $14,000 including trade-in yet. Also, I was given 8.99% interest rate “because the banks typically don’t give less for purchases less than about $35k”. Well turns out my purchase was for 41k so…
(I messed up and am well aware, so dear Redditors, have mercy!)
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