Therabreath whitening mouthwash before and after

Op 23 (m) MIL 60 Gf Mars- 23 (f) FIL 60
Me and my gf live in Gainesville, and her family live about 2 hours away. Our compromise is visiting every other weekend rather than every weekend. We really only visits because her mom and brother like to have us over but I have never felt at home or comfortable when her dad was around. He constantly will downplay what I say, or he will if I complain about something, no matter what it is, he will take the other person's side. I have spent the past 3 years of my relationship trying to keep him happy.
Last weekend was MILs birthday and we had just spent the weekend down but no one made plans to celebrate it the weekend of, but the Monday afterward. I had work that Monday but not Tuesday which was her actual birthday so mars asked if we could change it. I thought changing it would be too much so asked if she didn't mind dropping me off back home (2hrs away) and she could drive back. But (to make a long story short) it just got pushed back to Tuesday.
The dinner was fine until FIL showed up. He asked "What is everyones favorite memory with MIL?" I just made something up because I couldn't think of anything. But Mars just started crying. Her dad was slightly mocking when she could not come up with anything. FIL then proceeded to say "mine is always the day after today." I took mars outside so we could take a breather. We finished dinner but ever since I walked back in the restaurant her dad was looking at me like with disgust.
We went home to grab a backpack and go back to Gainesville but right as we were leaving FIL grabbed my stomach (not hard) and jiggled it saying "you need to loose weight" I had expressed before then to everyone in that house that I was tired of him commenting on my weight, I was tired of him putting his hands on me, and I was tired of him being so condescending. So I just said "Yup!!" Turned and slammed the door.
On the drive home I told my gf that I do not want to see him again. "I have spent 3 years sucking up to this man, I'm not doing it ever again. I don't want to see him at all." We both agreed it would be hard to have a relationship without him in it so we talked about splitting up and decided to stay together.
WIBTA for not going back on the weekends and essentially dropping out of her life outside of Gainesville? We agreed our relationship might not work if I did. And I do love her. I just can't keep doing this.
Tldr: FIL made gf cry and called me fat, WIBTA if I cut off ALL contact with her family?

So I have this math problem, quite literally. This is related to a creative project that I can't move forward with beyond a certain point until I get these numbers. I'm not math-minded at all (not even 100% clear my flair is accurate) and tried to just start this using arithmetic and my phone calculator, but it's so easy to make errors and then mess the whole thing up. Also....it would take forever.
The scenario:
Let’s say there are four people: Andy, Billy, Carl, and Don. A, B, C, D.
They never die, but each will age up to a certain point that never varies and then start to age backwards. (This all happens at the same rate, as in, 1 year = 1 year. So they’re the same age twice in a “life,” and they live double the amount of time they would have otherwise without this scenario.)
Once they hit the point where they would have been newborns, they will start to age upward. For lack of a better term, I’m calling that newborn baby value “0,” since they haven’t hit age 1 yet.
The values where each starts to age/run backwards is =
A=79, B = ? C=69 D=20
Let’s call that the Turnaround Point or T Point. (B’s T Point is undetermined as of now.)
Their ages “at this moment” are:
A= *32, B = *23 = C =24 D=19 (close to T Point)
Let’s call these values above the "Base Point" or "B Point" because all the age range values I’m looking for are based on “X years before [Base point]” and “X years after [Base Point.]”
The * means that this person is at a stage where their age is running backwards, i.e. they’re a year younger each year rather than older. No * means they’re aging upward, like normal people, toward their T Point.
Examples:
In five years: (after B Point) A = *27, B= *18, C= 29, and D= *15.
In 10 years: A= *22, B= *13, C= 34 and D= *10.
In 20 years, A=* 12, B = *3, C= 44, D= 0 (newly “born” baby)
In 25 years, A = *7, B= 2, C= 49, D= 5.
​
10 years ago (from B Point): A =*42, B=*33, C = 14, D= 10
15 years ago= A= *47, B=*38, C = 9, D = 5
20 years ago: A=*52, B=* 43, C = 4, D= 0
So the problems:

1. What is/are the formula(s) that will tell me what all these values have been and will be for, let’s say, 100 years before and after the B Point? I want to plot it all on an Excel sheet/Google Sheet. By 'formula,' I suppose I mean a math formula and not an Excel formula (that's a problem for another day.)
2. I don’t think it’s the case, but are some (or all) of the T Points predetermined due to the ages of A-D at the B Point? No…I don’t think so, right? That wouldn't make sense, right? The T-Point (person B) can be anything I want so long as it always stays the same like it does with the others. (That’s why I’ve held off on B’s T Point.)

I have no doubt something in this question is unclear, so I'm ready with clarifications. Thanks in advance!

I moved into my best friend’s (18F) house with her family earlier this year. It was the perfect solution after I dropped out of college because I have a shitty family and don’t really have anywhere else to stay. Her family was so kind and said that it would be fine as long as I did some chores, which I was more than okay with.
They have two dogs, a third that might be joining soon, and because of work no one really takes care of them. It was originally my best friend’s responsibility, but she recently got two jobs and often works doubles. Plus, she has really bad depression which I understand makes it hard to take care of them. Her mom (45F), who surprised everyone with the dogs, is a CEO of her own company and works full-time. My friend’s brother and his partner also live in the house, but they’re mildly allergic.
The dogs became my responsibility, before I moved in but especially afterwards. But they’re a huge handful, and a massive responsibility. They’re both untrained adults, and one has severe anxiety that has makes it so difficult to potty train. I try and do the best I can, but I’m disabled, so doing things like taking them on walks is really difficult. I feel really bad that I can’t properly care for them, but no one else even tries so I know I’m the best caretaker they’ve got. I want to tell the family to start taking care of them or find a family friend who wants them, but I’m worried that I’m just overreacting. I honestly just feel grateful that I have a roof over my head.
The third dog used to be their family dog, but stayed with their dad after their divorce. He’s very neglectful though, so they’re going to bring him here. I obviously want him to be properly taken care of, but I don’t want to spend all day every day taking care of them. I feel like they’re not even my dogs.
Do I say something? Whose responsibility would it be? As an outsider, I don’t want to tell them to get rid of their family dogs but I can hardly handle two, let alone a third.
TLDR: I’m the sole caretaker of my friend’s family dogs, because they all work. They’re a massive responsibility, and with conversation of a third I’m almost at my breaking point. Is it my place to tell them to take responsibility or find a new owner?

This post is not meant to glorify this behavior. I am sharing my personal experience and have already reported this to authorities. Below I will include a list of things and how they do it, including my experience as their subject.

1. My family is being held hostage by multiple people in town. I have found wired in the ceiling that are transmitting a frequency.
   
2. First they gather a bunch of personal information on you and look at your daily patterns. Your pattern of movement, speech, emotional patterns, etc.
   

For me, this included using my friends and family

1. Then they start to ask you open ended questions to see how you would respond. They want to associate a noise, word, smell, sight, or taste to something in your pattern.
   
2. After that they will try to recreate that situation on a repeated basis. So let's say you open a door a certain way, they will associate a sound with the opening of that door. They will then take that sound of the door opening and tie to something like an emotional response by greeting you the same way each time.
   
3. Once there is that pattern going. They will then see how you are after the pattern is established and carry on from that point. Say you have 7 patterns in the day. They want to take one pattern, and turn it to 2 and then to 3 and so on.
   
4. Then from there, they can start to emotionally manipulate you. They will change the patterns to love you around in a way that they can control you.
   

By now this sounds like a pavlovian response. Training a dog to a sound cue, however the next part is where it gets disturbing and my current situation.

1. If you take a sound cue and associate it with an emotional response, thats parenting. However you can then tie that sound cue to an emotional memory of the emotional response. Ie you go sound cue > emotional response > emotional memory > emotional response of that memory > and then you can tie that to an emotion itself.
   
2. The ability to get to an emotion to present itself through a sound cue or other sense, is a powerful thing. Now emotions are tied to many things, so you've created a window of opportunity to tie that sound cue to multiple parts of the brain.
   
3. Once that cue is in the brain and your brain fires a synapse, then you can start to stress that part of the brain repeatedly. You can then tie it to another part of the brain that holds a different memory with that same emotion so long as you can make the connection between the two.
   

Here is where I am at currently.

1. If you tie a cue to an emotion, an emotion to another emotion, and then make those connections. What happens when you start to play with that connection? If you increase the frequency of the cue, or speed, will the synapse fire differently. The answer is yes. Then you take the pitch of that sound and move that around in order to create "higher" or "lower" connections in the brain.
   
2. You can start to tie cues to different aspects of human nature once you reach a high enough frequency. I'm going to use sound for the next example, because sounds frequency can be fired more than smell or taste or the other senses.
   

Currently, I have found wires in the ceiling of my grandparents house. Where I lived previously, I had started to become targeted and thought I needed to move. When I got to my grandparents, I saw the same thing happening. They were using the same words and phrases, they were constantly watching me.

1. For example, take bird calls or bird chirps. You tie those to an emotional state. We'll call it pattern 1. That pattern becomes stronger the more the chirps are reinforced and the more you can call back to that pattern with those chirping noises. Then, you increase the frequency or speed of them. Then you increase or decrease the pitch depending on which part of the brain you are trying to target.
   
2. It's one thing to tie a sound to an emotion. But what if you tie a sound to an emotion to a smell and you tie the original emotion to your biological clock.
   

So it looks something like this
Sound to emotion That sound > second emotion > a smell That original emotion > series of emotions > and once you have those series of emotions you can tie them to something like motor skill since your body will have generally the same response to similar emotions.
So the pattern is 1. Sound > second emotion > smell 2. Emotion> series of emotions > motor skill So the final output is 3. Smell > motorskill
14. When you amp up or decrease sound that is tied to a motorskill, then you have a window of opportunity into almost anything in the body. The reason for this is because you can then tie back that biological function to more words. When you get someone repeating a pattern enough and focused enough on the environment, you are then able to get that person to follow almost anything you do.
The wires in my family's home have been transmitting a higher and higher pitched frequency. I mean literal wires put in the house in order to target me. I believe it's because I stumbled into a place where a group of people who I'll call "Their Family" works. I say that because they call each other by brother and sister, they have birthdays and they communicate like a family would , with their own language.
From what I know, they're involved in many different aspects of crime. Drugs, prostitution, laundering, murder, extortion, etc.

1. With your words, senses, memories, motorskills all tied to something else, then you can start to manipulate their body. The reason I bring up this "family" is because they share these insights with each other. They pass around cues for people and do their best to manipulate and control people. This isn't something that a single person can do on their own, they need more than one in order to make sure that every aspect of the body can be tied down. Remember those 7 patterns I brought up? Well they try and take up as much of that space as possible. So it's not like one part of your daily routine is messed up and you can move on, they will find every aspect of you and keep you where they want you.

16. From what I've gathered, there are multiple ways to kill someone with this. Im going to share two that I know I'm being targeted with, although there are more.

1. The first is causing someone to have their eyes and brain become incredibly sensitive to light. I know of this one because I have unknowingly been through this before which is why I am able to put together so much and see what is happening.

2. The second is heart attack. If you have the ability to control motorskills then you have the ability to constrict or expand blood vessels. If you have the ability to constrict or expand vessels, then you can move energy throughout the brain, and this includes the ability of tying new thoughts and memories together.
17. The ability to move things around in the body, that is the primary thing they are after. What they mostly need is a cypher, or more fittingly a one way cypher. You tie words to words, and you mix all their words up so that you can understand what they're saying but they can't. Similar to how a child gets parented.
18 The way they start is with, "who, what, when, where, why, how, how come"
19 You can tie a question like "when are you going" to "what are you doing", and if it's a question you ask out of nowhere and you expect their response "going where?" Then you tie the word "where" to something like "who"
20 So you have them essentially saying "doing who?" And then you go on with the pattern like that with their words. You obscure the words through whispers, making their ears sensitive to sound, and if the pattern starts to become really engrained then you can make them hear their own words in the environment which can slow or speed their movement. You can also tie hearing their words in the environment to something like sensitivity to light or muscles that control blood flow.
21 Then there is a feedback loop with having someone hear themselves in the environment. If you have someone get used to hearing themselves in other people's speech, if you have a group of people, then you can rotate those words around their head in varying levels of volume. That is one way to obscure.
In my personal experience, the wires in the house are part of my feedback loop. When you have a high enough frequency then the frequency gets transmitted through the metal framing. Any sound you associate with a certain level of frequency, becomes another layer of the pattern. So you can whisper words underneath other words in order to get someone to fire two different parts of the brain at the same time.

English isn't my first language
For a bit of backstory
I (25F) met my now boyfriend (35M) 2 years ago, he got married to E (38F), after she got pregnant at 18, they were high school sweethearts
E cheated on my bf, but they decided to try and work it out and go to couples counseling, yet this didn't stop E from cheating again (with one of her daughters coworker non the less), and her reasoning for this was that she was dissatisfied with intercorse.
i met my bf through a mutual friend at the time he discovered the affair .
we decide to take things slow (understandably) but after 6 months he divorced E and we started to date officially.
my bf's daughter J(20f) and I became very close all things considered, yet she didn't have the best relationship with her mother even going NC after the divorce was finalized, yet a couple of months ago they rekindled their relationship.
a couple of days ago J threw a family dinner celebration at our place and she invited her mom which I never met properly. when she arrived I greeted her, she asked if I was one of J's friend and I told her I was her ex new gf, after which she became a little catatonic.
during dinner things were relatively ok, with some backhanded remarks from E, from what I was wearing, to my make up, and my profession (I'm a seamstress). they went from the usual "I love your confidence" to "I love what you're wearing I would have never guess you'd be that good at sawing" and so on, I decided to ignore her as I thought she wasn't worth the energy.
when the cake came out I decide to make a post to J (that I prepared before hand) where I basically said that she wasn't just my bf's daughter but a great friend and a great person, and she was a reason my last 2 years were amazing; when I said that E did some math and realized that I met my now bf when they were separating.
not even 2 seconds after I finished E stood up to make her own toast talking about how J decided to stop talking to her for in favor of a homewrecking men ( I am trans MtF) who needed married man to feel satisfied, that's when I lost, my bf grabbed my hand and was going to stand up and leave but before he could get up I started to laugh hysterically, and told E that she was nothing but a stupid whore who wrecked her own home, that sacrificed her husband and daughter for a bearly legal guy, that most likely gave her attention just because of a cougar kink, and that she's just jealous that the people she made miserable are finally happy.
needles to say the dinner ended soon after.
the next day I called J to apologize, after all it was her birthday, but she said she understood why I reacted that way, and that she will most likely cut contact with her again.
after she said that I felt super guilty, not only for J but also because I slut shamed her idk I just can't help but to feel a little guilty.
so AITAH?

For a long time my boyfriend didn't really try to translate and just switched to his language when I was around. I voiced it over a year and things started to change. he started to include me and switch to english. After a very unpleasant carride with an actress of his who speaks fluent english, even lived abroad I got really grumpy because for one hour she just spoke their language, called him honey and in the last 3 minutes switched to english and he didn't try to switch or include me. I voiced my issue strongly and after that he really tried.
We were at a party of his play recently and all of the people speak english, one even my language in B2. Except for the guy who speaks my language when I tried to communicate with people it ended after two sentences from their side, they switched back and such. my boyfriend reallyb tried to switch, answering in english but they stayed persistently with their language. Obviously I don't ask for them to only speak english but this party has left me feeling quite isolated and lonely again. I treid saying that to my partner, while saying that I appreciated so much how much he was including me and that it wasn't on him, but that the lack of openess from the theatre people we met so far, except for that one guy, that also speaks my language, is really getting to me. Now he said if I can't be happy with it he won't take me to these parties anymore cause he is done feeling like a babysitter, he wants a partner who can navigate life themselves. Mind you at parties with english speaking people or my language I am open, can talk to people separately and we did experience that together before. He also once was grumpy after a party we went to because he didnt understand everything that was said.
Should I just accept that this is the situation at the moment and when I am more language proficient I join again?
It really pains me, and he also said that, that I can't be a part of his theatre world because I am a foreigner and I don't understand it and the language (i am also an actress so that I get). It's also one of the most difficult languages and he knew my language even before we met. I feel like due to general relationship issues he has no empathy for me anymore with my feelings afterwards- but apart from that I also want to learn how to not put it on him, handle it myself. I also struggle with being here so much because I don't have a life here and when I just mention that I am a bit lonely or the party got to me he says I can leave if I am so unhappy here. We planned to move in together in 2 weeks in another country so that period with me being here for basically 3 months is over but even though I know this it is a bit hard
And I think he is angry that I am feeling that way because he is moving soon- but even before he was angry with that and the longest he spent at my place was 2 weeks, I spent months here or weeks because sometimes I went away for 3 to 4 days.
I am kind of looking for advice on how others dealt with this. He also has some fear about moving and that formed the last month of our relationship a lot because I just got a big job, he doesnt have one yet and even though he wants to move either way, with or without me, he is very afraid and fears that he is dependent on me and looses his autonomy

I've started randomly getting some symptoms that , after googling, might be herpes.
The thing is I haven't had any risky sex in months, I'm doing ldr with my girlfriend. My girlfriend definitely doesn't have herpes either.
However I initially had some random bumps all over my hand, with yellow type rashes on my hands.
I've started feeling a tingling sensation on specific parts of my mouth and nose at different parts and the tingling is starting to hurt. I bought aciclovir cream just in case it was herpes (I've never had it before) and have been applying it almost every 30 minutes. I'm in a state of hyper vigilance so anything I see looks like herpes to me. I have red spots on my penis that I hope to god isn't herpes too. I've been trying to get a diagnosis but all doctors say you have to have lesions first to do a swab test on it. Which I don't think I have developed those yet.
Is there a way I got it on my hands and spread it to my mouth and genitals?
The reason I'm so scared of having it is that I've not been unfaithful AT ALL but suddenly am getting herpes symptoms after not seeing my girlfriend for months.
could it be the aciclovir cream that's causing me pain, tingling and redness rather than herpes?
I'm going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now, I hope anybody can answer my questions or provide reassurance

I (23F) have a coworker "Luke" (30M) who has been consistently making me uncomfortable.
I started my position almost a year ago, and he seemed to be interested in me quickly. He asked me out and I said no but he continued to ask "so when are we going to the gym?" almost everyday for weeks.
Anyway, we work in a job where you can do most things by yourself, but sometimes you need a second person. He needed a second person and asked if I could put myself on the job with him. Another coworker offered his help, but Luke said "no, I want op."
I had tried to keep the peace and be nice, but since that seemed to make him think I felt the same way, I became mean to him. I know I'm the ah for this part, but I thought it would work. Unfortunately, it had the opposite effect, because now he was saying things seemingly to get a reaction out of me, like telling me he was going to miss me if I took a different turn than him.
Some other coworkers (all women) thought it was super funny when I was mean to Luke, and they would also make comments simply so that I would react vehemently to them.
This ended in Feb when 2 of the girls were no longer there, and Luke stopped coming on so strong.
Luke asked me why I'm so mean to him and I finally told him the truth, that I was uncomfortable and I'm trying to push him away. His friend told me he probably likes it when I'm mean to him though, which is why it wasn't working.
He stopped for awhile, but within the last month its ramped up again and now it feels worse. I stopped being mean to Luke because I didn't want my other coworkers to think I'm a bully. Now that I'm "nice" again, he's taken it as an invitation to flirt some more. He asked me if I like horror movies. I don't. He says "don't worry I'll hold you."
We had a job with a patient that we had to lay flat. I was standing right next to the controls. He was standing to my right. Before I could start putting the head down, he reaches around me so I'm completely encased in his arms. He is still holding the bed rail on my right and pressing the button on my left, so I have nowhere to go.
He shames me loudly in front of other people for asking him for things and when I do it myself, he offers me what I asked for. I deny it and he says "why you gotta be like that?". Or he'll say "this isn't like you".
He also does things that he feels should be done by men even though I can handle it myself. Basically, if I'm already in position, and he's already in the opposite position, he'll come over to where I am and say, "I've got this, go do the other thing". Even after I tell him no, he'll insist until I move.
He's been here much longer than I have and all our coworkers like him. I'm worried about the backlash I may receive if I were to escalate this issue since everyone else probably thinks it's nbd as well. But I also want it to stop and I don't know how to make it stop.
So WIBTA if I reported my coworker for his uncomfortable behavior?

So I PMOd before a sparring session and I felt 10x weaker, just after a minute or 2 I was gassed out and felt weak. Do you guys think theirs any correlation ?

First off I know this does not apply to every single bio mom, but certainly in my own situation & thousands of other accounts i’ve heard.. She was extremely toxic in their relationship and coerced him into having a child - at the end of the day he did end up agreeing to it, but she broke down at him constantly when he kept telling her he wasn’t ready, threatening her own well-being locking herself behind doors that he literally had to bust down to make sure she was okay(manipulation to the max, she wasn’t actually doing sh*t) saying that a baby is all she needed to be better over and over and over. They broke up shortly after SK was born.
Before my partner and I got together, HCBM tried to maintain a “friendship” with my partner with basically no boundaries. Would message him about random sh*t going on in her life not pertaining to SK, games she would play that they used to play together, asked him to join a gym with her a few times (while she was already engaged in a new relationship) which he politely declined.
The day she found out I was moving in with my partner, she sent a request into our states family court for his child support payments to be raised. That was just the start of our fun journey. Since then almost every text message comes with an attitude. Saying that he’s been a bad father and coparent from the time that he started a relationship with me, without directly including my name but we all know exactly what she meant. When this is actually the opposite, when I moved here he started seeing his son for longer periods at a time than before. So things actually got better, but I guess not for a delusional mind. Then he opted to delete her off social media since her messages started getting snippy, wanted to keep things more formal to hopefully maintain more straightforward structure in conversations by just speaking through text. She freaked out and said he is treating her like garbage, ignoring his son, and asking for “the REAL reason” he deleted her, “not this b*llshit you always give me”. All over a social media unfriending, which has nothing to do with their coparenting at all. I’m terrified of her reaction when she finds out we are getting married. Not because we care about her opinion, but because her wrath and bitterness is unfortunately unavoidable since communication obviously has to continue for the sake of SK and she will 1000% let her feelings be known. My partner hates conflict and whenever she starts with her moods it just gets him upset because he doesn’t want to have to deal with it/it’s impossible to rationalize with an irrational person. We have to let her throw a tantrum and then take the high road every time, its exhausting to say the least. So just wanted to vent there first for a bit I guess, but really I am wondering why being a mother doesn’t make people more civil regarding their coparent.. why are they always so bitter?! At the end of the day all the conflict these kinds of people cause only ends up hurting the child. I just can’t comprehend it.

Played this game religiously through the first few months after launch, never had so much fun playing Anytning before or since then, ended up stopping as there were 10-15 min wait times every game blah blah, as soon as I saw it was going dead I figured I’d hop back in for the last few days, needless to say I’ve missed out on some incredible maps, new balls & more, think the game is 100x better now than it was before free to play and will be sad to see it go, thanks for the many late night knockouts 💚

I slept in today, well I woke up early at around 6:30am because pup woke up and wanted to be let out of my room but then I went back to sleep. I was just so comfy and cosy in bed so I stayed til just before 10, though I wasn’t really asleep after 9, I was scrolling through auction catalogues for Webbs and whatnot. And then I did get up and I made some breakfast, I had peanut butter on toast because I don’t ever buy peanut butter at home so it’s nice to sometimes have it. And I also had a coffee. I’ll have to go out the back of the garden and see if there are any feijoas on the tree as I think I’d fancy some while I’m here. It’s very cool and crisp and sunny today. I forgot to bring any sunscreen so I’m a bit stressed about that and mum only has some but it’s kind of stingy on my skin so idk. I’ll just loiter in the shade like a wee lil vampire today and try find something at a chemist tomorrow. I find it odd that people find it odd that I wear SPF every single day, even not leaving the house. Like the sun is deadly, especially in this country, so mock me all you want for prioritising SPF and shade and all that but I don’t care. I’m taking care of my health and my skin. I hope when I’m sixty my skin will still be soft and supple and less wrinkled and then all the people that mocked me will be leather sun spotted lizards. No I don’t hope for that at all, not the latter part anyway, that’s just mean. I’m absolutely not a sun worshipper, I like to get some sun because you need it and it feels nice for short periods of time, but I don’t bask in it and never have. I don’t like it and it stresses me out a lot as I just think about my skin cells turning rancid and cancerous and the skin damage occurring. If you want to age well, you wear SPF and avoid the sun for the most part. But so anyway, quite a slow morning and it’s nice.
Mums godmother or cousin, I never know which, is coming around for tea today and I have noticed a marked difference in how I feel about someone coming over and a surprise social thing happening. To be fair I did know last night and started to feel anxious and I was planning out all the usual things like where I’ll sit or stand when she arrives and how I’ll say hello and what I should do and how I should behave and say and so on, but it was much much less than usual and today I didn’t have my irritable anxiety thing where I get snappy because I’m going so berserk internally and idk I just do. I don’t like it and it’s not fair on those around me, close people anyway, I’d only snap at people like my parents and I guess Andy. I don’t snap at anyone else but I’m more myself with the other three, I feel safer I guess with those three? I don’t know. It’s not fair that I snap anyway, not at all fair. But so I reacted so much better today, I was still on edge and I was still far from relaxed but I felt… better. And it was noticeable to me. And as I write this now I’m properly realising how different I would have felt a year ago and it’s making me cry as I write this. Sometimes (often) I feel afraid that I’ll never change and better myself, I feel like I’m so stagnant in my progress at times and I feel like such a disappointment to myself and to Andy and to everyone else for how slow my progress is and I don’t know, just this feeling of noticing a change in myself makes me feel so overwhelmed and it’s making me cry more and it’s just I’m finding this whole process so hard. It’s challenging and it’s painful and I feel so defeated so much of the time but right now I feel so proud of myself. I know it isn’t enough change and I know I have so so much to go, but I just wanted to journal about this because it felt like a win and I don’t feel like I get many of those.
Anyway she arrived and she’s so lovely albeit a bit doddery and she got lost so dad drove around to find her and pick her up and mum walked her home as she’s house sitting nearby, she’s from down south I think. She kept looking at me and saying I look like mum then later say I looked like dad and so on. She said she remembers how shy I used to be and i was saying how that is still the case and she said that’s absolutely not a bad way to be and it made me feel nice. She’s really nice.
I took puppy for a walk today and he got very muddy so I had to hose him down outside and wrap him up in towels and he’s so wriggly and so cute. We really are so so so lucky to have this darling wee chap in our family.
How on earth could anyone cheat on Natalie Portman? NATALIE PORTMAN? Incredibly beautiful, crazy talented, I bet she’s lovely and I’m fairly certain she’s ridiculously smart too. Imagine landing a wife like that, mother of your children, and cheating on her. This is why I feel as though it’s inevitable I’ll be cheated on and I won’t ever be enough, because if someone like Natalie Portman isn’t considered enough, how on earth could I ever be considered as such? Her husband is such an f’ing idiot and rotten human being. Anyone who cheats on their partner is. If Andy ever cheats on me when we’re together I will actually gouge his eyeballs out and mash them with a potato masher. I obviously won’t do that. Gross. Gross. Also ouch. I feel mean even suggesting I would do that? I’ll never do that. Ever. I will leave his pretty eyes alone. I might scratch the bench top in his kitchen badly or scuff up the floorboards somewhere so he couldn’t get his deposit back or something though. You know what would be cruel? Mixing all his expensive fragrances up or adding some drops of vinegar to them or something. That’s pure evil, isn’t it? I wouldn’t do that. OR WOULD I? But no I wouldn’t. Unless he cheated on me with my best friend or something but that’s unlikely given I would need a best friend for that to happen. Anyway I’ll top being some maniacal evil genius now. He wouldn’t ever cheat on me. He would never. I’m so deathly afraid of it and I feel like it will happen but equally I cannot imagine him being that kind of man. Anyway. Shush. These thoughts are not helping me in any way - do I have a purpose for these thoughts? Is this me trying to make myself feel bad? Its time to move on from these thoughts.

Throwaway because my girlfriend follows me
Sally (19f) and I (19m) have been together since we were 15/16 and our relationship has been great, we are each other's best friend and we do everything together. When we first started dating we both went to same sex schools, me going to and all guys school and Sally going to an all girl's school. When we finished however we both ended up going to the same college, with me starting a year before her. That year was all good and all because we would hang out together all the time and with our own friends but the next year when I left is when it all changed.
I guess because I wasn't at the same school as Sally anymore she wanted to get new friends, which I'm all down for but her new best friend was a guy (Adam). It was alright at first with them sharing a class together and hanging out and lunch. But later on it progressively got more "intimate" with Sally giving Adam lifts home and driving him to school more and more, as well as texting which seemed to be every day. She would also be late to events we had planned together because she was still in the car with Adam outside his house after a few hours. Sally eventually did start to stop being friends with him because I caught a glance at her phone once and saw very sexual texts between them. Now it wasn't anything really bad just a message or two as a joke but I informed her that it made me very uncomfortable and it's not what you'd do with another guy while being in a relationship.
Around the same time Sally stopped hanging out with him she got a new guy best friend (Josh), this time from her work. Eventually the same thing started happening, she'd drive him to and from work, texting 24/7 and being late to events we had planned because she was still in the car with him at his house after a few hours. Now Josh is gay so I wasn't scared of her cheating on me much like I was with Adam. Eventually Josh had to move overseas and asked Sally to stay at his house to help him pack up and take him to the airport in the morning. She asked if it was alright and I said yes because I knew he was gay and nothing would happen, although I did tell he it still made me uncomfortable.
Almost as soon as Josh left she got her latest guy friend (Matt) who is also from her work and she started doing all those same things again. This time it was worse with Sally inviting Matt to hang out outside of work and vise versa. It got the point where she would see him more then she did me. Now I am pretty sure she isn't cheating and they are just friends but it's making me super uncomfortable. At some point Sally asked if it was alright if Matt and her went overseas for a few days to meet up with Josh. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that especially since I hadn't gone on any form of trip with Sally even though I've asked her lots of she would, but as soon as Matt asked to go somewhere she said yes. She did end up buying the tickets and they are currently on there 2nd day there.
A few extra things, I had told her multiple times over the past couple years while this had been happening that I was uncomfortable with her being that close to other guys but she has never done anything about it even after saying so. When I dropped her at the airport I was the 3rd wheel between her and Matt. Sometimes she sleep talks and one time I got woken up because she was talking about Matt in her sleep. I don't know if I'm just really jealous or if she's in the wrong but it's definitely affecting our relationship.
Sorry this post is a bit messy but since they are living in an Airbnb together and are overseas a lot of emotions have built up and I really needed to get this off my chest.

I'm writing this post to discuss some issues with the used market in tunisia (electronics in particular) and give some advices.
First of all, Let's address the elephant in the room, the pricings. People don't know the value of what they are selling, nor of what they are buying. Most people post their stuff for exagerated prices. And try to buy stuff for much less than it deserves. If you text them with a reasonable price. They'll respond with "mat5alasch sa7bi" or "prix fix". If they text you about your listing they allways give so much less and start roasting your product like it's the worst shit on the market. There is also another practise that some people do. They agree with you on a price. They meet you in real life, inspect the product, discuss a little bit, then say "chouf sa7bi ena taw 3andi ken hethouma chahriti mezelet matsabetch ken t7eb to5los taw haw 3andi hethouma makenchi rabi ijiblek l9asm" and other hilarious lies they can spit, And it happened to me personally. And it happens more with people older than you, they feel like the have the ability to do that shit without you raging or getting pissed off because "lezmek t9adar li akber menek". There are other shady practises out there that I can't recall right now but yeah...Overall Tunisians tend to be so tricky and greedy when it comes to the used market and they only think about themselves and ignore the other end of the deal.
Furthermore, There is the issue of condition. People tend to lie a lot about the condition of their product. They allways, ALLWAYS lie about how long it is used or what tasks they did on it or under which conditions it was performing. Don't believe a word from what a seller says. Always think rationally and look at the product objectively, inspect it yourself and do tests on it. And if the seller doesn't allow you to test it or start acting like you're wasting his time and don't give you enough details, then he's probably a scammer or flat out unprofessional that should be skipped.
Which brings us to the next point, which is the interaction and communication with the seller. Some sellers, do not give enough details about their product. They only answer with the bare minimum of details. And some of them try to evade questions like "why are you selling it?" , " when did you buy it and from who?" , " do you have any proof that you bought it from x store?". And some of them start acting like " melle5er chtechri walle?". Which is so bullshit. And don't get me started on the buyers method of communication, most of them be like " ti sa7bi el prcoesseur hetheka gdim yeser wma3adech y5adem chay wmaximum yetbe3 b dinar" then proceeds to suggest an even lower price.
Here are some advices for any one who's buying or selling used electronics.
If you're a seller; Be so precise and transparent about your product. Make a valid price that you think is adequate and reasonable ( Consult other markets and see for how much it usually goes on average) . Don't fall for those who suggest very lower prices ,most of them are greedy and want to hunt a deal and steal you basically. Be cautious about where you'll meet the buyer, Try to learn as much information as possible before making the deal. Always make a voice call before making any deal. And Don't go to far away from your area, There is always a high possibility that they'll not come. And always meet in public, in a safe place like "9ahwa" wala "jardin public". And maybe bring someone with you for extra security.
If you're a buyer; Get as much details as possible even it means annoying the seller. If he gets annoyed just dump him because genuine sellers care about the happniess of their customers and try to be as transparent as possible. Don't be submissive or shy, If the product is overpriced always negociate by making valid arguments and showing the seller other listings in the market tha have lower prices. Also don't go so low because that'll make the deal unprofitable and inadequate for the seller, Plus, you'll be a geeedy asshole and a headache. Always be reasonable and try to make a deal that makes both ends happy. Go for testing if there is testing. Watch guides on youtube or read articles about how to spot issues in a used unit whether its a phone, a pc part or whatever, there are allways guides everywhere. If the seller doesn't show videos and clear photos about the product, go inspect it on site, better than beeing scammed after a delivery. Finally, Record the calls, screenshot the chat, save the coordinates. You might need them if it turns out to be a scam.
In conclusion, There are many good people and many bad people in the tunisian used market. I interracted with people that were so caring and transparent and made great deals with them that I allways remember fondly and feel internal happiness because such people still exist. Some other times I interact with assholes that I wish to forget about and feel so stupid for trusting. I got scammed in the past, not once, But Also I got extremely good deals many times.
I wish that this post helped you get an insight on the tunisian used market. And I wish my advices will be of use to you. And please note that I may have missed something or was not accurate on some informations that I gave. You can suggest some additions or some edits to make this post better and more accurate.
Cheers!

I live with my partner and on a weekend we do the majority of the household chores. This morning we woke up around a similar time and I made us a coffee and was having breakfast. My gf only had a coffee, she didn't want breakfast and she went straight into chores once she'd finished her coffee. I went to the bathroom to trim my beard and get washed but she had already started cleaning it.
I did my chores and then my gf had an appointment so she went to that. I went into the bathroom and trimmed my beard and got washed. When she came back she saw 2 small hairs that I hadn't noticed when cleaning up after myself and started complaining that I knew she had just cleaned the bathroom and couldn't I do it another time. I pointed out she had started cleaning it before I had even finished breakfast this morning so I couldn't have done it before.
She said I should have waited for another day but I told her it needed doing today and she knows I trim it on a weekend. She just repeated I shouldn't have done it after she's cleaned it and now the bathroom isn't clean anymore but I just said it was only 2 hairs that I missed, it's hardly like the bathroom is messy. AITB for trimming my beard after my partner had cleaned the bathroom?

So me + 2 rushed (skipping most sidequests) the main story line and ended up hitting 50 basically at the last story quest.
We played world tier 2 the whole time, party was Druid/Sorc/Necro
So fresh account/world tier 2 + doing our best to make some/any build work for leveling; I expected to not feel OP but it was pretty harsh the whole way. Most late-story game bosses were 5m+ fights. Monsters scaling with our level works out about as you would imagine; you basically never -feel- any stronger, often you would feel weaker for leveling up. I remember realizing that I basically never felt any stronger than I did when I was level 1 fresh character lol. We did not grind/farm gear at any point, we mixed in a few Dead Mans Dredge occasionally to try and get a few upgrades but never found any GG items.
I was trying to appeal to the 'bucket theory'; but before launch I was hearing some of it may not be accurate. In that regard it was pretty confusing to try and understand how I was expected to scale my damage. They have put a lot of unintuitive damage scaling mods into the pool; no obvious way of knowing if that 40 INT line on my gear should be valued higher than that 20% core skill dmg/dmg to CC line. Eventually this information will end up on the wiki but for your casual audience I think they will have a hard time knowing what gear is better than the other.
We skipped all cut scenes, so were mostly just rushing dungeons. Was rare to run into any issues of not knowing what to do so that part was mostly smooth. HOWEVER leveling via the story quest, and I know we rushed and were doing so in an unintended way, but it was real boring lol. I was thinking at the end there how much I would hate to have to do that again on another char - which I know you don't have to, but then how will I be leveling that 2nd char? Just wandering in the world doing sidequests/dungeons? Idk this system seems wonky.
No issues with quests getting stuck; though was a constant worry because we were just mindlessly skipping dialog "maybe its bugged/maybe we're stupid"
Plenty of gameplay anomalies; most common and drastic one is taking a TP into the overworld and not being able to use any skills/mount etc. and having to relog to fix. GL to HC players lol.
Did not run into the butcher a single time; maybe he doesn't show up in story dungeons. Killed 1 world boss, the one who uses Portals^tm
Personal opinions/mostly stuff I don't think I like;
I don't like feeling like the skills I want to use are drastically worse than other skills; I don't mind not using the 'best' skill but with the skill choices being so limited already it really sucks that some of them are just 100% garbage without some significant investment. Necro Reap looks like an awesome skill but it's lucky hit chance is shit, it's base damage is shit and its resource gen is not great, it just summons corpses once every 5 seconds? I just don't see how that skill is going to find its place but we'll see.
I don't see why it takes so long to get a mount? Then after we got it most of the story quests were in areas where you couldn't even use it. lol.
To me a lot of the story quest felt very uninspired and lazy. Which would be fine since I was going to just skip any way. But some of it was felt like it was intentionally made more time consuming than it ought to have been. Idk how many dungeons/areas in the story we were literally just walking (cant mount underground) for 80% of the time with no monster spawns. Why did we fight that one weirdo literally like 5 times in a row? We played the hardest difficulty but I think we only found 1 or 2 fights that felt 'hard' mechanically. Most were pretty simplistic mechanics which posed almost no threat but were annoying. Teleporting bosses is a bad 'mechanic' and a big fuck you to classes/builds that have poor movement. Bosses with phases where they become invincible until you kill 5 other monsters around the map is a boring mechanic and was used ad nauseum. We did the whole leveling experience without EVER not even one time finding an item we got excited about. Since the world and drops and items all scale with your level I don't even know if finding an 'OP' item is possible. We farmed a very small amount half because we wanted to just beat the story and half because what is the point of farming any way when everything just scales with your level? Yea you might find a decent item but if you level up it just negates that increase of power from the item. Wonky system.
I think that's most of it, the jump from world tier 2 to world tier 3 wasn't very significant so maybe finally at 50 I can begin to start to 'feel stronger'. Never played a 'diablo-like' game where I played 20hrs and never 'felt stronger', idk how to feel about that lol.

Hey everybody, 18M , recently started noticing tinnitus about a month ago, I'm not too sure. I've had 2-3 concussions before, but they are all a bit too long ago for me to feel like they are an immediate cause. One last year, and one about five to three months ago. Neither one was real bad, but the concussion last year did make my ears ring a bit. The only thing I can think of is the fact that I tried mushrooms, and had a really bad trip. Has anyone had tinnitus show up after a bad psychological experience? I of course have damaged my ears a good amount through loud music, playing drums, and using headphones, but I don't necessarily have hearing loss that I can notice. I have yet to check in with an audiologist because health insurance but I can hear up to 14000 or so on a free HZ generator, not sure if that helps.
Can some peoples tinnitus be caused purely by posture? Pelvic imbalances leading to jaw imbalances which in turn effect the circulatory system around the ear? Anything helps, I'm new to this. Thank you .

I live with my partner and on a weekend we do the majority of the household chores. This morning we woke up around a similar time and I made us a coffee and was having breakfast. My gf only had a coffee, she didn't want breakfast and she went straight into chores once she'd finished her coffee. I went to the bathroom to trim my beard and get washed but she had already started cleaning it.
I did my chores and then my gf had an appointment so she went to that. I went into the bathroom and trimmed my beard and got washed. When she came back she saw 2 small hairs that I hadn't noticed when cleaning up after myself and started complaining that I knew she had just cleaned the bathroom and couldn't I do it another time. I pointed out she had started cleaning it before I had even finished breakfast this morning so I couldn't have done it before.
She said I should have waited for another day but I told her it needed doing today and she knows I trim it on a weekend. She just repeated I shouldn't have done it after she's cleaned it and now the bathroom isn't clean anymore but I just said it was only 2 hairs that I missed, it's hardly like the bathroom is messy. AITA for trimming my beard?

Last year I met a new coworker and we hit it off pretty well
We enjoyed each other’s company, laughed, shared stories, played games, and just… it was nice
I asked her out and started dating
However it didn’t last long and she told me she didn’t want to see me anymore
It was kinda abrupt I’m not really sure what it was but I respected her decision
Eventually she went away, she had to go back to college
But
Now I recently heard she is coming back in a few weeks AND…
I don’t like it
The reason why I’m saying this is because I don’t how to handle a situation like this
I know myself
I can be pretty jealous, I can be pretty emotional
I can’t avoid her I have to work with her for 8 hours
How can I put those feelings aside for the WHOLE summer?
My strategy right now is to just play it cool, act like it doesn’t bother me and act like we used to before we dated but those thoughts are still in my head
BE PROFESSIONAL
Truth be told… I don’t want to like her
Romantically of course
There a lot of things about her that are just red flags to me
I thought maybe after a few weeks I talk with her to just kinda clear the air out on what happened and maybe pick up where we left off if we can resolve it
But now… I don’t think I want that
I’ve been seeking love and validation from everyone but myself
I don’t think it’s her I like It’s the idea and those feelings I had when I was with her. She just happened to be the one who filled that void
The big problem is I don’t like myself. I’m never good enough for that mean voice inside my head and I constantly look for approval from those around me and depend on it for happiness
But I’ll be honest… part of me… really… really hopes we’ll get back together because i wouldn’t have asked her out if I didn’t feel strongly about her. I had never asked out a coworker up until that point
But I don’t want to dwell on that, I shouldn’t dwell on that
I shouldn’t focus on that
I need to focus on me
But at work man… oof
What the hell do I do?
Can’t quit, can’t transfer
Yeah I think I’ll play it cool, treat her with respect and kindness but keep my distance and whatever happens I’ll just have to accept it and move forward

after the break up i developed a panic attack whenever his name gets mentioned, my tummy starts turning and my hands starts to tremble. whenever i think about him, our moments together it makes me sick to my stomach and i start to have troubles breathing, whenever i think about what happened during our breakup, i could feel chest pains and endure a few minutes of sweating and shaking. at first i thought its just palpitations due to me drinking coffee (mind that i never experienced palpitations before even if i drink a lot of coffee) maybe its a side effect but i haven’t drank any coffee as of now and i only get these panic attacks whenever it is about him. i tried searching about this (may not be the best move but im desperate) the results were traumatic stress which may cause my panic attacks. i’ve come to conclude that maybe i need therapy or medical help as this breakup is so unhealthy for me. help, what do i do?