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2013.01.30 07:21 IIHURRlCANEII For .gifs that provide knowledge!

Gifs are great at getting quick to digest info, and /educationalgifs strives to give you educational info in this quick to digest format. From chemical processes, to how plants work, to how machines work, /educationalgifs will explain many processes in the quick to see format of gifs.
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2012.02.05 07:54 doginabathtub For photos that are, you know, mildly interesting

Aww, cripes. I didn't know I'd have to write a description. How many words is that so far, like a hundred? Soooo, yeah. Mildly interesting stuff. Stuff that interests you. Mildly. It's in the name, ffs.
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2016.04.01 20:31 Art Progress Pics

Post pics of how your art used to look and how it looks now.
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2023.06.03 02:01 YOW-Weather-Records During May 2023, Toronto-Pearson had 16 above median days and 15 below median days (by maximum temperature).

During May 2023, Toronto-Pearson had 16 above median days and 15 below median days (by maximum temperature).
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Records for 1937-11-01 → 2013-06-12 are from Pearson Airport ( https://climate.weather.gc.ca/climate_data/daily_data_e.html?StationID=5097 )
Records for 2013-06-13 → 2023-06-02 are from Pearson Airport ( https://climate.weather.gc.ca/climate_data/daily_data_e.html?StationID=51459 )
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2023.06.03 00:53 alicia_faye9 050723.0439 dear reader, you can understand now

i just feel alone.
i hate it so much. i cant tell it to anyone.
why
cant you tell i just said it in my head
no you didnt?
i cant keep telling them my problems i tell them and it seems like im making it about myself
you do that for [_]
i listen to her
she ignores when you look sad
. you cant expect her not to though she has things to do
its not all about you alicia youre talking to yourself you know youve really lost it
i cant get you out of my head
alicia stop acting sick its not normal
.nobodys going to see it al
then why dont you delete what you wrote each time clearly youre keeping it for some reason
im not i just want to keep it
why
i said i dont know
you cant expect me to read you all the time thats why i ask
okay
okay? is that all get help alicia if someone tried to read this theyd think youre _
with who
with anyone im saying you sound not normal
i dont know what to do i dont know ill drown myself in work will it help?
yes
and i need to i cant keep being this lazy
alicia you really believe i exist
i dont
youre writing so normally
no?
youre really saying that?
im not annoying anyone this way
youre worrying me
okay
i mean it
if im gone so are you
its okay
will i always be like this?
always its your fault no? you dont bother finding help
i want to talk so badly but i cant he doesnt give a damn anymore and our talks are so stilted it makes me want to cry but i cant do anything about it i brought it on myself and covered how bland and uncaring he was before
you dont deserve anyone alicia you mess it so much i hate watching
if you were there why didnt you just tell me why did you just listen
because youre not normal
thats what i meant why did you just listen
i didnt know what to do im still just you i dont know what i couldve said
you couldnt
no its okay dont worry about it you still have me and im not going anywhere
i cant tell who you are and if youre me
i know we became similar.
i cant help it i miss him you cant meet him anymore youre not together in anything dont [] please just work work and get there and pass and you can be with him no i cannot i cant do that to someone who will be [] i cant alicia i _ i dont know what to do alicia i dont know how to stop it you did though dont mention it here okay i wont its okay dont worry alicia youre safe with me
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About us; This project has started recently. A team with individually experienced players. IGL has experience building a team that went into ESEA Intermediate and reached some finals. We're currently looking to rebuild the team as the previous one fell apart. Our plan is to build a team until we're satisfied with the line-up, we're planning on doing a lot of practice and tournaments until Source 2 comes out, this way we will be consistent, in top shape and have a wide stratbook going into Source 2 and we then just need to adapt the gameplans to the new mechanics. We then play other leagues such as ESEA, SCL, etc... We currently also have an organisation backing us that will fund mostly all entry fee's, social media coverage, casters for matches, etc...
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Requirements; - Faceit 2500 elo - Active Duty map knowledge - Calm & likeable personality - Decent at speaking English - Availability starting from 7pm CET or earlier until at least 12am
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2023.06.02 23:29 xDoroko Constant worrying

Hey there, I am a first-time dog owner. I got Merlin (8y) from a rescue when he was 2 years old and I just love him so much. What I wanted to ask was, how do you cope with worrying about your dog? Maybe I am just too sensitive and am worrying too much, but he, his health and happiness are constantly on my mind. For example, about one or two months ago he was not really motivated for his usual walk. I have a "small round" of about 30 minutes and a "long round" of about 1,5h. Most of the time he pulls me towards the long round, but at said time, he did it almost never. I went to the vet with him and got his blood checked (he had some issues with low white blood cells exactly a year ago, which we never found a reason for, it just went back to normal) and his blood was alright. Again his white blood cells were lower than normal but they were similar to last year when they were on their way back to normal. He also had a problem with his stomach (the vet guessed reflux) because he had times were he was constantly licking and smacking his lips for about 30 minutes non-stop. Now he got his motivation back in the morning and likes his long round again. But during the day and in the evening I have to persuade him to go and then he only wants to walk shorter than is short round. But now he does not want to eat his wet food. I offer him food in the morning after the first walk and in the evening after his last walk. If he does not eat his food after ~15 minutes I take it away so it does not stand there the whole day. Around noon I try giving it to him again, sometimes with a little lactose-free milk, as he normally loves that. Today he did not even want that and he only ate his food after I handfed him some pieces. Now in the evening, I put down a fresh portion of food and he did not eat it again. These phases of not eating are not new to me but I worry every damn time. They normally last a few days and after that it is back to normal.
I know this was a lot to read and I probably sound like a total hypochondriac but I am so scared to overlook some clues that something is wrong with him. I just want him to be happy and healthy😔 How do you cope with the worrying and the not knowing?
Thanks for reading🫶
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2023.06.02 22:42 LingXioaran Is this some form of acne or something else?

I just noticed these bumps appearing on my face, and weren't sure how I got them. I generally keep my face clean, and I don't think I got them while shaving because some of them are in the area between my eyebrows and I didn't shave there recently. Does this look like an STD or is this something else? I already tried going to the ER and they didn't even look at it and won't give tests for STDs so that's out. And I currently have no time to just go to see a doctor because I'm so busy with work. Does anyone have any idea what this could be, does it look like any STD or just some skin issue like normal skin irritation or an allergic breakout or something?
Photos of the affected areas on my face: Chin, Nose/Upper Lip, Between Eyebrows
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2023.06.02 22:32 Kikan0320 I’m tired

I’m tired.
My relationship is in shambles, my job is a mess, and I have no direction in life. Im 28 years old and have nothing going for me. I’m not happy. I’m constantly feeling like I’m not going anywhere or accomplishing anything.
I just wish I could stop existing in this planet. I know I need to change, but I’m exhausted, and the idea of change just exhausts me more, so I’m just settling.
I want to leave this relationship but I don’t know how to do it alone. I don’t want to keep being a burden on my family. They’ve done enough.
I’m just… exhausted.
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2023.06.02 21:20 shawnp7 QSBS: LLC to C-Corp conversion at the time of VC funding to increase tax basis of founder stock?

As the QSBS exception is either $10M or 10X the cost basis, I am trying to increase the cost basis of my founder stock from $0 to $15M.
Step 1: Register my startup as an LLC now (when the company is valued at $0) and I retain 100% ownership.
Step 2: In 3 months (roughly) when I take on outside funding, I convert my LLC to C-Corp. Because of Section 351, this conversion will not be a taxable event.
Step 3: At the time of conversion, the tax basis is equal to the FMV of the interest held in the LLC that is exchanged for ownership in the C-Corp. So, for a founder even though I did not infuse any capital, my cost basis will be my ownership percentage of the LLC’s FMV at the time of conversion. At the time of conversion, the fair market value of the LLC that is being contributed to the C-Corp will be $15M (assumed pre-money valuation). FMV for a startup can be very close to the pre-money valuation in 409a analysis, that I used to do in my past life.
Step 4: After five years and three months, when I sell my company, my QSBS exemption will be $150M (10X of $15M)
I will reach out to a tax advisor before incorporating my company as the prospect of dramatically increasing the QSBS exemption is very tempting.
But I want to hear any thoughts people may have on this. Feel free to poke holes or ask questions. Thank you for your help!

Background research:
Per this article (https://frostbrowntodd.com/maximizing-the-section-1202-gain-exclusion-amount/), the LLC to C-Corp conversion allows the QSBS exemption to be as high as $500M.
Relevant section from the article:
“The enterprise value (which includes goodwill value) of start-ups can increase dramatically during the early years of operation. This creates a potential planning opportunity involving operating a start-up as a partnership for several years and then incorporating the partnership and in the process, issuing QSBS to the partners in exchange for their partnership interests. Both a partnership’s assets and partnership interests qualify as a property that can be contributed by a partnership or LLC to a C corporation (generally in a Section 351 exchange) in exchange for QSBS.
The planning opportunity afforded through the incorporation of a partnership arises out of the fact that for Section 1202 gain exclusion purposes, the tax basis of property contributed in exchange for QSBS is deemed to be the fair market value of the property at the time of contribution. If a partnership is incorporated, the enterprise value of the partnership’s business would generally be treated as the fair market value of the contributed property. So, if the owners of a business decide to operate a start-up through an LLC or limited partnership and incorporate the business only after the enterprise value has increased substantially, the 10X Basis Cap could substantially increase the owners’ aggregate gain exclusion.
Section 1202 also provides that when appreciated property is contributed in exchange for QSBS, the difference between the tax basis of the property and its fair market value for Section 1202 purposes does not qualify for the gain exclusion when the QSBS is eventually sold.
Here is an example of how the 10X Basis Cap works when a partnership is converted to a C corporation and QSBS is issued to the partners. If John Smith and Susan Jones operate their business as equal owners in the early years through XYZ LLC, and incorporate the business when the fair market value of XYZ LLC’s business is $25 million, each of them will have a $112.5 million (10 x $12.5 million – $12.5 million) gain exclusion under Section 1202 when they sell their XYZ Corp. QSBS after five years. Contrast this result with an example where John Smith and Susan Jones each initially capitalize XYZ Corp. with $50,000 and sell their QSBS for $250 million after seven years. In this second example, each of John Smith and Susan Jones gain exclusion would be limited to the standard $10 Million Cap."
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2023.06.02 21:14 Wonderful-Board-4992 Tricks to handle greasy hair in summer season

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My previous relationship was great at first but over time we didn’t have a real connection which hurt me in the long run So I’m seeking someone that I can make a real connection with a see where it goes. Don’t have too many preferences other than you being from the uk as I like the idea of it being sorta local Bit about me : I’m sporty, like Xbox, tv, movies and a bit academic
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2023.06.02 20:57 montmaj Package MIA?

Two days ago my package tracking said it would arrive that day before 7pm. The next day it said "The delivery date will be provided as soon as possible" and still says that. This has happened to me many times and normally it just comes late due to the distance but in this case, the last ping was in Long Island NY (2 days ago) and I am in Troy (also NY). Is there any reason it could be taking so long, or is it lost?
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2023.06.02 20:52 Accomplished_Dot8975 A world of languages - and how many speak them

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2023.06.02 20:38 kauppimartha “I Don't Have Enough Time to Connect With My Partner"

“I Don't Have Enough Time to Connect With My Partner

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Strategies for a common relationship challenge
“I want to connect intimately with my partner–to have great, super-passionate sex, or even just to cuddle and gaze into each other’s eyes for a little while. But I have to get the kids to school, and get everything done for my job, and take Mom to her doctor’s appointments, and the new puppy isn’t housetrained, and… and… and…”
If you feel like you have too much on your plate, and an ever-smaller portion is getting allocated to romantic time, you’re in good company. This is one of the most common things I hear from my clients. We’ve all got tons of responsibilities, tons of work, tons of projects, and anything that’s not 100% pressing tends to get pushed back and then even further back. (Ask me how I know! I’ve got every burner running in my life, too.)
So, what’s an overachiever to do?
  • Get in touch with what you really want. Focus on the emotions here. Consider: What do I want to experience? Feelings of being engaged, fulfilled, connected, or…? What kinds of activities (or inactivity) give me the experiences I am seeking?
  • Take stock of the many activities that are filling up your time. Which ones give back to you? Which ones light you up? And which ones drain your energy?
  • Prepare for discovery. It’s possible that this internal assessment will result in discovering that having some peace and quiet or “me” time comes before sex. That’s perfectly fine and very common! In that case, it will be interesting to see what happens when you get that need met. Will you find yourself with more energy for things like sex and romance? Maybe, maybe not, but it’s worth trying the experiment just to learn more.
  • Look for your inner motivation. What do I want more of, and why? If you want more sex or connection with your partner, why do you want that? How will it serve you? Why is it important? Perhaps because it feels great to be close, because it makes you feel loved and chosen, because it feels wonderful to have access to a different side of your partner–whatever’s true for you. Find the internal motivation that enables you to actually do what is necessary to make it happen.
  • Prepare to let some things go. Acknowledge that in any given period of time you probably won’t get everything you could possibly want, or do everything you could possibly do. Figure out realistically how often you are willing to give something else up to make room for the things that keep falling off your list (but that you really want for yourself). Hint: many people drop some of the things that drain energy in order to make room for some things that create beautiful energy.
  • Organize yourself around taking action on what is important to you. If the change you want was going to happen automatically, it would already have happened. You will probably need to take some action to make something different happen, and you can leverage your motivation (see above) to help you take action. Focus on why it is important and how it will pay off if this feels like a stretch or a challenge.
  • Consider asking for assistance. Would this be more successful if you and your partner took a teamwork approach? Maybe a burst-of-energy applied to household responsibilities could free up a little time for both of you. In my home, this might be a 30 minute cleaning frenzy to create some psychic space for enjoyment in a less chaotic space, or maybe one of us tackling some errands while the other does yardwork, so we both will have an hour free at 3 pm. Working together as a team with focused energy tends to bring up the tone of interactions as a whole. That’s likely to have cascading effects for every part of your relationship, and it might also result in more sex. Try it yourself if you haven’t!
  • If need be, call on more hands. You might consider enlisting your larger community: can your friends or family take the kids for a night? Can you consider a trade with friends–maybe treating them to dinner in exchange for help with a task that’s been looming over your head? Can you plan a “paperwork party” or “extra-stuff-purge party” or “mending party” with music, snacks, and company to get through some of the tasks that are distracting you from connection?
Since we’ve all recently been through a global pandemic, I also want to highlight that there are seasons in life. Some seasons have room for more sex, some are for recuperation, and some can be crisis times when it works best to just keep your head down and keep moving.
If you are in a crisis period, don’t beat yourself up over not having as much time or desire for connection. However, it’s very worth putting some serious thought into how you will intentionally recover once the crisis is over:
  • How are you and your partner going to work together, making sure you can bounce back from this busy season?
  • How will you know when the crisis is over and you can start moving back towards each other?
  • How do you create the space within yourself to allow your partner to start moving back towards you?
  • How do you break the habit of feeling super stressed out?
Being intentional about this makes all the difference, because it can be easy to fall into a habit of just moving farther apart as life places more demands on us.
Originally published on Psychology Today.
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