Hi all, I am attempting to do a face scan using RealityCapture, with the intention of using the mesh created there to create a metahuman in UnrealEngine. I am currently on an M1 mac (my PC is back home so i'm stuck with this for a while). I ran a windows virtual machine (parallels) to install RealityCapture, uploaded the face scan video, and now have all of the vertices or whatever. Problem is that I cannot create the mesh because I don't have the Nvidia CUDA drivers necessary, and therefore cant export it into unreal engine. Does anyone know any workarounds, or any other software this could be done it that would work on an M1 mac. Unfortunately these CUDA drivers were only supported on the old macs that had intel chips, not the M1s and M2s. Any help would be greatly appreciated

• Video Marketing agency provides you with: Tips and Tricks for Success

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How can I improve my coffee crops? As you can see, they appear discolored. We water them regularly, but they still have issues. What type of compost or treatment should I use? I currently use banana trees for shading, but they are still small. What can I do in the meantime? I'm new to coffee farming and would appreciate any advice.
Are there any improvements I can make to my medium-scale coffee field? The coffee trees are affected by rust disease, and I don't know how to resolve it. Some leaves also have a black, soot-like coloration, and there is a yellow discoloration issue. I'm seeking solutions for these problems. How should I address shading? The banana trees are not providing sufficient shading yet. Are there other shading methods that might be more effective? Is my planting density correct? What is the ideal density of coffee trees per acre? Currently, we have a spacing of 60cm between the coffee trees. What is the most suitable irrigation system for coffee plants? Water access is not a problem due to the nearby lake, but the current manual watering method is laborious and not scalable. We've recently tried using a water pump with a hose, which is less tiring but still not efficient. Considering our limited resources, which irrigation system (drip or sprinkler) would be better suited to our situation? Should we rely solely on chemical fertilizers like Ammonium sulfate, Blaukorn, DAP, and dolomite? I watched a YouTube video suggesting that these fertilizers can be detrimental to the soil, trees, and surrounding water sources in the long run. How frequently should we water the coffee plants? Is there an online community for coffee planters? Perhaps a subreddit or a Discord group where I can connect with experienced coffee farmers? As a complete beginner in agriculture and coffee cultivation, how can I expand my knowledge in this field?
What we have done so far:
We have applied "MadaSul Ammonium Sulfate Fertilizer" in combination with Blaukorn fertilizer. We conducted controlled experiments with varying ratios of Ammonium sulfate and Blaukorn (50/50, 90/10, 75/25), and we also used a mixture of DAP, Ammonium Sulfate, and Blaukorn for a few dozen trees. Additionally, we have added Dolomite to all the coffee trees. We have used a fungicide called Fongicure due to a suspected infection in the plants. However, we are still awaiting results. We have experimented with a mixture of dish soap, olive oil, and water to address the issue of black rot, but we have yet to see results. Any advice you can provide would be greatly appreciated. I am located in a remote area of Madagascar near a lake, where there is no electricity or running water apart from the lake as a water source. The area is very isolated, and although I do not reside there, I have field workers who report to me.

I don't really know how much I want to be paid because I don't exactly know how much people usually get paid for that stuff (I'm gonna say $35/hr or $150 a video so this post doesn't get taken down but the price is definitely negotiable after we discuss factors and such) I don't do crazy editing, I'm more of a laid back not in your face editor that does some basic edits (kind of similar to how Markiplier's videos are edited).
I have a YouTube channel myself so I have videos I can show for reference but here are some of the things I can do:

1. Cuts and basic transitions
   
2. Added sound effects and music (I can add memes if wanted)
   
3. Audio and video effects such as reverb and distortion for comedic effects
   
4. Subtitles
   

5.Thumbnails for an extra charge if needed
I am doing my own channel but I also want to make money another way so I don't have to work at the job I'm currently working at anymore, so I preferably want someone who just wants an official editor for some time that I could work with for a year or more together. I will asked to be credited for editing the video in the description for obvious reasons, although nobody really reads the descriptions lol
Hope somebody can find my set of skills useful, PM me if you're interested and we can talk :)
(P.S. my main communication method is Discord)

Hi,
I created logo and credits in After effect, I've tried different export but every time that I move the file in the Resolve project something went wrong.
I attach the two files to show the problem. the first one is the AE file, the second is the same file as Resolve show me.
I'm usin aces color space in Resolve, I've tried to change that but with on results.
thanks!
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https://reddit.com/link/1436sti/video/iqv64mstwj4b1/player
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https://reddit.com/link/1436sti/video/6eawshuuwj4b1/player
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My BT headphones (Sony wh-1000mx4) work with any audio/video on my pc but when playing audio in my video editor, Davinci Resolve, or even just opening the program the audio cuts out entirely. tried changing the output device in the program's settings but it didn't work, any suggestions for a fix?

My BT headphones (Sony wh-1000mx4) work with any audio/video on my pc but when playing audio in Davinci Resolve, or even just opening the program the audio cuts out entirely. tried changing the output device in the settings but it didn't work, any suggestions for a fix?

Hey guys, please roast my product idea. 🙏👇
Do you ever have trouble making an explainer video for your side project? Like suddenly forgetting what you want to say and displaying next, so you have to stop recording and start all over again? Feel difficult to edit your recorded video, like cutting off unwanted parts, magnifying key details, removing background noise, adding some visual and sound effects in your screen recording, etc.?
To help indie makers and startups to make a beautiful explainer video smoothly like a pro and without any design skills required, I want to build a one-stop tool with all the features needed to get this work done with simple clicks, as well as export your edited video in any preferred size you need to post on social media platforms, send via emails, or add to your landing page.
What do you think of this idea? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Or, do you know or use a great tool to accomplish this already? What is it? What do you like most about it?
I really appreciate any help you can provide. 🙇‍♀️

In this tutorial we will show you how to use rust-bert library to utilize the state-of-the-art natural language processing models in Rust, and we are specifically tested on macOS environments.
Rust crate rust_bert implementation of the BERT language model (https://arxiv.org/abs/1810.04805 Devlin, Chang, Lee, Toutanova, 2018). The base model is implemented in the bert_model::BertModel struct. Several language model heads have also been implemented, including:

• Masked language model: bert_model::BertForMaskedLM
• Multiple choices: bert_model:BertForMultipleChoice
• Question answering: bert_model::BertForQuestionAnswering
• Sequence classification: bert_model::BertForSequenceClassification
• Token classification (e.g. NER, POS tagging): bert_model::BertForTokenClassification

Transformers

Transformers is a State-of-the-art Machine Learning for Pytorch, TensorFlow, and JAX.
Before installing the transformers:
``` python3 -m venv .env source .env/bin/activate
brew install cmake brew install pkg-config brew install sentencepiece
pip install sentencepiece pip install transformers pip install 'transformers[torch]' pip install 'transformers[tf-cpu]' pip install 'transformers[flax]' pip install onnxruntime ```
Verify the installation:
(.env) ➜ transformers git:(main) python -c "from transformers import pipeline; print(pipeline('sentiment-analysis')('we love you'))" No model was supplied, defaulted to distilbert-base-uncased-finetuned-sst-2-english and revision af0f99b (https://huggingface.co/distilbert-base-uncased-finetuned-sst-2-english). Using a pipeline without specifying a model name and revision in production is not recommended. Downloading (…)lve/main/config.json: 100%████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████ 629/629 [00:00<00:00, 1.13MB/s] Downloading model.safetensors: 100%████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████ 268M/268M [00:26<00:00, 10.0MB/s] Downloading (…)okenizer_config.json: 100%███████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████ 48.0/48.0 [00:00<00:00, 158kB/s] Downloading (…)solve/main/vocab.txt: 100%███████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████████ 232k/232k [00:00<00:00, 554kB/s] Xformers is not installed correctly. If you want to use memory_efficient_attention to accelerate training use the following command to install Xformers pip install xformers. [{'label': 'POSITIVE', 'score': 0.9998704195022583}]
Install the huggineface's transformers:
git clone https://github.com/huggingface/transformers.git cd transformers pip install -e .
🤗 Transformers is tested on Python 3.6+, PyTorch 1.1.0+, TensorFlow 2.0+, and Flax. Follow the installation instructions below for the deep learning library you are using:

• PyTorch installation instructions.
• TensorFlow 2.0 installation instructions.
• Flax installation instructions.

So we will need to install these 3 dependend projects as follow.

Install PyTorch

pip3 install torch torchvision torchaudio

Install TensorFlow

```

There is currently no official GPU support for MacOS.

python3 -m pip install tensorflow

Verify install:

python3 -c "import tensorflow as tf; print(tf.reduce_sum(tf.random.normal([1000, 1000])))" ```

Install Flax

Flax delivers an end-to-end and flexible user experience for researchers who use JAX with neural networks. Flax exposes the full power of JAX. It is made up of loosely coupled libraries.
JAX is a project designed for High-Performance Array Computing,
python3.11 -m pip install --upgrade pip pip install flax

Init Rust BERT

``` brew install libtorch brew link libtorch brew ls --verbose libtorch grep dylib export LIBTORCH=$(brew --cellar pytorch)/$(brew info --json pytorch jq -r '.[0].installed[0].version') export LD_LIBRARY_PATH=${LIBTORCH}/lib:$LD_LIBRARY_PATH
git clone https://github.com/guillaume-be/rust-bert.git cd rust-bert ORT_STRATEGY=system cargo run --example sentence_embeddings ```
Also better to add the following to bash/zsh environment in case you met exception like "libtch/torch_api_generated.cpp" with args "c++" did not execute successfully (status code exit status: 1).: export LIBTORCH=$(brew --cellar pytorch)/$(brew info --json pytorch jq -r '.[0].installed[0].version') export LD_LIBRARY_PATH=${LIBTORCH}/lib:$LD_LIBRARY_PATH

In Rust's project

Import the example code into Pizza's module:
``` use log::*; use rust_bert::pipelines::translation::{Language, TranslationModelBuilder}; pub(crate) fn translation() -> anyhow::Result<()> { info!("start translation:"); let model = TranslationModelBuilder::new() .with_source_languages(vec![Language::English]) .with_target_languages(vec![ Language::Spanish, Language::French, Language::Italian, ]) .create_model() .unwrap();

let input_text = "Hello world!"; let output = model .translate(&[input_text], None, Language::Spanish) .unwrap(); for sentence in output { info!("Output: {}", sentence); } Ok(()) 

}
```
And we will get the result as follows: ```
/ _ \_ / _ / _ / /\ / /)/ / //// /// / //\ / _// / / /// /// _ \ / _/ //__/\/ _/
[PIZZA] The Next-Gen Real-Time Hybrid Search & AI-Native Innovation Engine. [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [pizza:96] PIZZA now starting. [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [pizza::modules::api:71] api listen at: http://0.0.0.0:2900 [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [pizza::modules:37] started module [api] [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [pizza::modules::bert::translation:4] start translation: [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [actix_server::builder:200] starting 8 workers [2023-06-03 19:00:32] [INFO] [actix_server::server:197] Tokio runtime found; starting in existing Tokio runtime [2023-06-03 19:00:33] [INFO] [cached_path::cache:414] Cached version of https://huggingface.co/Helsinki-NLP/opus-mt-en-ROMANCE/resolve/main/vocab.json is up-to-date [2023-06-03 19:00:33] [INFO] [cached_path::cache:414] Cached version of https://huggingface.co/Helsinki-NLP/opus-mt-en-ROMANCE/resolve/main/source.spm is up-to-date [2023-06-03 19:00:34] [INFO] [cached_path::cache:414] Cached version of https://huggingface.co/Helsinki-NLP/opus-mt-en-ROMANCE/resolve/main/config.json is up-to-date [2023-06-03 19:00:36] [INFO] [cached_path::cache:414] Cached version of https://huggingface.co/Helsinki-NLP/opus-mt-en-ROMANCE/resolve/main/rust_model.ot is up-to-date [2023-06-03 19:00:36] [INFO] [pizza::modules::bert::translation:21] Output: ¡Hola mundo! [2023-06-03 19:00:36] [INFO] [pizza::modules:37] started module [bert] [2023-06-03 19:00:36] [INFO] [pizza::modules:39] all modules are started [2023-06-03 19:00:36] [INFO] [pizza:116] PIZZA is up and running now. PID: 37426 ```
Wow, Hello World was successfully translated to ¡Hola mundo!, which is great!
As you can see, creating a translation application is incredibly simple just in a few lines of code. And this is just the beginning! By harnessing the power of these pre-trained language models, we can accomplish so much more.

Links

• https://github.com/guillaume-be/rust-bert
• https://github.com/huggingface/transformers
• https://pytorch.org/get-started/locally/
• https://www.tensorflow.org/install/pip#macos
• https://flax.readthedocs.io/en/latest/

Hi,
I created logo and credits in After effect, I've tried different export but every time that I move the file in the Resolve project something went wrong.
I attach the two files to show the problem. the first one is the AE file, the second is the same file as Resolve show me.
I'm usin aces color space in Resolve, I've tried to change that but with on results.
thanks!
​
https://reddit.com/link/1436j6o/video/kjjjlzfotj4b1/player
​
​
https://reddit.com/link/1436j6o/video/20oy8lestj4b1/player

Not sure why there's no blog post or announcement yet, but it has been out for a while, so I figured this might be of interest:
Version 6.12.0-rc7 2023-06-05
Changes vs. 6.12.0-rc6
Share "exclusive mode":

• Added "Settings/Global Share Settings/Permit exclusive shares" [Yes/No] default: No.
• Fix issue marking share exclusive when changing Primary storage to a pool but share does not exist there yet.
• Make exclusive share symnlinks relative.
• Disable exclusive share mode if the share NFS-exported.

Networking:

• Fix issue where/etc/resolve.conf can get deleted when switching DNS Server between auto/static.
• Support custom interfaces (e.g. Tailscale VPN tunnel or zerotier L2 tunnel)

Web Terminal:

• Change renderer from webgl to canvas to mitigate issue with latest Chrome update.
• For better readability, changed background color on directory listings where 'w+o' is set.

Docker:

• Fix issue detecting proper shutdown of docker.
• rc.docker: Fix multiple fixed IPs

VM Manager:

• Fix issues with VM page loads if users have removed vcpu pinning.
• ovmf-stable: version 202305 (build 3)

Other:

• Fix issue mounting emulated encrypted unRAID array devices.
• Fix ntp drift file save/restore from persistent USB flash 'config' directory.
• Remove extraneous /root/.config/remmina file
• Misc. changes to accommodate webGui repo reorganizaion.

webGUI:

• Fixed regression error in disk critical / warning coloring & monitoring

Linux kernel

• version 6.1.32

Hey guys, please roast my product idea. 🙏👇
Do you ever have trouble making an explainer video for your side project? Like suddenly forgetting what you want to say and displaying next, so you have to stop recording and start all over again? Feel difficult to edit your recorded video, like cutting off unwanted parts, magnifying key details, removing background noise, adding some visual and sound effects in your screen recording, etc.?
To help indie makers and startups to make a beautiful explainer video smoothly like a pro and without any design skills required, I want to build a one-stop tool with all the features needed to get this work done with simple clicks, as well as export your edited video in any preferred size you need to post on social media platforms, send via emails, or add to your landing page.
What do you think of this idea? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Or, do you know or use a great tool to accomplish this already? What is it? What do you like most about it?
I really appreciate any help you can provide. 🙇‍♀️

Hey guys, please roast my product idea. 🙏👇
Do you ever have trouble making an explainer video for your side project? Like suddenly forgetting what you want to say and displaying next, so you have to stop recording and start all over again? Feel difficult to edit your recorded video, like cutting off unwanted parts, magnifying key details, removing background noise, adding some visual and sound effects in your screen recording, etc.?
To help indie makers and startups to make a beautiful explainer video smoothly like a pro and without any design skills required, I want to build a one-stop tool with all the features needed to get this work done with simple clicks, as well as export your edited video in any preferred size you need to post on social media platforms, send via emails, or add to your landing page.
What do you think of this idea? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Or, do you know or use a great tool to accomplish this already? What is it? What do you like most about it?
I really appreciate any help you can provide.🙇‍♀️
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PDF Image/Area Based Highlights & Annotations

You can now easily make image or area based highlights when reading PDFs on your iOS device. Easily annotate/highlight images, tables, graphs or even text. Any element at all in your PDF can now be highlighted and annotated.

• Sync your image/area highlights & annotations between Web & iOS
• Easily make image/area based highlights by long pressing on images then pinch or drag each corner to change the sizeof the area you want to highlight
• For PDFs with text layer select the text then click the the area/image highlight icon, then select your desired location to make the highlight
• Easily copy your image/area based highlights to your favorite note taking app or export them to PDF, Markdown, CSV & HTML

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• Hyphenation support
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Can you guess what upcoming feature is coming next based on the video in the latest release? (Easter Egg). Don’t see the feature or improvement that you would like then let us know which improvement or new feature you would like to see the most.

I'm not sure why but I have a 1080 h264 encoded movie with a 16Mb/s bitrate, and I've played much higher bitrate movies in 4k over remote just fine. However this specific movie will direct play on the Windows Plex for Desktop app on my computer, but when my friend tries to play on his computer (outside of LAN) OR if I play it while connected to VPN, it'll transcode from 1080 h264 to 1080 h264 for some reason.
Any ideas why this specific file is behaving this way?
Additional file information:

• 1080p h264
• 16.7Mb/s bitrate
• MKV
• 24 fps
• 12.6 GB file size
• Video Profile high
• DTS-HD MA 5.1
• PGS subtitles (direct stream)

If you are living in or traveling to Qatar, you might want to use a VPN to access blocked websites, stream your favorite shows, or protect your online privacy. However, not all VPNs are created equal, and some might not work well in Qatar.
Here are 10 tips for optimizing your VPN Qatar experience:

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Hello. I developed my band’s website with Avada Wordpress theme, and for whatever reason when I make changes to any page or post the white thing crashes for about 24 hours. Here is a picture and video of the issue. I have submitted multiple tickets to Avada help, and they always send screen shots saying “look is fine to me,” because the crash is always a temporary thing, in that it’ll probably be normal sometime tomorrow. I need help, guidance, or suggesting where I could hire someone who can help me diagnose and resolve this pesky issue. It may also be something with the siteground https enforcement. I don’t know, I need help! Thanks in advance for any guidance

A new release of Topaz Video AI is now available.
v3.2.9 Released June 6th, 2023
Downloads: Windows Mac
Changes from v3.2.8

• Made H264 High default encoder
• Adjusted “modify preset” dialog title to match menu option
• Fixed an uninstaller permission issue for Windows
• Improved the hover & disabled state UI for the export button
• Added tooltip to export button when disabled during cropping & trimming
• Updated & improved various enhancement tooltips

Known Issues

• Videos with mismatched metadata and streams will display incorrect duration
• Frame number preview length may shorten on app restart

The youtube channel AskYourUncle has been making a video series about Metal Gear Solid 5 for I think over a year now and just a bit ago released the final part. But there are have been ARG elements in each of the parts and before I just ignored them, but now I'm suddenly super invested. The problem is that I don't know how to solve an ARG for my life, and I can't find anybody else online solving it. So I'm making this to try and get more attention to it.
The few things I know is that he has a 2nd channel called LIAR where most of the ARG stuff is being posted but the subtitles of the main videos also contain messages. The main theme of it is that he's trying to do a kill-less run but as the series goes on he starts killing more and more and every time he is about to kill a melody of trumpets begin playing. There are also themes of the truth being "right in front of you" which is the main reason why I'm so obsessed, it's making me feel kind of dumb lol.
There is a lot more to it but this is the most obvious stuff that even I can figure out. So I send this request to figure it out (for me) to all of you! Also if it gets more traction maybe a discord servesubreddit could be made for it? It's also possible there are other people online solving this and I just didn't look hard enough for them.
PS:each of the main videos are like an hour long, the subtitles stay for big parts of the videos so you can just skip around if you are looking only for those but the main videos will probably help in the ARG so if you want to help with this ARG just be ready to sink a lot of time into it

Whenever I insert text media, I'll get this effect where the words I type lag behind. As someone who works on a lot of subtitling, and I have to work with hundreds of text events, this slows things down significantly. I do work in large projects, but the larger they get the more intrusive it seems to become.
I'm not sure how to begin fixing this, being a new user to Vegas 19 and all. However, this has happened to me in Vegas 13 and 14 as well.
My GPU is a GTX 1080, and my CPU is a Ryzen 5 3600. They do the job for pretty much everything else, except for when it comes to text.
Here's a video of what it looks like

Hi RBB, where to start? I was mistakenly in RBN for a few years, but it's taken some introspection and more education to find my way here.
Any time I do post about my situation, I feel like I have to give all the context and that takes some time (probably engrained in needing to justify/qualify everything on a regular basis). but this is also a very convoluted chain of events so I apologize in advance for the length. For those who will jump to the TL;DR: Currently NC. Struggling with all the guilt of potentially never speaking to my uBPD mother again, so contemplating breaking NC to establish boundaries with my uBPD mother. Boundary definition is hard, and uBPD mom's behaviors are dissuading.

History

Family structure: My mother is a pwBPD, although uBPD. uBPD, as the two times we have done therapy as a family, she walked out as soon as the therapist suggested she was a contributing factor in any way. From the 4 subtypes, I shall anoint her the Hermit Queen - ranging pretty equally between both.
My father used to be an eDad, but they are in the middle of a 2-year-long divorce process, so he kind of could care less at this point what she does. Honestly, sometimes he still defends her, but for a lot of years, any criticism or the Cluster B's rolled off his back, probably because he was just trying to survive his own marriage. We'll stick with it because it's pretty truthful for majority of my life.
There are 3 kids: oldest (m36, split GC), middle (m33, GC) and me (F32 - likely BSC, although mainly just because I don't ever give into BPD tendencies than anything else. All the children have gone through our own bouts of rebellion). Both my brothers have really failed to launch tbh, and GC lives full time with parents, and SGC spends time there 50/50. HQ also uses money as a manipulation tactic, which can't work on me (living on my own/independently since 20).
HQ (hermit queen) has complained about her married openly to her 3 kids - really anything my eDad did that she didn't like - for as long as I can remember. I have blocked out a lot of my upbringing (unintentionally), but I could probably recount their marriage 'highlights reel' of offenses ranging from her birthday to christmases, to more birthdays and one-liners of inconsiderate comments she's repeated countless times to me, verbatim. I've been rooting for their separation for years, mainly so my eDad can be free, and so that I can stop. hearing. about how terrible he is. from HQ.
Therein lies the crux of my NC. I've taken the LC and VLC routes, without any formal announcements in the past, because her emotional baggage is so much. Any communication sucks her further in and she responds by inserting herself into the situation and then using her involvement as leverage to guilt me into 'spending time', or convincing herself she is unloved when I don't comply. Before going NC, I tried Grey Rocking a handful of times, which honestly only emphasized her emotional state because I was not contributing to the conversation with anything she could latch onto. That didn't work, so I attempted enforcing a boundary: do not talk to me about your marriage with eDad.
Seemed simple. Of course, nothing ever is. She would skirt around the topic tactlessly, "oh, sorry, you don't want to hear about that" and wait for my confirmation that, no, I did not, or reassurance to actively cross my boundary. It was pretty impossible for her to respect it, and exhausting for me to constantly ask her to.
Covid was sort a blessing in disguise in the sense that I did not have to see her (and of course horrible in every other way). I do struggle with guilt from being thankful for a shelter-in-place order due to a global pandemic, for a time where I was a fortunate to be able to work from home with my partner. But damn, it was so nice having a concrete reason (the only way she respects hearing "no") to why my partner and I would not come over for dinner, or 'stop by'. (If it wouldn't be apparent, my parents is absolutely not a fan of HQ.)
Planning family events or any 1:1 time leads to my second boundary I ever enforced - and she reminded me every time she she extended an invite: "I'm doing this to ensure you attend." - as if far enough into the future was the trick. (This was honestly my own doing, since I was very often 'busy' to avoid just telling her "no, I don't want to.")

Less-Historical History

^{(insert divorce})
After Covid, the very thin eggshell to which HQ and eDad's marriage was held together finally cracked under the weight. They both realized all the years they spent trying to repaisave/survive their marriage was fruitless and neither of them were willing to try anymore, and nothing was going to work. So they announced their intent to divorce to their kids.
HQ shared the "we still love you and want to be a family" approach with eDad. However, as soon as eDad was speaking to my siblings 1:1, HQ walked this back. She told me that this couldn't be further from the truth.
Insert flashback memory, right before one of my VLC stints, in which HQ shares that if eDad and her ever did divorce she would "take him for all he's worth". Real quote.She adamantly wanted to seek alimony (even if none of the kids were living with her,) because after x years of marriage, she would be entitled to it and she was accustomed to "a certain standard of living". She told me would make sure he would pay up for it and then some.
So, after the divorce is announced, I knew I didn't want to be around her very much. I couldn't possibly bear any more degrading of my father. I could not possibly support her further heightened emotional state of mind. The fact that she 'put on a happy face' for the family/announcement and it took her a maximum of two minutes to start bad-mouthing him only confirmed to me that she had not grown in since the time of her alimony epiphany (which at the time of the announcement was several years prior).
I didn't go NC right away. Any text exchanges had strings attached and guilt trips.
The timeline for the following events is pretty blurry, but it was very rapidly after the divorce announcement. HQ has felt like she has been held back with being married and unable to be her true self for many years. Somehow the family 'punished' her for being herself or having her own thoughts and opinions, so once she felt "free", she threw herself into dating. She did not share this with all of her children equally, as she tries to share the most selective information to the (perceived) least judgmental recipients, to paint herself in the best light. My GC brother informed me, because he was having trouble coping and he needed someone to commiserate with. Honestly, at this point I was fine because I wasn't around it. It wasn't like she was trying to interject ...whoever, into my life/to meet the kids.
However, she was being particularly needy - I would spend time with her and she would vent about the divorce. It was draining - so I told her, I didn't need a reply, I acknowledge she is going through a hard time, and that I want her to be happy, but I needed some space to figure out my boundaries, to reach a point where we can have a healthy relationship, so would appreciate some space from the divorce situation, which included her. She did not reply.
Seems simple? Straight forward? Agreed upon? Never. She took about a month to reach out after that, to have me refer her new boyfriend to the company I was working at. She didn't tell me who it was, and she's tried to refer friends through me before so it wasn't actually that out of the ordinary. Something felt off, especially with the timing so I checked the name with my GC, who confirmed she was trying to refer her new bf to my company. I was livid, and didn't hesitate to tell her my reaction. I was calm in my message, and reiterated my ask for space, and that her actions felt very manipulative.
She took zero ownership, and basically tried to say I was making it complicated. She never acknowledged it was her bf, which she stands by to this day to claim she didn't do anything wrong in that situation. She tried to rationalize why she was dating, missing the point entirely.
She kept sending random texts:

1. 'Fond' memories of me as a child, which was a situation where I was misbehaving (with good intentions) as a child, and how she admits she handled the situation poorly. (Somehow a talk with my GC convinced her this was something I was still harboring against her.)
2. Apology surrounding the events of how I left home (in which she has both made herself the power-holder as well as the victim in that situation). As I recall the events, yet another screaming match had escalated so far that I couldn't handle it any more - I told her I would be moving out, packing my shit immediately and leaving. She was furious and basically agreed in the heat of the moment - but and remembers this as "kicking me out".
3. (With the former message) she also apologized for "sharing her relational distress" with me, and for the "undue anxiety, grief, and stress", and then promised to be a better listener.
4. Random, random articles, without any context to them.

I responded to none of them, since I had asked for space!! (This just seemed to spurn her on.)
Finally, it came to a breaking point. I started it actually, by accidentally calling her. It rang for less than a split second and I hung up. She tried to call me back a few days later while was on a work trip, (so, traveling,) and on a call with my therapist. Somehow the software answered (it wasn't like a phone call, it was a video call, but not Zoom). I quickly hung up, but it was connected for like a second.
Very, very unfortunately she had also recently underwent a third or fourth surgery for a repeat medical problem (that honestly would resolve, if she listened to doctor advise - confirmed by a doctor!), so she texted immediately her favorite tactic: guilt. "I thought you'd call back after you woke up but no, so guess your initial call was a butt dial now, not concern for me after my recent knee surgery. Sorry to bother you, take care."

NC

Ok we're caught up now. This is where I go full NC. The passive aggressive response (very typical) was not necessary, and without her knowing my situation, she jumped to conclusions - again. I spent a lot of hours writing the text I sent to her, owning my inability to enforce my boundaries, and reiterating them to her - acknowledging once again the struggle she is going through and my hope for her happiness, and eventually reaching a healthy point in our relationship. I reiterated my ask for space, but putting a timeline on it this time: when the divorce gets finalized. I set a clear expectation, that I would reach out when that time comes to reopen the lines of communication. The divorce is still not final, if you are wondering.
Without having this wonderful piece of advice:

You could do everything "right" and they still may be unhappy.

I agonized over that text for basically 24+ hours. I got friends and GC to proofread. (I event read it to my therapist after - they were very impressed! Woo!)I didn't ask her not to reply, if anything I was fully expecting another convoluted, missing-the-point response, but nothing. She hasn't actually texted/called me since. She has not hesitated to complain about my, harbor over "where did I go wrong" to my brothers, to her sisters, except to me. She's done just about everything except: read my last (few) texts. I literally laid it all out for her.
All the pretty words I said to her ("I want to figure out my boundaries"), while true, have been a placeholder to basically buy myself time. It's been 2 years. 2 years should be enough time. But, I've been putting off just... hashing it out with myself. Little bit of a Schrödinger's Cat situation. I know (...sort of...) what I want, but: if I never vocalize it, I don't have to feel bad about it. I don't have to acknowledge that it affects the relationships with the rest of my family. I love my brothers, no matter how failed-to-launch they are, they went through a similar family dynamic. They are funny, interesting weirdos that I don't want out of my life. My (no longer e) Dad is an amazing person, we've built a much stronger relationship over the past few years, and I don't think it would fully jeopardize my relationship with him, but he knows where I stand with HQ and he suggested I wish her happy mothers day this year. He still cares for her, as a fellow human being that he spent many years of his life with.
^{Fun little side note: HQ also went years ignoring her siblings/parents because her own dad was basically an Nparent (undiagnosed, racist, bigoted, not good person. Only after he passed, did I meet my grandmother or my cousins on her side. (I still haven't met everyone on that side of the family.} I am sure she thinks I'm going to do what she did to her own family, which is why I got random apology texts.))
What I want versus what I don't want is a lot easier to define. (Admittedly, I don't really know how to reverse-engineer those for boundary establishing.)
These past 3-4 years have been amazingly, saddeningly wonderful. It's breaking my heart to admit that, y'all. But it's because she wasn't actively in my life.
When I think about the future with her in my life, I'm sort of paralyzed. I can't imagine getting married and trusting her to stay out of the wedding planning. I can't imagine eventually having kids and trusting her to babysit. I can't imagine her ever not dropping comments about any relationship I am in, comparing it/them/fights to hers with eDad - warning me not to make the same mistakes she did. I genuinely can't even imagine asking her to respect my boundaries and having her do so.
GC tells me she is improved, she's open to feedback and capable of growth, but he's been working with heon their relationship since he's been living with her. (Especially since after the divorce & eDad moved out, it's been mainly the two of them in the house.)
I am not as confident. I can't parent my own parent, I should not have to teach her how to be an adult, how to have a normal relationship with her own daughter, and constantly constantly tell her what is ok/not ok (in regards to my boundaries). I am exhausted just thinking about it.
This community seems so helpful and honestly just sharing my experience was kind of cathartic, since my partner doesn't really understand my complicated feelings surrounding my family. He came from an incredibly "typical" upbringing.
This:

The right to live free from emotional and physical abuse

is very empowering, and ...logical. But I am still struggling with all the guilt of potentially never speaking to my mother again.
I would truly love to hear if others have gone through something similar. How do you deal with the guilt? Or how do you deal with the regular toll of parenting a parent? I'll take setting boundary advice, too, lol.
If you got this far, you need a medal for reading my essay. Thank you.
TL;DR: Currently NC. Struggling with all the guilt of potentially never speaking to my uBPD mother again, so contemplating breaking NC to establish boundaries with my uBPD mother. Boundary definition is hard, and uBPD mom's behaviors are dissuading.

I have an MSI Optix G32 and a Gigabyte RTX 3070 Eagle; I do not have Hardware Acceleration enabled in Windows settings but I have it enabled in Google Chrome
sometimes, not too frequently but here and there, Chrome may flicker a bit and can even make my monitor go black for half a second-2 seconds. is this normal if Hardware Acceleration doesn’t like you? I’ve heard stories about HA doing stuff like this but I wanted to ask here
for example, when I go to youtube and scroll through my search queries, the youtube window will flicker a bit (not the top or taskbar of the screen). but sometimes it can make the entire display flicker for a second, or make black boxes appear very briefly in youtube videos or on tabs like reddit. yesterday, a black bar appeared near the bottom of the screen, then the display flashed black for like half a second
this happens regardless of my gpu driver version and seems to stop when I turn Hardware Acceleration off (the youtube flickering does, the other examples are too inconsistent to really test simply like that so I just assume they’re resolved in the same way)
does my monitor just not like my gpu + Chrome, or vice versa. Chrome also screen tears in YT without Hardware Acceleration, yet no other browser does. Edge does not seem to have these issues with HA either, yet Chrome also worked perfectly fine on my old pc which used the same monitor but had an rx570 gpu. is this a weird compatibility disagreement between my 3070 and monitor? no other program, game, or browser has this issue; the closest external situation was when I saw flickering in Chrome for the first time, then opened GeForce Experience, and then the display flickered