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2023.06.07 18:10 coloradogal1 Detailed 12-Day Luxe Itinerary & Review
Hi all -
Since this sub was so helpful while planning my trip, I wanted to share my detailed 12-day itinerary, pricing and reviews for a luxe Bali trip. I lived there for three months 15 years ago on a student budget, so wanted to go back and experience it a bit differently. Driver:
I worked with Kadek at Pemuteran Menjangan Bali Transport. His prices were higher than a lot of other drivers, but of the drivers I reached out to prior to departure he was most responsive, easy to work with and made a ton of itinerary suggestions. His costs included all entrance fees, hiking guides, fast boat arrangements, as well as some lunches. Even though he was the most expensive driver I talked to, not having to plan out logistics every day and just hop in the car made the premium guide costs absolutely worth it in my mind. You can find him on TripAdvisor with the business name above, or I’m happy to share his whatsapp in a DM.
I had zero interest in riding a motor bike there, and saw at least one accident and someone at the airport who very distinctly looked like he had been part of a motor bike accident. Ironically, when we got home to the US we overheard someone at breakfast also talking about their friend who was involved in a motor bike accident in Bali. High Level Agenda:
Details: Ubud Bisma Eight,
- Ubud - 6 nights
- Sanur - 1 night
- Nusa Penida - 2 nights
- Jimbaran - 2 nights
$1,100 USD for 4 nights including airport transit Hotel impressions:
This was a perfect mid-range priced hotel, central to the city center so a great place to walk around from, and probably had our favorite breakfasts during our stay. The vibe was modern, great views from the rooms and infinity pool, wonderful service. Absolutely would stay again. Day 1 - Arrival / transit day,
landed at 7pm, checked in around 9pm Day 2 - Ubud city center
We planned this day just to wander around Ubud, lunch at Kafe, window shopping, bought some fruit at the art market. We intentionally avoided making plans this day, since we knew we’d want to acclimate and just enjoy walking around town. Day 3 - East Bali Tour
with Kadek - 900k IDR per person including lunch, admissions, snorkeling tour * Snorkeling in Padangbai - Great snorkeling at two different spots * Tirta Gangga - Spent about 30 minutes wandering around the gardens, sitting down, enjoying the scenery. * Tukad Cepung Waterfall - Be prepared for lots of stairs, very cool waterfalls, def a “stand in line to take your photo” kind of experience but overall there weren’t too many people there while we were so didn’t have to wait too long. * Gates of Heaven - We opted NOT to do this, since we weren’t very interested in standing in a long line just for a manufactured photo opportunity. Day 4 - Mt Batur hike
1,050k IDR per person (cost also included hot springs, but we ended up skipping and just going back to Ubud to relax at the pool after the hike). Got socked in with clouds for sunrise, but honestly watching the clouds roll by was almost as enjoyable as a brilliant sunrise would have been. Hike is strenuous but doable, and you definitely want to hire a guide, since we heard at least one person getting harassed for not hiring a guide. Mixed feels on this, but overall it comes down to “respect the local customs and economy” for me. We were done and back to the hotel by 11 or so, and spent the afternoon relaxing by the pool and napping. Day 5 - Sites in and around Ubud,
795k with Kadek covering all admissions * Goa Gajah - Really cool temple that’s worth checking out to enjoy the peaceful atmosphere and old stone temple carvings. Since we did this first thing, we had the place to ourselves. Be sure to check out the caves tucked along the river. * Gunung Kawi Temple - If you only visit one temple, personally, I recommend this one. Lots of stairs but it is STUNNING and you just feel like you’re surrounded by nature and spirituality. Both this trip and when I lived there 15 years ago, it’s one of my favorite spots in all of Bali. * Tegalalang Rice Terrace - Cool to see, but definitely felt like too curated of an experience. Felt like an amusement park located in a rice terrace. * Checked into Mandapa around 2pm so we could enjoy the resort for the full afternoon Mandapa Ritz Carlton
- $1,700 USD for 2 nights Hotel Impressions:
Holy heck, if you have the ability to splurge, do not miss this resort. I have never felt so spoiled or relaxed in my life. The spa was incredible ($400 for 90 minutes couples massage), the free morning yoga overlooked the river, and the service was absolutely unparalleled. The team there would greet you by name, the attention to details with the room - it was absolute perfection and I don’t think I will ever enjoy a resort this much again. It’s a little more removed from city center, but the resort is so beautiful we didn’t really feel like leaving anyway. Day 6 - Resort day.
Yoga, breakfast, massages, pool day - After spending the previous several days doing day trips, we left this as a day to just spend time relaxing, and I’m so glad we did. Day 7 - Transit from Ubud to Sanur,
with shopping stops on the way (650k per person)
Mas (wood carving), Batuan Village (painting gallery), Celuk (gold and silver smith). We wanted to get to Sanur the day before our Nusa Penida trip so we didn’t have to worry about being in a rush to catch the fast boat to Nusa Penida, and I really wanted to do some shopping anyway so it worked out well. Sanur Klumpu Resort
for $158 - Really loved this small villa style resort. Funky architecture, a little less curated feeling than the other resorts we stayed at, and would make for a really great extended stay place close to Sanur beach. Day 8
- Sanur beach and fast boat to Nusa Penida. Spent the morning walking the path along the beach, stopping for breakfast and coffee, and enjoying the vibes without having an itinerary. Caught one of the last boats to Nusa Penida so we could get there in time for the 3 pm check in at Maua Nusa Penida Nusa Penida Maua Nusa Penida
- $500 USD for 2 nights. 1,450k IDR for fast boat, nusa penida transit to / from port and beach tour day trips, again all arranged by Kadek. Hotel Impressions
- Newer hotel in Nusa Penida that’s a bit far away from any action, but the hotel was so nice to spend time in we didn’t mind just hanging out there in our private pool and eating at some of their restaurants. They had a special Indonesian Buffet which was actually some of the best food we had there as far as taste and quality went. Day 9 - Nusa Penida Beach Tour
Spent the morning touring Angel Billabong, Broken Beach, Angel Billagong and lounging at Crystal Bay. The sites were absolutely stunning, got some good photos but the iconic beach spots were SO crowded that I’m not sure it was worth it. Crystal Bay was great - very few people at the beach, so this was a nice way to spend a couple hours swimming and enjoying the scenery. Spent the afternoon relaxing at the hotel. Jimbaran Bay / Uluwatu Four Seasons Jimbaran Bay,
$2,400 USD for 2 nights Hotel Impressions:
We chose to end our visit to Bali here, closer to the airport. There’s a reason this is considered one of the best beach resorts in the world. The villas were older than Mandapa, but the gardens and views were just beautiful. We really enjoyed our time here relaxing, using their beach lounge facility, and wandering around the gardens. The food at Sundara was good - but not memorable. I’d probably stick to just cocktails and snacks there rather than doing a full higher end meal. Day 10 - Morning transit from Nusa Penida to Four Seasons.
The original plan had been to go to Uluwatu for the fire dance, but it was unfortunately sold out. This was a huge bummer since I’d really been looking forward to this part, but we went straight to the hotel and didn’t mind having the day to relax there. Day 11 - Four seasons resort day Day 12 - Departure.
Spent the morning and afternoon lounging around the resort. Four Seasons were very generous with a 3pm check out, but were happy to let us use the facilities, spa, pools, etc as long as we wanted to since our flight wasn’t until 10pm. What I loved
* Mandapa. We only did two nights and we very strongly considered canceling our Sanur night and staying an extra day. Will absolutely be back for a longer stay. * Sanur - we only had one morning to mosey along the beach, but next time I go back, I would add in three days here with no plans other than just wandering around. It was also great staying at less of a resort and more of a boutique villa that was a great home base. * Gunung Kawi - I explored this temple the first time I was in Bali, and knew I needed to come back. What I wish I’d done differently
* More time just wandering. We did a great job planning out day trips and balancing those with resort days to just relax and decompress, which was a great balance. However, I do wish we’d had more time to just… wander. We had a couple days or mornings like this, and they ended up being some of our favorite days. * Nusa Penida - Maybe I would have liked this more if we actually snorkeled or went diving. I loved the hotel we stayed at, and I suppose I’m glad I’ve been, but the beach tours were just so crowded and spread apart. It was a long day for just a few minutes at each spot. Next time we return, I’m skipping Nusa Penida and would probably stick to Nusa Lembongon or Sanur.
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2023.06.07 18:06 TheTopernator Tryna obtain the legendary BOAT CLOAK!
Debbil dawgs... the only place to obtain a boat cloak (supposedly) is from The Marine Shop in Quantico. They are presently not accepting new orders. I'm hoping to wear it to the ball this year, to mark what may be one of my final ones. Anybody know anything/anyone who might have info or even have one themselves? Willing to pay near-full price if the measurements are close enough!
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2023.06.07 17:59 Tabemaju A former adjuster's experience as a claimant
Hi all. To give you a little background, I spent 5 years in auto claims, primarily bodily injury, before moving into medical malpractice for the last decade or so, and on 4/26 I was the victim of a hit & run accident. I posted dash footage you can check out in my post history.
Long story short, having been an adjuster didn't quite prepare me for how ridiculous this whole process has been. Being that it was a hit and run, I have been dealing with my own insurance, Liberty Mutual. I want to highlight right away that, looking back, there were several coverages that I wish I had added to my policy. I had fairly decent limits, but I undervalued UMPD and rental coverage, since a) I don't mind paying a deductible, and b) I live near family and have plenty of cars I can borrow. Knowing what I know now, UMPD would have been helpful in not only taking care of the deductible, but allowing me to pursue a diminished value claim. Loss of use, which I didn't need, would have forced Liberty to not drag their feet, since it's costing them money. I should also mention that I have a legacy employee policy, so the language is a bit different than modern policies you buy today.
I had dashcam footage of the accident, submitted it and a photo of the damage to my vehicle to my adjuster. I took my car to a shop that was recommended by Ford and had really great reviews. The shop also promised OEM part replacement, and I was prepared to pay out of pocket for part differences if insurance didn't accept. I informed Liberty where my vehicle was. The shop did a teardown and had an estimate for over $25,000 within a few days, which I promptly forwarded to Liberty. After a week, I received a call from the shop stating the field adjuster still hadn't looked at my vehicle or talked with them. I called my desk adjuster and he told me a remote estimate was just finishing up. The following day I received an estimate based on the single photo I took of the side of my vehicle for $3,000. I told them that I did not intend them to do an estimate based on a single photo, and I confirmed they had the estimate and photos from the shop. The shop was encouraging Liberty to send out a field adjuster, but Liberty refused.
After another week, I received Liberty's estimate for just over $17,000. I didn't realize the part difference would be so much! In reading the estimate, however, I realized that there wasn't an issue with part pricing, it was all labor. I called the field adjuster, no response. I called his manager, no response. I called both of them daily for one week before initiating an OIC complaint. After that, I promptly received a call back.
The field adjuster explained that my shop is being unreasonable, and that Liberty always pays the "prevailing rate." I asked how they come about that rate, and he said "that's way above my head." I told him I would need a better answer than that, since in my own research (literally just calling shops), my shop's rate was right in the middle. He was completely unwilling to discuss further, and explained that Liberty would not be paying any of the shop's storage fees if I decide to move the vehicle, even though most of the delays had been caused by Liberty.
At this point, my vehicle had been sitting for nearly a month with no work started. After speaking with the field adjuster, I demanded an independent appraisal per my policy, and was denied. I threatened bad faith and copy/pasted the appraisal provision of my policy. If you don't know policy, then here's a quick overview: nearly every auto policy has an appraisal clause which stipulates that if damages cannot be agreed upon, you can request an independent appraisal of damages. Here's the kicker: you and your insurance company must agree to the appraiser selected, and if not then both parties hire an appraiser and negotiate the final estimate, which is binding.
After pointing this out, Liberty promptly hired IAnet. Now, I know IAnet, and I know they're independent in name only. I rejected this selection, and I already had an appraiser lined up to represent me. No response from Liberty. I reminded them again of my policy language. Nothing. It has been nearly 2 weeks and Liberty stopped responding to my emails and phone calls. The "independent" appraisal is about to be completed, but it's currently "pending audit to meet Liberty Mutual's guidelines." Again, there is nothing independent about this company.
I never thought I'd be the pain-in-the-ass claimant, but Liberty appears to be dragging themselves into bad faith. I have told them time and time again that I just want the car fixed, nothing more, but now my OIC contact is stating that a bad faith 20-day-notice might be my next step, because Liberty appears to be violating several provisions of their policy with me. For now, I am waiting for the appraiser's estimate before I consider that, because I know that'll only prolong the process. I can't simply move the vehicle, since it has racked up nearly $3k in storage, and despite Liberty's delays causing at least 4 weeks worth of headaches, they refuse to pay a dime. My only option now is to to continue to force them to comply with the policy and hope that I won't have to go through the bad faith process.
In all the time I spent as an adjuster, I have simply never encountered this issue. I was also expected to know the policy, though, and I'm not sure adjusters are even trained on the policy language anymore.
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2023.06.07 17:53 iJasonator Looking to start a business, need ideas on what please!
We have a bit of money saved up. +~ $300k.
Wife is business minded and I am very creative.
The current business I work for has been bought and sold 2 times and I’ve been through three sets of owners, none of which “knew the business” but learned and was able to succeed which inspired us to take a risk.
So. We live in Tampa Bay. We have a decent nest egg saved. Wife has a successful dog walking business that employs multiple people so we know the ins and outs of payroll, taxes, CS, etc.
We would like something rather unique, or at least a spin off the ordinary.
No coffee shops, food trucks, or food in general.
Ideally one that can have a $100k a year net profit.
We are exploring ideas!
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2023.06.07 17:52 a_bluebirdinmyheart animal cafes?
shortly before i went vegan, i bought my boyfriend and i tickets to go to a cat cafe in la. all the cats are up for adoption and have been rescued/saved from euthanasia. it was for this reason that i did not question my decision, because i just wanted to pet some cats and know my money was going towards helping them. i recently heard about a bunny cafe opening, and i was interested. when i was a kid, my family adopted a rabbit from my neighbors who were giving one away, we named her cleo and she was my baby; i had her for nearly 8 years. i miss her still, and thought maybe going to pet bunnies and drink coffee would help. but i saw some people online claiming that this cafe is unethical, and the rabbits are being exploited for profit. they aren't being saved from euthanasia or anything like that, it's just for human entertainment. for that reason, i won't be going. but now it has me thinking, are all animal cafes inherently exploitative? i was considering returning to the cat cafe, but may have to rethink my decision. i was just wondering what other vegans think.
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2023.06.07 17:49 jerryfisherjellyfish Logo for a boutique coffee shop
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Designing a logo for a boutique coffee shop called “Bean & Bloom”. The coffee shop has a cozy and rustic atmosphere with a focus on specialty coffee and floral arrangements. They want a logo that reflects their unique blend of coffee and floral elements, portraying a sense of warmth, elegance and craftsmanship. I created three concepts and will be showing the best one. submitted by jerryfisherjellyfish to logodesign [link] [comments]
Color is coffee brown which gives off the impression of a rusty and cozy environment and also some degree of warmth. Although using coffee brown might be cliche, the client’s objective is for the logo to be designed as plainly as possible.
I tried as much as possible to represent the words “bean” & “bloom” as an element in this logo with the use of negative space.
Client also wants a font that balances elegance and readability, avoiding over intricate or decorative styles, so I opted for Arizona font.
So here are some mock-ups , I need your thoughts and suggestions!
2023.06.07 17:46 Key_Outcome_3386 Why would my ex 's fiance (26F) slander my name (35F), create drama and stalk me 7 years after I broke up with my ex (37M)?
For reference, I'm 35, he's 37 and she's 26.
Backstory: Him and I were together for 3 years, we lived together for 2 years. He asked me to marry him 2 years in, I said yes. I realized shortly after that he exhibited a lot of traits that were too toxic to overlook and we civilly discussed breaking up when our lease ended at the beginning of the summer '16. When the lease ended we both moved to separate places and went through with the break up. It was a clean breakup, no drama, mutual etc. I have not had any contact with him since 2016. We have some mutual friends post breakup, 1 of which I've stayed in touch with casually, we've hung out maybe 1-3x in the past 7 years.
2019: My ex is currently engaged to a 26 year old woman. He started seeing her in 2018. The reason I know this is because this woman stalked me periodically since they started dating. It started in 2019 when she made 3 visits to my part time place of employment which is a small retail store in the city. She came in and struck up a convo with a random customer at the store and loudly said her name, my ex's name, that they worked together, mentioned where they worked, said that she was better looking than his ex and was making small talk. She was clearly trying to provoke me, but I ignored her. She even signed up for a joint account under her name and my ex's name with my manager and said "we'll be back as a couple". She came in 2x after that and my co-workers assisted her. I also saw her trailing my car 2x when I was driving to my parent's house, 40 minutes from the city where I live and where she presumably lived at the time, she followed me all the way to my street but didn't turn.
2021: I was driving to the grocery store in my neighborhood and saw her and my ex standing outside of a cigar shop downtown less than a 2 minute walk from the apartment complex I live at. I didn't think anything of it, although they don't live in my current city. This was around 7:30pm. The next morning I woke up and my car's tail light was smashed out and my car was scratched. I filed a police report and the officer said it was vandalized, and it was not from another car hitting my vehicle, he asked me if anyone would have done this. There are no cameras on the lot where I live.
2023: February:" I saw her standing outside of my apartment when I was coming in from a coffee run. My apartment complex has residential and commercial leases so I didn't question it and assumed she was here for one of the businesses.
Then 2 weeks ago at random I got a message from the mutual friend that I have with my ex. He informed me that he had been told he was not allowed to attend my ex's wedding, because his fiance doesn't want them to be friends. He told me he was deleted off all social media accounts and blocked by both of them, simply for following me on instagram. He also told me that my ex's fiance had been stalking me online and had told him that she noticed he liked almost all of my posts over the last 2 years and that was unacceptable to her. He was at the home of her and my ex, when she confronted him and told him I was disgusting and called me some awful names. She accused him of having a crush on me and asked why he would follow me or like my posts unless he thought I was better than her. When he disagreed with her and said she was being irrational, she went and got my ex from his room and had him escort this person out of their house. BTW, my ex and this person have been best friends since they were 8.
I've never spoken to this woman, my ex and I haven't talked in 7 years, she's never met me, I've never done anything to her, yet after 7 years she's still causing drama to spill into my life. What's the reason for this and besides blocking her and continuing to ignore her should I do anything else?
TLDR: My ex and I had a mutual break up 7 years ago, civilly and with no drama. The break up was initiated by me. We haven't spoken since 2016. His fiance who he started seeing in 2018 has stalked me for 4 years, slanders my name, has come into my work and been seen outside of my home. She has caused drama to spill over into my life as recently as this week when she demanded her fiance tell his best friend that he was no longer welcome at their wedding after the confronted him for being my friend on social media.
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2023.06.07 17:46 leowonderer 32 [m4a] LF reco best Coffee Shop (for content)
LF your recommendation of best coffee shops in Metro (considers also outside). Not a bigtime content creator yet but trying to build audience online. ☺️
Accessible for public commute lang and may at least isang drink/coffee na note worthy, even the place. Yung look bg place doesn't have to be limited sa aesthetics, as long as may story behind ok lang kahit ano.
TIA sa mga mag reco. Who knows, may makasama pa ako magkape from here. ☺️
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2023.06.07 17:40 KingKhram Right near the front of the shop
2023.06.07 17:36 East-Egg2412 On the hunt
I’m super excited now that I’m ready to purchase the N after so long. My only issue now is I’m not able to find any near me. I’m spreading my search wider as I hope to purchase one very soon. If anyone has any advice for me it’s greatly appreciate. I live in New England so I’ve been thinking about looking down in PA
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2023.06.07 17:26 Mysterious-Bat-6615 I (26F) am afraid that my boyfriend (28M) might implode under all the immense pressure he's going through. How do I help him?
This is a throwaway account because my boyfriend is an active Redditor, and we follow each other's accounts here, but he never goes to this sub.
This is also going to be a long post, but I hope you can bear with me.
I (26F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (28M) for 5.5 years now, and this is probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. For the purposes of this post, I'll call him Ben. We met in college, and Ben was the sweetest and cutest guy I've ever met. He's two years ahead of me, but he was a part of the welcoming committee at our university, and boy, were we lucky. He was such a charismatic gentleman with an awesome personality and looks to match. I think everyone in my friend group, including me, had a huge crush on him, but he had a girlfriend at the time. When they broke up (she cheated on him), I took my chance and confessed my feelings for him. At that time, I was still a dumb kid, and Ben turned me down politely. However, months later, the stars aligned for us, and long story short, we became a couple.
Before COVID (we were already two years into the relationship by this time), we started living together for a few months because we both worked at offices near each other, so we figured it would be easier and more cost-effective. When the pandemic happened, we went back to our homes. However, things happened with Ben's household. His brother (let's call him Paul) came out as gay, and their parents kicked him out. Ben decided to take Paul under his wing, and we decided to live together again with Paul. Another layer to this was Paul becoming suicidal at the start of his coming out journey (I mean, he was kicked out by his parents, so that was really tough), but he's thankfully in a much better place now. Of course, Paul's recovery was extremely difficult.
In 2021, I started my master's degree. I had to quit my full-time job and take on some freelancing instead. I told Ben that I could still take on more freelancing clients to help with the expenses, but he told me not to so that I could focus on my master's. Suffice to say, I couldn't contribute much to our expenses. While I'm still earning, it barely covers our bills. Paul also volunteered to take on jobs while he's studying, but Ben forbade him so that he could focus on his studies (Paul is actually a genius, who now has a full-ride scholarship in college, which was why Ben didn't want him distracted).
So, Ben took it upon himself to work three or four jobs at a time to support himself, me, and Paul (who was still studying but was essentially financially cut off from their family). Ben actually grew up in a rural farm area, helping out his family, so all his life, all he knew was to work hard to survive. He was the first in their family to go to college, and although he wasn't the brightest, he certainly gave his best. That was also why he was so determined to support Paul in his academics. I chip in whenever I can, and my parents would also contribute from time to time, but it was really Ben who supported our little trio through those times.
However, this is where my concern for Ben starts. Whenever I ask him how he is, he always puts on a huge smile, then he hugs and kisses me, saying that everything is fine. But I can tell how physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted he really is. It's like whenever I'm not looking, I can feel that he's often trying to catch his breath, thinking about something or always brooding, which is really not like him at all.
Then, last year, Ben got a new job that pays about triple his salary compared to his previous main employer, so he didn't have to work multiple jobs anymore. He was so happy because he could spend more time with us now. That was such a relief for me because I could feel his old self genuinely coming back.
However, late last year, we had another curveball. Paul was diagnosed with a heart condition and needed surgery urgently. Of course, that meant a ton of expenses. Ben was once again forced to work A LOT. He was working overtime at his company and took on two more side jobs. He also borrowed money from friends, took out some loans, and basically did everything he could to make sure Paul got the treatment he needed. My parents also gave him money, which he initially refused, but he eventually gave in because he was still short. He also swallowed his pride and begged their parents for money, which they eventually gave, but with a lot of guilt-tripping, shaming, and tongue-lashing. Not once did I hear Ben complain about any of this, and to this day, Paul doesn't know a lot of what his brother had to do and go through to come up with the money.
Thankfully, Paul's operation was a success, and he's now making a full recovery. However, one night last February, I woke up at around 2 am and saw Ben still at our dining table, doing a bunch of paperwork. He told me it was nothing, just routine stuff, but I saw that he was computing all the loans and debts he had incurred trying to come up with the money for Paul's surgery. He kissed me good night, but I saw in his eyes that he was panicking deep inside and was about to break down, but he didn't.
Fast forward to last month. Ben got a huge bonus for his performance at work, which took off some of the burden from our financial situation. However, at a party, we found out that he was sexually assaulted by a colleague (let's call her Karen). Ben never drank alcohol in his life, but he was unknowingly intoxicated/drugged by a colleague (we still don't know yet). He was passed out, then Karen took him home a few blocks away and performed oral sex on him. We were unsure what happened until another colleague saw photos of him naked on Karen's phone. Karen is now fired, and legal proceedings are ongoing.
Throughout all this, Ben has maintained a very composed facade, and he continues to do so. When their company's HR and legal teams told us about the incident, all he said was "That sucks" (that was an intentional joke about the oral). However, during our ride home, he was really quiet. I can tell that he's hurting, but he just doesn't verbalize it. He also told me not to tell Paul about the whole incident if we can help it, but he still found out last week because of all the legal things we're going through. When he found out, Paul actually cried and gave Ben the tightest hug, and I bawled as well. However, Ben was just like, "Man, I really don't want all this attention."
Then, last night, something happened that prompted me to write this post. While we were sleeping, Ben suddenly woke up and rushed to the kitchen, around 1 am. The commotion woke me up too, and I asked him what was wrong. I was so worried because he looked so pale, his lips were dry, and drenched in sweat. He also seemed like he was out of breath and he was panting heavily, struggling to speak. He said he felt that he could feel his heart beating so fast and that there was ringing in his ears. He was also feeling dizzy and nauseated. He tried to pour himself a glass of water, but his hands were shaking badly, so I did it for him.
I then took him to the ER, and hours later, after some tests (thankfully, this was covered by his insurance), the doctor said that Ben had a panic attack. Then, what shocked me the most was that Ben said this was not the first time this has happened. He told the doctor that this has happened about 4 times since last month, but last night was the most severe one. Upon hearing that, I felt like I was being punched in my gut, and everything went silent. I didn't hear what the doctor prescribed him. My mind went blank, and all I could think of was how terrible of a girlfriend I am for not noticing this earlier. When we talked about it at home, he just told me that he didn't want me to worry about him, and that he thought it was just allergies or something (I know, lame excuse). I just wanted to cry because all this time, Ben had been keeping this from me and is going through all this alone. I tried to talk to him some more about what we should do, but he just said he's got it under control now and I shouldn't worry about him anymore.
I'm really, really, really worried about him, though, and I don't know what to do.
I've never seen Ben cry or curse or be mad or be violent throughout our entire relationship. Every time, he just says something to reassure me, then he blurts out a joke or a sarcastic remark. I know that sounds like a dream guy for many people, but I'm just really worried about him. I've told him a thousand times that he can talk to me about whatever he's truly feeling, but he never opens up. I don't know if it's pride, ego, toxic masculinity, or just how he was raised, but I've told him multiple times that I will never judge him or see him differently. I always talk to him about my problems, so he knows that I treat our relationship as a safe space, and I've told him that he could do the same. However, the only "problems" he shares are shallow issues like not liking the lunch served at work or being 2 minutes late due to traffic or spilling coffee on his shirt.
Every day, before going out for work, Ben kisses me and says "I love you," but there's just something different about him. It's like he's putting up this entire persona just to please me, but I can see right through it. I don't know if it's just the sadness in his eyes or the way he sort of fakes his smile. Don't get me wrong, though. I never once doubted that he loves me, and I still deeply love him, but the fact that he doesn't acknowledge his negative emotions really worries me that he might just implode one day.
I'm sorry if that has just been a long-winded, incoherent, rambling mess, but do you have any advice on how I can help him?
TLDR: My boyfriend has been under a lot of pressure and is not opening up to me. He just had a severe panic attack last night, but he still doesn't want to acknowledge his emotions. What can I do to help him?
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2023.06.07 17:23 Death_OneNote Where and how much do you usually tip?
I know to tip in restaurants, bars, hotels, etc. how about fast food, Starbucks, bakeries, coffee shops, etc? Do you have to to tip there?
Wouldn’t this have been weird in the 2000s?
A lot of places seem to have a minimum of 18% nowadays. Is that how much you should tip? I don’t want to look bad.
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2023.06.07 17:22 ladyj1182 Sign at coffee shop
I have this local coffee shop that I adore. It has great drinks,food,service.
I have been seeing signs in other places that read... Be the person your dog thinks you are.
This one read....
Be the person your dog is.
Below that... Service dogs ESA dogs allowed Please feel free to bring any dog. The more the better. Pupper menu soon.
Looks like I need to scratch this place off my list. Ugh what is wrong with places?? They serve food and drink. Why oh why do you need to take a dog???
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2023.06.07 17:18 Deep-Team-5707 Are there any cafe/coffee shops with a lo-fi/chillhop aesthetic?
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2023.06.07 17:16 SubManagerBot Incomplete and Growing List of Participating Subreddits Thread 2
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2023.06.07 17:13 endersgame69 Kayobi's Days Off C19
Maybe it was the presence of human emotions of this sort… this ‘pity’ thing was kind of new to me. I know, I know, you might be wondering, ‘Didn’t you pity Suki?’ or ‘Didn’t you pity Jin?’ and the answer is ‘no’. Maybe if things got worse for them, but Suki was alive and Jin was still in school, they weren’t at what humans call ‘Rock Bottom’ yet, so why would I feel pity?
But stealing snacks and working for someone who loathes you to buy old bento while wearing dirty clothes and living in a body they had to know was kind of bad smelling? Maybe things could have been worse but… well if it got worse that didn’t mean they weren’t at rock bottom, it just meant that they were at rock bottom when somebody handed them a stick of T.N.T. like out of one of those old cartoons so they could blast their way down deeper.
So yeah, yeah I pitied the boy, which probably was obvious and probably made him feel worse. But then again he did pick on Jin and so I wasn’t too concerned about him feeling bad about eating pity-bento.
Jin showed up about two hours prior to closing, a smile on his face, he was clearly increasingly happy in the last few days, and this was no exception. “Thanks again, Kayobi! I’ll lock up!” He said and waited while I bought snacks for myself.
“Sure thing, see you tomorrow.” I promised, and went back to my apartment.
I immediately turned on the television and tossed my snacks on the coffee table sitting in front of my plushy, soft couch, and after a moment’s consideration I decided, after putting on my pajamas, I would make Asahi’s life just a little bit easier.
I gathered my dirty clothing and threw it into an old green laundry bag I’d acquired, along with a few single-use detergent packets, then put the little box of trash bags out on the countertop for him to easily find, right next to the dish soap. I had almost no dishes, but there were some plastic ones I sort of kept and reused.
And that was that. I teleported my snacks into my hand and flopped myself on the couch, leaving the door cracked open so that Asahi would know I was there and couldn’t later pretend he knocked and nobody was home or something equally absurd.
I did have my doubts about his arrival, would he show or not show? I looked at my chocolate cream cookies and my bag of melon chips and licked my lips. I chose to have a little fun with it.
I stacked up my cookies, ten high. Then I set out a few handfuls of chips on the table and checked my phone. He had ten minutes. “Alright, if he shows up, I eat you.” I pointed at the cookies. “If he doesn’t show up, I eat you.”
“Nooo…” I gave the cookies and chips voices, and messed around with making them protest their pending consumption.
“I’m sorry, cookies and chips, but you are made of deliciousness, and Kayobi must consume to be content. But worry not, for you will live on in memory, no matter what happens, bear it bravely, and you need die but once.” I said and made a dramatic half bow to my snacks before laughing at my silly game and turning on the show to watch a boy getting flung around by a lamia’s tail as he tried to bear her…superabundant…affections.
I liked this show a lot, the characters were fun with all their silly romantic hijinks, I really felt the haphazard struggles of the male lead, but of all of them, Smith was my favorite. Doing all she could to avoid work at every turn…
I don’t know, something about her just spoke to my soul.
So I watched the story unfold as he was nearly choked, accidentally did some no-no touching thanks to her poor directions while he was blindfolded, and otherwise just had his life turned upside down.
And while I watched I took a look at the food menu for a delivery place. Before I could order anything or even make a decision, there was a knock at my door.
It opened a crack, and I said, “If you’re a Yakuza hitman, I’ll murder you, but if you’re Asahi, good timing, come on in.” I didn’t bother looking toward the door.
“H-Hi… ah… Yakuza hitman?” He asked, his boldness was completely gone from him, and he now seemed a lot smaller to me as he slipped in the door without even opening it all the way.
I snorted and gave a dismissive wave, “It’s an inside joke, don’t worry about it.” I proceeded to reach for the cookies and popped the top one into my mouth, and while my left cheek was puffed out I said, “Here’s the deal, Asahi, I hate chores. So you can do them for me to pay me back. Start with my laundry, and by the way, there’s enough detergent for ‘extra’ loads. If you happen to use it all up while washing some of your own, fine. Don’t care, just get mine done.”
I then pointed to the green bag sitting against the wall. “But don’t do anything pervy with my underwear. I watch your shows, and this is not one of your ecchi programs.” I glowered at him, and the young man blushed a bright crimson in his face.
“I-I wouldn’t! I-” He tried to protest, but I cut him off.
“Don’t worry about it. After you’re done, there’s some dishes to do and some cleanup here in the living area. Get that handled, and by then, well I’m about to order dinner, if you want the leftovers, that’s fine. Then we’ll call it square for today. Questions?” I asked, and when his stomach rumbled, I threw another cookie in my mouth.
He was all but salivating. “Yeah… I… I got it.” He murmured.
“Then get to it, and I’ll see you in about two hours.” I said, and then went back to watching my show while he went to do my laundry.
The door closed behind him, and you know something?
I’d never felt so bad about anything in all my life. Never. Not once. I looked at the remaining stack of cookies and chips, “I am afraid, since the goddess of your world is kind of an evil monarch, there will be no clemency for any of you. Your sentence is to be carried out immediately.” I said to my food, and tossed them cookie by cookie and chip by chip into my mouth with crunch after crunch continuing until such time as the whole of my doomed snacktopian subjects were quite devoured.
But they hadn’t tasted good.
It was more like ashes in my mouth than explosive tastiness.
I felt like the Yakuza bosses by exploiting Suki and who knew how many others around Shinjai. Or like I’d kicked a damn puppy for chewing on a shoe. Alright, what Asahi had done was bad, but I’d already punished him and he’d seemingly stopped.
“Stars above… he is just a kid, don’t kick him while he’s already down, Kayobi.” I told myself and contemplated my now devoid execution square where all the chips and cookies were sacrificed on the altar of my divine laziness.
As I watched the protagonist start to drown in the mermaid’s pool, I selected an order for pizza from my phone. I ordered some from a local chain, Aoki’s, and one from a popular American one, Domino’s. I used a few coupons to get some freebies thrown in, and then that was that.
It was only a matter of time before that got here, and Asahi got back, and then maybe my food would stop tasting bad. Evidently treating people badly ruins meals, even if they deserve it. “Hmpf. Who knew?” I rolled my eyes at my own question, stretched out, and resumed watching the nigh invincible protagonist suffer every kind of indignant injury, and I laughed the entire time.
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2023.06.07 17:12 Daylily-14 Morning! Looking for some help. I have meetings spread apart today in long branch and I’m looking for recommendations on a place to work!
Coffee shops, cafes, looking for places that are ok with someone using wifi 2+ hours
Also open to seal beach!
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2023.06.07 17:00 throwRAbasilplant That feeling of "the world is your oyster" when you're graduating HS. Wonder if it gets pounded out of us or if it was even real.
I watched a movie recently that involved a teenager coming of age. The excitement of college. Parents telling the kid that they could do anything they put their mind to. The world was theirs to grab. Set them free and fly stuff.
I'm 30. I remember this feeling but it's been pounded out of me I think. Life is so expensive.at the end of the day we don't have a ton of energy after work and chores. The economy is unforgiving.
So maybe like me, many choose safe jobs. But even so owning a home is so out of reach. Healthcare is crazy (USA)
I have thought that those feelings when you graduate were naive. For instance all the 21 year olds who think they will start their own coffee shop, become a photographer, etc. Then later in their 20s reality catches up with them.
I guess at 30 you can still dream, but it's more realistic. Thoughts?
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2023.06.07 16:58 prioritydebatable Tuesdays
Once a week Grandfather brings in a fist of flowers from the gsrden to my grandmother and this week is no different. I'm visiting for a few days and I'm glad I'm here on today. He has a slight limp this morning but he gets around pretty well for his age. With flowers in one hand, coffee in the other, he pauses briefly a few feet from the door and takes a deep breath. He scrunches his face on the exhale, like hes remembered something stressful but it gives way to a grin and he steps forward once again, entering the house.
On his way in Grandmother had offered that I could have my pick of her dishes and a second set in her will if I refer to Grandfather as Poppy today. Naturally I'd do this for free but I barter instead for her Fenton glass apples. Negotiations are made and you can consider Poppy mildly annoyed.
I give him enough time to enter the kitchen and offer his findings to Grandmother and wait for my favorite part. She grabs a shallow vase from under the sink and adds water. After shes fiddled with them she places them on the kitchen bar and sits in the stool beside me. Her wrinkled hands reach forward as she grabs a snapdragon and tells me she loves me, in a dragons voice no less. It's a little shakier than when I visited as a child but theres a fierceness still evident.
After a little giggle I look up to see Grandfather smiling as Grandmother, without even look away from her finger puppet, suggest we build onto the house and add a tower. That familiar scrunch to his face as he exhales returns and he simply walks close enough to kiss her forehead. "If you still want one next week we will make it happen", he says softly now walkin beyond her towards his study. She swiftly toddles behind then past him. Bumping into his side, on accident I'm sure, she pinches his tush on her way. "Oh, excuse me. So sorry", through her smile as she stops beside the trashcan to pick a small piece of fuzz from her shirt and let it fall into the bin before returning to her stool. "Couldnt wait could it?" asks Grandfather. "Well when something needs done I should do it when I think of it," she returns, looking through her lashes and over her glasses towards him. "Yea, you're always having to remind her of things, Poppy, so shes actually helping you out" I chime in. Hes looking at the both of us over his glasses now, though much less lovingly than his lady was. Infact I dare say he has a look that pleads to halt the shenanigans until later in the day.
He turns and towards his study he goes. "Let me know if you need anything, Poppy, okay? You need to take it easy today!" I throw my voice across the house to Grandfather. "Okay sw...what was that?" He throws his voice back. "Just let me know if you need anything. I love you!" He returns the sentiment. I think hes caught it but maybe not enough to be sure.
Visiting my grandparents has always been an enjoyable thing. They dont mind family staying over but they did build a small cottage/in law suite in the yard. Not beside the house, of corse, towards the corner of the cleared property. Just incase we want privacy, ya know. They want us to have our own space and having it might encourage us to visit often, is what we are told. Personally, I think they want us to visit without being in their space but who's counting. We do visit and often, and our own space is nice to have here.
We chat and Grandmother updates me of her plans for the day, shes going to spend most of her morning in the green house before an afternoon nap. Grandfather, I mean Poppy, built her the greenhouse before I was born. Hes brought her a treat or little gift every week for so long it was time for a long term investment. She liked planting flowers and she liked receiving flowers, two birds one stone. Plus the added benifit of she liked showing off her flowers so if Grandfather is picking flowers from her garden he has to look at them enough to pick them out. It was just added compliment to her and added convenience to him, now they have flowers near year round.
I help her walk to the greenhouse as we exchange thoughts. I turn at the door to walk towards the suite as I hear her. "Come, let me show you my favorite flowers." Shes shown me a thousand times, just this year. Something about the tone in her voice compels me to turn around without really thinking. I shut the door behind me and reach beside the door where extra gloves are displayed. Maybe not exactly what I wanted to do the rest of the morning but it's still far from the worst.
The greenhouse is a chaotic blend of splendid colors and fragrances. Something to catch the eye from start to Finnish. We walk around as she introduces me to her shining stars and even the ones struggling to live. So far shes mentioned several types of flowers and labeled them as her favorite, typically flowering plants with lots of petals. Carnations, dahlias, there were double petaled hollyhocks, hyacinth, and Daisy's. Some that looked like candy. Some with medicinal tags with notes on a stakes beside them, even some with caution and warning signs.
Before I knew it quite some time had passed. We made our way around the green house and were hanging our gloves up. She has a way of occupying your time without taking your time from you. Cranky or crazy or calm, Grandmother valued our time and always had a knack for spending hours with us without it feeling that way. One of the ways her magic peaks through I suppose.
As we are making our way back to the main house I can see Grandfather through the kitchen window. Hes at the coffee pot again casually checking his phone. I turn to see her looking through the window as well. We've smiled a lot today but her eyes only smile like that when she looks at my grandfather. That might be my 2nd favorite part of visiting. "You forgot to mention snapdragons, Grandmother" I say, "more often than not Grandfather brings you snapragons. Maybe Zennia and snapdragons, or Tulips and snapdragons, or even carnations and tulips and snapdragons, but you get them most of all." "Well yes, those are plenty nice. I have several colors so they'll match with a lot, fun to look at. I like them just fine" she reasons. "So, are they Grandfathers favorite flower then?" I ask, figuring that's perhaps why. "Your Grandfathers? Oh, no dear" "Well, okay then" i say, now pondering this deeper. Snapdragons are a staple in the flowers of the week. They have been as far back as I can remember. Perhaps it's just one of those things?
We've made it into the side door and into the kitchen. I've asked Poppy a few questions and he seems to be noticing but not annoyed enough to say anything yet. After some idle chit chat between us Grandfather helps my grandmother to her room for a nap, returning a few moments later.
"If you dont cut the shit I'll cut you out of my will entirly" he states before his first full step back into the kitchen. The jig is up. I look at him puzzlingly while fighting back a giggle and a grin. "What did she offer you?" Grandfather pressed. I cannot contain it anymore. Laughter sets loose and even Poppy is sharing in it. "I didnt know if you really noticed" I say as he interupts. "How could I not. You were alone with your grandmother so of course you're up to no good. You've never called me that, and besides do I look like a Poppy? I'm robust. I'm alive and well, not a small flower" he tifts through his smile.
I explain I'm the new owner of her glass apples and mention how I would have done it for free. He compares how spite for amusement is something I share with my grandmother as he pats my hand. He looks towards the hallways to where shes napping then back towards me. "Dont tell her I called you put. Dont you give her the satisfaction of know that I even noticed. He pulls a twenty dollar bill from his pocket and slides it across the counter space towards me I accept his outdated money and sit back in my chair. A physical us dollar hasnt really been worth anything in decades but I'm getting quite the collection that's to bribes. Come to think of it...nah, that themes for another story.
"Hey, before I go to the suite tell me why the snapdragons?" as I'm gesturing towards the vase of flowers. "Well. You see, they are flowers. I pick flowers for your grandmother. Next question" "No," I laugh, "why pick those so often? She has several flowers our there and quite a few of her favorites."
He sits back, "No, those arent her favorites. But she has the most fun with them."
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2023.06.07 16:55 Mesmeric_Revelator Spotted at a local coffee shop