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2023.03.29 17:23 Snoo-41743 I 37F am a petty immature loser and lost my 38M boyfriend, feel so guilty and insane
To preface, I've been going through it (37F). I had to run from a shooting in August and fell and ended up in the hospital, my best friend passed from suicide in November, and I've been struggling in my job as it's sort of turned into an EA role and I'm just not that good at organizing and feel people getting frustrated with me. I've been trying to get new jobs but keep getting ghosted which is hurting my work self esteem. On top of this, I'm in grad school after work 2 days a week. My days are LONG and I'm stressed. I live with a roommate which I can't stand (she's fine , I'm just introverted) and bills pile up and I'm stressed over that.... my (recently ex) 38M boyfriend normally would stay over from Friday night to Tuesday morning (I wfh Mondays). He's been totally wonderful and kind to me and so loving.... but sometimes will say things I find offensive (homophobic F word, some violent jokes that scare me), he also doesn't work. He does pay for things here and there like he will pick up some snacks/drinks for us or small gifts for me or a meal out/takeout. But I get the groceries for us every weekend, which I'm happy to do and like planning meals, but it starts to feel one sided as I cook and clean up and it's my apartment I pay rent and bills for. Like, I work from home Mondays and he just sleeps and snores and smokes weed. It's SO frustrating. He wants to get married and move in together, but he doesn't help me look for apartments, he doesn't seem to make any effort to get a job (he hasn't worked in 2+ years we've been together), and I feel like he's spending most of his time at my apartment rent, bills, and food free.
Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up. I have major abandonment issues, and losing a friend recently didn't help, and I think being so overwhelmed on top of his comment 'dense bitch jealous I have friends' really really triggered me. It was like I was watching myself act crazy from out of my body. I'm actively getting help for this because I don't want to do that again.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
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Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up. I have major abandonment issues, and losing a friend recently didn't help, and I think being so overwhelmed on top of his comment 'dense bitch jealous I have friends' really really triggered me. It was like I was watching myself act crazy from out of my body. I'm actively getting help for this because I don't want to do that again.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
2023.03.29 17:23 gogosingz boycott
Hello Maplers,
coming from a guy who just plays the game and spends thousands per month on ssb, gach, royals for personal satisfaction in hopes that some of majority players thoughts to be reached to those who can make changes happen for the better Maple experience.
Everyday I get notifications on this subreddit and most of the time it's something negative about maple and nexon. At first I would just read to pass some time but it's been a few weeks now that most notification I get is something negative.
So even though this cash shop update is pretty cool and there are multiple things I wanna ssb for, from today I won't spend a penny on the game.
I know me alone is not much but I hope that if you really care for the game, I would love to see other people joining me. Or if there are better methods to hope for a change you should post it and let me and others know.
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coming from a guy who just plays the game and spends thousands per month on ssb, gach, royals for personal satisfaction in hopes that some of majority players thoughts to be reached to those who can make changes happen for the better Maple experience.
Everyday I get notifications on this subreddit and most of the time it's something negative about maple and nexon. At first I would just read to pass some time but it's been a few weeks now that most notification I get is something negative.
So even though this cash shop update is pretty cool and there are multiple things I wanna ssb for, from today I won't spend a penny on the game.
I know me alone is not much but I hope that if you really care for the game, I would love to see other people joining me. Or if there are better methods to hope for a change you should post it and let me and others know.
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2023.03.29 17:21 pinkycross Used car salesman told me I should not buy
Hello!
I've been interested in purchasing a Jimny for a little while now and noticed a local used car garage had one in. It's a 2004 model and looks pretty clean, low mileage as well. I went to look at it today and the salesman said " The Jimny? You're not gonna like the Jimny. Feels like driving a tractor". He then pointed me towards a much higher mileage (yet still pretty nice looking) 2008 Suzuki Grand Vitara VVT 3-Door. He said the Vitara was like driving a car, and the Jimny was more like a farm vehicle. Now...I'm a small young-looking female. How much of that was based off of how I look, and how much is true?
I did not test drive either one, as it was pouring rain and he was about to leave the shop.
Was ready to purchase this Jimny and left feeling confused! I live in the country with some pretty rough roads at times but will also be long-distance traveling on motorways in wind, rain, etc. Thanks for any input.
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I've been interested in purchasing a Jimny for a little while now and noticed a local used car garage had one in. It's a 2004 model and looks pretty clean, low mileage as well. I went to look at it today and the salesman said " The Jimny? You're not gonna like the Jimny. Feels like driving a tractor". He then pointed me towards a much higher mileage (yet still pretty nice looking) 2008 Suzuki Grand Vitara VVT 3-Door. He said the Vitara was like driving a car, and the Jimny was more like a farm vehicle. Now...I'm a small young-looking female. How much of that was based off of how I look, and how much is true?
I did not test drive either one, as it was pouring rain and he was about to leave the shop.
Was ready to purchase this Jimny and left feeling confused! I live in the country with some pretty rough roads at times but will also be long-distance traveling on motorways in wind, rain, etc. Thanks for any input.
2023.03.29 17:21 F4Y241 Advice for buying in Malaysia?
Hey, y'all. Sport sabre fencer here, formerly a kendoka. Been thinking of dipping my toes into HEMA for years, and I was wondering if anyone could advise me on good places to get gear. Are there any shops that can ship to Malaysia with low or free shipping rates? Hoping to get not-so-expensive gear, good enough for sabre or longsword! Thank you kindly for the help
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2023.03.29 17:21 silver_sAUsAGes (NY) Life Insurance when Named Beneficiary is deceased
My old Trusts and Estates teacher is cursing me for going to reddit, but in my defense it's been 15+ years and I never practiced.
My mother passed intestate. She had a Prudential whole life policy that I was just notified about after filing Inventory of Assets. Policy is small (7.5K), but names my maternal Grandmother (deceased) as beneficiary. I assume this was a whole life policy bought by my grandparents as my mom never mentioned it and I found nothing from Prudential while settling her personal effects.
Mom was divorced 35+ years, I am her only issue. Not eligible for Small Estate or Summary Administration. I have incurred debts in excess of $7.5K. I am Administrator of her Estate and I am her only beneficary.
What's the correct way to payout? Figure options are to Estate, to Grandmothers beneficaries per stirpes or direct to me for reimbursement.
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My mother passed intestate. She had a Prudential whole life policy that I was just notified about after filing Inventory of Assets. Policy is small (7.5K), but names my maternal Grandmother (deceased) as beneficiary. I assume this was a whole life policy bought by my grandparents as my mom never mentioned it and I found nothing from Prudential while settling her personal effects.
Mom was divorced 35+ years, I am her only issue. Not eligible for Small Estate or Summary Administration. I have incurred debts in excess of $7.5K. I am Administrator of her Estate and I am her only beneficary.
What's the correct way to payout? Figure options are to Estate, to Grandmothers beneficaries per stirpes or direct to me for reimbursement.
2023.03.29 17:21 Snoo-41743 I got petty revenge and feel so guilty
To preface, I've been going through it (37F). I had to run from a shooting in August and fell and ended up in the hospital, my best friend passed from suicide in November, and I've been struggling in my job as it's sort of turned into an EA role and I'm just not that good at organizing and feel people getting frustrated with me. I've been trying to get new jobs but keep getting ghosted which is hurting my work self esteem. On top of this, I'm in grad school after work 2 days a week. My days are LONG and I'm stressed. I live with a roommate which I can't stand (she's fine , I'm just introverted) and bills pile up and I'm stressed over that.... my (recently ex) 38M boyfriend normally would stay over from Friday night to Tuesday morning (I wfh Mondays). He's been totally wonderful and kind to me and so loving.... but sometimes will say things I find offensive (homophobic F word, some violent jokes that scare me), he also doesn't work. He does pay for things here and there like he will pick up some snacks/drinks for us or small gifts for me or a meal out/takeout. But I get the groceries for us every weekend, which I'm happy to do and like planning meals, but it starts to feel one sided as I cook and clean up and it's my apartment I pay rent and bills for. Like, I work from home Mondays and he just sleeps and snores and smokes weed. It's SO frustrating. He wants to get married and move in together, but he doesn't help me look for apartments, he doesn't seem to make any effort to get a job (he hasn't worked in 2+ years we've been together), and I feel like he's spending most of his time at my apartment rent, bills, and food free.
Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
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Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
2023.03.29 17:21 ParfaitSome1885 SpaceCraft 18+ SMP [Java/Bedrock cross play]
Welcome to Spacecraft! We are an 18+ gaming community. We are rather active, and have active voices chats.
Most of our community is somewhere between EST and PST but it's not uncommon to find someone awake at odd hours. ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~
The Minecraft server is cross platform and semi-vanilla with a handful of quality of life plug-ins and some added fun.
A few highlights are Slimefun, Crazy Enchants, Sign warps, Marriage, Chest Sort, and Shops!
We do have a themed Spawn and community area, as well as a shopping district. ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~
After filling out a simple application one of our admins will let you in and you can grab some self roles!
Message me here for a link!
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Most of our community is somewhere between EST and PST but it's not uncommon to find someone awake at odd hours. ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~
The Minecraft server is cross platform and semi-vanilla with a handful of quality of life plug-ins and some added fun.
A few highlights are Slimefun, Crazy Enchants, Sign warps, Marriage, Chest Sort, and Shops!
We do have a themed Spawn and community area, as well as a shopping district. ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~ ~.•+'.•~
After filling out a simple application one of our admins will let you in and you can grab some self roles!
Message me here for a link!
2023.03.29 17:21 TaroReadr It finally happened
I kept seeing people complain about how bad DD is. I only had one small issue (kept trying to assign me an order in a different town but picked up at my Sheetz not the Sheetz in the neighboring town) until today. They completed my dash a half hour early. Now I don't even have the option to extend my dash and I'm missing the lunch rush because it won't let me schedule until 1:30. Fuck that. I was only going to be able to dash till 2 anyway. Lesson learned. I'll extend my dash as soon as I open it. It was just a little busy this morning and I hadn't had a chance yet.
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2023.03.29 17:20 notusingredditnow Advice needed: Seeking help to build a budget Pc for my 10yo daughter who wants to play the new Harry Potter game
Hello reddit,
I am trying to build a PC for my daughter who wants to play the new Harry Potter game. My daughter has been a huge fan of the HP series ever since she started getting into the habit of reading books. I have always gifted her a Harry Potter book for her birthdays. She really likes the series and has even watched all the movies
Recently she came across the game on a YouTube video and has been pestering me to let her play it on my phone, later i came to know that the game isn't supported for mobile phones and is only available on PCs and video game boxes.
Despite her age she's really well behaved and unlike other similar aged kids she doesn't ask me to buy her toys or makeup kits and even if she does its only on a rare occasion so on her upcoming birthday which is in 4 weeks i plan to give her a PC with which she can play the game she's been asking me so much
While i do know how to use a computer i don't really understand how the hardware part of it works, so i went to my local hardware shop and inquired about a setup that can play the game
The cheapest option they quoted me was around $880, this was too expensive for me because my monthly salary is just $220. now i don't really know if the shop is just trying to scam me or computer parts are just that expensive in general so I started searching up the internet and came across this community by chance. I tried my best to understand the know how's but i am not sure if i can trust myself yet.
After a bit of research I have come up with this:
Microprocessor: i7-2700k
RAM: 8gb
Graphics Proccessor: GT 1030
Disk: 256GB HDD
Motherboard: B75MA-E33
Power Supply: Zebronics 170W
I don't know if the above configuration is any good or not, i have been overwhelmed by the amount of information so i would like to hear the thoughts of someone who knows about this kind of stuff before buying blindly. My budget is very tight so I would prefer to keep it around $250-$270 if possible. I know its very less but i just need something that can run the game without any issues don't really mind if it looks ugly or heavy.
I live in a third world country(India) so the prices may differ since we are taxed heavily on Electronics related items. Also i learned that one can play the game in a video game box too but our TV is too old so i don't think it'll work with that and the local shop here doesn't sell games for them either.
Thanks in advance for the help
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I am trying to build a PC for my daughter who wants to play the new Harry Potter game. My daughter has been a huge fan of the HP series ever since she started getting into the habit of reading books. I have always gifted her a Harry Potter book for her birthdays. She really likes the series and has even watched all the movies
Recently she came across the game on a YouTube video and has been pestering me to let her play it on my phone, later i came to know that the game isn't supported for mobile phones and is only available on PCs and video game boxes.
Despite her age she's really well behaved and unlike other similar aged kids she doesn't ask me to buy her toys or makeup kits and even if she does its only on a rare occasion so on her upcoming birthday which is in 4 weeks i plan to give her a PC with which she can play the game she's been asking me so much
While i do know how to use a computer i don't really understand how the hardware part of it works, so i went to my local hardware shop and inquired about a setup that can play the game
The cheapest option they quoted me was around $880, this was too expensive for me because my monthly salary is just $220. now i don't really know if the shop is just trying to scam me or computer parts are just that expensive in general so I started searching up the internet and came across this community by chance. I tried my best to understand the know how's but i am not sure if i can trust myself yet.
After a bit of research I have come up with this:
Microprocessor: i7-2700k
RAM: 8gb
Graphics Proccessor: GT 1030
Disk: 256GB HDD
Motherboard: B75MA-E33
Power Supply: Zebronics 170W
I don't know if the above configuration is any good or not, i have been overwhelmed by the amount of information so i would like to hear the thoughts of someone who knows about this kind of stuff before buying blindly. My budget is very tight so I would prefer to keep it around $250-$270 if possible. I know its very less but i just need something that can run the game without any issues don't really mind if it looks ugly or heavy.
I live in a third world country(India) so the prices may differ since we are taxed heavily on Electronics related items. Also i learned that one can play the game in a video game box too but our TV is too old so i don't think it'll work with that and the local shop here doesn't sell games for them either.
Thanks in advance for the help
2023.03.29 17:20 43Gofres MGP Stinger For CBR500R
Just making this post because it would have helped me a lot while shopping around for a new exhaust.
I bought a the MGP Stinger for my 2022 CBR500R directly from the hot bodies racing website. It sounds 10x better than I had hoped. It was a great deal.
The only thing is, the installation of the internal db killer is very whacky. I decided it wasn’t worth the risk and just left it out. It is very loud but in a good way.
Feel free to ask me anything about the exhaust even if you’re seeing this post years in the future
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I bought a the MGP Stinger for my 2022 CBR500R directly from the hot bodies racing website. It sounds 10x better than I had hoped. It was a great deal.
The only thing is, the installation of the internal db killer is very whacky. I decided it wasn’t worth the risk and just left it out. It is very loud but in a good way.
Feel free to ask me anything about the exhaust even if you’re seeing this post years in the future
2023.03.29 17:20 masterangkanet Prediksi Master Angka Hongkong 29/03/2023
2023.03.29 17:20 panconpinga-pan 2016 ford transit connect ac shits off after 5 minutes cold start
Good morning all, I want to thank you for looking at my question. I have a 2016 ford transit connect. It has a a non turbo 4 inline. The car ac turns on and gets really cold when doing a cold start. After about 5 minutes the clutch no longer engages. I put a gauge in the small port of the ac and it’s showing 100 psi. Compressor is not turning on. What is the advice for for me to proceed? Thank you sooo much
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2023.03.29 17:20 leneonik Troubleshooting weird first couple of layers.
 | Hello, I could help troubleshooting; thanks for any help! submitted by leneonik to 3Dprinting [link] [comments] I recently changed the hotend, added a BLTouch, changed the cooling system/fans and converted to Klipper. (More info below) Yesterday I did the first print after changing everything (test cube, 3rd picture) and was really happy with the result apart from what I think (?) is a small elephant foot. Today I wanted to print something else and the first few layers look really weird (first two pictures); like no filament comes out of the nozzle (?). However on one side there are these weird spots with a lot of filament. No idea why. The bed mesh tells me the maximum difference between parts of the print bed is 0.29mm so pretty even I’d say. General system info: - Printer: Creality CR-10 V1 - Mainboard: Bigtreetech SKR Mini E3 V3.0 - Hotend: Phaetus Dragonfly BMS - Connected to Raspberry Pi running Mainsail OS - Part Cooling: Dual 5015 with HeroMe Setup If you need more info, please ask. Thanks in advance! |
2023.03.29 17:20 Snoo-41743 i got petty revenge and feel so guilty
To preface, I've been going through it (37F). I had to run from a shooting in August and fell and ended up in the hospital, my best friend passed from suicide in November, and I've been struggling in my job as it's sort of turned into an EA role and I'm just not that good at organizing and feel people getting frustrated with me. I've been trying to get new jobs but keep getting ghosted which is hurting my work self esteem. On top of this, I'm in grad school after work 2 days a week. My days are LONG and I'm stressed. I live with a roommate which I can't stand (she's fine , I'm just introverted) and bills pile up and I'm stressed over that.... my (recently ex) 38M boyfriend normally would stay over from Friday night to Tuesday morning (I wfh Mondays). He's been totally wonderful and kind to me and so loving.... but sometimes will say things I find offensive (homophobic F word, some violent jokes that scare me), he also doesn't work. He does pay for things here and there like he will pick up some snacks/drinks for us or small gifts for me or a meal out/takeout. But I get the groceries for us every weekend, which I'm happy to do and like planning meals, but it starts to feel one sided as I cook and clean up and it's my apartment I pay rent and bills for. Like, I work from home Mondays and he just sleeps and snores and smokes weed. It's SO frustrating. He wants to get married and move in together, but he doesn't help me look for apartments, he doesn't seem to make any effort to get a job (he hasn't worked in 2+ years we've been together), and I feel like he's spending most of his time at my apartment rent, bills, and food free.
Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
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Lately he's been in a band which seems very important to him. I'm happy for him here, and I'm creative and musical too, and I'm glad he has a productive happy passion. However he seems like he's more into promoting his band, getting IG likes and follows, getting fans, etc. then the actual art of it (he's the vocalist). He's never sent me lyrics or worked on writing when he's at my place, just like promoting on IG etc. Honestly it sort of feels like his goal in life is to be big in a specific local music genre scene. He says his goal in life is just to have a simple life with me and cats....but actions speak louder than words. He hasn't looked at apartments for us, he hasn't figured out how to make income for them, he doesn't seem to appreciate the stress I'm under or offer ways to help.
It was all coming to a heed this past weekend. I was going through it at work, had received a laundry list of complaints from my boss, and was so tired from class and work. I felt like I never just get a free day to myself to do things I like solo like a coffee shop or library visit...let alone time to clean my apartment or do laundry. I have my bf there my entire weekend until I return to work and then it's 12 hour days of work and school with homework at night. My closest friend passed from suicide which has been really really painful. And I miss having a female friend to just let loose with, and honestly need it (esp. to vent about bf sometimes and get another perspective). I couldn't stop crying and was super anxious and not able to sleep and feeling pretty mentally unwell and overwhelmed. Just a lot building up.
Boyfriend is being kind to me here to be honest, but he has a show on Thursday night prior to the weekend that I couldn't go to because I had class. I prioritized class as I need to in order to get ahead to afford our life (apartment, cats, travel) we want. It's at a house venue and I'm honestly jealous. I'm jealous he's out letting loose and having fun while I'm at class. I would love to be at a fun house show, but I need to do stuff for our future. I was honestly kind of resentful and not being super supportive of the show. He was texting me about it and I was distant and definitely was in the wrong here. He said he's nervous/excited and I kind of blew it off, for example. I was just feeling really down. I had supported in many other ways including printing flyers and posting them for him, helping him edit the flyers, I bought his bandcamp sample, and I've been to his other shows. Just this one I was not feeling great.
While he's there, he had a girl who's big in this scene for filming/videography film the show for them. He was really excited about it. I was watching her IG stories during the show and getting more and more jealous (like FOMO) and anxious and just had to go to bed. I was starting to get a little jealous too that another girl who's def super into the scene he wants to be in, and probably has more in common musically, and who's pretty and cool looking and having fun at this show (not a boring loser in class) was filming it too. I didn't want to be jealous or anxious and so just went to bed. I was definitely being a little quiet and distant which was wrong on my end. I tried to delay our weekend visit because I knew I wasn't feeling great and was anxious and didn't want to say anything about my worries - because obviously female friends are totally fine.
He begged to come anyways and he did. He was being really sweet to me. I was still just a crying mess, still overwhelmed, still stressed. Bought all of our groceries, cooked for him, made him breakfast, was trying to make it a fun weekend but i was still just really down. I hid in the bathroom to 'shower' but really just cried. Later Saturday night, he was talking about this videographer again but he kept calling her 'this person'. This was weird to me that he was purposely hiding the gender. I wouldn't have cared at all, but it felt fishy, but I didn't say anything. Later I found out he purposely did this to not make me jealous or ruin the show - I wouldn't, I hadn't said or done a thing, I had already seen on IG that it was a cute girl that same night. Anyways I'm just not feeling watching this girls video of them during a kind of mentally crisis-y weekend. The Thursday night stories already made me anxious and FOMO. The fact he's hiding it's a girl is making me feel weird and jealous. I'm feeling resentful because I'm sad but still cooking and cleaning for him and buying him groceries. I'm being sort of passive aggressive I guess, which is wrong of me, but I really didn't want to make accusations and rather just let my FOMO and anxiety calm down and revisit when I'm feeling a little mentally better.
Well he blows up at me, is getting more and more mad that I'm not being supportive enough. I finally say that maybe he should fine someone in that scene then - I clearly am not as good as this band or this scene. That seems like what he's prioritizing in life. He is getting more and more mad and then finally yells at me "you're a dense b-word, you're just fucking jealous. You're a fucking jealous b-word because I have friends". This felt like a low blow, particularly as part of feeling mentally unwell was exactly this reason, and I lost it. Hysterics. Sobbing. Kicked him out. Like that was so unnecessary and I was so low. It felt like being yelled at (by the person who loves me most) all the stuff I was yelling at myself.
He leaves. I'm sobbing, I'm a total mess. I don't want us to be over I love him so much, I'm shaking and lost. I'm just so hurt by the fight and how everything in life is falling apart and I'm so fucking overwhelmed. I go on Instagram and there is he is, just gleefully promoting his band like nothing happened. I look at his personal and he's changed his pic that was us on a special night to a pic of him at this show and then right after changing his pic he followed that same girl.
This aroused a LOT of suspicion in me, rightfully or not, and I lost it. Like you call me a dense b-word then go home to remove me from your IG and just keep promoting your band/video as if I'm not home sobbing? I was so upset. I tried to text him and he didn't reply. I threw out all of our stuff.
This is where it gets really bad. I think I felt so betrayed, so much like he chose his desire to be in a scene over me, his desire to be known for this band.... like I play music too (violin) and write songs and poetry, it's not choosing the music...and I was so supportive other than one bad night and I truly do want him to be happy and successful but I also want the same effort put towards our future, otherwise I feel taken advantage of. I felt like just the frumpy girl who takes care of him when he'd rather be with the cool girl who's in this scene, but I'm the resource. I LOST IT. It was like I was just watching myself be insane.
I was frantically calling and texting, couldn't tell if I was blocked, used my finsta to comment fake negativity on his band IG, downvoted the youtube video, commented PSAs there that he's just in this for likes and had been love scamming me, messaged people all his dirty laundry like how he uses homophobic slurs and says violent stuff. The works. Petty, immature, revenge. I was so embarrassed the next day and so remorseful. I messaged every single person involved how unfair what I did was, that everything I said was taken out of context, he's a good person, none of it is true. I removed all comments. I made apology cards to his 2 best friends and band mates. I did my best to reverse everything so he wouldn't have negativity. I offered him my old laptop to help with the music, and anything I can do to help promote and help reverse any bad press, told him he could tell people any reasons I said that and I could take as much hate/blame as he could give me. I'm not sure what else to do and I know I completely destroyed this and burned ties with everyone in his life and slandered and was so insane. I was out of my mind - I really spiraled into this manic craze I think from everything built up.
I feel so bad, I don't know how else more to reverse the damage - not for me, but for him. Because I do love him so much and I really just want him to be happy, whatever that happiness is. And if it's success in a band or a scene, or to be with someone else, I really want him to have that even if it hurts me.
I hate myself and I feel so low. I don't have any friends to be with to get my mind off of this, he was my best and only friend, it's a huge loss right now, and I feel guilt and remorse and just so awful about myself.
2023.03.29 17:20 GodzillaMozilla Preparing Lawn for Sod (Lots of weeds currently)
 | Was out of town for a couple months and experienced a lot of rain. Weeds grew an insane amount. Before it was just in a few places/near walkways and we could pull them out. Now the backyard is enveloped, pictures attached of backyard/type of weeds growing. I took a hedge trimmeweed whacker and trimmed the majority of the backyard to about 4 inches in height. submitted by GodzillaMozilla to lawncare [link] [comments] My goal is to 1. Rid entire backyard of weeds 2. Plant sod in the backyard There was mulch covering the entire backyard with small plants/trees sporadically placed. What would be the ideal steps to prepare and grow the sod effectively. (Southern California). Our plan was roughly to cover the yard in tarp/cardboard (is there a preference), cover with additional couple inches of mulch (any recommended height ?), place a little bit of topsoil down and then plant the sod. Does this roughly sound right? I would love to hear any little details or key points to remember as well, thanks. https://preview.redd.it/qie9cf904pqa1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2812d0b3d8c3794268d6f0ad5ca1a26bba71f927 |
2023.03.29 17:20 CherryFox99 Moving from Fresno to San Jose for grad school
Hello! I just got accepted to San Jose State University for my Masters program! I plan to move to San Jose this Fall and I’m excited but also scared. I don’t know how many of you know about Fresno, but any advice or tips on adjusting would be appreciated! (I’m in my mid 20s and female if that matters)
I have experience living on my own, but moving from my hometown for the first time to an area that has a significantly higher COL compared to Fresno makes me nervous. I have some money in my savings for a move like this, and have a job lined up that pays $23/hr with part time hours… I don’t know if that’s good or not in SJ but I’m not counting on it. Definitely going to take out loans unfortunately.
I’m also fairly concerned about safety, I will most likely live near campus and I’ve heard that SJ crime rate and vandalism is pretty bad but I think living in Fresno has prepared me for that (maybe). Also how safe are parking garages? I’ll be taking my car with me and I have full coverage, but it’s still something I worry about hearing stories of car thefts and break ins.
I guess my questions are, what has your experience been like living in the city especially if you’re someone who moved there from a low COL area or smaller town? Any advice or tips for a newcomer like me? The Bay Area is either going to make or break me and I’m terrified but I think it’s a risk I’m willing to make.
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I have experience living on my own, but moving from my hometown for the first time to an area that has a significantly higher COL compared to Fresno makes me nervous. I have some money in my savings for a move like this, and have a job lined up that pays $23/hr with part time hours… I don’t know if that’s good or not in SJ but I’m not counting on it. Definitely going to take out loans unfortunately.
I’m also fairly concerned about safety, I will most likely live near campus and I’ve heard that SJ crime rate and vandalism is pretty bad but I think living in Fresno has prepared me for that (maybe). Also how safe are parking garages? I’ll be taking my car with me and I have full coverage, but it’s still something I worry about hearing stories of car thefts and break ins.
I guess my questions are, what has your experience been like living in the city especially if you’re someone who moved there from a low COL area or smaller town? Any advice or tips for a newcomer like me? The Bay Area is either going to make or break me and I’m terrified but I think it’s a risk I’m willing to make.
2023.03.29 17:19 jenile [review] Miss Percy’s Pocket Guide to the Care and Feeding of British Dragons by Quenby Olson (SPFBO-8 finalist)
I read this for SPFBO. My review only. More about the contest and links at the bottom.
Only one more and our team is done! On a side note- Miss Percy earned the highest score I have given in the contest so far.
**\*
You’d have to have been living under a rock this last year, if you hadn’t heard a little of the buzz surrounding Miss Percy’s Pocket Guide to the Care and Feeding of British Dragons (from hereon Miss Percy) about the spinster Mildred Percy, inheriting a trunk containing an unhatched dragon egg.I mean, I practically live under a rock myself, and my little corner of book twitter was definitely buzzing.
Anyway, whether you had heard of it or not, is beside the point. I just wanted to preface this review by saying- it was very hard not to go into this one with my expectations so high, that I feared nothing could possibly live up to them.
But don’t you worry, because Miss Percy was very near perfect.
The Cast
The Heroes:
Mildred, our forty-year-old spinster, proves it’s never too late to stand-up for yourself. Mildred had so much growth over the course of this story. I wanted to cheer for her when she finally threw caution to the wind and didn’t listen to that nagging little voice of self-doubt that has held her back from doing and saying things, that should have long been said, or done.And I was glad she found people who appreciated her and loved her, as much as she deserved.
The Vicar Mr. Wiggan, and his housekeeper Mrs. Babbinton, were the perfect welcoming counterbalance to Mildred’s sister Diana. I wanted them to keep Mildred, and never let her go back to her sister’s home.
And let’s not forget Fitz, who managed to win my heart by being a combination of all my farm animals and pets, at once.
The Villains:
Diana, the bratty Belinda, and Reginald.Reginald, wins all-time favourite intro of a character ever, with this line- “If Reginald Hawthorne had known he was going to be the villain of the piece, he might have made a greater effort to dress the part.”
A good villain for me, is someone you can feel a little sorry for but also want to slap to the moon and back. These three qualify, on all accounts. Some needed a little more slapping than others though.
The Bad:
My only real quibbles in the story had to do with the abundant use of meandering thoughts in parenthesis, sometimes even doubled-up! I occasionally would lose track of the train of thought that the whole process started with, especially in some of the longer ones.
And I do feel a little hypocritical complaining about this, since it’s something- if you’re familiar with my reviews, you’ll find I am pretty excessive about myself.
I did find that these lessened quite a lot, as the story went along and there was more happening to fill the space and thoughts.
The Good:
I’m one of those weird readers that isn’t all about having dragons in my fantasy… that is until they become the size of small puppies, with roly-poly warm bellies (I could not help but think of my sweet lab, Ellie, when she was small and fat) and apparently, I am all over that.
I think a lot of why this story worked so well for me, is that everything is understated (other than the asides).There’s just enough Fitz, to make me want more. Just enough romance (well honestly, there never can be enough but in this case- it was enough) to satisfy. Just enough villain and bratty side-kick plotting to worry about the outcome for the heroes (I kind of want a story about these two going through hardships and learning to live with their choices). And the humour was spot on; not too much, doesn’t try too-hard to be funny, and the occasional wall break- the “quiet you” had me chuckling a lot.
One more thought and then I will shut-up. Not only were the entries from the Pocket Guide, at the beginning of the chapters great for filling in the dragon-lore, but they also allowed for us to believe there was a happily-ever-after. One where Mildred, went on to spend her life as the Jane Goodall of dragons- studying and living among or at least near them. And this, was all on top of the lovely ending we did get.I really just liked the completeness that the story gave me as a whole (especially since I apparently didn’t crawl out far enough from my rock, to realize that at some point, the second book had been fully-written and published, and I somehow forgot all about it) and that if I never went on to read another in this series, I would be happy with everything the way I left it.
The TLDR:
Miss Percy won my heart bit-by-bit, with every page I turned. The story was full of humour, charm, and all the feel-good sweetness that you’d hope for from a story surrounding a toddling baby dragon named Fitz.
Learn more about the contest here-
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2018/06/the-official-self-published-fantasy.html
Phase one is here-
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2022/05/spfbo-8-self-published-fantasy-blog-off.html
Finalist board is here -
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2022/10/finalists-for-8th-spfb.html
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Only one more and our team is done! On a side note- Miss Percy earned the highest score I have given in the contest so far.
**\*
You’d have to have been living under a rock this last year, if you hadn’t heard a little of the buzz surrounding Miss Percy’s Pocket Guide to the Care and Feeding of British Dragons (from hereon Miss Percy) about the spinster Mildred Percy, inheriting a trunk containing an unhatched dragon egg.I mean, I practically live under a rock myself, and my little corner of book twitter was definitely buzzing.
Anyway, whether you had heard of it or not, is beside the point. I just wanted to preface this review by saying- it was very hard not to go into this one with my expectations so high, that I feared nothing could possibly live up to them.
But don’t you worry, because Miss Percy was very near perfect.
The Cast
The Heroes:
Mildred, our forty-year-old spinster, proves it’s never too late to stand-up for yourself. Mildred had so much growth over the course of this story. I wanted to cheer for her when she finally threw caution to the wind and didn’t listen to that nagging little voice of self-doubt that has held her back from doing and saying things, that should have long been said, or done.And I was glad she found people who appreciated her and loved her, as much as she deserved.
The Vicar Mr. Wiggan, and his housekeeper Mrs. Babbinton, were the perfect welcoming counterbalance to Mildred’s sister Diana. I wanted them to keep Mildred, and never let her go back to her sister’s home.
And let’s not forget Fitz, who managed to win my heart by being a combination of all my farm animals and pets, at once.
The Villains:
Diana, the bratty Belinda, and Reginald.Reginald, wins all-time favourite intro of a character ever, with this line- “If Reginald Hawthorne had known he was going to be the villain of the piece, he might have made a greater effort to dress the part.”
A good villain for me, is someone you can feel a little sorry for but also want to slap to the moon and back. These three qualify, on all accounts. Some needed a little more slapping than others though.
The Bad:
My only real quibbles in the story had to do with the abundant use of meandering thoughts in parenthesis, sometimes even doubled-up! I occasionally would lose track of the train of thought that the whole process started with, especially in some of the longer ones.
And I do feel a little hypocritical complaining about this, since it’s something- if you’re familiar with my reviews, you’ll find I am pretty excessive about myself.
I did find that these lessened quite a lot, as the story went along and there was more happening to fill the space and thoughts.
The Good:
I’m one of those weird readers that isn’t all about having dragons in my fantasy… that is until they become the size of small puppies, with roly-poly warm bellies (I could not help but think of my sweet lab, Ellie, when she was small and fat) and apparently, I am all over that.
I think a lot of why this story worked so well for me, is that everything is understated (other than the asides).There’s just enough Fitz, to make me want more. Just enough romance (well honestly, there never can be enough but in this case- it was enough) to satisfy. Just enough villain and bratty side-kick plotting to worry about the outcome for the heroes (I kind of want a story about these two going through hardships and learning to live with their choices). And the humour was spot on; not too much, doesn’t try too-hard to be funny, and the occasional wall break- the “quiet you” had me chuckling a lot.
One more thought and then I will shut-up. Not only were the entries from the Pocket Guide, at the beginning of the chapters great for filling in the dragon-lore, but they also allowed for us to believe there was a happily-ever-after. One where Mildred, went on to spend her life as the Jane Goodall of dragons- studying and living among or at least near them. And this, was all on top of the lovely ending we did get.I really just liked the completeness that the story gave me as a whole (especially since I apparently didn’t crawl out far enough from my rock, to realize that at some point, the second book had been fully-written and published, and I somehow forgot all about it) and that if I never went on to read another in this series, I would be happy with everything the way I left it.
The TLDR:
Miss Percy won my heart bit-by-bit, with every page I turned. The story was full of humour, charm, and all the feel-good sweetness that you’d hope for from a story surrounding a toddling baby dragon named Fitz.
Learn more about the contest here-
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2018/06/the-official-self-published-fantasy.html
Phase one is here-
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2022/05/spfbo-8-self-published-fantasy-blog-off.html
Finalist board is here -
https://mark---lawrence.blogspot.com/2022/10/finalists-for-8th-spfb.html
2023.03.29 17:19 participating [Veteran Thread] WoT Re-Read-Along - The Path of Daggers - Chapters 11 through 14
Please read the full the rules before commenting.
This is the veteran thread. Visit the newbie thread if this is your first time reading.
For more information, or to see the full schedule for all previous entries, please see the wiki page for the read-along.
BOOK EIGHT SCHEDULE
This week we will be discussing Book Eight: The Path of Daggers, Chapters 11 through 14.
Next week we will be discussing Book Eight: The Path of Daggers, Chapters 15 through 19.
I have provided summaries of each chapter we will be discussing. I've tried to make them unbiased, but if you see anything that could be construed as spoilery, please point them out because I'm using these same summaries in the newbie thread. I'd like to keep their experience as spoiler-free as possible, so even if I make a tiny mistake, please let me know.
I usually make a comment for each chapter, but feel free to start your own comment thread to discuss anything you want.
Chapter 11: Questions and an Oath
Chapter Icon: Spears & Shield
Summary:
Also in Ghealdan, Sevanna, clan chief of the Shaido, tangles with her Wise Ones, Therava in particular. Galina, their Black Ajah captive, is forced to swear obedience on the Oath Rod-like binder in their possession, which Sevanna plans to use on Rand.
Chapter 12: New Alliances
Chapter Icon: Viper
Summary:
Graendal is visited by Moghedien and a woman named Cyndane (whose name means "Last Chance"). They tell her that Moridin is Nae'blis and she must serve him as they do. She doesn't believe them. Shaidar Haran arrives, forcing her to obey him and ordering her to visit Moridin. Cadsuane meets with Alanna; she considered taking Rand's bond from her but gave up the idea. Sorilea arrives and teaches Cadsuane the Traveling weave. They vow to teach Rand laughter and tears.
Chapter 13: Floating Like Snow
Chapter Icon: Dragon
Summary:
Rand meets with the leader of the remnant of Sammael's Illianer army, Eagan Padros, and orders him to join Rand or lay down his arms and go home. Lews Therin has not been in Rand's head for a while, but Rand sees double when he releases the Power.
Chapter 14: Message from the M’Hael
Chapter Icon: Dragon's Fang
Summary:
Taim informs Rand via letter that the Black Tower has over 400 enrollees. Asha'man Fedwin Morr gives confirmation that the Seanchan are marching to Illian. He also reveals that saidin didn't always work as expected near Ebou Dar. Rand inadvertently reveals his intent to cleanse saidin; all of the Asha'man are stunned. He sends them off on urgent tasks.
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This is the veteran thread. Visit the newbie thread if this is your first time reading.
For more information, or to see the full schedule for all previous entries, please see the wiki page for the read-along.
BOOK EIGHT SCHEDULE
This week we will be discussing Book Eight: The Path of Daggers, Chapters 11 through 14.
Next week we will be discussing Book Eight: The Path of Daggers, Chapters 15 through 19.
- March 8: Prologue and Chapters 1 and 2
- March 15: Chapters 3 through 6
- March 22: Chapters 7 through 10
- March 29: Chapters 11 through 14 <--- You are here.
- April 5: Chapters 15 through 19
- April 12: Chapters 20 through 24
- April 19: Chapter 25 through 31
- April 26: The Path of Daggers - Final Thoughts & Trivia
I have provided summaries of each chapter we will be discussing. I've tried to make them unbiased, but if you see anything that could be construed as spoilery, please point them out because I'm using these same summaries in the newbie thread. I'd like to keep their experience as spoiler-free as possible, so even if I make a tiny mistake, please let me know.
I usually make a comment for each chapter, but feel free to start your own comment thread to discuss anything you want.
Chapter 11: Questions and an Oath
Chapter Icon: Spears & Shield
Summary:
Also in Ghealdan, Sevanna, clan chief of the Shaido, tangles with her Wise Ones, Therava in particular. Galina, their Black Ajah captive, is forced to swear obedience on the Oath Rod-like binder in their possession, which Sevanna plans to use on Rand.
Chapter 12: New Alliances
Chapter Icon: Viper
Summary:
Graendal is visited by Moghedien and a woman named Cyndane (whose name means "Last Chance"). They tell her that Moridin is Nae'blis and she must serve him as they do. She doesn't believe them. Shaidar Haran arrives, forcing her to obey him and ordering her to visit Moridin. Cadsuane meets with Alanna; she considered taking Rand's bond from her but gave up the idea. Sorilea arrives and teaches Cadsuane the Traveling weave. They vow to teach Rand laughter and tears.
Chapter 13: Floating Like Snow
Chapter Icon: Dragon
Summary:
Rand meets with the leader of the remnant of Sammael's Illianer army, Eagan Padros, and orders him to join Rand or lay down his arms and go home. Lews Therin has not been in Rand's head for a while, but Rand sees double when he releases the Power.
Chapter 14: Message from the M’Hael
Chapter Icon: Dragon's Fang
Summary:
Taim informs Rand via letter that the Black Tower has over 400 enrollees. Asha'man Fedwin Morr gives confirmation that the Seanchan are marching to Illian. He also reveals that saidin didn't always work as expected near Ebou Dar. Rand inadvertently reveals his intent to cleanse saidin; all of the Asha'man are stunned. He sends them off on urgent tasks.
2023.03.29 17:19 scarfacetehstag Is anyone else deeply in love?
I never expected to be with who I'm with now and to spend so much time thinking about her. She has all the red flags (party girl, slutty, runs from problems rather than face them) and yet I am incapable of doubting how she feels about me.
She's sleeping now, in a long pink shirt that makes her look like a Victorian ghost, and I'm making the coffee she got me so I wouldn't leave in the mornings.
Neither of us has faith in monogamy and yet I'm more attracted to her now then we started dating. And this is a woman everyone wants to sleep with, not my type, but I'm hers and so we've forged a weird little public persona where she frustrates so many men, and women, with how much she can't take her eyes off of me.
Her friends call us the hottest couple in our city. A small honor, but it still feels good and prompts no desire to run or spoil as has always been our respective drives. She sat me down last week and told me I was the first partner she introduced as a boyfriend, even men she'd been head over heels for were introduced as "my good friend".
And the irony being that I only started dating her because my AI timelines are short and it didn't seem to matter how long I was committed. Now I'm angry we have such little time together. Oh, life.
I expect most of the comments to be bitter seethes.
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She's sleeping now, in a long pink shirt that makes her look like a Victorian ghost, and I'm making the coffee she got me so I wouldn't leave in the mornings.
Neither of us has faith in monogamy and yet I'm more attracted to her now then we started dating. And this is a woman everyone wants to sleep with, not my type, but I'm hers and so we've forged a weird little public persona where she frustrates so many men, and women, with how much she can't take her eyes off of me.
Her friends call us the hottest couple in our city. A small honor, but it still feels good and prompts no desire to run or spoil as has always been our respective drives. She sat me down last week and told me I was the first partner she introduced as a boyfriend, even men she'd been head over heels for were introduced as "my good friend".
And the irony being that I only started dating her because my AI timelines are short and it didn't seem to matter how long I was committed. Now I'm angry we have such little time together. Oh, life.
I expect most of the comments to be bitter seethes.
2023.03.29 17:19 milopny Separate Monitor for Live Captions for an Event?
I work at a community college in a small-ish city that has graduation in May. My boss delegated me the task of finding a way we could display real-time captions onto a monitor for the audience to read while the event is happening.
I know about live captioning services, but my boss would prefer the auto-generated captions route since it's cheaper. I'm also aware of the auto-generated captions on live streams for websites like Facebook and Youtube but am not too sure about getting those captions onto a separate monitor without the live stream. I've also explored Google Chrome's live-caption service, but that seems to be only for videos within the browser, and while I can have the browser minimized and keep the captions displayed, this would be creating the captions from a live stream, so inevitably there will be a delay from what the audience sees in from of them and what the captions are saying.
Is there a software or service I can use to display captions directly from a microphone that is plugged into a computer? Also, are there any specs anyone recommends for a dedicated captions display?
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I know about live captioning services, but my boss would prefer the auto-generated captions route since it's cheaper. I'm also aware of the auto-generated captions on live streams for websites like Facebook and Youtube but am not too sure about getting those captions onto a separate monitor without the live stream. I've also explored Google Chrome's live-caption service, but that seems to be only for videos within the browser, and while I can have the browser minimized and keep the captions displayed, this would be creating the captions from a live stream, so inevitably there will be a delay from what the audience sees in from of them and what the captions are saying.
Is there a software or service I can use to display captions directly from a microphone that is plugged into a computer? Also, are there any specs anyone recommends for a dedicated captions display?
2023.03.29 17:18 masterangkanet Prediksi Master Angka Singapore 29/03/2023
2023.03.29 17:18 dln265 Do you think meticulous will follow through? If yes, why?
I’m very tempted to back the project. The machine is beautiful and ticks nearly every box for me. However, is anybody else worried that they won’t follow through? Carlos made the phantom chess board on Kickstarter and the comments are filled with disappointed backers claiming it’s a scam.
Here’s the link to the phantom:
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/wondersubstance/phantom-the-most-advanced-chess-board-in-the-world/comments
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Here’s the link to the phantom:
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/wondersubstance/phantom-the-most-advanced-chess-board-in-the-world/comments