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2023.03.26 14:44 No-Establishment1312 FAR + Personal Experience
Failed FAR the first time with a 70. Decided I wasn’t willing to wait two months until the May score release and decided to take it today. I’m at the point in my knowledge where the things I don’t know are minuscule. Honestly, the first time I took the exam, I felt like I got a bad hand. I got the hardest questions I’ve ever seen in my life. I got questions immensely harder than anything I’ve seen in Becker.
Experience:
If I failed this time, I’d honestly be surprised. Out of all 66 MCQ’s, I think I honestly got one wrong, at most 3.
My strategy going into the exam was to get every single MCQ right. Also, if I noticed an easy question, I wanted to make sure that without a doubt, I got that question right. I didn’t want the risk of missing an easy question because I’d know that would harm my score even more than getting a question which is at regular difficulty wrong. I don’t know if that’s necessarily true, just a conspiracy theory of mine. SIMS were medium difficulty and I left a couple boxes blank, tbh. Also, I used the bathroom twice during the exam, which unfortunately screwed up my time. To keep it real, I had to make sure I was adequately hydrated because 4 hours of an exam with a 15 minute break is something that I can’t do without copious amounts of water and caffeine. I swear if I fail this time, I will take the exam the next fucking day. I don’t care. I want to be done with this fucking bullshit by September. I want my life back. I used to care a lot about being that guy who could say, “passed all on the first try in 6 months.” That was my dream before I woke up. When I’m 42, no one is going to give a shit about any of that stuff. I don’t care if I have to take this shit 100 times. It will get done. Honestly, I’m going to start studying for BEC tomorrow. Best of luck guys. Love you all. Keep grinding. It’s gonna be the worth it in the end. Stay positive.
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2023.03.26 14:44 Ok_Ant_581 Flatmate (30 F) told me to make less noise after I (26 F) came back from a shift
I came back from a shift at 3am which doesn't usually happen and I was getting ready to go to bed, my bathroom is adjacent to her room and she can hear everything that I do. I make a few trips to the bathroom and to my room and something dropped on the floor by accident and made alot of noise. She opens her room door and says to me "can you try to make less noise..." which I said back to her I'm trying my best. She said its 4am atm. I said to her that I just came back from work. After that she closed her room door and and I muttered Jesus Christ and closed my room door with a bit of force. I wasn't happy about her approach, she has messaged me previously about noise level and I've tried my best to accomodate, but at this rate she should really be wearing earplugs and I don't see her asking the other flatmates to be quieter when they stomp around the flat early in the morning when they come back. Should I text her to apologise still?
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2023.03.26 14:42 CallOfKyle Night Shift Nursing Home Story
This happened about 6 years ago during my first year as a CNA. Names obviously changed for privacy. I've recently gone back to school for writing and thought it'd be fun to convert some journal entries into stories. Primarily some of my favorites/creepiest. Hope you enjoy and I'd love to hear some feedback to improve my writing!
"Aug-26-2017
I was always pretty comfortable working at night. Staying up late playing video games was all I did on my days off anyway. I didn't think much of how different it would be somewhere else.
I had picked up at the job as CNA at a nursing home. I had done this kind of work before but in this case the home I worked at needed night shift aides. I was pretty familiar with how easy going the night shift usually is. A few patients will hit their call lights every now and then. And the patients who couldn't move I turned and changed every couple hours. The hardest part of the job was staying awake. If you've never worked in a nursing home, don't. The companies that run these places always gut the staffing ratios. The night shift got by okay because most of the patients were asleep, it did get overwhelming at times. There were two long hallways throughout the building. Housing about 60 patients or residents. The residents were there to stay long term. They had problems with memory, were on hospice, brain injuries, or whatever else. The dementia residents were my favorite. At least once a week I would get a fun story out of them. Anyways, on the night shift we had 3 CNA's and 2 Nurses. About 20 patient's a piece for the aides. The nurses were always elbow deep in charting and handing out medications. That left the aides to work amongst themselves. On the residents wing of the building, called long term, there was one nurses station. On the rehab side, which was a bit bigger, there was a station as well. I always got put on the long term wing of the building. Being a larger guy made moving and turning residents around in their beds a lot easier. The job wasn't half bad and always felt pretty rewarding. There wasn't much to complain about.
It was a hot August night that I came in for my shift. I knew I was going to be assigned to long term and headed down the hall. I met with the night nurse, Holly, at the nurses station. There, the two swing shift aides were eagerly waiting to give me their report and go on their ways. I won't bother with their names, it's not important. They had told me the usual rundown of the residents and I had been familiar with them for almost 6 months now. However, they had told me that David in 312 had been acting weird. They said he didn't really eat his dinner and he refused to be put in bed. David was this sweet, old, mostly blind man in his 90's. He had dementia, which made a lot of what he said hard to believe. They said that David doesn't like sharing his room and that's why he won't go to sleep. They had explained to David that he did in fact have a private room but he insisted and refused to go to bed. The aides told me that night shift has just been waiting for David to fall asleep in his wheelchair and then taking him to bed then. I figured that would be my case that night.
I parked David next to Holly at the nurse's station and started my first round. I usually worked down the left half of the hallway and back up the right. The hallway is quite long with a big emergency fire door at the end. An alarm would sound if anyone were to open it. I had worked my way down to the end of the hall. David's room was at the very end. Room 312, with a terrible construction paper name plate taped to the door. There was some clothes on the ground in David's room that I'd picked up. I made his bed in the event he was asleep when I finished my first round. I noticed the bathroom was open and the light was on. I checked and nothing was in there so I closed it. All the bathrooms in this hall were shared between two adjacent rooms. I know David was incontinent and wouldn't have used the bathroom. I figured it was either the neighboring room or one of the aides washed their hands in there. I carried on and finished my round.
By the time I had finished my first round it was already 12:30 at night. I sat at the nurse's station next to David and Holly to start charting what I had just done. David was telling Holly all about his job as a photographer for the newspaper. He said he was getting photos for a story on the Black Panther Party in Oakland. I thought that was really incredible. Both that he thought it was the 60s and that he had actually photographed the events down there. You really got a lot of neat stories from the old people we kept down here.
At about 02:30 David finally fell asleep in his chair. I wheeled him down to his room and started to change his brief. I went to close the blinds when I felt a warm breeze under my shirt. David's window had been slid open a crack. I hadn't noticed it earlier, but I didn't really go near the window. I closed it up and finished putting David into bed. He was fast asleep when I was pulling his blankets over him. I headed back down to the nurses station and had a pretty calm second half of my shift.
The next night I came back to work. Same place, same time. The evening aides gave me their report, told me again about David not wanting to go to his room. I figured the night was going to be the same as last. I parked David next to Holly and started working. I was getting sheets out of the linen closet when I heard a toilet flush towards the end of the hall. I headed down towards the sound until I reached the end of the hallway. The faint sound of game shows on Room 311's TV was all I could hear. I looked into David's dark room, the bathroom light was on. I stepped over toward the handle and quickly flung the door open. There was nothing in there. Then I realized that it smelled. Someone had used the toilet. I walked through the joining room door. The resident's name was Patrick. He was an old war vet that had a stroke. His left side was weakened and he needed a lot of help to get around. I asked Patrick if he'd gotten himself up to the bathroom. He said no. I said okay and started walking back. He then told me that he was tired of the neighbor forgetting to unlock the bathroom door on his side. I froze and my heart sank as he told me that. I didn't want to freak Patrick out so I carried on with my round and got back to Holly. I told her what Patrick had said and that I heard the toilet flush down there. She decided to call the cops and have them search the backyard of the building. One of the officers said that the screen was missing from room 312, but that was it. I told the officer that that was the room I heard someone using the bathroom in. He said he'd look around again but there's nothing out there. They still found nothing and suggested we put a stick in the window to block it from opening but that's all that came of it that night.
The next night I had a sense of dread coming into work. The evening aides talked to me about how creepy it was and how they're afraid to go to David's room now. I did my best to ignore it but I was terrified to put David to bed that night. I was making my rounds again when I heard some shuffling down the hall. The hallway seemed to get longer and longer as I stared down toward room 312. A lump in my throat formed as I stood frozen. I was jump scared by my coworker Mindy. She was the aide for the center wing. She asked me about what happened and I told her. I also told her that I had just heard something from that room. She invited herself to investigate with me. We walked slowly towards the room. We approached the doorway and I reached for the light switch. I flicked the light on and the room seemed normal. No bathroom light on. Nothing. I asked Mindy to help me make the bed and we started. I kicked something on the ground and realized it was the stick that held the window shut. I looked up at Mindy and held up the stick. Her face turned pale white as she looked at it and me. She let out a scream and pointed at the window. A set of eyes over a dark silhouette stood on the outside of the window. It was a crazy looking guy. His hot breath was making fog on the window as he stared at us. Mindy had run out of the room already and I was left staring at him. I stood frozen as he leaned toward the window. "Thanks for making my bed again." he said with a smile that made my heart drop. Grabbed the window and tried sliding it open. I quickly put my hands on top to hold it shut. He started yelling at me and banging on the window with his hand. Telling me all of his things were in here and cursing at me. Holly and Mindy had come back into the room screaming. The man picked up a rock and started breaking in the window. I held up the stick ready to beat the man. Holly and Mindy pulled me back from the window as the man climbed through the broken glass. I then could see Mindy was on the phone with the police. The man's hands were all cut up from the glass. We eventually managed to fend the guy off and he climbed back out of the window and ran. The cops caught him later and said he was pretty deranged. They had me help them go through David's cabinet, they said the man insisted his things were in the room and that he lived there. Going through David's closet I slowly came to realize that a lot of this stuff wasn't his. Two bags of clothes and a dirty backpack were stuffed in the bottom of the closet. It made me realize that this guy had been living in David's room for at least a little while. David wasn't able to tell us what was going on. He really did think he just had a new roommate. We moved David closer to a room closer to the nurse's station while his window was being repaired. I never heard anything else about the guy that broke in. I figured he was admitted to a mental hospital somewhere. Hopefully he got the help he needed.
All this wasn't enough to make me quit the night shift. I do take noises I hear a lot more seriously now. I started working at the hospital a couple months later and security is a lot tighter there. Dark hallways still make me uneasy to this day and I always find myself checking for open windows."
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2023.03.26 14:41 Maximum_Relation3846 What competitive exams could an engineer give after graduation?
| https://preview.redd.it/kbaklcrww2qa1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e3807f3adde82ffae589da3b7cc034e9f4eb65f4 After completing an engineering degree, there are several competitive exams that one can consider taking to further their career goals. One popular option is the Graduate Aptitude Test in Engineering (GATE). The GATE exam is used as a screening test for admission to postgraduate programs in engineering, technology, and architecture, as well as for recruitment in various public sector undertakings (PSUs) and research organizations. Physics Wallah coaching can provide you with an experience that you will cherish for life. Another option is the Indian Engineering Services (IES), which is a combined competitive exam conducted by the Union Public Service Commission (UPSC) for recruitment to various engineering positions in the government, including the Indian Engineering Services. Apart from these exams, there are other competitive exams that engineering graduates can consider, depending on their interests and career goals. These include exams for admission to management courses such as CAT, MAT, and XAT, as well as exams for recruitment in the banking and finance sector, such as the Institute of Banking Personnel Selection (IBPS) exams. For various such courses and exams, Physics Wallah coaching and strategies are your best choice in order to crack these exams. submitted by Maximum_Relation3846 to u/Maximum_Relation3846 [link] [comments] |
2023.03.26 14:37 falkmigitheass Failed treatment. feel like jumping off my balcony
3 and half weeks of adp and berberine failed i think. first week i was so sick spending most of my time in the bathroom. Week 2 i was so weak i couldn't leave my bed and my mood was so bad. Week 3 my whole stomach was burning and still very week physically and mentally. i had to stop during week 3 as my body couldn't take anymore. now im 3 days off and back straight back to constipation, bloating, fatigue. during my protocol i was 90% low fodmap and im taking ginger and artichoke. i cant stand this life anymore. 4 years of this "ibs have been pure hell. this was my last shot at trying to fix my digestion. i wish guns were legal in my country so i didn't have to deal with this anymore. idk what to do. Hopefully i will be a man and jump one of these days so i dont have to suffer anymore.
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2023.03.26 14:25 Great_Beginning_296 Heartburn with Pregnancy. Everything You Need To Know
Heartburn with pregnancy is something that women often experience. If you do too, it’s not just your poor taste buds either. Having heartburn during
pregnancy can also cause issues with your baby. Heartburn generally occurs because the stomach is growing and things are changing. When you have heartburn, your chest pains. This pain could make your head hurt. The aftertaste could be either sour or bitter. Are you
suffering from pregnancy heartburn and need help? Learn how to helps with
heartburn during pregnancy with this guide.
Don’t pay attention to the name; heartburn has nothing to do with your heart. Gastroesophageal reflux disease, or GERD, happens when acid from the
stomach flows back up into the esophagus. The tube that moves saliva, food, and liquids from the mouth to the stomach is called the esophagus.
Heartburn and indigestion are signs of pregnancy.
Most women who are pregnant have some kind of
stomach ache. Many
problems are caused by the changes in hormones that happen during pregnancy. They make it hard for the lower esophageal sphincter to close and for food to be digested (LES).
What is Dyspepsia?
“Dyspepsia,” also called “intestinal distress,” can cause pain or discomfort in the
upper abdomen. Typical
symptoms of dyspepsia during pregnancy include:
- Feeling bloated or full after eating
- Belching or passing gas
- Nausea and vomiting
- Abdominal pain or discomfort
- Acidic taste in the mouth
- Loss of appetite
What is Heartburn?
Heartburn is a burning
pain in the chest or neck caused by stomach acid that has moved back up into the esophagus. Between the esophagus and the
stomach is a muscle valve called the lower esophageal sphincter (LES). This muscle also goes by the name of the lower esophageal sphincter. Its purpose is to keep acid and food from getting back into the esophagus. LES muscle can weaken during pregnancy, which can cause acid reflux. Here are some of the
most common signs that a pregnant woman has heartburn: - Burning sensation in the chest or throat
- Acidic taste in the mouth
- Regurgitation of food or liquid
- Difficulty swallowing
- Sore throat or hoarseness
- Coughing
Indigestion and heartburn can be made worse by lying down or leaning over right after eating, as well as by
eating foods that are high in fat or spicy. Pregnant women should eat often, but not too much. They should also avoid anything that could make them sick. The person could also try eating while standing up and sleeping with their head up to make their
symptoms less severe at night.
Your doctor might tell you to take an antacid or any other
pain reliever. Before taking any medicine, over-the-counter or not, a pregnant person should always talk to their primary care provider. This will protect the safety of both the mother-to-be and the baby.
Numerous research investigates pregnancy-related acid reflux.
When a woman is pregnant, many of them have heartburn-like symptoms. It is brought on by hormonal changes, increased stomach pressure, and a weakened muscle that joins the stomach and esophagus. This article will discuss certain factors that pregnant women are more prone to get heartburn than others. Are you
suffering from pregnancy heartburn and
need help? Learn how to helps with heartburn during pregnancy with this guide.
Hormone fluctuations might affect mood.
Your body will produce more progesterone during pregnancy than usual. Those who are
pregnant or using progesterone may get heartburn as a result of stomach acid backing up into the esophagus because the hormone relaxes the muscles, particularly the muscle that links the esophagus to the stomach.
- internal stomach pressure increasing
- Your larger uterus may be exerting strain on your esophagus and producing acid reflux or heartburn.
- by causing the intestines to move more slowly.
- Due to a slowdown in digestion during pregnancy, food remains in the stomach for longer. You are more prone to have uncomfortable acid reflux as a result of this.
Nutritional intake and eating habits.
Two of the most frequent causes of heartburn include sitting or laying down too soon after eating, as well as eating too much or too quickly. Acid reflux might occur if you eat too quickly.
Are you suffering from pregnancy heartburn and need help? Learn how to helps with heartburn during pregnancy with this guide.
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2023.03.26 14:06 farseer_fitz Is this actually true? if so does somebody know which episode this is from?
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2023.03.26 13:51 Footballfanatic724 How do I get rid of these little bugs in the shower/bathroom?
Hi all, just wondering if anyone knows what these little critters are and how to get rid of them? We noticed them I. The bathroom/shower and there’s only ever 1-2 of them at a time but it’s almost daily that we see and kill one. The unit has had best control done about 6 months ago and I’ve cleaned the drains with caustic soda and (separately) boiling water but they keep coming after a few weeks. What should we do?
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2023.03.26 13:47 arconixc Thoughts on this 12 month Diploma in IT (Front end and back end web development)?
This is a list of the courses taught in the Diploma...
BSBCRT512 Originate and develop concepts
BSBXCS402 Promote workplace cyber security awareness and best practices
BSBXTW401 Lead and facilitate a team
ICTICT517 Match ICT needs with the strategic direction of the organisation
ICTICT532 Apply IP, ethics and privacy in ICT environments
ICTSAS527 Manage client problems
ICTCLD505 Implement cloud infrastructure with code
ICTDBS506 Design databases
ICTDBS507 Integrate databases with websites
ICTICT530 Design user experience solutions
ICTPRG553 Create and develop REST APIs
ICTPRG554 Manage data persistence using noSQL data stores
ICTWEB513 Build dynamic websites
ICTWEB514 Create dynamic web pages
ICTWEB518 Build a document using extensible markup language
ICTWEB519 Develop complex web page layouts
ICTWEB520 Develop complex cascading style sheets
ICTWEB521 Customise complex ICT content management systems
ICTWEB522 Develop website information architecture
ICTWEB525 Implement quality assurance process for websites
The top 6 courses are core courses that don't have any programming in it but the rest is where the actual web dev is taught. It's not for absolute beginners as you need basic HTML, CSS and basic programming knowledge. Should I do this for 1 year for the piece of paper that may hold some weight when applying for jobs or should I just go with something like codecademy (which I don't mind paying for) or something free like theodinproject?
Note: It's fee free for 2023 so I don't have to pay anything to do the course
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2023.03.26 13:44 multimorbid I(20F) took acid 2 months ago and I think I might actually be going insane. I’m terrified.
I(20F) have been having some troubling thoughts lately.. a bit of context:
I have tried a few things in my teen years, but not much. Stuff like alcohol and weed. I still smoke weed often, and drink occasionally. However I decided to try something new some months after turning 19.. acid. First shrooms, it was fun. I enjoyed it. Then I tried some acid in pill form which was fun too. Then tabs. The first two or three times where fine, I had a good time. It was a little scary but overall not too bad.
About 2 months ago me and my best friend decided we’d do acid while visiting my mom. My mom is really cool, very spiritual (third eye type shit) and has a lot of experience with acid. My moms brother(my uncle) was visiting, and he’s also all about that acid. My mom and my uncle decided to take a tab with us so we could all have a bit of fun. I took 200ug (I usually only take 70-100 cause my tolerance is LOW). At first it was fine, it was my best friends first time and I had fun observing him.
About 3 hours into the trip we’re sitting and watching Rick and Morty, when I suddenly can’t make sense of what they are saying at all. It all started turning into gibberish and random words, and the episode started falling apart for me. I didn’t understand anything. I thought it was a really weird episode (I’ve since watched it back and realized I was hallucinating hardcore)
After the episode was over I had to pee really bad, and went to the bathroom, however my uncle was passed out on the toilet asleep, he had been drinking and taking acid and was impossible to get out of there. I start worrying, I have to pee so bad, so I decided to go outside alone on a cold day at 4 in the morning. I find a spot behind my house and take a leak.. things are alright but I’m very uncomfortable and things look so weird around me. Everything is moving.
But then it happens. The one thing I had hoped would never happen to me. Ego Death. On my way up the stairs I black out and start feeling emotions I simply cannot describe. Emotions I’ve NEVER felt before. I regain consciousness but feel EXTREMELY OUT OF PLACE, as if my skin is loose and I’m not where I’m supposed to be. I crawl up the rest of the stairs and fall down on the couch. My best friend is sitting there and when I look at him he’s a stranger to me. I don’t really know who he is, because I can’t recognize his face (hallucinations made him all warped) so I just stare at him. I don’t register anything hes trying to tell me. The only person I’m aware of is my mom, who’s laying in her bed asleep. I feel like I don’t exist and I get REALLY freaked out. I mutter to the “stranger” on my couch that I have to find my mom. My best friend guides me to her bedroom and I lay down next to her, wake her up, and ask her to hold me. I am a 20 year old woman, but In that moment I was my moms little girl and I was terrified. So hold me she did. And it started collapsing for me. I didn’t think she was real, I didn’t think anything was real. I felt like I was trapped in my brain and it felt like years had passed while I was laying there. I couldn’t close my eyes. After 30 minutes of laying there the only thing I could think was “if I want this to end I have to kill myself”, and in my head I kept saying “this is it. I have lost my mind. I’ve gone insane I’ll spend the rest of my life in a ward”. it was so scary. My mom was comforting me as much as she could but I didn’t think she was real so the comfort felt like a figment of my imagination. It wasn’t very comforting.
Finally, after hours of pure hell, I fell asleep. And I slept for about 14 hours. When I woke up I felt weird. Not like, stomach pain and nausea and the general weird feeling of taking acid, but I felt… WEIRD. Still out of place. I was there physically but had a hard time pulling myself back mentally. My mom asked me to walk her through what happened and I did. She assured me this feeling would go away.. but it’s been 2 months and I sometimes still catch myself feeling out of place. Bigger than myself, something else. I feel like an alien sometimes. I don’t like it. I look at the people around me and feel like a fly on the wall. My depression is worse, my anxiety has gotten really bad, I feel ticcy and weary all the time.. and I feel mentally unstable, more than before.
I should also mention I suffer from various mental illnesses. Such as depression, anxiety, Borderline personality disorder, ADHD, tics, PTSD, and aggression issues.
I feel unwell. I need advice. Thanks for reading.
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2023.03.26 13:43 teal_lantern27 My (23F) BF’s (23M) mother and little sister (22F) like to bully him and it’s painful to watch
My BF and I are living in our family’s homes because we have an awful housing market. However, my BF’s family situation has gotten really bizarre recently which makes him want to move out. It’s mostly due to the bullying by his mother and little sister.
About my BF: We met in law school. He’s smart, sensible and hardworking. He’s wholesome and kind-hearted (and according to his friends/family, he’s always been this way). He studies hard to be a lawyer, volunteers around the community, coaches little kids, offers to fix people’s homes/cars (he’s a handyman and mechanic), pays for everything himself, and despite all this he still finds the time/energy to spoil me and his family with incredible thoughtful gifts or acts of service (he loves to cook, clean and fix things for people). As a result, he’s a really loveable, helpful and independent man!
About his little sister🚩: She’s the opposite. To be blunt, she’s selfish, inconsiderate, rude, and a materialistic attention-seeker. She steals my stuff, leaves mess everywhere, a high school dropout, no hobbies except drinking/sex, prone to screaming tantrums, and posts her butt on IG daily. She’s had a lot of problems (like unwanted pregnancies with unknown men, speeding tickets, falling for scams, etc) which her family pays for her.
I have two example events to explain what she’s like- my BF’s graduation party (finishing law school) and his birthday party. Both events she didn’t want to attend because she didn’t think they were important (wanting to see her friends instead) but I encouraged her to attend. But at these parties, whenever the attention went to my BF (like making a toast or giving him gifts), she starts causing a scene: crying about drama, bragging about her wild drunk stories, complaining about how difficult her retail job is and how frustrating it is to have another abortion, demanding people to take sexy photos of her, etc. I found this infuriating because his sister is always the focus (being the problematic child) and this distracts from the recognition he deserves for his hard work.
About his mother🚩: The mother is an enabler and “best friend” of the little sister. She loves spoiling her daughter and acts like "one of the girls” when her friends are around. She paid for her daughter’s entire lifestyle- her bedroom, the abortions and medical bills, the speeding fines, all her clothes/makeup/perfumes, etc. She prides herself in being the breadwinner of the family and often splurges it on her daughter. She has never financially contributed to her son (my BF), making him pay for everything since he turned 18.
The Major Problem 🚩🚩🚩: There had always been little red flags about his mothesister. But it really started to show last week when his parents were away for the week and my BF and I took care of the house. When his parents returned, his sister claimed all the credit for keeping the house clean and looking after the dog, even though she was actually out partying the entire week (only returning home occasionally when hungover, leaving trash/vomit/mess for my BF to clean). Their mother praised the little sister, but my BF tried to correct her claiming he did most of the work. They turned against him saying “if you really did the work, you would’ve said so”. His sister joined in scolding him.
Then this morning, we woke up and he immediately started doing chores (mowed the lawn, fed the dog, did the laundry, washed dishes) while his sister laid on the couch hungover, eating Doritos and burping away. Once he was done with the chores, he joined in helping me cook breakfast for everyone.
His mother entered and demanded he does the bathroom, ranting about how he’s lazy and never does any work around the house. He defends himself, saying he did the bathroom last week, but hadn’t been home since then because this week we went away for our 2-year anniversary and my birthday. His sister joined the bandwagon, saying “I bet you’ve never even cleaned the toilet! You need to do it! It’s a mess!” (she had gastro this week).
He was about to drop everything to clean the bathroom, but the task would take too long and we needed to pick up my mother from the hospital. He explained this to them and promised to do clean the bathroom when he gets back. They scoffed at him “ohhh ok! You think you’re sooo important!!” and continued to rant about how lazy he was. His mother huffed about how disappointed she is in having a son like him.
He leaves the room, to finish the laundry from this morning, I’m left in the kitchen finishing breakfast, cleaning, and putting their groceries away while his mother and sister continue shaming him. His mother even said “he’s so irresponsible, unlike his sister”. I was so confused. So I started listing the things I see him around the house, including the fact he cooks/cleans up after THEIR mess. But I also mentioned he does wonderful things for me and my family. Big mistake to mention that… his mother said she didn’t appreciate hearing that. “He shouldn’t be helping you!! His home and his responsibly is HERE, and that’s final!”
Stumped and feeling triggered, I packed our breakfast in takeaway containers and texted my mother that I’ll be a bit late, while he cleaned the bathroom. We drove away in silence, with his phone buzzing constantly- which was his sister bragging about how she just cleaned the toilet and how her brother is hopeless/lazy. Their mother responded with praise.
Now, we are sitting at my house in silence completely stumped. His sister just texted demanding an apology, especially one to their mother. My BF keeps telling me how ashamed he is that he let me see this happen- apparently it’s normal, he just walked away unbothered when they act out like that. But it was such a shock to me, they had only ever been on their best and generous behaviour around me. I can’t help but feel so sorry, frustrated and ANGRY that he endures that. Besides telling him to move out, I’m not sure how to help him, or what advice he needs.
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2023.03.26 13:33 shortyafter People do not value truth.
I was just watching a documentary about the PRC (People's Republic of China). They were saying that Confucius taught that honesty is one of the highest human virtues. As part of the Communist Party's new plan to establish legitimacy, they are drawing on these ancient Chinese traditions. They showed a young girl drawing the Chinese character for "honesty". Obviously there is real irony in this.
But don't get me wrong, this is not a uniquely Chinese phenomenon. How about the perception that the United States is the "land of the free", when in truth it is the nation with the highest incarceration rate. Or the "American Dream", where what you set your mind to you can achieve with hard work, when in reality you are more likely to move out of poverty in Old World Europe.
But it's not only a political thing. How about religion? People believe all sorts of ridiculous ideas, and not only that, but are willing to kill, and die, to defend them.
It happens on a much more personal level, too. Recently a client of mine insisted that I was only interested in money, despite the fact that this is not the case - I truly love my job, and I have sacrificed a higher salary in order to do something I enjoy. She was angry with me because she was not holding up on her end of the bargain, and I called her on it and asked for the payment I was due. She told me horrible, nasty things! I argued with her for a bit, but in the end decided not to fight it and just let her take her business elsewhere. I'm not sure what world she lives in, but it's clear that what she thought and said about me was not rooted in reality. She never apologized, but in the end I received my payment and she continues doing business with me. So I guess deep down she knew she was wrong even though she didn't have the humility to admit it.
It happens all the times in relationships. We treat every little thing as a "red flag" rather than recognizing that people are human and are doing the best that they can. We "cancel" people before giving them a chance, and 9 times out of 10 not because they deserve it, but rather because we are afraid of opening up about our own wounds and dysfunctions. It is a shield, but since people are not interested in truth, they go on throwing the blame outward.
This is quite simply how our society works. The whole thing is built on lies. Perhaps it's because those lies benefit those at the top, which is quite clearly the case in China, and even in the USA. But also because we as individuals are too afraid to face the truth. The truth is scary. The truth is painful. Because we are vulnerable, we are mortal, and we are all quite powerless. These are not exactly fun things to try and digest.
But at the end of the day the journey is about you. It's up to you to open your eyes to the truth, not anyone else. That's not your job. Maybe by opening yourself up you can inspire others. But it's always about you first. The only benefit in realizing that the society is based on lies is that it allows you to know where you're coming from and also to see things with clear eyes. That way you can begin to function free from the chains of conditioning.
Is it scary? Yes. But as far as I know, we only get one shot at this thing called life. IMO, it's much better to live an honest life rooted in truth, rather than a half-hearted one rooted in lies. There is real satisfaction in this way. Perhaps that was Confucius was alluding to.
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2023.03.26 13:32 shortyafter People do not value truth.
I was just watching a documentary about the PRC (People's Republic of China). They were saying that Confucius taught that honesty is one of the highest human virtues. As part of the Communist Party's new plan to establish legitimacy, they are drawing on these ancient Chinese traditions. They showed a young girl drawing the Chinese character for "honesty". Obviously there is real irony in this.
But don't get me wrong, this is not a uniquely Chinese phenomenon. How about the perception that the United States is the "land of the free", when in truth it is the nation with
the highest incarceration rate. Or the "American Dream", where what you set your mind to you can achieve with hard work, when in reality you are more likely to
move out of poverty in Old World Europe.
But it's not only a political thing. How about religion? People believe all sorts of ridiculous ideas, and not only that, but are willing to kill, and die, to defend them.
It happens on a much more personal level, too. Recently a client of mine insisted that I was only interested in money, despite the fact that this is not the case - I truly love my job, and I have sacrificed a higher salary in order to do something I enjoy. She was angry with me because she was not holding up on her end of the bargain, and I called her on it and asked for the payment I was due. She told me horrible, nasty things! I argued with her for a bit, but in the end decided not to fight it and just let her take her business elsewhere. I'm not sure what world she lives in, but it's clear that what she thought and said about me was not rooted in reality. She never apologized, but in the end I received my payment and she continues doing business with me. So I guess deep down she knew she was wrong even though she didn't have the humility to admit it.
It happens all the times in relationships. We treat every little thing as a "red flag" rather than recognizing that people are human and are doing the best that they can. We "cancel" people before giving them a chance, and 9 times out of 10 not because they deserve it, but rather because we are afraid of opening up about our own wounds and dysfunctions. It is a shield, but since people are not interested in truth, they go on throwing the blame outward.
This is quite simply how our society works. The whole thing is built on lies. Perhaps it's because those lies benefit those at the top, which is quite clearly the case in China, and even in the USA. But also because we as individuals are too afraid to face the truth. The truth is scary. The truth is painful. Because we are vulnerable, we are mortal, and we are all quite powerless. These are not exactly fun things to try and digest.
But at the end of the day the journey is about you. It's up to
you to open your eyes to the truth, not anyone else. That's not your job. Maybe by opening yourself up you can inspire others. But it's always about you first. The only benefit in realizing that the society is based on lies is that it allows you to know where you're coming from and also to see things with clear eyes. That way you can begin to function free from the chains of conditioning.
Is it scary? Yes. But as far as I know, we only get one shot at this thing called life. IMO, it's much better to live an honest life rooted in truth, rather than a half-hearted one rooted in lies. There is real satisfaction in this way. Perhaps that was Confucius was alluding to.
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2023.03.26 13:30 shortyafter People do not value truth.
I was just watching a documentary about the PRC (People's Republic of China). They were saying that Confucius taught that honesty is one of the highest human virtues. As part of the Communist Party's new plan to establish legitimacy, they are drawing on these ancient Chinese traditions. They showed a young girl drawing the Chinese character for "honesty". Obviously there is real irony in this.
But don't get me wrong, this is not a uniquely Chinese phenomenon. How about the perception that the United States is the "land of the free", when in truth it is the nation with
the highest incarceration rate. Or the "American Dream", where what you set your mind to you can achieve with hard work, when in reality you are more likely to
move out of poverty in Old World Europe.
But it's not only a political thing. How about religion? People believe all sorts of ridiculous ideas, and not only that, but are willing to kill, and die, to defend them.
It happens on a much more personal level, too. Recently a client of mine insisted that I was only interested in money, despite the fact that this is not the case - I truly love my job, and I have sacrificed a higher salary in order to do something I enjoy. She was angry with me because she was not holding up on her end of the bargain, and I called her on it and asked for the payment I was due. She told me horrible, nasty things! I argued with her for a bit, but in the end decided not to fight it and just let her take her business elsewhere. I'm not sure what world she lives in, but it's clear that what she thought and said about me was not rooted in reality. She never apologized, but in the end I received my payment and she continues doing business with me. So I guess deep down she knew she was wrong even though she didn't have the humility to admit it.
It happens all the times in relationships. We treat every little thing as a "red flag" rather than recognizing that people are human and are doing the best that they can. We "cancel" people before giving them a chance, and 9 times out of 10 not because they deserve it, but rather because we are afraid of opening up about our own wounds and dysfunctions. It is a shield, but since people are not interested in truth, they go on throwing the blame outward.
This is quite simply how our society works. The whole thing is built on lies. Perhaps it's because those lies benefit those at the top, which is quite clearly the case in China, and even in the USA. But also because we as individuals are too afraid to face the truth. The truth is scary. The truth is painful. Because we are vulnerable, we are mortal, and we are all quite powerless. These are not exactly fun things to try and digest.
But at the end of the day the journey is about you. It's up to
you to open your eyes to the truth, not anyone else. That's not your job. Maybe by opening yourself up you can inspire others. But it's always about you first. The only benefit in realizing that the society is based on lies is that it allows you to know where you're coming from and also to see things with clear eyes. That way you can begin to function free from the chains of conditioning.
Is it scary? Yes. But as far as I know, we only get one shot at this thing called life. IMO, it's much better to live an honest life rooted in truth, rather than a half-hearted one rooted in lies. There is real satisfaction in this way. Perhaps that was Confucius was alluding to.
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2023.03.26 13:30 MinaMietin Is a service dog what I need?
I hope this is the right place and right way to ask for this! I've lurked but actually posting is totally new to me.
I'm a 21 year old autistic woman from Finland and I have major trouble leaving the house on my own. My biggest issue is anxiety, I'm so afraid of having a breakdown that I dont even want to try. For the record I've experienced panic attacks, anxiety attacks, sensory overloads and severe stomach issues while out there, so my fears aren't exactly unfounded. I've tried my best to power through the fears and work through that anxiety with my therapist, support people, and my mom's help. However although there are days I'm successful, it's not a progression as much as a rare good day. I've come to the conclusion that I'm not going to have the freedom I want unless I embrace my need for further assistance and tools.
Which leads me to the topic of this sub! I'm wondering if a service dog could help me, or if they'd be more troublesome.
- What kind of tasks could one be trained for? Could a service dog recognize when I should drop everything and head to the bathroom before I myself know? Would one sit with me while I suffer with that and/or a panic attack?
- If I already struggle going out even with the company of my mother (who makes me the least nervous,) could a dog really help? On one hand a dog would be more often available than her, so I wouldn't have to only go out on weekends (more chances to go out on a good day!), but on the other hand the dog cant drive. (Bus systems are amazing in my city, but I get nervous without a solid escape plan.)
- I have a pet cat. Any experiences with that combo?
Thank you! I'm mostly looking for personal thoughts, but I'm all for official resources as well.
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2023.03.26 13:29 Tawa-online Comparing GPT and NLU: ChatGPT vs. LLAMA
Hello fellow LLM and NLP developers! Today, we're going to delve into the fascinating realm of language models and natural language understanding (NLU) from a technical standpoint. We'll be putting two prominent AI tools under the microscope: OpenAI's ChatGPT and the LLAMA NLU system.
Our goal is to dissect their capabilities, strengths, and weaknesses, offering insights into how these systems impact and advance the field of AI language processing for developers and enthusiasts like us.
Background Before we jump into the comparisons, let's briefly discuss GPT and NLU. GPT, or Generative Pre-trained Transformer, is a type of language model that uses machine learning to generate human-like text. NLU, or Natural Language Understanding, is a subset of natural language processing (NLP) that focuses on extracting meaning and intent from human language.
ChatGPT ChatGPT is an AI language model by OpenAI, based on their GPT architecture. It's designed to generate human-like responses in a conversational context. ChatGPT can perform various tasks like answering questions, providing suggestions, and even engaging in casual conversations.
Strengths - Highly advanced text generation: ChatGPT can generate coherent and contextually accurate responses, making it suitable for a wide range of applications.
- Multitasking abilities: It can handle multiple tasks without requiring explicit retraining or fine-tuning.
- Large-scale training data: ChatGPT leverages a vast amount of training data, allowing it to generate more diverse and knowledgeable responses.
Weaknesses - Ambiguity and verbosity: ChatGPT sometimes generates verbose or ambiguous responses, which may not directly address the user's query.
- Inability to guarantee factual accuracy: Although it's trained on a large dataset, ChatGPT may occasionally produce incorrect or outdated information.
LLAMA LLAMA (Large Language Model Meta AI) is an NLU system designed to understand and analyze human language. Instead of generating text, LLAMA extracts meaning from text inputs and provides structured information or performs specific actions based on user intent.
Strengths - Precise information extraction: LLAMA is excellent at extracting specific information from user inputs and providing accurate, structured data.
- Intent recognition: It can accurately identify user intent, allowing it to respond to various requests or commands effectively.
- Domain-specific expertise: LLAMA can be fine-tuned for specialized domains, making it suitable for industry-specific applications.
Weaknesses - Limited text generation capabilities: Unlike ChatGPT, LLAMA isn't designed to generate human-like text, which limits its applicability in conversational AI.
- Narrow focus: LLAMA may struggle with tasks outside its domain-specific expertise, as it requires fine-tuning for each new domain.
Conclusion Both ChatGPT and LLAMA offer valuable contributions to the fields of AI language processing and NLU. While ChatGPT excels in generating human-like text and multitasking, LLAMA's strengths lie in extracting meaning and understanding user intent. Ultimately, the choice between these two systems will depend on the specific use case and desired outcome, but now you might have a better idea of which is best for your needs.
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2023.03.26 13:22 PolaDePol Managing a crush in a Stoic way
So to contextualize a bit, a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend back then, although it had been a great relationship the break up was quite hurtful. Nevertheless, once the pain was over I really went through a glow-up season: I experienced an increase in self-esteem, confidence and was just incredibly well with my mind and body. It was at this point that I started learning about stoicism and overall, that period came with a great amount of personal growth. I learnt how to be with myself fully and really started enjoying my company and independence.
As a consequence, I think I also started attracting some nice people into my life, one of whom was a very cute guy that had lots of traits that I identified were missing in my past relationship. Blinded by this fact (and due to some personal circumstances) we both rushed into a relationship. As you can imagine, this was not the best decision I could have taken. I was at a stage where I was enjoying being single and everything that came with a relationship kind of collided with my priorities at that moment. As soon as I was aware of all of this, we broke up the short relationship. And that brings me to the present. My idea after the break-up was to give me that alone time I was craving, however, for the past week I have been crushing with a friend of mine.
On the one hand, it is a recent (and most likely) ephemeral crush so I am rationalizing it. Although I am 70% certain it is reciprocal I think I don't want to act on it. Firstly, it could destabilize the amazing friendship we already have. But my real fear is making the same mistake as with this recent short relationship: stepping into something while not being emotionally prepared to do so.
I am reaching out to you because I need some help navigating and processing these feelings under a stoic framework. Should I have a conversation with him explaining my situation and why I am not gonna act according to my crush-feelings towards him? How can I digest this while being compassionate and non-judgemental to myself?
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2023.03.26 13:11 Weekly_Occasion_503 How Are The Breakfast Food For The World's Oldest Woman?
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2023.03.26 13:03 OperationCriticalHit I (20 F) got to see what my family looked like today and I’m in tears.
So I grew up in a pretty old family. I’m 20, but my dad is 78 and my mom is 59. My parents aren’t very involved with their families, especially since their parents died. My dads parents had already been gone from over 20+ years by the time I was born, and my moms dad passed a year after I was born, and with my grandma passing away in 2019 (and at 100, you go Grandma!), but we live across the country and could not afford to visit my Grandma since 2003. Point is- I knew almost literally nothing about my family and that annoyed me. I’ve always wanted a big family dynamic, where we can count on each other.
Well, I’ve been doing family history research for a while, and after living in a crowed city for two years, I finally got around to seeing my aunt and uncle after I was pretty sure it was safe to do so, cause plague. My uncle is 84, and he has a lot of family photos. Originally I was looking for a photo of my 2nd Great Grandma, she was Mexican, she the reason why we have a tradition of J names in our family, and from what I gather her story is traumatic. 2nd great grandpa kidnapped her ‘legally’ because he was rich white guy and thought he could strut his ugly rich people boots into Mexico, point to a preteen, and marry her. That’s the more family friendly version. Ive been through trauma and her story really resonated with me, so I’ve been trying to find information on her. I’ve been looking for a photo of this woman for 7 years; and my uncle had one!
Well I went over and I got to see some amazing photos. My grandfather was a well respected man, and after learning about him I realized that him and I would have been best friends. He loved history, wrote poetry, he was a man in power who made his dental practice affordable because he didn’t like that people would have to suffer money wise if they wanted to take care of their teeth. He was a community man who would clean gravestones when he went to a grave yard. There was no dentist in his hometown, so when he visit his parents, he pulled teeth for people for dirt cheep out of the houses bathroom. (Also for preface on how much older he is from me, he was born 1895. I am aware he would not be alive now even if he didn’t die in the 80’s, but I still feel cheated.) He was someone, who I see myself in, and I feel much closer to him than I did. I always envied my older half siblings (Dads side) for getting to meet my grandparents. I always felt left out because I never got those experiences. No one in my family is as passionate about those values as I am, and just being able to learn about him, and how well we could have gotten along, makes me feel so much less alone.
I got photos of my beautiful grandma, my great grandmas & grandpas, and my 2nd great grandma. I heard stories about how wonderful, or awful, or kind, or smart they were. I wasn’t able to learn much about my 2nd great grandma, but I did learn that her son, my great grandpa was a strict yet kind man. I got some amazing stories and even got him and my great grandmas obituaries from the original newspapers. Based on what my aunt and uncle told me about him, I assume she raised him well. I learnt so much. I got given some awesome photos of my dad growing up. I got to read a poem written by my granddad. I got confirmation that he would be proud of me. It warms my heart, and I’ve been sobbing absolute happy tears for hours.
On top of that, I got to try my grandma’s recipe for dinner rolls and they are delicious. I feel so included guys!!!
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