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Getting to Bisbee without a car
2023.03.30 05:46 throw_and_run_away Getting to Bisbee without a car
Hi all,
After a fun desert (Vegas) trip and half-marathon last month, I read about the "super unique" Bisbee 1000 Stair Climb race in the fall and am considering running it. However, I don't drive and the Bisbee airport doesn't appear to have scheduled flights. Is there a shuttle bus there from Tucson or any other way you know of to get there car-free?
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After a fun desert (Vegas) trip and half-marathon last month, I read about the "super unique" Bisbee 1000 Stair Climb race in the fall and am considering running it. However, I don't drive and the Bisbee airport doesn't appear to have scheduled flights. Is there a shuttle bus there from Tucson or any other way you know of to get there car-free?
2023.03.30 05:43 throw_and_run_away Getting to Bisbee without a car
Hi all,
After a fun desert (Vegas) trip and half-marathon last month, I read about the "super unique" Bisbee 1000 Stair Climb race in the fall and am considering running it. However, I don't drive and the Bisbee airport doesn't appear to have scheduled flights. Is there a way to get there from out of town without a car, maybe via a shuttle bus from Tucson or something?
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After a fun desert (Vegas) trip and half-marathon last month, I read about the "super unique" Bisbee 1000 Stair Climb race in the fall and am considering running it. However, I don't drive and the Bisbee airport doesn't appear to have scheduled flights. Is there a way to get there from out of town without a car, maybe via a shuttle bus from Tucson or something?
2023.03.30 05:30 Accomplished_Mess759 Same Day Passport Experience
I was digging around Reddit looking for answers this week and I figured I’d pay it forward sharing my experience!
2 weeks ago I scheduled my appt for Boston at 11:00 am (not near where I live but cheapest RT ticket on SW). - I had a 6:30 am flight to Boston, we landed right around 8. - I got passport office by 8:20 (I assume they opened at 8 and there was a very small line of people in front of me 10 ppl max) - I handed in my documents for processing by 8:45 and passport in hand by 10!
I had a noon flight back home for international travel in two days but they did take my return flight on consideration and I was there so early. Local people/people who drove were told around 3 unless processed earlier. They did verify my return and international flights on my airline app. Everyone was so nice, even the security staff. Good luck to everyone!
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2 weeks ago I scheduled my appt for Boston at 11:00 am (not near where I live but cheapest RT ticket on SW). - I had a 6:30 am flight to Boston, we landed right around 8. - I got passport office by 8:20 (I assume they opened at 8 and there was a very small line of people in front of me 10 ppl max) - I handed in my documents for processing by 8:45 and passport in hand by 10!
I had a noon flight back home for international travel in two days but they did take my return flight on consideration and I was there so early. Local people/people who drove were told around 3 unless processed earlier. They did verify my return and international flights on my airline app. Everyone was so nice, even the security staff. Good luck to everyone!
2023.03.30 05:14 ranchxnoobxtryhard MRAdv. Nuzlocke Run 4.5: Reshoring, Part 1
...
"Gotta be a hell of a time for ya," Richard remarks while he slides me a faceted-bottom drinking glass, Captain Morgan-ing it with his seat opposite me. This'll be the third time tonight, I think. We ran out of whiskey- the rum's great though, he said it was in a smoked barrel, whatever.
"Bet you were hopin' lil' Spooky was gonna lose, huh?" He cocks his heavy brow toward me, left upturned. I... Can't tell what he's pulling here. "Lucky for you, I'm a gamblin' man... Don't worry pal, I've been keeping you in my mind."
"See," he begins as he sees me raising my glass to drink, and rushes to accompany me. "I've been swingin' my weight [he was a very thin man] around at the Meeting Table when I go back to do my Reports. My reputation is pretty known as a... Man of chance... And the Stodgies weren't really giving me much while I was explaining my Plan."
"My luck's... Not so good." He plants his drink down with a solid clap against the hard wood table. "At least, that's what I tell Them. So I made them... A Wager." He steps his foot down from the top of the chair and turns, walking to his desk in the corner of what I assume to be his Office- it's mostly just the desk and some strewn papers, some... Bizarre mish-mash of writing and seemingly random numbers, written all throughout the pages with seemingly little order or care for placement. He opens the top drawer and pulls something out.
"Check this out, buddy." He turns, stumbling, and tosses... A key? "Oh, whoops- hang on," is uttered slurrily as he was way off-mark and it lands short of the entire table area. He walks over and picks it up, comes back to the table. Places it with a confident hand onto the table. "This... Is the new Program."
"I told the Stodgies that it was a stupid idea to just get rid of these guys if the Experiment isn't Completed. I Proposed that... We could develop a new Program for the promising Subjects that become Obsolete for the Experiment. There's no point in losing all our investments over and over again. They... Mostly wanted to focus on the last part. But I convinced Them that I'd bet, my Salary against Implementing my Program, that Our buddy Spooky would impress Them... That key... Is to my stable. When I get it finished in about a week or so, won't be long. That's gonna be for Spooky's gate. I'm keepin' it."
...
Everything got a little blurry after that- too much good rum. Needed some time away from the Papers, and to make a visit, so it's been a few Months [plot time]. Richard has Implemented the Graduation Program after the Board spectated Spooky's matches. They agreed that its potential was too great to be subject to Obsoletion, and wish to see it thrive going forward and achieve higher Classes outside of my Experiment. Richard has a team that he Supervises which will take care of the Graduated Subjects, and they'll be treated finely- he bet a huge sum of cash on Spooky in the Tournament, too, and won nearly everything. Its caretakers are fantastic- they're taking Orders from Richard very well, who, turns out, was taking notes from me while I was doing Training with it. Spooky will be... Fine.
The Board has Dismissed the Ethics Complaints, and they've expressed great Interest going forward. They are sending Case files with more data in the ID as each Experiment progresses to a higher Class.
My new Case: (42, x, 2, 80, 30, 46). I named it Roon, the LavaLessie. Metric Total: 716. A good-looking Subject; not the most nimble I've ever seen... But quite hardy and seems versatile in its potential for either Skill type. We start with Head Slap and Spike as our Skills, so we'll be leaning into that and focusing on its resilience over speed while we Train it to be able to break rocks with its skull. We'll see if you can follow-up on Spooky... Gonna be a tough spot to fill around here.
First Month goes smoothly, as Roon took well to both the Accuracy Training on Week 1 and the Mixed Strength Training on Week 3, resting in between to keep from too much fatigue. We feed Nuts in the second Month, and repeat the Training in the same fashion; very good, and these early Mixed Trainings are doing great to adjust Roon's Combat specialty. I believe maintaining this schedule might be a bit too much for it this early on, though, as we see a Failure in Month 3 during Accuracy. We'll take note, and adjust to Endurance to give it some variety in the next sessions. Though the Mixed session was a success, there's definitely a toll being put on Roon as another failure in Month 4 forces me to reconsider the Regimen. We don't want to be too soft on Roon here, and push it to try again in Week 2. It succeeds, and we call it there for the rest of the Month. AGIMA arrives, but we have a ways to go- and Roon's gonna need to recover a while before we think about any more training. We'll have to see... But it could definitely be worse. I'm seeing some good promise here; and I don't want to let these past two Months affect my outlook too harshly.
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"Gotta be a hell of a time for ya," Richard remarks while he slides me a faceted-bottom drinking glass, Captain Morgan-ing it with his seat opposite me. This'll be the third time tonight, I think. We ran out of whiskey- the rum's great though, he said it was in a smoked barrel, whatever.
"Bet you were hopin' lil' Spooky was gonna lose, huh?" He cocks his heavy brow toward me, left upturned. I... Can't tell what he's pulling here. "Lucky for you, I'm a gamblin' man... Don't worry pal, I've been keeping you in my mind."
"See," he begins as he sees me raising my glass to drink, and rushes to accompany me. "I've been swingin' my weight [he was a very thin man] around at the Meeting Table when I go back to do my Reports. My reputation is pretty known as a... Man of chance... And the Stodgies weren't really giving me much while I was explaining my Plan."
"My luck's... Not so good." He plants his drink down with a solid clap against the hard wood table. "At least, that's what I tell Them. So I made them... A Wager." He steps his foot down from the top of the chair and turns, walking to his desk in the corner of what I assume to be his Office- it's mostly just the desk and some strewn papers, some... Bizarre mish-mash of writing and seemingly random numbers, written all throughout the pages with seemingly little order or care for placement. He opens the top drawer and pulls something out.
"Check this out, buddy." He turns, stumbling, and tosses... A key? "Oh, whoops- hang on," is uttered slurrily as he was way off-mark and it lands short of the entire table area. He walks over and picks it up, comes back to the table. Places it with a confident hand onto the table. "This... Is the new Program."
"I told the Stodgies that it was a stupid idea to just get rid of these guys if the Experiment isn't Completed. I Proposed that... We could develop a new Program for the promising Subjects that become Obsolete for the Experiment. There's no point in losing all our investments over and over again. They... Mostly wanted to focus on the last part. But I convinced Them that I'd bet, my Salary against Implementing my Program, that Our buddy Spooky would impress Them... That key... Is to my stable. When I get it finished in about a week or so, won't be long. That's gonna be for Spooky's gate. I'm keepin' it."
...
Everything got a little blurry after that- too much good rum. Needed some time away from the Papers, and to make a visit, so it's been a few Months [plot time]. Richard has Implemented the Graduation Program after the Board spectated Spooky's matches. They agreed that its potential was too great to be subject to Obsoletion, and wish to see it thrive going forward and achieve higher Classes outside of my Experiment. Richard has a team that he Supervises which will take care of the Graduated Subjects, and they'll be treated finely- he bet a huge sum of cash on Spooky in the Tournament, too, and won nearly everything. Its caretakers are fantastic- they're taking Orders from Richard very well, who, turns out, was taking notes from me while I was doing Training with it. Spooky will be... Fine.
The Board has Dismissed the Ethics Complaints, and they've expressed great Interest going forward. They are sending Case files with more data in the ID as each Experiment progresses to a higher Class.
My new Case: (42, x, 2, 80, 30, 46). I named it Roon, the LavaLessie. Metric Total: 716. A good-looking Subject; not the most nimble I've ever seen... But quite hardy and seems versatile in its potential for either Skill type. We start with Head Slap and Spike as our Skills, so we'll be leaning into that and focusing on its resilience over speed while we Train it to be able to break rocks with its skull. We'll see if you can follow-up on Spooky... Gonna be a tough spot to fill around here.
First Month goes smoothly, as Roon took well to both the Accuracy Training on Week 1 and the Mixed Strength Training on Week 3, resting in between to keep from too much fatigue. We feed Nuts in the second Month, and repeat the Training in the same fashion; very good, and these early Mixed Trainings are doing great to adjust Roon's Combat specialty. I believe maintaining this schedule might be a bit too much for it this early on, though, as we see a Failure in Month 3 during Accuracy. We'll take note, and adjust to Endurance to give it some variety in the next sessions. Though the Mixed session was a success, there's definitely a toll being put on Roon as another failure in Month 4 forces me to reconsider the Regimen. We don't want to be too soft on Roon here, and push it to try again in Week 2. It succeeds, and we call it there for the rest of the Month. AGIMA arrives, but we have a ways to go- and Roon's gonna need to recover a while before we think about any more training. We'll have to see... But it could definitely be worse. I'm seeing some good promise here; and I don't want to let these past two Months affect my outlook too harshly.
2023.03.30 05:14 Grand_Pomelo5330 The parallel world of severe asthma
I wrote this after an asthma attack earlier this week, dreading the flare-up that was coming. For the past few years it means weeks of getting back to normal. I'm currently in grad school, and bike mentioned is an ebike, fyi. Always gotta be accessible. It meant a lot to write this, and thought some here would appreciate it too. It's rough, but from the heart.
The parallel world of disability
As my asthma has worsened, I more and more feel like I’m living parallel to the people around me. In Tokyo, with my unusual hours and outsider status as a foreigner, I already felt set apart from society, so the feeling wasn’t so intense. Yes, I might have missed the occasional book club meeting or invitation from a friend, but I didn’t have daily reminders of how my life had to be considered so differently from those surrounding me. Before Tokyo, while asthma was a consideration in my life, it only came up around hikes or when I pulled my inhaler out after running too fast for too long. It set me apart, but only sometimes.
Now, the time I feel most separate is when I open my school email. Today alone I got invitations to:
• The grad student sports day, which I immediately deleted. I haven’t been able to run across the street without thinking for 3 years. There’s no way in hell I could participate.
• A round table with a CEO. I RSVP’d, but with the knowledge that I’ll likely have to email a cancellation to the event coordinator when a flareup extends or starts or I get an asthma attack.
• A Q&A before an event I’m attending. I RSVP’d, but later realized it’s held at a separate venue from the event, about a three-minute walk away. If I’m feeling bad, I won’t be able to go, and if I’m mobile but not great, I’ll have to ride my bike to both locations in order to minimize walking and be able to attend.
• A meeting with a prof today. I had to ask to meet virtually due to an asthma attack around 11am. He said we could reschedule if I wasn’t feeling well, and I had to go into a brief health history so he would know there was a high chance I’d have to cancel a rescheduled appointment as well, so we just went virtual.
• A school event on Saturday where we paint a map of the United States at an elementary school. Yesterday I ran into a classmate promoting it, and had to tell him I can’t RSVP because I have no idea what my health status will be by Saturday, and lo and behold today I had an asthma attack that will likely take a week or more to resolve.
• Employer visits. I haven’t been to one in months because I’ve had to save all my energy for attending classes, or I wouldn’t even be able to do that.
• So many various interesting talks that I don’t even think about attending anymore because I always seem to be sick whenever there’s something I actually want to do.
After my attack, I immediately emailed both the prof I was scheduled to meet and my prof for tomorrow’s class. It’s a public speaking class (I didn’t realize that when I signed up, I thought it was for writing, my effin’ bad), and we’re exchanging speeches with another person before class, so I need to give my prof warning. In addition, the class is held in a building where it takes me three times as long to walk to the class area as anyone else because it’s in the far back. The bathrooms, of course, are by the exit, so I had to hold it for an entire class a couple weeks ago because I wouldn’t be able to make it there, back, present, and still be at all functioning.
I texted some friends about watching a basketball game at a bar on Friday, and then immediately regretted it, realizing that due to the attack today, I’ll probably be housebound until Monday, unless I’m lucky and things improve quickly. Checking the forecast, which is showing turbulent weather, rain, and general changes, there’s probably not a chance in hell. I still haven’t texted them that, actually, I probably can’t do it, because I just don’t want to yet, and it doesn’t matter too much, since we’re already planning on coming to my house to watch a movie anyway, thank God.
I also texted my friend in a student organization to let her know I wasn’t coming to the meeting tonight after all. We’d talked yesterday, with her asking after me, and I told her I’d finally be able to come today after more than a month of absences due to my health. Welp, never mind. I then had to text another friend I’m supposed to meet for dinner tomorrow, and see if she can come to my house for dinner instead. We’re not very close, so it’s a little awkward, but it’d be nice if she’d be down.
Other things I got to experience today:
• Sitting, teeth gritted, fingers dug into my palm for 30 seconds as I got a very painful shot (Tezspire) that will hopefully make this situation a little fucking better. Oh God, I really hope so. I’ll get to keep getting that once a month for who knows how long. (Talking from a week later, it seems like the second dose has made a big difference. My attack recovery took just two days instead of two weeks!)
• Not get napkins at a restaurant because it wasn’t a good idea to add some extra walking as I realized that I really was asthmatic.
• Regret going downstairs to work on homework because going up to the stairs to the bathroom meant that I needed to rest for a good fifteen minutes.
• Struggle through brain fog to be able to do my coursework.
• Feel tight chested just from getting up to pour myself tea.
• Ask my roommate to go pick up a package at the front door because I couldn’t handle it.
I’m sure there’s more I’m just not thinking of. I’ve been trying to be clearer about how severe my illness is. Instead of telling people I have asthma, I’ve been saying “I have severe asthma/I have severe uncontrolled asthma,” and I put some weight on it. It’s been helping. I’ve been extending conversations a little longer when people ask about it. I’m not trying to create pity, but help people understand that it seriously effects my life, and that when I have to be noncommittal, or haven’t been to school, it’s because of a chronic condition that won’t get better quickly.
All of this adds up to feeling like I’m existing parallel to the people around me. They RSVP to events, knowing they’ll attend unless they just don’t want to. They organize sports days without thinking about all the people that don’t have a chance in hell of being able to participate. They don’t think a thing of it when I don’t come to class or am walking slowly in the hall. They feel buoyant to me almost, walking around not thinking if they can make it down the hall without a rest. I understand they have complexities to their lives that I don’t understand, but hearing “feel better” when I know I’m not going to for a week or two, then maybe have a week of feeling ok-ish before another flare-up makes me feel like an alien.
I’ve been able-bodied before. I know how little conception I had of the mental burden disability brings. I know how blithely they take advantage of their bodies. I love my body. It feels like a partner in a war with me, constantly battling against the evils of dust mites and cat hair. We’re united in this journey, but holy fuck are we exhausted. I make it to class, work in hand (or not), and feel so tired knowing I’m going to have to balance caring for myself with my commitments for another week. My conception doesn’t really stretch much further than that, except to hope that in six months, when I’m finally done ramping up with allergy shots, maybe I won’t feel like this. The time between then and now draws out in front of me, joyful and terrifying. Perhaps I’ll start improving? I know I’ll have good times with friends, whether they’re in my house or elsewhere when I’m feeling ok. I know I’ll learn a lot. I also know I’ll face walks up a flight of stairs that will take three minutes. I know that I’ll face classes or meetings or lectures where I have to concentrate to be able to sit up straight, barely able to pay attention while it feels like my scalp is shrinking around my skull and my chest is like a cloud crushed in a vice grip.
That after that class I’ll have to make a thousand little journeys: from seat to door, from door to that tile, to the end of that bench, to that next door, to that little tree, to that fence, to my bike, all with a little rest in between, letting everybody outpace me as they move, unthinking about the miracle of their body’s wellness, forward past me. I’ll probably listen to music –nothing too exciting or my body will try to dance without permission, every extraneous movement a danger beyond the capacity of my lungs – and let myself flow along to the melody in my head, while my feet shuffle ever so slowly along, not lifting them too high so as not to exert any extra energy. Every moment of this is defined by a colossal effort not to panic. My body wants to; IT CAN’T GET AIR! But I have to force my breath to calm, even if it’s shallow, and focus all my concentration on the next small goal. Occasionally, a flash of the daunting journey to bike, to home, to up to my room, and to lying face down in my bed, sparks in my mind, and a strong current of fear and dread runs through me before I tamp it down and keep moving at my snail’s pace, or stand in place, eyes closed, fingers flexing and curling, shoulders tensed, calves tensed, toes curled, as I squeeze the big scary emotions back into a small ball in my core and continue the difficult journey to safety and rest.
Is this a world I knew existed before? No.
Am I happy I know it now? With the tiniest, most empathetic sliver of my heart. This parallel world is mine, and it’s an anguished one. I’ve gotten some good out of it. I’ve gained empathy. I truly understand my own grit and determination and sisu after this. I told my doctor about an asthma attack I remember having in Tokyo: I went too fast up some stairs, took my inhaler and sat, and felt better 30 minutes later. He said, “That must have been scary.” No! I remember that asthma attack so fondly that it has almost a nostalgic golden glow about it. The scary asthma attacks: the panicked gasps while stuck in a door I’m not capable of opening fully, being exhausted in a coffee shop from walking 3 steps to a bathroom, laying back on a hotel bed and my vision blurring to black around the edges, those scare me. Having to walk out of the ER, alone in a foreign country, to flag down a cab, shaky from IV steroids and unsure if I can make the 30 meters, that scares me. Barely being able to walk or talk as soon as the first drop of rain falls, at a zoo, at a temple, teaching class, those times scare me.
Sometimes I realize that the people around me would call an ambulance or have their family rush them to the hospital if they felt the way I do right now. It feels like we’re walking in two worlds. Mine is weighty with the distress I’m currently feeling, or haunted by the specters of disturbing possibilities: a flight of stairs, a sharp hill, a quick run to make the bus, a note held too long in choir, all things that have kept me housebound for days to weeks. Theirs is what I had before: full of joys and worries (just as mine is) but without that constant central dread and weight and worrying and calculation that comes along with my illness. I don’t know whether to envy or hate them.
What I do know is that we exist together and apart. They don’t understand, and I don’t really want them to. They shouldn’t have to. I wouldn’t wish these dark experiences on them, as much as I wish that I didn’t feel so alone in all of it. Perhaps one day I’ll once again be able to blithely join a game of badminton without worrying about whether I have my rescue inhaler in my bag. Maybe I’ll even just be able to RSVP to a lecture without worrying whether I’ll be able to make it there without severe distress. I yearn for that future, which the doctor tells me is possible, but I yearn in tiny, quick jolts. Just an eighth of a second, then back to accepting the reality I’m in at the moment, knowing that it’s too painful to dwell on in case I don’t get better.
In reality, I regretted reading this out loud after writing it because I was worried I’d pushed the limits of what I can handle right now. And cried after getting an email from my prof for tomorrow’s class because she was so kind with her accommodations. This parallel, murky, dark world that makes me so damn appreciate of the people around me, even if they can’t understand.
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The parallel world of disability
As my asthma has worsened, I more and more feel like I’m living parallel to the people around me. In Tokyo, with my unusual hours and outsider status as a foreigner, I already felt set apart from society, so the feeling wasn’t so intense. Yes, I might have missed the occasional book club meeting or invitation from a friend, but I didn’t have daily reminders of how my life had to be considered so differently from those surrounding me. Before Tokyo, while asthma was a consideration in my life, it only came up around hikes or when I pulled my inhaler out after running too fast for too long. It set me apart, but only sometimes.
Now, the time I feel most separate is when I open my school email. Today alone I got invitations to:
• The grad student sports day, which I immediately deleted. I haven’t been able to run across the street without thinking for 3 years. There’s no way in hell I could participate.
• A round table with a CEO. I RSVP’d, but with the knowledge that I’ll likely have to email a cancellation to the event coordinator when a flareup extends or starts or I get an asthma attack.
• A Q&A before an event I’m attending. I RSVP’d, but later realized it’s held at a separate venue from the event, about a three-minute walk away. If I’m feeling bad, I won’t be able to go, and if I’m mobile but not great, I’ll have to ride my bike to both locations in order to minimize walking and be able to attend.
• A meeting with a prof today. I had to ask to meet virtually due to an asthma attack around 11am. He said we could reschedule if I wasn’t feeling well, and I had to go into a brief health history so he would know there was a high chance I’d have to cancel a rescheduled appointment as well, so we just went virtual.
• A school event on Saturday where we paint a map of the United States at an elementary school. Yesterday I ran into a classmate promoting it, and had to tell him I can’t RSVP because I have no idea what my health status will be by Saturday, and lo and behold today I had an asthma attack that will likely take a week or more to resolve.
• Employer visits. I haven’t been to one in months because I’ve had to save all my energy for attending classes, or I wouldn’t even be able to do that.
• So many various interesting talks that I don’t even think about attending anymore because I always seem to be sick whenever there’s something I actually want to do.
After my attack, I immediately emailed both the prof I was scheduled to meet and my prof for tomorrow’s class. It’s a public speaking class (I didn’t realize that when I signed up, I thought it was for writing, my effin’ bad), and we’re exchanging speeches with another person before class, so I need to give my prof warning. In addition, the class is held in a building where it takes me three times as long to walk to the class area as anyone else because it’s in the far back. The bathrooms, of course, are by the exit, so I had to hold it for an entire class a couple weeks ago because I wouldn’t be able to make it there, back, present, and still be at all functioning.
I texted some friends about watching a basketball game at a bar on Friday, and then immediately regretted it, realizing that due to the attack today, I’ll probably be housebound until Monday, unless I’m lucky and things improve quickly. Checking the forecast, which is showing turbulent weather, rain, and general changes, there’s probably not a chance in hell. I still haven’t texted them that, actually, I probably can’t do it, because I just don’t want to yet, and it doesn’t matter too much, since we’re already planning on coming to my house to watch a movie anyway, thank God.
I also texted my friend in a student organization to let her know I wasn’t coming to the meeting tonight after all. We’d talked yesterday, with her asking after me, and I told her I’d finally be able to come today after more than a month of absences due to my health. Welp, never mind. I then had to text another friend I’m supposed to meet for dinner tomorrow, and see if she can come to my house for dinner instead. We’re not very close, so it’s a little awkward, but it’d be nice if she’d be down.
Other things I got to experience today:
• Sitting, teeth gritted, fingers dug into my palm for 30 seconds as I got a very painful shot (Tezspire) that will hopefully make this situation a little fucking better. Oh God, I really hope so. I’ll get to keep getting that once a month for who knows how long. (Talking from a week later, it seems like the second dose has made a big difference. My attack recovery took just two days instead of two weeks!)
• Not get napkins at a restaurant because it wasn’t a good idea to add some extra walking as I realized that I really was asthmatic.
• Regret going downstairs to work on homework because going up to the stairs to the bathroom meant that I needed to rest for a good fifteen minutes.
• Struggle through brain fog to be able to do my coursework.
• Feel tight chested just from getting up to pour myself tea.
• Ask my roommate to go pick up a package at the front door because I couldn’t handle it.
I’m sure there’s more I’m just not thinking of. I’ve been trying to be clearer about how severe my illness is. Instead of telling people I have asthma, I’ve been saying “I have severe asthma/I have severe uncontrolled asthma,” and I put some weight on it. It’s been helping. I’ve been extending conversations a little longer when people ask about it. I’m not trying to create pity, but help people understand that it seriously effects my life, and that when I have to be noncommittal, or haven’t been to school, it’s because of a chronic condition that won’t get better quickly.
All of this adds up to feeling like I’m existing parallel to the people around me. They RSVP to events, knowing they’ll attend unless they just don’t want to. They organize sports days without thinking about all the people that don’t have a chance in hell of being able to participate. They don’t think a thing of it when I don’t come to class or am walking slowly in the hall. They feel buoyant to me almost, walking around not thinking if they can make it down the hall without a rest. I understand they have complexities to their lives that I don’t understand, but hearing “feel better” when I know I’m not going to for a week or two, then maybe have a week of feeling ok-ish before another flare-up makes me feel like an alien.
I’ve been able-bodied before. I know how little conception I had of the mental burden disability brings. I know how blithely they take advantage of their bodies. I love my body. It feels like a partner in a war with me, constantly battling against the evils of dust mites and cat hair. We’re united in this journey, but holy fuck are we exhausted. I make it to class, work in hand (or not), and feel so tired knowing I’m going to have to balance caring for myself with my commitments for another week. My conception doesn’t really stretch much further than that, except to hope that in six months, when I’m finally done ramping up with allergy shots, maybe I won’t feel like this. The time between then and now draws out in front of me, joyful and terrifying. Perhaps I’ll start improving? I know I’ll have good times with friends, whether they’re in my house or elsewhere when I’m feeling ok. I know I’ll learn a lot. I also know I’ll face walks up a flight of stairs that will take three minutes. I know that I’ll face classes or meetings or lectures where I have to concentrate to be able to sit up straight, barely able to pay attention while it feels like my scalp is shrinking around my skull and my chest is like a cloud crushed in a vice grip.
That after that class I’ll have to make a thousand little journeys: from seat to door, from door to that tile, to the end of that bench, to that next door, to that little tree, to that fence, to my bike, all with a little rest in between, letting everybody outpace me as they move, unthinking about the miracle of their body’s wellness, forward past me. I’ll probably listen to music –nothing too exciting or my body will try to dance without permission, every extraneous movement a danger beyond the capacity of my lungs – and let myself flow along to the melody in my head, while my feet shuffle ever so slowly along, not lifting them too high so as not to exert any extra energy. Every moment of this is defined by a colossal effort not to panic. My body wants to; IT CAN’T GET AIR! But I have to force my breath to calm, even if it’s shallow, and focus all my concentration on the next small goal. Occasionally, a flash of the daunting journey to bike, to home, to up to my room, and to lying face down in my bed, sparks in my mind, and a strong current of fear and dread runs through me before I tamp it down and keep moving at my snail’s pace, or stand in place, eyes closed, fingers flexing and curling, shoulders tensed, calves tensed, toes curled, as I squeeze the big scary emotions back into a small ball in my core and continue the difficult journey to safety and rest.
Is this a world I knew existed before? No.
Am I happy I know it now? With the tiniest, most empathetic sliver of my heart. This parallel world is mine, and it’s an anguished one. I’ve gotten some good out of it. I’ve gained empathy. I truly understand my own grit and determination and sisu after this. I told my doctor about an asthma attack I remember having in Tokyo: I went too fast up some stairs, took my inhaler and sat, and felt better 30 minutes later. He said, “That must have been scary.” No! I remember that asthma attack so fondly that it has almost a nostalgic golden glow about it. The scary asthma attacks: the panicked gasps while stuck in a door I’m not capable of opening fully, being exhausted in a coffee shop from walking 3 steps to a bathroom, laying back on a hotel bed and my vision blurring to black around the edges, those scare me. Having to walk out of the ER, alone in a foreign country, to flag down a cab, shaky from IV steroids and unsure if I can make the 30 meters, that scares me. Barely being able to walk or talk as soon as the first drop of rain falls, at a zoo, at a temple, teaching class, those times scare me.
Sometimes I realize that the people around me would call an ambulance or have their family rush them to the hospital if they felt the way I do right now. It feels like we’re walking in two worlds. Mine is weighty with the distress I’m currently feeling, or haunted by the specters of disturbing possibilities: a flight of stairs, a sharp hill, a quick run to make the bus, a note held too long in choir, all things that have kept me housebound for days to weeks. Theirs is what I had before: full of joys and worries (just as mine is) but without that constant central dread and weight and worrying and calculation that comes along with my illness. I don’t know whether to envy or hate them.
What I do know is that we exist together and apart. They don’t understand, and I don’t really want them to. They shouldn’t have to. I wouldn’t wish these dark experiences on them, as much as I wish that I didn’t feel so alone in all of it. Perhaps one day I’ll once again be able to blithely join a game of badminton without worrying about whether I have my rescue inhaler in my bag. Maybe I’ll even just be able to RSVP to a lecture without worrying whether I’ll be able to make it there without severe distress. I yearn for that future, which the doctor tells me is possible, but I yearn in tiny, quick jolts. Just an eighth of a second, then back to accepting the reality I’m in at the moment, knowing that it’s too painful to dwell on in case I don’t get better.
In reality, I regretted reading this out loud after writing it because I was worried I’d pushed the limits of what I can handle right now. And cried after getting an email from my prof for tomorrow’s class because she was so kind with her accommodations. This parallel, murky, dark world that makes me so damn appreciate of the people around me, even if they can’t understand.
edits: just some formatting
2023.03.30 04:58 halfreps Metro Tickets
Hey guys,
Basically just created a Reddit acc for this, but anyone here interested in tickets for the Metro shows? I had flights, hotel, cubs tickets etc. booked to fly in from Vancouver but my body had other plans and caught a nasty cold last minute so I had to cancel my plans.
I got a ticket for all 3 nights and would hate for them to go to waste. I don't have PayPal or anything so I was thinking of just giving them away in exchange for like donations to the SPCA or just your local animal shelter. Idk if that made sense lol, but message me if interested!
Edit** all 3 tickets pending
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Basically just created a Reddit acc for this, but anyone here interested in tickets for the Metro shows? I had flights, hotel, cubs tickets etc. booked to fly in from Vancouver but my body had other plans and caught a nasty cold last minute so I had to cancel my plans.
I got a ticket for all 3 nights and would hate for them to go to waste. I don't have PayPal or anything so I was thinking of just giving them away in exchange for like donations to the SPCA or just your local animal shelter. Idk if that made sense lol, but message me if interested!
Edit** all 3 tickets pending
2023.03.30 04:32 OverallCaregiver3659 Apple & Aviation
Can someone explain to me why Apple has the majority stake in aviation applications and software compatibility? Mainly why Foreflight is exclusive to IOS, but to a lesser extent why the same is true for apps like Flight Scheduler Pro which is used by flight schools across the country.
I'm a right-to-repair guy moving up the ranks towards the major airlines and abhor Apple as a company. However, I have been forced to make several concessions, since I HAVE to use apple products to perform my job functions. This includes a main iPad provided by my company and my own backup iPad and a separate work iPhone to access foreflight in case of necessity. I use my normal android and windows computer for every other aspect of my life outside of aviation (yeah, I could use an emulator, but its a hassle).
I get that Apple's operating system is more simplistic and streamlined for ease of use, but it amazes me how apple has gained a majority exclusive stake in such a massive enterprise like aviation and I don't understand how this has come to be. Apple probably wont go under in my lifetime, but what if ya know?
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I'm a right-to-repair guy moving up the ranks towards the major airlines and abhor Apple as a company. However, I have been forced to make several concessions, since I HAVE to use apple products to perform my job functions. This includes a main iPad provided by my company and my own backup iPad and a separate work iPhone to access foreflight in case of necessity. I use my normal android and windows computer for every other aspect of my life outside of aviation (yeah, I could use an emulator, but its a hassle).
I get that Apple's operating system is more simplistic and streamlined for ease of use, but it amazes me how apple has gained a majority exclusive stake in such a massive enterprise like aviation and I don't understand how this has come to be. Apple probably wont go under in my lifetime, but what if ya know?
2023.03.30 04:31 DailyHoroscopeIndia Todays Horoscope! (3rd of March, 2023)✨
♈️ Aries: Today is a day to focus on your personal life. Show your partner some extra love and appreciation with compliments. If you are single, you may receive a text from an old crush. Professionally, it's important to make a budget and not splurge on unnecessary items. Health-wise, it's time to start working out and get into shape. Traveling is also encouraged, so get a passport and explore the world. Luck-wise, you will experience some moderate luck today, but it's not the best time to spend money. Emotionally, be aware of anxiety and confusion that may lead to irrational behaviour. Avoid arguments and stay calm.
♉️ Taurus: Today is a day of emotional instability, but your partner will be there to help you through it. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ask them for a sensual massage and do something that will make you feel comfortable. If your job involves any kind of creativity, the Sun will be sending you lots of inspiration and energy. You may be feeling anxious or depressed, so if you have a therapist, make sure to go see them today. Traveling is also a great way to get to know yourself better. You will have lots of luck when it comes to your career or job and you may even receive some money. Today is all about healing, learning and growing, so accept these new life lessons and make something good out of it.
♊️ Gemini: Today is a day to take on new challenges and show your boss and co-workers what you are made of. You may be feeling a bit jealous of your partner, so it's important to talk to them and make sure everything is alright. Health wise, it's best to avoid fizzy drinks and coffee with milk, and switch to water and tea instead. If you are planning a journey, it's best to bring someone along or postpone the trip. Jupiter is radiating positive energy which will bring you good luck, but be aware of your emotions as you can be quite selfish from time to time.
♋️ Cancer: Today is a day of mixed emotions for you, Cancer. In your personal life, you may find yourself in an argument with your partner due to something they did that annoyed you. Professionally, you will receive some sound advice from a colleague with more experience than you. Health-wise, you should take preventative measures to boost your immune system as you may be prone to catching a fever. When it comes to travel, try to minimize it and consider carpooling instead of driving. Luck-wise, your friends and people around you will have great conversations together and you may experience some moderate luck. Emotionally, it may be hard for you to socialize as you want to be the center of attention but don't feel confident enough.
♌️ Leo: Today is a great day for your love life, Leo. If you are in a relationship, your partner will know how to calm you down if you feel a little down. Single signs will have a chance to flirt with a Gemini. Professionally, it will be easy for you to focus and concentrate on the work that needs to be done. Health wise, make sure to eat food high in protein to make your muscles stronger. If you are travelling to a distant location, be prepared for some stress, especially if your flight is longer than six hours. Jupiter will send you good vibes today, but it's not the best day to invest or buy vehicles or properties. Emotionally, you may feel a bit gloomy today, but something wonderful will happen to you!
♍️ Virgo: Your personal life may be feeling a bit strained as your partner is slowly losing interest in you. This could be because you have stopped doing the things that they used to love. Single signs may not feel like flirting. Professionally, you are unstoppable and your co-workers adore you. You may receive an email, text or call about your job or a new job opportunity. Health wise, Virgo signs are prone to fevers and it usually starts in the throat, meaning your body and immune system need more nutrients. If possible, go on a short trip with some friends or colleagues for business or pleasure. Luck wise, it's best to not spend large sums of money today as you won't feel the vibes that Jupiter is sending. Emotionally, you may get frustrated easily so it's best to do something productive to keep your mind occupied.
♎️ Libra: Today is a day for you to focus on your relationships. If you are in a relationship, take your partner out for a romantic date. If you are single, you may receive an interesting text message. Professionally, you may receive some important information about your boss or co-worker, so be sure to stay focused on your goals and not talk behind anyone's back. Health wise, it's time to start taking better care of yourself. Start small by drinking more water and less carbonated drinks. Make sure to check the date of when you need to renew your passport for any upcoming travels. Finally, Jupiter is on your side today, making it easier for you to control your finances. You may not feel like socializing today, but don't worry, it's perfectly normal.
♏️ Scorpio: Today is a day of mixed emotions for you, Scorpio. In your personal life, Pluto in Capricorn is making it difficult to connect with your partner. If you are single, you may find yourself taken soon. Professionally, you are working hard but it may not feel like enough. Persevere and success will come. Health-wise, be sure to drink plenty of water and avoid overindulging in alcohol. Traveling is a great way to relax, so consider taking a vacation soon. Unfortunately, luck won't be on your side today, but tomorrow will be better. Emotionally, you may feel a lot of tension and stress. A good workout or cry session can help you release this energy.
♐️ Sagittarius: Today is a day of mixed emotions. In your personal life, you may find yourself in a period of instability and bickering. However, communication can help to resolve any issues that arise. Professionally, you are doing well and may receive some unexpected money. Health wise, it is important to take time to relax and center yourself. Traveling by car is not recommended today. You will have luck with numbers and money, so keep an eye out for any opportunities. Finally, your emotions may be all over the place, but things will get better soon.
♑️ Capricorn: Single signs will be irresistible to water signs, so today is a great day to try something new with your partner. Venus is sending you excellent energy, making it easy for you to make money and get ahead. Get outdoors and enjoy the fresh air, as it will make you feel great. When it comes to investments, it's best to wait until another day. Lastly, follow your instinct and trust the power of your ruler planet to guide you in the right direction. You may find yourself reflecting on the past.
♒️ Aquarius: Today is a day of surprises and rekindling of love for single aquarius. Professionally, you may have to face some confrontation, but it is important to take care of any debts you owe. Health wise, you will be in the mood to make new friends while working out. Traveling isn’t really the thing that you want to do today, but if you are in a foreign country, try some authentic food. Luck is on your side today with the planet that governs luck sending you good vibes. Emotionally, you may feel a bit confused, but this is only temporary. It’s a good day to think about the future and future plans.
♓️ Pisces: Single signs will feel a little lonely, but things are getting better and your partner is feeling good today. Show them some appreciation and love. Financially, you will be doing okay, but you might have some car problems that require spending money. Your throat will be your weak spot today, so drink lots of tea and fix your sleeping schedule. Flying by plane is going to be a big adventure for you, but don't count on Jupiter for extra luck today. Make sure you're taking care of your mental health and stay away from sketchy Virgos.
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♉️ Taurus: Today is a day of emotional instability, but your partner will be there to help you through it. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ask them for a sensual massage and do something that will make you feel comfortable. If your job involves any kind of creativity, the Sun will be sending you lots of inspiration and energy. You may be feeling anxious or depressed, so if you have a therapist, make sure to go see them today. Traveling is also a great way to get to know yourself better. You will have lots of luck when it comes to your career or job and you may even receive some money. Today is all about healing, learning and growing, so accept these new life lessons and make something good out of it.
♊️ Gemini: Today is a day to take on new challenges and show your boss and co-workers what you are made of. You may be feeling a bit jealous of your partner, so it's important to talk to them and make sure everything is alright. Health wise, it's best to avoid fizzy drinks and coffee with milk, and switch to water and tea instead. If you are planning a journey, it's best to bring someone along or postpone the trip. Jupiter is radiating positive energy which will bring you good luck, but be aware of your emotions as you can be quite selfish from time to time.
♋️ Cancer: Today is a day of mixed emotions for you, Cancer. In your personal life, you may find yourself in an argument with your partner due to something they did that annoyed you. Professionally, you will receive some sound advice from a colleague with more experience than you. Health-wise, you should take preventative measures to boost your immune system as you may be prone to catching a fever. When it comes to travel, try to minimize it and consider carpooling instead of driving. Luck-wise, your friends and people around you will have great conversations together and you may experience some moderate luck. Emotionally, it may be hard for you to socialize as you want to be the center of attention but don't feel confident enough.
♌️ Leo: Today is a great day for your love life, Leo. If you are in a relationship, your partner will know how to calm you down if you feel a little down. Single signs will have a chance to flirt with a Gemini. Professionally, it will be easy for you to focus and concentrate on the work that needs to be done. Health wise, make sure to eat food high in protein to make your muscles stronger. If you are travelling to a distant location, be prepared for some stress, especially if your flight is longer than six hours. Jupiter will send you good vibes today, but it's not the best day to invest or buy vehicles or properties. Emotionally, you may feel a bit gloomy today, but something wonderful will happen to you!
♍️ Virgo: Your personal life may be feeling a bit strained as your partner is slowly losing interest in you. This could be because you have stopped doing the things that they used to love. Single signs may not feel like flirting. Professionally, you are unstoppable and your co-workers adore you. You may receive an email, text or call about your job or a new job opportunity. Health wise, Virgo signs are prone to fevers and it usually starts in the throat, meaning your body and immune system need more nutrients. If possible, go on a short trip with some friends or colleagues for business or pleasure. Luck wise, it's best to not spend large sums of money today as you won't feel the vibes that Jupiter is sending. Emotionally, you may get frustrated easily so it's best to do something productive to keep your mind occupied.
♎️ Libra: Today is a day for you to focus on your relationships. If you are in a relationship, take your partner out for a romantic date. If you are single, you may receive an interesting text message. Professionally, you may receive some important information about your boss or co-worker, so be sure to stay focused on your goals and not talk behind anyone's back. Health wise, it's time to start taking better care of yourself. Start small by drinking more water and less carbonated drinks. Make sure to check the date of when you need to renew your passport for any upcoming travels. Finally, Jupiter is on your side today, making it easier for you to control your finances. You may not feel like socializing today, but don't worry, it's perfectly normal.
♏️ Scorpio: Today is a day of mixed emotions for you, Scorpio. In your personal life, Pluto in Capricorn is making it difficult to connect with your partner. If you are single, you may find yourself taken soon. Professionally, you are working hard but it may not feel like enough. Persevere and success will come. Health-wise, be sure to drink plenty of water and avoid overindulging in alcohol. Traveling is a great way to relax, so consider taking a vacation soon. Unfortunately, luck won't be on your side today, but tomorrow will be better. Emotionally, you may feel a lot of tension and stress. A good workout or cry session can help you release this energy.
♐️ Sagittarius: Today is a day of mixed emotions. In your personal life, you may find yourself in a period of instability and bickering. However, communication can help to resolve any issues that arise. Professionally, you are doing well and may receive some unexpected money. Health wise, it is important to take time to relax and center yourself. Traveling by car is not recommended today. You will have luck with numbers and money, so keep an eye out for any opportunities. Finally, your emotions may be all over the place, but things will get better soon.
♑️ Capricorn: Single signs will be irresistible to water signs, so today is a great day to try something new with your partner. Venus is sending you excellent energy, making it easy for you to make money and get ahead. Get outdoors and enjoy the fresh air, as it will make you feel great. When it comes to investments, it's best to wait until another day. Lastly, follow your instinct and trust the power of your ruler planet to guide you in the right direction. You may find yourself reflecting on the past.
♒️ Aquarius: Today is a day of surprises and rekindling of love for single aquarius. Professionally, you may have to face some confrontation, but it is important to take care of any debts you owe. Health wise, you will be in the mood to make new friends while working out. Traveling isn’t really the thing that you want to do today, but if you are in a foreign country, try some authentic food. Luck is on your side today with the planet that governs luck sending you good vibes. Emotionally, you may feel a bit confused, but this is only temporary. It’s a good day to think about the future and future plans.
♓️ Pisces: Single signs will feel a little lonely, but things are getting better and your partner is feeling good today. Show them some appreciation and love. Financially, you will be doing okay, but you might have some car problems that require spending money. Your throat will be your weak spot today, so drink lots of tea and fix your sleeping schedule. Flying by plane is going to be a big adventure for you, but don't count on Jupiter for extra luck today. Make sure you're taking care of your mental health and stay away from sketchy Virgos.
2023.03.30 04:07 donpayaters Ideal Law School for Working People
Hi! I am thinking of going to law school after MBA next year. Magtatanong lang sana if may ideal law school kayo for those who are working in Metro Manila or online. Yung medyo friendly sana ang schedule sa mga may day job. Baka pwedeng masagot itong mga tanong ko:
Institution: Location: Admission/Entrance Exam: Class Schedule: Tuition Fee/Sem: Known for: Bar passing rate(?):
Maraming salamat in advance sa mga sasagot.
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Institution: Location: Admission/Entrance Exam: Class Schedule: Tuition Fee/Sem: Known for: Bar passing rate(?):
Maraming salamat in advance sa mga sasagot.
2023.03.30 03:49 ThrowRAnkgfb I’m afraid my (35F) boyfriend (39M) is thinking of ending things
Me (35F) and boyfriend has been travelling for over a year, spending almost all our time together.
The other day we were on the road and there was a flight we were to take and he asked me what day to take that flight and what to do the next day. I mentioned a day and didn’t say so much more about our schedule for the next days before the flight.
I mentioned I slept really poorly the night before, so wasn’t too much in the mood to make plans. There are several flights to the new destination, so it wasn’t critical. Also, the stayed at the place of someone in his family for the duration before the flight, which meant I wasn’t sure what the other guy wanted to do etc. They hadn’t seen each other in ages.
He completely snapped at me “I don’t know how to say this, but we need to get better at planning. You don’t make plans and schedule things. I feel like I’m a tour guide and you’re just here for the ride. I don’t want someone like that in my life, like (name of his cousin), I would not want to spend my life with someone like that. (His cousin is so whimsical and unstructured etc).”
I was really hurt by it, I do a lot of suggestions etc for restaurants, places to go etc. He is admittantly better at panning than me though. But sometimes he even gets angry when I come with suggestions and he doesn’t want to do it. I mean, he could just say no, but instead he gets angry.
He snaps easily, also at other people in his life. I told him I’ll try to get better at it, and also that when he gets angry when I come with suggestions, it makes me nervous. Also that I think it’s harder to do big planning when we meet people he knows I’ve never met before. I’m afraid he is thinking of breaking up.
2 months ago he said he is happy with me (when I asked), he even said that he could see himself having a child with me. And this issue isn’t new, but now he exploded. I’m not sure how to take it other than trying to work on improving it. I’m completely depended on him now for money etc, as I don’t have an income.
Tl:dr Boyfriend snapped at me and got really mad and it made me wonder if he wants to break up due to the way he said it
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The other day we were on the road and there was a flight we were to take and he asked me what day to take that flight and what to do the next day. I mentioned a day and didn’t say so much more about our schedule for the next days before the flight.
I mentioned I slept really poorly the night before, so wasn’t too much in the mood to make plans. There are several flights to the new destination, so it wasn’t critical. Also, the stayed at the place of someone in his family for the duration before the flight, which meant I wasn’t sure what the other guy wanted to do etc. They hadn’t seen each other in ages.
He completely snapped at me “I don’t know how to say this, but we need to get better at planning. You don’t make plans and schedule things. I feel like I’m a tour guide and you’re just here for the ride. I don’t want someone like that in my life, like (name of his cousin), I would not want to spend my life with someone like that. (His cousin is so whimsical and unstructured etc).”
I was really hurt by it, I do a lot of suggestions etc for restaurants, places to go etc. He is admittantly better at panning than me though. But sometimes he even gets angry when I come with suggestions and he doesn’t want to do it. I mean, he could just say no, but instead he gets angry.
He snaps easily, also at other people in his life. I told him I’ll try to get better at it, and also that when he gets angry when I come with suggestions, it makes me nervous. Also that I think it’s harder to do big planning when we meet people he knows I’ve never met before. I’m afraid he is thinking of breaking up.
2 months ago he said he is happy with me (when I asked), he even said that he could see himself having a child with me. And this issue isn’t new, but now he exploded. I’m not sure how to take it other than trying to work on improving it. I’m completely depended on him now for money etc, as I don’t have an income.
Tl:dr Boyfriend snapped at me and got really mad and it made me wonder if he wants to break up due to the way he said it
2023.03.30 03:35 ThrowRAnkgfb I’m afraid my (35F) boyfriend (39M) is thinking of ending things
Me (35F) and boyfriend has been travelling for over a year, spending almost all our time together.
The other day we were on the road and there was a flight we were to take and he asked me what day to take that flight and what to do the next day. I mentioned a day and didn’t say so much more about our schedule for the next days before the flight.
I mentioned I slept really poorly the night before, so wasn’t too much in the mood to make plans. There are several flights to the new destination, so it wasn’t critical. Also, the stayed at the place of someone in his family for the duration before the flight, which meant I wasn’t sure what the other guy wanted to do etc. They hadn’t seen each other in ages.
He completely snapped at me “I don’t know how to say this, but we need to get better at planning. You don’t make plans and schedule things. I feel like I’m a tour guide and you’re just here for the ride. I don’t want someone like that in my life, like (name of his cousin), I would not want to spend my life with someone like that. (His cousin is so whimsical and unstructured etc).”
I was really hurt by it, I do a lot of suggestions etc for restaurants, places to go etc. He is admittantly better at panning than me though. But sometimes he even gets angry when I come with suggestions and he doesn’t want to do it. I mean, he could just say no, but instead he gets angry.
He snaps easily, also at other people in his life. I told him I’ll try to get better at it, and also that when he gets angry when I come with suggestions, it makes me nervous. Also that I think it’s harder to do big planning when we meet people he knows I’ve never met before. I’m afraid he is thinking of breaking up.
2 months ago he said he is happy with me (when I asked), he even said that he could see himself having a child with me. And this issue isn’t new, but now he exploded. I’m not sure how to take it other than trying to work on improving it. I’m completely depended on him now for money etc, as I don’t have an income.
Tl:dr Boyfriend snapped at me and got really mad and it made me wonder if he wants to break up due to the way he said it
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The other day we were on the road and there was a flight we were to take and he asked me what day to take that flight and what to do the next day. I mentioned a day and didn’t say so much more about our schedule for the next days before the flight.
I mentioned I slept really poorly the night before, so wasn’t too much in the mood to make plans. There are several flights to the new destination, so it wasn’t critical. Also, the stayed at the place of someone in his family for the duration before the flight, which meant I wasn’t sure what the other guy wanted to do etc. They hadn’t seen each other in ages.
He completely snapped at me “I don’t know how to say this, but we need to get better at planning. You don’t make plans and schedule things. I feel like I’m a tour guide and you’re just here for the ride. I don’t want someone like that in my life, like (name of his cousin), I would not want to spend my life with someone like that. (His cousin is so whimsical and unstructured etc).”
I was really hurt by it, I do a lot of suggestions etc for restaurants, places to go etc. He is admittantly better at panning than me though. But sometimes he even gets angry when I come with suggestions and he doesn’t want to do it. I mean, he could just say no, but instead he gets angry.
He snaps easily, also at other people in his life. I told him I’ll try to get better at it, and also that when he gets angry when I come with suggestions, it makes me nervous. Also that I think it’s harder to do big planning when we meet people he knows I’ve never met before. I’m afraid he is thinking of breaking up.
2 months ago he said he is happy with me (when I asked), he even said that he could see himself having a child with me. And this issue isn’t new, but now he exploded. I’m not sure how to take it other than trying to work on improving it. I’m completely depended on him now for money etc, as I don’t have an income.
Tl:dr Boyfriend snapped at me and got really mad and it made me wonder if he wants to break up due to the way he said it
2023.03.30 03:02 KasparHauser1990 Should I go back to my old company? (Please help me decide with suggestions)
Background: I have a Bachelor's and Master's degree in Human Resources but I never worked in that field. I worked 6 months (after completing Bachelor's) for a bank in a South-East Asian country and about a year managerial experience in a manufacturing firm in South Asia (home). I moved to Canada to pursue my Master's - took a part-time job at Walmart, which later got promoted to be a full-time department manager (6 months after completion of my Master's). I ended up doing that job for 2.5 years (in total, about 4 years). I didn't move cause I already lost 6 months out of my 3 years work-permit period and even if I get a HR job, it would take a considerable amount of time to be in a supervisor level - so in short, back then the choice were between Walmart's supervisor position and a technical support (call center) job for ease/faster Permanent Residency. I quit the job once I became a permanent resident and moved to Toronto. After a month I happened to get a job at a Bank's call-center - thought of keep doing it (was hoping to get an afternoon shift) until I get a real job but ended up with a schedule (8 to 4:30 plus commute time) so terrible (as well as, call-center was not my cup of tea) that I was forced to quit. I have been unemployed for 4 months now. I was really close to be an Assistant Manager at Walmart but the reasons I quit:
Question:
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- I hated the politics, money (16.50$ in 4 years), exploitation and the schedule - anyone worked at Walmart would know what I am talking about
- Not exactly a future plan: Honestly, I came to Canada thinking/dreaming will land in a desk-job (may it be an entry level but would not be customer facing and probably in my field) and at Walmart it would have been possible (going to the home-office) but it was never certain and would take a lot of favouritism and, of course, time.
- City: I always lived in a big city, loved the hustle-bustle of the metropolitan cities. I lived in Manila, Hanoi, Dhaka (and for brief period of 3 months, New York) - Toronto isn't that busy but at least this is close to something I am used to live in. I was so frustrated with the city I was living at, not too many choices, same people, there would literally be nothing open after 9:30 pm and hardly will see people out at night.
- Thought I had enough money to survive (which wasn't - came with 25k and now down to 8k) and was under the impression would get a job right away in few month
Question:
- Should I go back to the old city to my old job?- The store manager has changed but I know her (I have good relationship with pretty much all the store managers in that market) and if there is a vacancy in the managerial position, she would take me in but if not, then I would at least end up in an associate position. I probably will end up earning a little over 2k/month but it is at least something better than nothing. Will have to start from scratch and might have to end up there in retail.
- Should I keep lying in my resume? Or is it NOT advisable to lie in a experience/skill based job like HR or I will easily get caught?
2023.03.30 02:23 Top_Letter9135 My INSANE college roommate
Throwaway account just to be safe.
I, 18F, live in a dorm with another girl we’ll call J, also 18F, and our living situation has become downright toxic. Me and J were not random roommates, but we didn't exactly know each other either when we moved in together. We met each other through our school’s roommate match portal and talked a bit over the summer before moving in. When classes first started, we were instant best friends, I truly felt like she got me on every level and we were inseparable. There were always a few things that bugged me, but, as we had just met, I assumed a lot of these things were just one off situations.
For example, she would OBSESS over her summer fling constantly, well call her summer fling L. J and L had an extremely toxic situationship, which resulted in all of her friends dropping her towards the end of summer. J and L stopped talking around a week after moving in, as he still lived in her hometown and did not think long distance would work. Nevertheless, she would still talk about him constantly but, it was her first relationship type thing so, I tried to be understanding. I was pretty understanding until the weekend before Thanksgiving break, when she messaged him and they began talking again. J of course hung out with him over Thanksgiving break, and continued talking to him in the weeks in between Thanksgiving and Christmas break. This is when my sympathy quickly started to run out. I had comforted her over him so so so many times and I knew going back to him would inevitably end in heartbreak again, which it did, and I was emotionally drained from the situation. Due to my frustration, I stopped consoling her about L, my sympathy ran out and I just started being brutally honest. This honesty did not work out at all, I was being “mean” or a “bad friend.” So, I started being dry when she would bring up L, I would just reply “ok” to alot of things which also did not go over well. She would say things like “I am done with him for real this time” to which I would simply reply “ok” or “that’s good,” as opposed to my previous peppy replies such as, “omg so proud, you can do it.” She would immediately follow my “ok” with “I feel like you don't believe me,” which deep down I DIDN'T. After the amount of times she went back, I did not believe her at all so, what was I supposed to do? This is when I realized, if I was not saying exactly what she wanted to hear and comforting her constantly.
Also during this time, J would exhibit a lot of unhealthy behaviors with alcohol which really bugged me, as once again, I would have to take care of her. She would drink on random school nights in the dorm, which made it very distracting to do work. On one occasion, she got extremely drunk on Tuesday, while I was trying to write an essay. I literally had to take the alcohol away from her and hide it, which she found and drank more of while I was trying to do work. She ended up getting so drunk that night, she physically could not walk 5 feet down the hall to our communal bathrooms without sunglasses and me holding her up. On top of drinking on random school nights, almost every time me and her would go out together, the night would end with me having to leave early with her as she would get kicked out for throwing up or just be too drunk to stay. It was extremely exhausting emotionally and physically to constantly have to take care of her like this. One time, she was so worked up crying and throwing up, I called my parents at 3am crying because I was so overwhelmed and scared. Her excessive drinking was nearly impossible to make boundaries with because no matter how upset I am, I would never leave a girl in that state alone at a bar. It is extremely dangerous and no matter how annoying it was, she did not deserve something bad to happen to her at the bar. I think she knew that I wouldn't leave her for these reasons, and really took advantage of the situation.
All of this happened in the first semester, when we were still on best friend terms. Excused a lot of this by thinking she must be going through something. I also was going through some personal stuff in the first semester that definitely made me do some things I was not proud of. She was also an amazing friend in so many other ways I tried to ignore it but mental exhaustion is a real thing. It was not until second semester, I started to realize, all of these things were not one off situations, it was just who she is as a person.
So the second semester begins and so does the same old behavior. She is still crying and complaining about L on the daily and excessively drinking when we go out. All of this is starting to really get to me at this point as I just cannot stand to hear about it anymore. I keep trying to ignore it but, I just cannot. However, things didn't go to complete shit until Mardi Gras.
I am from NOLA so she was planning on staying with me during Mardi Gras. Having experienced Mardi Gras several times, I can say Mardi Gras is one of the most fun and exhausting weekends ever. Most people get to the parade routes at 10-11am, watch parades until 8-9pm, and then go to the bars until 3am. Mardi Gras is also extremely dangerous, especially for drunk teenage girls. So knowing about all of this and J’s excessive drinking habits, I start to get quite worried. I knew if she got drunk to the point of not being able to walk, as she has done several times before, it would be extremely unsafe and stressful for both of us. So, in the weeks leading up to Mardi Gras I stress over and over, “It is a marathon, not a sprint,” (this will come back up later). I even got my parents to emphasize the severity of the situations to her in hopes it would get through better. Whenever we would have these conversations about her drinking she would get extremely annoyed.
So, Mardi Gras finally rolls around and the first day everything is great. It is not until the second day that shit hits the fan. We were going to a night parade with another of my friends and my parents, then planning to meet up with my bf and his friends to go to a bar. Before we have even left for the parade, I catch her taking her third jello shot and tell her to slow down, which irritates her. Things at the parade are fine, besides the weather being miserable. So, we go back to my house after and meet up with my bf and his friends to go to the bar. I decided that I am really tired and the weather has killed my vibe, so I am going to skip out on the bar but everyone else is welcome to go. J and my other friend, we'll call her S, were decently close, and both J and S knew my bf and his friends pretty well so, it is not like I was leaving J surrounded by people she did not know. I also knew if anything happened my bf and his friends would make sure both J and S got back safely. Anyways, after I announce that I am going to skip out J makes a passive aggressive comment stating “You said this was a marathon, not a sprint, and here you are giving up after you lectured so many times.” At this point I absolutely snapped. I will admit I was definitely being a bitch in this instance. I replied to her in front of everyone “me staying home because I am tired is not at all the same as you blacking out, not being able to walk, throwing up, and making me leave early to take care of you. I am preventing no one from having a good night like you always do.” After this, everyone was in shock, even my parents told me how rude I was, as no one else has had to deal with her drinking in the way I have.
So, I go to bed that night irritated at everyone and wake up to a million texts and videos from my bf. That night I went out and did exactly what I said, after insisting she wouldn’t and that I was being a bitch. She ended up throwing up all over my bf’s friend outside the bar, almost getting them all screwed out of an Uber, as the driver did not want her puking in the car, throwing up in my front lawn, and having to be physically carried up the stairs of my house by everyone. After this, I felt like she had proved my point to me and there was no sense rubbing it in, so I started getting ready for the day. While I was getting ready, my mom came upstairs to tell me J was sitting at my kitchen counter downstairs balling her eyes out, and although I was not going to rub it in, I was certainly not going to comfort her like I always did. I told my mom all this and continued getting dressed. Maybe 30 min later, my mom came upstairs to tell me again that J was still crying and had booked a last minute flight to GO HOME. So, at this point I realize I have to figure out what happened. When I ask J what happened she tells me everything and starts going on and on about how she feels like everyone hates her. This is also a recurring trend for her, playing the victim. I tell her no one hates her, we just hate when she acts that way and she does not have to go home. She ends up leaving to go home anyways and still to this day has never apologized to anyone. Not a thank you or I’m sorry to me for her attitude, to S for having to take care of her, for my bf’s friend for throwing up on him, my bf for getting her in the Uber, my parents for throwing up all over our front lawn, or everyone that helped carry her up a flight of stairs.
After Mardi Gras, I was really really starting to get fed up, especially with her victim complex. Not only was she acting a fool, she also refused to apologize. I try to act normally with her even though at this point I am increasingly frustrated. Shortly after Mardi Gras we have a sorority date party, and this is where I really snapped.
So, J was a spring recruit to our sorority so, at the time of this party she was fairly new, which just makes it all worse. My bf had a sports tournament and was unable to attend the party so, neither I nor J had dates, which was fine. Once we get to this party, J and I meet up with one of her friends, we’ll call D, and her date, we’ll call K. The date party was fine, we were all mingling, but I wasn't super into it. I didn't really want to go, to begin with, but I paid a lot of money to be in a sorority so I went. Thankfully, date parties are not that long, the event ended at 10 and J, K, D, and I all went back to my dorm room. From there J, K, and D all decide they want to go out to other bars, and I decide to stay in. Everything is fine until I get a text at midnight from J saying that D is mad at her. I ask why, to which J replies that she WAS FLIRTING WITH D’S DATE. YES, she flirted with another girl at a date party. This is when any remaining sympathy I had for J, flew out of the window. I could not believe she had the audacity to flirt with another girl’s date, and then complain to me that that girl no longer likes her. In the end, D forgave her but, for days until she apologized I had to listen to J whine and complain about the potential of D not liking her or talking poorly of her. I understand I cannot be upset on D’s behalf, as D forgave her, but I was upset that I had to listen to her play the victim once again. And I can be upset that flirting with a boy is worth the risk of losing a friend and starting drama in the sorority.
This is when things got really bad between me and J. After everything, I just could not look at her the same and I could not stand to hear her talk about situations she put herself in. At this point we nearly stopped talking completely. We would talk and joke sometimes like everything was normal but, I’d be quickly taken back to reality when she’d shift the conversation to her boy drama.
The final straw for me was when my friend S came up to visit us last weekend. From the second S arrived, J was being extremely passive-aggressive. Within an hour, I was telling S a funny story about a girl in our hall and the outlandish group message she sent. J interrupted to say “that is not at all what the message said, you’re making it up, you always over-exaggerate.” Keep in mind, at the time me and J had laughed about the message together, we both knew exactly what it said, and I knew I was right, so, I pulled up the message and read it aloud. Sure enough, it said VERBATIM what I was saying, to which J aggressively replied “I didn't even read it all the way,” which I know is a complete lie. Later in the day, S and I were reminiscing about someone we went to highschool with and I said “omg she always had such a victim complex, she was never in the wrong,” to which J interjected “funny for you to say with your victim complex.” Now this, THIS, set me off like nothing else. J has said I have a victim complex before but, as I think I’ve demonstrated she HAS ONE it is all projection. So when she said this I lost it. I said, “What makes you think I have a victim complex, because I think it's all projection, you have the biggest victim complex of anyone I’ve ever met.” She replied “We’ve already talked about this, the whole scheduling incident.”
For context, the scheduling incident she is referring to, and her ENTIRE BASIS for my victim complex, has to do with spring scheduling. Basically, I was considering changing my major at this time so, I asked my advisor, WHOSE ENTIRE JOB IS TO ADVISE ON SCHEDULES, what classes I should take to help me decide. This advisor recommended I take a class I was not eligible for. I did not find out I was not eligible to take the class until an hour before scheduling opened. I literally had to redo my entire schedule an hour before. Understandably, I was livid about this whole situation and complained about it a good bit. However, HOW AM I NOT THE VICTIM OF THAT SITUATION. HOW IS MY FRUSTRATION NOT VALID??? HOW IS THAT A VICTIM COMPLEX???
S quickly redirected the conversation at that point but, if S wasn’t there I think I would’ve gone off about ALL of this completely. This was the point I realized I cannot live with her again next year. I kept hoping things would get better and we’d have our own rooms so I could avoid her, but this was the end for me. After everythinggggg, she was trying to make me look bad in front of my friend?
As of today she approached me and said “we need to talk.” I asked about what and she said clearly something is wrong. I asked what she thought was wrong and she replied with straight out lies. She said that I completely ignore her everytime she talks and never reply to her texts. To which I pointed out, that is simply not true. Yes I have been distant and yes I am dry with her but, I never straight out ignore her. Unless I have my airpods in and music blaring and can PHYSICALLY NOT HEAR, I have never once refused to address her. And as far as ignoring her, if she ever wanted to talk about many of the things we have in common such as sorority, classes, music, whatever, I was always MORE than open to a conversation, however, she only wanted to bring up the same topics I told her I did not want to talk about anymore, such as boys.
She went on to say she asked me what was wrong before spring break and I said she expects reassurance beyond a reasonable level. NOW THIS IS WHEN I KNEW SHE'S INSANE. THIS SITUATION POINT BLANK NEVER HAPPENED. She never asked me what was wrong between us before spring break, like simply DID NOT HAPPEN. The comment of me saying she expects too much reassurance, COMPLETELY TAKEN OUT OF CONTEXT.
What really happened was that she was reading the book “Attached,” which is all about the anxious attachment style, which she has, and learning to fix those behaviors. One day she said, “you know if anything this book has taught me, I am not the problem. If everyone would just give me reassurance, I would be so much more secure.” To which I replied “WTF are you talking about? It is healthy to expect reassurance to a reasonable level. You cannot expect this because you've been talking to for two weeks to update you on his location and activity every thirty minutes. You can not expect him to drop all his homework on a weekday to see you constantly. You cannot start every “confrontation” with me by saying "do you hate me?" You can’t ask me if we are still friends every fucking day. You cannot expect people to bend around you, and reassure you all day, everyday.” I know, it was kind of harsh but, IT IS THE TRUTH. I was not going to sit there and feed her delusions but, if I said nothing at all, I would be ignoring her, so I lost it. And frankly it is exhausting to have to reassure someone EVERYDAY, I am sick of it.
Back to the current confrontation, she was literally taking an event THAT NEVER HAPPENED, her asking me what was wrong, and mixed it with this completely unrelated story to make me look like a cunt. That is literally insane. I called her on it immediately to which she had no reply. The second I call her out she immediately shuts down. She then brought up the weekend of S visiting and how she was mad that I had been on shit terms with her and great terms with S. I included her in all the plans with S however, I was not going to waste my weekend with S coddling her. And after she started being a bitch within an hour of S’s arrival, I decided to focus on S. I straight up told her all of this and how it was so fucking transparent what she was doing trying to make me look bad while S was here. She claims she was not trying to make me look bad, that it wasn't her intention, BUT WHAT OTHER INTENTION COULD YOU HAVE??? She had no reply to that question. After that she said she's living in the sorority house, her parents are canceling our apartment lease, and I can live wherever else and stormed out.
I’ve been looking at other apartments, so I do not care at all. I am thankful for anything. Since she has such a tendency to cry and play the victim, the only thing holding my back was figuring out how to tell her I did not want to live with her. I wish I could confront all of this but I know it will not change ANYTHING. Now, I am just mad and worried about her spreading lies about me to the sorority. The way she tried to gaslight me today, literally made up an entire fake scenario, honestly scared me, because I’ve never seen her be that delusional. If she’s willing to straight up lie to MY FACE when I know the truth I can only imagine what she’ll say to others. People have told me, “but, don’t you think other people will see through her lies?” Honestly, NO. She’s insane. I was her BEST FRIEND and it took me this long to realize. Yea, maybe in a couple of MONTHS people will realize, but, not soon enough.
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I, 18F, live in a dorm with another girl we’ll call J, also 18F, and our living situation has become downright toxic. Me and J were not random roommates, but we didn't exactly know each other either when we moved in together. We met each other through our school’s roommate match portal and talked a bit over the summer before moving in. When classes first started, we were instant best friends, I truly felt like she got me on every level and we were inseparable. There were always a few things that bugged me, but, as we had just met, I assumed a lot of these things were just one off situations.
For example, she would OBSESS over her summer fling constantly, well call her summer fling L. J and L had an extremely toxic situationship, which resulted in all of her friends dropping her towards the end of summer. J and L stopped talking around a week after moving in, as he still lived in her hometown and did not think long distance would work. Nevertheless, she would still talk about him constantly but, it was her first relationship type thing so, I tried to be understanding. I was pretty understanding until the weekend before Thanksgiving break, when she messaged him and they began talking again. J of course hung out with him over Thanksgiving break, and continued talking to him in the weeks in between Thanksgiving and Christmas break. This is when my sympathy quickly started to run out. I had comforted her over him so so so many times and I knew going back to him would inevitably end in heartbreak again, which it did, and I was emotionally drained from the situation. Due to my frustration, I stopped consoling her about L, my sympathy ran out and I just started being brutally honest. This honesty did not work out at all, I was being “mean” or a “bad friend.” So, I started being dry when she would bring up L, I would just reply “ok” to alot of things which also did not go over well. She would say things like “I am done with him for real this time” to which I would simply reply “ok” or “that’s good,” as opposed to my previous peppy replies such as, “omg so proud, you can do it.” She would immediately follow my “ok” with “I feel like you don't believe me,” which deep down I DIDN'T. After the amount of times she went back, I did not believe her at all so, what was I supposed to do? This is when I realized, if I was not saying exactly what she wanted to hear and comforting her constantly.
Also during this time, J would exhibit a lot of unhealthy behaviors with alcohol which really bugged me, as once again, I would have to take care of her. She would drink on random school nights in the dorm, which made it very distracting to do work. On one occasion, she got extremely drunk on Tuesday, while I was trying to write an essay. I literally had to take the alcohol away from her and hide it, which she found and drank more of while I was trying to do work. She ended up getting so drunk that night, she physically could not walk 5 feet down the hall to our communal bathrooms without sunglasses and me holding her up. On top of drinking on random school nights, almost every time me and her would go out together, the night would end with me having to leave early with her as she would get kicked out for throwing up or just be too drunk to stay. It was extremely exhausting emotionally and physically to constantly have to take care of her like this. One time, she was so worked up crying and throwing up, I called my parents at 3am crying because I was so overwhelmed and scared. Her excessive drinking was nearly impossible to make boundaries with because no matter how upset I am, I would never leave a girl in that state alone at a bar. It is extremely dangerous and no matter how annoying it was, she did not deserve something bad to happen to her at the bar. I think she knew that I wouldn't leave her for these reasons, and really took advantage of the situation.
All of this happened in the first semester, when we were still on best friend terms. Excused a lot of this by thinking she must be going through something. I also was going through some personal stuff in the first semester that definitely made me do some things I was not proud of. She was also an amazing friend in so many other ways I tried to ignore it but mental exhaustion is a real thing. It was not until second semester, I started to realize, all of these things were not one off situations, it was just who she is as a person.
So the second semester begins and so does the same old behavior. She is still crying and complaining about L on the daily and excessively drinking when we go out. All of this is starting to really get to me at this point as I just cannot stand to hear about it anymore. I keep trying to ignore it but, I just cannot. However, things didn't go to complete shit until Mardi Gras.
I am from NOLA so she was planning on staying with me during Mardi Gras. Having experienced Mardi Gras several times, I can say Mardi Gras is one of the most fun and exhausting weekends ever. Most people get to the parade routes at 10-11am, watch parades until 8-9pm, and then go to the bars until 3am. Mardi Gras is also extremely dangerous, especially for drunk teenage girls. So knowing about all of this and J’s excessive drinking habits, I start to get quite worried. I knew if she got drunk to the point of not being able to walk, as she has done several times before, it would be extremely unsafe and stressful for both of us. So, in the weeks leading up to Mardi Gras I stress over and over, “It is a marathon, not a sprint,” (this will come back up later). I even got my parents to emphasize the severity of the situations to her in hopes it would get through better. Whenever we would have these conversations about her drinking she would get extremely annoyed.
So, Mardi Gras finally rolls around and the first day everything is great. It is not until the second day that shit hits the fan. We were going to a night parade with another of my friends and my parents, then planning to meet up with my bf and his friends to go to a bar. Before we have even left for the parade, I catch her taking her third jello shot and tell her to slow down, which irritates her. Things at the parade are fine, besides the weather being miserable. So, we go back to my house after and meet up with my bf and his friends to go to the bar. I decided that I am really tired and the weather has killed my vibe, so I am going to skip out on the bar but everyone else is welcome to go. J and my other friend, we'll call her S, were decently close, and both J and S knew my bf and his friends pretty well so, it is not like I was leaving J surrounded by people she did not know. I also knew if anything happened my bf and his friends would make sure both J and S got back safely. Anyways, after I announce that I am going to skip out J makes a passive aggressive comment stating “You said this was a marathon, not a sprint, and here you are giving up after you lectured so many times.” At this point I absolutely snapped. I will admit I was definitely being a bitch in this instance. I replied to her in front of everyone “me staying home because I am tired is not at all the same as you blacking out, not being able to walk, throwing up, and making me leave early to take care of you. I am preventing no one from having a good night like you always do.” After this, everyone was in shock, even my parents told me how rude I was, as no one else has had to deal with her drinking in the way I have.
So, I go to bed that night irritated at everyone and wake up to a million texts and videos from my bf. That night I went out and did exactly what I said, after insisting she wouldn’t and that I was being a bitch. She ended up throwing up all over my bf’s friend outside the bar, almost getting them all screwed out of an Uber, as the driver did not want her puking in the car, throwing up in my front lawn, and having to be physically carried up the stairs of my house by everyone. After this, I felt like she had proved my point to me and there was no sense rubbing it in, so I started getting ready for the day. While I was getting ready, my mom came upstairs to tell me J was sitting at my kitchen counter downstairs balling her eyes out, and although I was not going to rub it in, I was certainly not going to comfort her like I always did. I told my mom all this and continued getting dressed. Maybe 30 min later, my mom came upstairs to tell me again that J was still crying and had booked a last minute flight to GO HOME. So, at this point I realize I have to figure out what happened. When I ask J what happened she tells me everything and starts going on and on about how she feels like everyone hates her. This is also a recurring trend for her, playing the victim. I tell her no one hates her, we just hate when she acts that way and she does not have to go home. She ends up leaving to go home anyways and still to this day has never apologized to anyone. Not a thank you or I’m sorry to me for her attitude, to S for having to take care of her, for my bf’s friend for throwing up on him, my bf for getting her in the Uber, my parents for throwing up all over our front lawn, or everyone that helped carry her up a flight of stairs.
After Mardi Gras, I was really really starting to get fed up, especially with her victim complex. Not only was she acting a fool, she also refused to apologize. I try to act normally with her even though at this point I am increasingly frustrated. Shortly after Mardi Gras we have a sorority date party, and this is where I really snapped.
So, J was a spring recruit to our sorority so, at the time of this party she was fairly new, which just makes it all worse. My bf had a sports tournament and was unable to attend the party so, neither I nor J had dates, which was fine. Once we get to this party, J and I meet up with one of her friends, we’ll call D, and her date, we’ll call K. The date party was fine, we were all mingling, but I wasn't super into it. I didn't really want to go, to begin with, but I paid a lot of money to be in a sorority so I went. Thankfully, date parties are not that long, the event ended at 10 and J, K, D, and I all went back to my dorm room. From there J, K, and D all decide they want to go out to other bars, and I decide to stay in. Everything is fine until I get a text at midnight from J saying that D is mad at her. I ask why, to which J replies that she WAS FLIRTING WITH D’S DATE. YES, she flirted with another girl at a date party. This is when any remaining sympathy I had for J, flew out of the window. I could not believe she had the audacity to flirt with another girl’s date, and then complain to me that that girl no longer likes her. In the end, D forgave her but, for days until she apologized I had to listen to J whine and complain about the potential of D not liking her or talking poorly of her. I understand I cannot be upset on D’s behalf, as D forgave her, but I was upset that I had to listen to her play the victim once again. And I can be upset that flirting with a boy is worth the risk of losing a friend and starting drama in the sorority.
This is when things got really bad between me and J. After everything, I just could not look at her the same and I could not stand to hear her talk about situations she put herself in. At this point we nearly stopped talking completely. We would talk and joke sometimes like everything was normal but, I’d be quickly taken back to reality when she’d shift the conversation to her boy drama.
The final straw for me was when my friend S came up to visit us last weekend. From the second S arrived, J was being extremely passive-aggressive. Within an hour, I was telling S a funny story about a girl in our hall and the outlandish group message she sent. J interrupted to say “that is not at all what the message said, you’re making it up, you always over-exaggerate.” Keep in mind, at the time me and J had laughed about the message together, we both knew exactly what it said, and I knew I was right, so, I pulled up the message and read it aloud. Sure enough, it said VERBATIM what I was saying, to which J aggressively replied “I didn't even read it all the way,” which I know is a complete lie. Later in the day, S and I were reminiscing about someone we went to highschool with and I said “omg she always had such a victim complex, she was never in the wrong,” to which J interjected “funny for you to say with your victim complex.” Now this, THIS, set me off like nothing else. J has said I have a victim complex before but, as I think I’ve demonstrated she HAS ONE it is all projection. So when she said this I lost it. I said, “What makes you think I have a victim complex, because I think it's all projection, you have the biggest victim complex of anyone I’ve ever met.” She replied “We’ve already talked about this, the whole scheduling incident.”
For context, the scheduling incident she is referring to, and her ENTIRE BASIS for my victim complex, has to do with spring scheduling. Basically, I was considering changing my major at this time so, I asked my advisor, WHOSE ENTIRE JOB IS TO ADVISE ON SCHEDULES, what classes I should take to help me decide. This advisor recommended I take a class I was not eligible for. I did not find out I was not eligible to take the class until an hour before scheduling opened. I literally had to redo my entire schedule an hour before. Understandably, I was livid about this whole situation and complained about it a good bit. However, HOW AM I NOT THE VICTIM OF THAT SITUATION. HOW IS MY FRUSTRATION NOT VALID??? HOW IS THAT A VICTIM COMPLEX???
S quickly redirected the conversation at that point but, if S wasn’t there I think I would’ve gone off about ALL of this completely. This was the point I realized I cannot live with her again next year. I kept hoping things would get better and we’d have our own rooms so I could avoid her, but this was the end for me. After everythinggggg, she was trying to make me look bad in front of my friend?
As of today she approached me and said “we need to talk.” I asked about what and she said clearly something is wrong. I asked what she thought was wrong and she replied with straight out lies. She said that I completely ignore her everytime she talks and never reply to her texts. To which I pointed out, that is simply not true. Yes I have been distant and yes I am dry with her but, I never straight out ignore her. Unless I have my airpods in and music blaring and can PHYSICALLY NOT HEAR, I have never once refused to address her. And as far as ignoring her, if she ever wanted to talk about many of the things we have in common such as sorority, classes, music, whatever, I was always MORE than open to a conversation, however, she only wanted to bring up the same topics I told her I did not want to talk about anymore, such as boys.
She went on to say she asked me what was wrong before spring break and I said she expects reassurance beyond a reasonable level. NOW THIS IS WHEN I KNEW SHE'S INSANE. THIS SITUATION POINT BLANK NEVER HAPPENED. She never asked me what was wrong between us before spring break, like simply DID NOT HAPPEN. The comment of me saying she expects too much reassurance, COMPLETELY TAKEN OUT OF CONTEXT.
What really happened was that she was reading the book “Attached,” which is all about the anxious attachment style, which she has, and learning to fix those behaviors. One day she said, “you know if anything this book has taught me, I am not the problem. If everyone would just give me reassurance, I would be so much more secure.” To which I replied “WTF are you talking about? It is healthy to expect reassurance to a reasonable level. You cannot expect this because you've been talking to for two weeks to update you on his location and activity every thirty minutes. You can not expect him to drop all his homework on a weekday to see you constantly. You cannot start every “confrontation” with me by saying "do you hate me?" You can’t ask me if we are still friends every fucking day. You cannot expect people to bend around you, and reassure you all day, everyday.” I know, it was kind of harsh but, IT IS THE TRUTH. I was not going to sit there and feed her delusions but, if I said nothing at all, I would be ignoring her, so I lost it. And frankly it is exhausting to have to reassure someone EVERYDAY, I am sick of it.
Back to the current confrontation, she was literally taking an event THAT NEVER HAPPENED, her asking me what was wrong, and mixed it with this completely unrelated story to make me look like a cunt. That is literally insane. I called her on it immediately to which she had no reply. The second I call her out she immediately shuts down. She then brought up the weekend of S visiting and how she was mad that I had been on shit terms with her and great terms with S. I included her in all the plans with S however, I was not going to waste my weekend with S coddling her. And after she started being a bitch within an hour of S’s arrival, I decided to focus on S. I straight up told her all of this and how it was so fucking transparent what she was doing trying to make me look bad while S was here. She claims she was not trying to make me look bad, that it wasn't her intention, BUT WHAT OTHER INTENTION COULD YOU HAVE??? She had no reply to that question. After that she said she's living in the sorority house, her parents are canceling our apartment lease, and I can live wherever else and stormed out.
I’ve been looking at other apartments, so I do not care at all. I am thankful for anything. Since she has such a tendency to cry and play the victim, the only thing holding my back was figuring out how to tell her I did not want to live with her. I wish I could confront all of this but I know it will not change ANYTHING. Now, I am just mad and worried about her spreading lies about me to the sorority. The way she tried to gaslight me today, literally made up an entire fake scenario, honestly scared me, because I’ve never seen her be that delusional. If she’s willing to straight up lie to MY FACE when I know the truth I can only imagine what she’ll say to others. People have told me, “but, don’t you think other people will see through her lies?” Honestly, NO. She’s insane. I was her BEST FRIEND and it took me this long to realize. Yea, maybe in a couple of MONTHS people will realize, but, not soon enough.
2023.03.30 02:09 TaraCalicosBike In 1978, newly divorced real estate agent Patty Kerger was meant to show a home to a client in Scottsdale, Arizona, but it’s unclear whether she showed up- the next day, her body was discovered in a vacant lot, and she had been stabbed and bludgeoned to death. Who killed Patty, and why?
In the summer of 1978, thirty year old Patricia Mary Kerger, known to all as Patty, had a fresh start in life- Patty was recently divorced, having split from her aircraft mechanic husband, Jay. While Jay was focusing on his career in aircraft mechanics and being part owner of a company called Blue Sky Aviation (as well as “smuggling weed” as a way of making extra cash,) Patty was focusing on her own career in real estate, working for Red Carpet Realty, in Phoenix. Patty’s therapist described her as having a lot of drive, being quite intelligent, and as “making it a little bit tough on some man to get to know her too well,” when it came to dating. The office manager at the realty company stated that Patty dated a lot of “strange and kind of far out guys” and that she enjoyed partying, but all who knew Patty knew that her main focus was her 10 year old son, Eric.
By 1978, Patty had been having a year long affair with her married boss, Clyde Poulin. Clyde went on to describe his affair with Patty as on and off, but passionate, stating ”It was one of the situations where we’d break up on Monday, and get back together on Tuesday.” Clyde was very secretive about their affair, as he was married and had 5 children- after the murder of Patty Kerger, he had asked police to keep the affair a secret, which they agreed. In 2003, when an article was written about the case, Clyde has asked the East Valley Tribune not to publish the information about the affair, but they did not oblige.
The night before Patty was killed, she and Eric had moved into a new apartment together, and were just beginning to settle in. The next day, on June 10, Patty spent the afternoon with her son and father at the Purple Turtle, a restaurant located on 12th street and Indian School Road. Patty was last seen around 4:30 p.m. near her new apartment complex on 7th Street and Bethany Home Road, where she had left for an appointment she had scheduled at 5 p.m.- however, she did not show up. The appointment was to tour a McCormick Ranch home to a client from Tucson- strangely, she had scheduled this appointment to show the home to the client alone, which Patty was not prone to do, as there had been a recent string of rapes of real estate agents in the valley at this time. (Please note: one source states that Patty did in fact make it to this appointment, but, majority of newspaper articles claim that she did not.)
The next day, Patty’s lifeless body was discovered in a vacant lot on the southeast corner of 56th Street and Thomas Road. The body was fully clothed and lying in a pool of blood, and the contents of her purse were dumped out beside her- she had been bludgeoned with a heavy object about the head, and stabbed several times, including one stab wound to the chest. The police described the killing as brutal and frenzied. Vaguely, the police also mentioned that they found one item at the scene that could be linked to Patty’s killer, but what that item is, has never been stated. Police believe the murder occurred between 8:45 and 9:10 p.m. on June 10th, and that she was killed elsewhere and dumped where her body was found. Soon after, her car was located behind a Black Angus Steakhouse on 20th Street and Camelback Road (and, on an unrelated personal note, the exact same complex where I once worked.) Authorities stated that they believe she had met someone she knew at the Black Angus, and then left in their car with them, before her murder.
After conducting numerous interviews, police were able to clear the client from Tucson, as well as Patty’s affair partner, Clyde. In an attempt to gather any more leads, they had put the receptionist from Red Carpet Realty under hypnosis, hoping she may recall a name or detail from the phone calls coming into the office that week- however, this led no where. Naturally, Patty’s ex-husband Jay was called in as a person of interest, and looked at closely. After speaking with their son, Eric, it was learned that the divorce was amicable, but, that weeks before the murder, the two had an explosive fight, causing Eric to run out of the house and down the street to a neighbor’s home. Police speculate that the fight may have occurred because Jay had recently remarried, and wanted to take Eric to visit his new wife’s parents in Pennsylvania. Jay had provided an alibi for the night of June 10, 1978, however- he claimed that he was in Needles, California, despite having a plane flight from Pennsylvania to Phoenix that same evening. Jay stated that he was at a diner in Needles and that the waitress can be spoken to, in order to verify his claim- this waitress was indeed located, and verified his statements, but added an additional detail that Jay left out: he was dining with an unknown man. This man was never identified and never spoken to. Incredibly, later on, Jay would change his alibi once again, stating he was actually deep in the desert directing a plane with a marijuana drop. When spoken to years later about the murder of his ex-wife, Jay stated:
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By 1978, Patty had been having a year long affair with her married boss, Clyde Poulin. Clyde went on to describe his affair with Patty as on and off, but passionate, stating ”It was one of the situations where we’d break up on Monday, and get back together on Tuesday.” Clyde was very secretive about their affair, as he was married and had 5 children- after the murder of Patty Kerger, he had asked police to keep the affair a secret, which they agreed. In 2003, when an article was written about the case, Clyde has asked the East Valley Tribune not to publish the information about the affair, but they did not oblige.
The night before Patty was killed, she and Eric had moved into a new apartment together, and were just beginning to settle in. The next day, on June 10, Patty spent the afternoon with her son and father at the Purple Turtle, a restaurant located on 12th street and Indian School Road. Patty was last seen around 4:30 p.m. near her new apartment complex on 7th Street and Bethany Home Road, where she had left for an appointment she had scheduled at 5 p.m.- however, she did not show up. The appointment was to tour a McCormick Ranch home to a client from Tucson- strangely, she had scheduled this appointment to show the home to the client alone, which Patty was not prone to do, as there had been a recent string of rapes of real estate agents in the valley at this time. (Please note: one source states that Patty did in fact make it to this appointment, but, majority of newspaper articles claim that she did not.)
The next day, Patty’s lifeless body was discovered in a vacant lot on the southeast corner of 56th Street and Thomas Road. The body was fully clothed and lying in a pool of blood, and the contents of her purse were dumped out beside her- she had been bludgeoned with a heavy object about the head, and stabbed several times, including one stab wound to the chest. The police described the killing as brutal and frenzied. Vaguely, the police also mentioned that they found one item at the scene that could be linked to Patty’s killer, but what that item is, has never been stated. Police believe the murder occurred between 8:45 and 9:10 p.m. on June 10th, and that she was killed elsewhere and dumped where her body was found. Soon after, her car was located behind a Black Angus Steakhouse on 20th Street and Camelback Road (and, on an unrelated personal note, the exact same complex where I once worked.) Authorities stated that they believe she had met someone she knew at the Black Angus, and then left in their car with them, before her murder.
After conducting numerous interviews, police were able to clear the client from Tucson, as well as Patty’s affair partner, Clyde. In an attempt to gather any more leads, they had put the receptionist from Red Carpet Realty under hypnosis, hoping she may recall a name or detail from the phone calls coming into the office that week- however, this led no where. Naturally, Patty’s ex-husband Jay was called in as a person of interest, and looked at closely. After speaking with their son, Eric, it was learned that the divorce was amicable, but, that weeks before the murder, the two had an explosive fight, causing Eric to run out of the house and down the street to a neighbor’s home. Police speculate that the fight may have occurred because Jay had recently remarried, and wanted to take Eric to visit his new wife’s parents in Pennsylvania. Jay had provided an alibi for the night of June 10, 1978, however- he claimed that he was in Needles, California, despite having a plane flight from Pennsylvania to Phoenix that same evening. Jay stated that he was at a diner in Needles and that the waitress can be spoken to, in order to verify his claim- this waitress was indeed located, and verified his statements, but added an additional detail that Jay left out: he was dining with an unknown man. This man was never identified and never spoken to. Incredibly, later on, Jay would change his alibi once again, stating he was actually deep in the desert directing a plane with a marijuana drop. When spoken to years later about the murder of his ex-wife, Jay stated:
”I'm the ex-husband, so I'm the prime suspect. I'm very sorry they (still) think that, because it's taking them in the wrong direction. My personal opinion is that this is just like the Bob Crane murder. They unprofessionally didn't do things right."Nearly 45 years have passed since the murder of Patty Kerger, and police are no closer to finding her justice. When last reported on, Jay was living in Texas, and hasn’t spoken to his son Eric in years.
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2023.03.30 01:36 T-C96 Expedia Theft?
Booked a package trip thru Expedia. Flight, hotel, car. Cat 5 hurricane hit the week of the scheduled travel. Airport closed for 6 full days for all non humanitarian flights. Hotel canceled - refund. Car rental canceled - refund. Flight canceled - credit issued. I can live with that.
Went to use the flight credit about a month ago and Expedia tells me it’s a $200 change fee per ticket (more than the credit is worth)
I explain the situation and they say they sent an email to JetBlue. They claim JB has not given them a response. When I call JB they tell me to take it up with Expedia as I booked thru them. Expedia will not forward me the email.
I call JB - they tell me it’s an open ticket and they have never issued a flight credit to Expedia for this. Went as far as to say Expedia is lying.
At this point do I just dispute with my credit card or do I keep trying to fight Expedia who I might add has the worst customer service I’ve ever experienced by a distant margin.
How do I even go about this? Any help would be appreciated.
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Went to use the flight credit about a month ago and Expedia tells me it’s a $200 change fee per ticket (more than the credit is worth)
I explain the situation and they say they sent an email to JetBlue. They claim JB has not given them a response. When I call JB they tell me to take it up with Expedia as I booked thru them. Expedia will not forward me the email.
I call JB - they tell me it’s an open ticket and they have never issued a flight credit to Expedia for this. Went as far as to say Expedia is lying.
At this point do I just dispute with my credit card or do I keep trying to fight Expedia who I might add has the worst customer service I’ve ever experienced by a distant margin.
How do I even go about this? Any help would be appreciated.
2023.03.30 01:32 GorillaX [NM] 910028 Bricklink The Pursuit of Flight - 47 spots at $3/ea
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2023.03.30 01:10 PeopleAreSus Just Curious About How Often Changes Occur
I sometimes book flights 6 months out but usually on other airlines. With United (domestic) specifically, I get about 5 schedule change emails and 3 plane changes where I have to re-select my seats. Which I’ve come to expect as normal considering how far out I book my flight. Is this generally behavior with Delta as well? I booked my TPA to YYZ flight and just curious about how often changes of that nature will occur. I haven’t flown Delta in 2 ish years because of the prices compared to the other airlines so just wondering.
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2023.03.30 00:51 Swimming_Elephant_45 AITA for telling my mom (F57) my reservations about a trip?
I (M23) am a college student in my final semester of living at school. My mother (F57) planned a trip to visit my brother in San Diego for the Easter holiday weekend. She planned it as a special treat and as a now-empty nester, she has been very excited. I was initially excited too, but we scheduled a last minute flight to Virginia the other week to visit my grandmother, who was in ill health, and I felt it was very important to go. It just so happened that this trip was two weeks before the San Diego trip, and at this point I kept it to myself to avoid unnecessarily hurting my mother’s feelings but I was definitely feeling FOMO about missing two weekends with only a month left of college. I also have a mild fear of flying.
Today, I found out that my professor was moving the date up for an upcoming exam to the date we are supposed to fly out. He said that I would not be able to make up this particular exam, but seemed to be saying that there would be a makeup opportunity later in the semester (there is a bit of a language barrier and we have had prior misunderstandings so I felt a bit sketchy about this until I could get it in writing). After speaking with him, I called my mother for the first of three times.
On the first call, I definitely feel as though I was a bit of an a-hole. My mother and I argued a bit and it ended with me telling her that I was not excited for the trip by any means. Later on, I called her to apologize. I explained in greater detail my situation with the test and she offered to bump my flight out to Saturday. There were two options: 10:30 am and 1 pm. The 1 pm was preferable to me due to my having to wake up quite early to make the commute to the airport and make it through TSA in time for the flight (organizational issues, may want to do something Friday night). She told me that she is only comfortable booking the 10:30 since I will only be there for a day if I go at 1 due to layovers. We argued a bit and she eventually just said she would cancel, I agreed. I immediately felt bad and called her back, saying that I would be willing to go at 10:30. She told me she could tell I did not want to do that and she would still cancel. I listened to her and really understood, but calmly told her the truth about how I felt about the whole trip, all things included, but was still willing to go. She was upset that I didn’t actually want to go and ended the call. AITA for telling her the truth?
Note: I am willing to cover any resulting financial consequences from cancellation or re-booking. We are of comfortable financial means so this was not an immediate concern for her, she is more upset about what I said.
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Today, I found out that my professor was moving the date up for an upcoming exam to the date we are supposed to fly out. He said that I would not be able to make up this particular exam, but seemed to be saying that there would be a makeup opportunity later in the semester (there is a bit of a language barrier and we have had prior misunderstandings so I felt a bit sketchy about this until I could get it in writing). After speaking with him, I called my mother for the first of three times.
On the first call, I definitely feel as though I was a bit of an a-hole. My mother and I argued a bit and it ended with me telling her that I was not excited for the trip by any means. Later on, I called her to apologize. I explained in greater detail my situation with the test and she offered to bump my flight out to Saturday. There were two options: 10:30 am and 1 pm. The 1 pm was preferable to me due to my having to wake up quite early to make the commute to the airport and make it through TSA in time for the flight (organizational issues, may want to do something Friday night). She told me that she is only comfortable booking the 10:30 since I will only be there for a day if I go at 1 due to layovers. We argued a bit and she eventually just said she would cancel, I agreed. I immediately felt bad and called her back, saying that I would be willing to go at 10:30. She told me she could tell I did not want to do that and she would still cancel. I listened to her and really understood, but calmly told her the truth about how I felt about the whole trip, all things included, but was still willing to go. She was upset that I didn’t actually want to go and ended the call. AITA for telling her the truth?
Note: I am willing to cover any resulting financial consequences from cancellation or re-booking. We are of comfortable financial means so this was not an immediate concern for her, she is more upset about what I said.
2023.03.30 00:31 Tralalaladey Who’s left the industry after doing the job for a long time?
Hitting 8 years soon. I’m looking and applying at jobs. I’m so tired. My regional airline has lost all of its heart. Schedules are shit. Pilots are leaving in droves. New hires are quitting.
I’m sooo scared to leave. I love the lifestyle and the flexibility and the flight benefits but it’s gotten so painful.
Has anyone left and regretted it? Has anyone left and been happier?
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I’m sooo scared to leave. I love the lifestyle and the flexibility and the flight benefits but it’s gotten so painful.
Has anyone left and regretted it? Has anyone left and been happier?
2023.03.30 00:30 NameWithRat Selling My Sky: Children of the Light Account
 | Looking to sell my Sky: Children of the Light account! Payment through PayPal only. Haven’t been active since after Performance and would like to get rid of my account. Looking for $65 (though price may be negotiable). submitted by NameWithRat to u/NameWithRat [link] [comments] 100% constellations for Season of the Little Prince, Flight, Abyss, and Performance. Season of the Little Prince sword pants, and 6 asteroid jacket spells (along with other SotLP exclusive spells). Nintendo Switch starter pack cosmetics All Elder hairstyles 11 Wedges 1 seasonal pass on the account that you can gift to someone A bunch of different spells, event items, and seasonal items from Traveling Spirits I would also be willing to send you some daily hearts for a while after you’ve purchased the account. Also note that my Nintendo Account is linked to it which cannot be unlinked. However, I have a throwaway gmail linked to provide the login to whoever purchases! For more info dm me on discord at ratboy#5240! |
2023.03.30 00:04 katelovesmeiu A Professional Challenger Coach Verified Metafy Partner Seven Years of Proven Coaching Expertise Over 6.500 Sessions Held Over 3.000 Individual Clients US Collegiate Coach Guaranteed Improvement Personalised Coaching Plans Shelbion#8832
About Me
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/TuTZAeRbx5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.
Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:
How Does it Work?
We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.
submitted by katelovesmeiu to LeagueCoachingGrounds [link] [comments]
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:
- Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
- Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
- Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/TuTZAeRbx5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.
Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:
- Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
- Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
- Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.
How Does it Work?
We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:
- Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
- Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
- Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.
2023.03.30 00:04 katelovesmeiu A Professional Challenger Coach Verified Metafy Partner Seven Years of Proven Coaching Expertise Over 6.500 Sessions Held Over 3.000 Individual Clients US Collegiate Coach Guaranteed Improvement Personalised Coaching Plans Shelbion#8832
About Me
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/TuTZAeRbx5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.
Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:
How Does it Work?
We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.
submitted by katelovesmeiu to LeagueCoaching [link] [comments]
Hey there, my name is Shelbion and I've been an avid League of Legends player for over a decade. In Season 4, I reached Challenger for the first time and even considered pursuing a professional career. However, after much reflection, I decided to pursue other challenges within the game itself.
Some of my notable achievements as a player include:
- Reaching Challenger on multiple positions.
- Participating and winning in numerous SR and 1v1 tournaments.
- Playing for various teams(Amateur and Semi-Professional).
In addition to my experience as a Player, I am also the Founder of Noxus Coaching - a rapidly growing, educational community on Discord. Our community is a great place to find new friends to play with, have a good time, and most importantly, improve your skills.
We hold various events on a weekly basis, including 1v1 & 5v5 tournaments, meme contests, and more. There are plenty of rewards to be won, including free coaching sessions with me. To join our community, visit https://discord.gg/TuTZAeRbx5 and message me upon joining to receive your role.
Coaching
As a coach with over 6.500 hours of experience, I have a passion for helping others improve and reach their goals. By studying the techniques of renowned coaches such as LS and MagiFelix, I have developed my own unique coaching approach that has helped countless individuals and over 20 teams advance their competitive play across 5 different continents, including members of various College and University E-Sports Teams.
Some of my notable achievements include:
- Assisting a Diamond 2 player reach Challenger in just five weeks.
- Helping a Silver 2 player climb to Platinum in three weeks.
- Guiding a Diamond 3 player to Grandmaster in six weeks.
How Does it Work?
We will schedule an initial Interview during which we can discuss your goals and I can provide a more detailed explanation of my coaching services. This interview will typically last for 3-5 minutes.
The First Session is designed to assess your current level of gameplay and identify areas for improvement. After conducting an analysis, I will create a Personalized Coaching Plan tailored to your specific needs. This plan will outline a series of sessions designed to maximize your improvement.
The Coaching Plan may include various session types, such as:
- Theory sessions: These sessions will cover key concepts such as wave management, vision, decision making, and more.
- Practical sessions: These sessions will either be VOD reviews or live games, and will be used to put theoretical knowledge into practice and analyze gameplay.
- Reviews: These sessions will occur periodically and will be used as checkpoints to track your progress and identify any additional areas for improvement.
Personalized Support (Available 24/7)
In addition to the structured coaching sessions, I offer personalized support to my clients on a 24/7 basis. Whether you have a specific question or just want to debrief after a tough game, I am always available to help. Simply message me and I will respond as quickly as possible.
AvailabilityPricesPayments
I am able to cover any server and any timezone! Rates for both Private and Team coaching are negotiable. We will easily get the sessions to fit your budget and your needs. Payments are usually done through PayPal, however other forms of Payment such as Direct Transfer can be discussed.
Contact?
Main form of contact is Discord on which you can find me at Shelbion#8832
Feel free to message me either on Discord or through a Direct Message on Reddit and I will come back to you as quickly as possible.