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2023.06.07 23:59 XxBlueScixX need help with lag
my fps is really low and it sometimes is better but i dont know what is making it better same place and it either is really laggy like 9/10 times or perfectly fine
ive tried switching to gpu i think but it doesnt seem to help and i have a good pc and around 6 gigabytes of ram allocated and the main mods are create for forge, addons for create, and botania. the lag is very bad when near any build from any of those mods and everyone else with worse pcs then me arent lagging at all. please help
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2023.06.07 23:59 baconbladerunner Known Alt-Tab key bindings bug?
Is there a known bug that happens intermittently when you alt-tab your in-game key binds reset to an older version even though in the controls menu it shows the ones you'd expect? This has happened to me a few times and makes it near impossible to play. Is there a local file I can update to keep it from changing?
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2023.06.07 23:58 Gel_007 The Founding Chapter 6
June 10th, 327
It’s been a bit since I’ve written here. I decided to give Augustine a looser leash and I allowed him to explore the outside world as long as he knew what he was doing.
June 11th, 327
Augustine said he had something to tell me later tonight, he’d been exploring almost every day now, the active sense of adventure that boy has honestly impresses me.
A: Hey Zach
Z: Hey what’s up?
A: I wanna tell you about something I found while I was exploring the other day.
Z: Spill then.
A: Alright, so as I was playing around with my long distance teleportation spell and I ended up on the base of a large mountain range. It was strange as I couldn’t teleport all the way to the top, it was like something within the very mountain’s mineral makeup was negating my attempts to teleport up to its peak. So I decided to scale the mountain the old fashion way: climbing it. Thanks to the enhancements given to me by that project I scaled the mountain in no time, and the other side? It was like nothing the world has ever seen, the mountain range was hiding a large gulf of water, a large island placed just within the gulf, lush forest and 2 large mountains towards the center, a place that seemed untouched by time itself. It could be the perfect place to permanently hide from the Templar, after all we can only hide in this cabin for so long before they eventually find us.
I was certainly surprised at the fact that he was able to scale an entire mountain with seemingly very little effort, but what interested me more was the island he discovered. He claimed it looked “untouched” but the higher ups at the Templar claimed they have colonized nearly all the available land in this world so to have an entire island be left untouched is almost like foreign concept, something of legend.
Z: An untouched island? Not only untouched but also unheard of. The Templar said they’ve colonized all known land in this world.
A: I know! But I couldn’t see any mana towers among the trees or any humans from the peak of the mountains.
Z: Well if still untouched after all this time, chances are that they won’t find it anytime soon.
A: exactly! A place where the Templar will never reach…solemn look
Z: What's wrong Augustine? The memories and thoughts haunting you again?
A: yea, I’m sorry to constantly bother you with them but I’ve kept them contained for too long
Z: Hey, hey it’s alright. You’ve never been a bother at all, helping you deal with your issues is what friends are for.
A: I appreciate it Zach, for the longest time Elock was really the only friend I’ve ever had so it’s enlightening hearing someone else say that, to this day I still wonder where she is today and if she’s even alive! I used to have nightmares where I would meet her again just to discover that she’s-
Z: it’s alright, I’m sure she thinks about you every day too and most likely wonders the same every night.
A: Yeah I know, but it’s hard remaining optimistic in this world with the whole war between humans and keidran going on.
Z: Well to me that island sounds like a great place to start.
Augustine and I agreed to visit the island he found beyond the mountains tomorrow, he thinks it’ll be the perfect place to hide from the Templar.
June 12th, 327
Augustine said that the mountain range was incredibly far, about days worth of running in Augustine’s estimation, so teleporting there is just another thing to add to the list of things he impresses me with. While the material the mountain range is composed of prevents any magic from directly interacting with them, they don’t extend beyond that, so Augustine offered to fly us up there using a telekinetic spell.
Turns out Augustine is only used to telekinetically lifting one item, how do I know? Because he accidentally dropped me. Luckily I landed in a tree. After traversing both sides of the mountain and making it across the water, we arrived on the island at last and man Augustine wasn’t lying. It truly was beautiful, lush fruit bearing trees, 2 large mountains and not even the smallest hint of Templar interference!
We headed further inland and decided to stay at the valley between the 2 mountains with Augustine immediately getting to work and hacking away at the tree with the guard’s sword. After a few hours of work, Augustine already had a large pile of planks with me barely keeping up and Augustine teasing me about it, oh I’m sorry not everyone is a magically enhanced super soldier.
It was beginning to grow dark and we made the decision to head back to the cabin for today and continue the build some later time. Augustine made a waypoint in the cabin so getting back was easy though it had some issues as it took a while to activate. I took a rock sample from the mountains to analyze back at the cabin.
June 13th, 327
This was fascinating! The rock sample I took had incredibly unique properties never before seen! Its primary ability was “absorbing” sources of mana. I had stabbed one of our mana crystals into the rock and I observed as it broke down the crystal over the course of an hour! This explains why Augustine couldn’t teleport up the mountain. So even if the Templar did find the mountain they would never get over it, even with the most powerful mages magic.
Augustine had gone out to town again, he said it was to pick up building tools to help shore up the house we were building. He claimed he could handle it on his own and despite me wanting to protest, I let him go through with it. Unfortunately the town we went to around a week ago didn’t have a hardware store as any construction must run through Lulio first, so Augustine had to head to the neighboring town to see if he could find anything there.
(Cut to Augustine’s pov)
Thoughts: “ugh cmon how hard could a hardware store be to find, it feels like I’ve been searching for hours already!” sees sign with a hammer on it
“Gah! Finally!” heads inside
Shopkeeper: Greetings sir! How may I assist you today?
“Uhh it’s alright I can handle it on my own, thanks for the offer though!”
Thoughts: this time the illusion should last longer as these mana crystals are fresh rather than being recharged. grabs a large amount of nails, 2 hammers, some axes to preserve his sword, saws, sand paper, and stone blocks
Shopkeeper: Oh my sir, this is an awful load that you’ll have to carry on your own, are you sure you can handle it?
“Yes I’m sure…”
Shopkeeper: Are you sure? We have a policy that allows you to rent slaves to help you with whatever you’re working on.
(Shopkeep rings a bell to send a slave to the front before Augustine could interject)
Thoughts: are you kidding me? Gahhh cmon Zack is waiting for me and I don’t wanna keep him on the line!
Female voice: coming!
Augustine: frustrated and staring at the floor
Shopkeeper: How about this one? Hard worker she is, very cooperative, very friendly.
Augustine: looks up
Elock: hello sir! How may I assist you today? shivering
Thoughts: E- Elock?! When?! How?! I thought you worked for a farmer?! I can’t say anything, it'll reveal my identity to the worker! Okay, okay, okay just keep it calm!
“I- uh stuttering
I changed my mind! She can help me, I’ll take her!”
Shopkeeper: I’m not surprised, she’s gone from owner to owner as she’s quite a hard worker, she’s worth a lot of money after being traded so many times before ending up at my place. 1000G for 7 days.
“I- yes I’ll take her”
Shopkeeper: perfect! exits with supplies and Elock
Elock looking at Augustine’s wanted poster: solemn
Elock: oh! N-nothing! It’s just these ropes binding my hands are just a bit tight! And W-where are we heading sir? We’re outside of town at this point and I- uh-
A: chuckles a bit
you’re still just as bad as ever at hiding your nervousness Elock
Elock: Ah- I- how do you know my name?!
A: unties the rope and disables illusion
It’s been a while, wouldn’t you agree?
Elock in shock and on the verge of tears: I…A…trembling, mouth slightly ajar in shock
A: what? Cat got your tongue? Well I guess that’s true consid-
Elock: pounces on him
AUGUSTINE! I’ve missed you so much!How have you been?!Where did you- starts talking so fast that even Augustine couldn’t keep up with what she was saying and weeping happy tears profusely on his shirt
A: slightly choking from how tight she’s hugging him
it’s okay, it’s okay! I’ve missed you too. I almost thought you were gonna be de- ow ow! Stop it I was kidding!
I know. Not a single day went by where I didn’t think about you! And say weren't your eyes brown before?
A: I’m flattered that you still remember and well…it’s kind of a long story…but first let’s retreat to safety. teleports with Elock
A: …and then I ended up here
Elock: That’s incredible! You sure had been on a wild cart ride while I was gone! I wish I could have been there.
A: It's not as glamorous as it sounds, that experiment was agony incarnate, it’s a wonder I survived! In fact I was the only one who came out alive, though the powers I got bestowed with are certainly nothing to complain about but still the effects after we’re brutal.
Elock: glad you did, the way you and Zach escaped the facility was incredible.
A: well he can tell you all about it points to cabin
we’ve arrived Zach opens door
A: Hey Zach, I’m back from my shopping spree.
Z: Augustine what took you so long? The plan was to just get the supplies and get out.
A: I know! But I got a bit off track. I found someone very special.
Elock: pokes head through the door
A: meet Elock, remem-
Z: her! The keidran you met when you were 10?
A: yup to Elock
it’s alright Elock it’s fine he won’t bite.
Elock: H- hello sir.
Z: please call me Zach. It’s a pleasure. shakes hand
Elock: it’s a nice place you 2 have here.
A: It was by sheer luck that we found this place actually.
Z: Yeah, the blast was much larger than we’d anticipated and even if my house remained intact, they’d still come searching for me.
Elock: Well lucky you found this place when you did.
A: Are you hungry Elock? We have some steak leftovers.
Elock: oh, I am actually, thank you!
Z: say Elock…
Z: Would you mind telling us your journey? I’d love to learn.
Z: Right, sorry.
Elock: No, no Augustine, it’s alright. I don’t mind in the slightest.
Life in the rainforest regions was paradise, plenty of food, clean sources of water, plenty of building materials, and a beautiful sight to wake up to everyday. My parents worked directly under the matriarch, Lektra(keidran for bolt/thunder) so me being born was almost as exciting as the coronation of the matriarch herself. Unfortunately that swiftly came to a close when Lulio decided to use our home as farmland and despite protests from Lektra, Lulio still went through with the plan. In a flash everything was pretty much destroyed. Our warriors tried to fight back but were eliminated instantly, I was about 3 when this happened and the memory still burns strong to this day.
Augustine: muttering under his breath
Elock: I know how you feel, Augustine, trust me I do.
A: I know, I’m sorry
Elock: holds his hand
After the destruction of my people and my home, I was sent into the town and stayed in a keidran only home until my 4th birthday. Instead of pleasant accommodations like human orphan homes, all we got was a pillow and some sheets to make ourselves comfortable with, most of us slept on the hardwood floor and it was unbearable. Lulio passed a law where keidran as young as 4 would be eligible for work. After my 4th birthday I was almost immediately whisked off to work on a farm, while the job was tough, they at least gave me my own room and bed, one of their guests even took a small liking to me but tragically he died of a lung infection.
Z: I lament your journey and loss Elock, I can’t imagine how tough this was to bear all at once.
Elock: please it’s okay, you don’t have to apologize for anything. None of this is any of your wrongdoing.
Z: You said your people were killed but what about your parents? Did they survive too?
Elock: Oh right! My parents were spared as they opted to surrender peacefully and they were sold to different owners. I used to occasionally see them from time to time but after I moved I had to say a tearful goodbye to both them and Augustine. playfully pinches his cheek
Z: You’re strong for getting through that, not many could take that much.
Elock: I appreciate that.
Z: Do you have any idea where your parents are right now?
Elock: I think they’re still in the same tow- Augustine? Are you okay?
A: on the other hand gripping the table so hard that it was gonna break, eyes with a look of both confusion and rage
A: I- I saw them…
Elock: What do you mean?
A: They were there…in the same room.
Elock: Are you talking about the operation?
A: Y- yes…I saw them, both of them. They were in the operation too, part of the 10 keidrans selected to be in the experiment. I briefly saw them looking at me, they were scared but I couldn’t do a damn thing to help them and now they're dead! slowly growing hysterical
A: snaps out of his hysterics
Elock: it’s not your fault! Neither of you have to feel guilty!
A: I know, but I just wish I could have done something to help them, but I was just a powerless child.
Z: Augustine. We all wish we could have done something to stop Lulio’s plan, we all feel the same way just please don’t put all the blame on yourself.
A: I know, I'm sorry…
Elock: it’s alright…we’re all here to support you, you got hit the hardest out of all so you should be the one to be the one who receives sympathy.
A: …thanks guys, It feels like it’s been so long since I’ve heard something so comforting.
Elock: don’t worry, we’ll never leave and when we do, we’ll leave together.
A: …oh! Elock, I hate to do this but would you mind helping us with something? We found a place that could be our key to salvation.
Elock: Of course! I don’t mind in the slightest.
A: teleports all 3 of them via waypoint
Elock: in awe of the island
I…this is incredible! It reminds me so much of my home! And you were right! There’s no hint of Templar activity at all!
A: We were just as shocked as you are right now when we first found it. I mean like Zach said, the Templar claimed that they have settled on all available land in this world.
Elock: Well then, let’s make good use of this place, so let’s get to work!
A: I couldn't have said it better myself. hours later, the trio had finished building a moderate sized wooden house
A: woo! Not bad for a day's work, am I right?
Elock: Mrrrr…man that was a nice workout!
Z: Tell me about it!
A: So Elock, should we tell Zach?
Elock: I think so!
Z: Tell me…what?
A: Well…on the way here, Elock and I started thinking and we were thinking of a way we could free other slaves from their captors.
well at this point, I know better than to criticize your plan before even hearing it so go ahead, spill it on me.
A: Operation: torchwick
- Elock would be our messenger, using her spare time to get any other slaves on board with the plan, amassing as many as possible.
- On the large hill next to the town, we plant a large amount of gray mana crystals. Where downhill wind will carry the effect down into the town
(Gray mana crystals were created for a special purpose, making large smokescreens on the battlefield)
- I would then use a spell that emits a light that can’t be perceived by humans but can be seen by keidrans and basitins alike, Which would act as the signal to go for it.
- The group would then head towards the light where we would then break for the mountains as fast as possible.
(Unfortunately the waypoint spell barely lasts for even a few days, and teleporting a large group of people via waypoint could be tough even for me)
I would then use as much of my power as possible to telekinetic lift as many refugees as possibl-
Z: Yeah…considering that you almost dropped me off the side of the mountain, I think even you would have trouble lifting a bunch of slaves.
A: anyways! After we figure out a way to get everyone up there, we’ll be untouchable!
Z: huh…well from one chaotic strategist to another, it’s worth a shot.
A: Perfect! See Elock?
A: I kept the promise I made, all those years ago! when we meet again, it’ll be your freedom.
To be continued
Also for anyone who wants to know a bit more about Elock:
Name: Elock of the rainforest leopards
Species: rainforest leopard
Languages: human, keidran
Physical characteristics: yellow fur, black nose marking, black rosettes running down back and onto tail, unusually big and poofy tail, butter yellow hair with black streaks, faint outline of heart pattern on her behind
Age: 9 years(was 4 when she met Augustine)
Eye color: emerald green
-Eager to help
-Bad at hiding panic
-Heart of gold
-Shy but slowly growing out of it
Likes: adventure, rain, storytelling, being adored, helping, hugs(especially from Augustine), pouncing on people she cares about.
Dislikes: slavery, Templar(although not as intensely as most others)
Unlike most, Elock had the ability to both read and write prior to slavery, being taught by both her parents and Lektra herself. Spending most of her time reading and drawing using whatever material she could find.
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2023.06.07 23:58 Nostalgic-Banter Sauce: Jujutsu Kaisen
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2023.06.07 23:57 I_Am_Bacon_Bitts Scope advice for my first rifle
I just purchased a M1A( standard 22in) and would like to (eventually)put a scope on it. After many hours of debating it’s ultimate use/ available ranges near me and hypothetical SHTF scenarios… It seems a Battle Rifle/DMR style is where this is heading. Basically the idea is: Can go further than my AR15 friends, but doesn’t suck closer up. This lead me to the LPVO. Since i have no options for testing/trial I’m asking here. Is a 1-6 a good call? Is a 1-8 better or overkill? Am i crazy. Thanks for your time and any answers.
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2023.06.07 23:57 Nostalgic-Banter An apple a day keeps the doctor away.
2023.06.07 23:56 ZefiantFGC Seeking help from Hitbox controlled bros
(Typo on the title, fuck me)
This is an unconventional request. I've been playing Hitbox for like almost 3 years now, and it's been pretty smooth for the most part. But, after all this time, I still suck at doing left facing DPs. Specifically on reaction to jump ins in SF.
Like, I can register what's happening, and think to myself, "time to DP", but my hands fumble the input like 90% of the time. Right facing anti air DPs are nearly flawless.
My problem is getting that ring finger to comply and get a clean input. I even started doing finger independence and strength exercises 2 or so months ago, but I've seen almost zero improvement.
Anybody here have suggestions for exercises? I also don't use any shortcut inputs since they don't really work outside of SF.
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2023.06.07 23:56 TheGrowingFlower123 What is the best way to go about searching for an apartment in Wichita, as someone who is out of state.
I am currently out of state and hope to live near one of the universities for about only a couple of months.
If there are apartments that will let me have a lease for month to month that would be great, but I was wondering how to find students that need someone to cover their lease for them during the summer.
(Usually universities have apps that all the students can discuss on but am not a student so I don't know how to get access).
What would be the best way to find an apartment in Wichita, as soon as possible.
Thank you for any advice!
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2023.06.07 23:54 jcl274 New original cabin just arrived! Was a bit nervous ordering from an EU store
I (live in the US) ordered this original cabin from an online store based in Luxemborg because it was an unbelievable price - €884 (approx $945) vs ~$1500 from the official Rimowa US store (including tax). Was a bit nervous about it but I couldn’t pass up an opportunity saving nearly $600. Well luckily it arrived today in perfect condition! I ended up paying duty on it which was around $250 so my total savings is around ~$350, which is still well worth it for me. Based on this transaction I’m going to order an essential check size M in black from the same store!
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2023.06.07 23:53 Appropriate_Bid_4582 My cousin touched me
Hello so a while back I lived in my aunt's house and I used to sleep in the girls's room while the boys (10m) and (16m) slept in the boys's room. This incident started last year but my brain was in denial and thought of it as a dream. So I thought I had these weird dreams of someone touching me first my feet then it progressed to my private parts it was a weird dream to have but it always started with my blanket being pulled away slowly, I know you will ask how will I not wake up to that but trust me I can sleep through anything, I was a very deep sleeper. Then one day I saw my little cousin the (10m) who was leaning on my blanket like he was looking for something I thought he was looking for Lola our cat who loved me so much that she liked sleeping with me. I told him Lola left and she is not here, his reaction was different like someone who was caught stealing he screamed a little looking all shocked and ran outside. I thought that was strange but I didn’t think of anything. It happened again after somedays I woke up told him the same thing like last time and he ran away line last time too. I was really surprised and wondered what he was doing in our room and near my bed. Then one day It was summer so school was off so everyone was home and I was sleeping when I felt someone touching my private part, I slowly opened my eyes still thinking it was a dream and saw someone with white shirt touching me I couldn’t see the face clearly because I was half a sleep and I didn’t yet process and I woke up he was already gone but I knew it wasn’t a dream. I felt so vulnerable and scared at first I thought it was my uncle to his room but he wasn’t there everyone was sleeping I checked the older boy and he was still sleeping, the girls were sleeping too I ran downstairs and that’s when I saw my cousin (10m) on the couch wearing a white shirt playing video games and it dawn on me that my dreams were not just dream but it actually happened and he wasn’t looking for Lola but came to touch me. I was confused he was freaking 10!! . I was so shocked and very sad.I. Don’t know how many evil things he did to me that I don’t remember. I went to the bathroom to puke and cry. I didn’t know who to tell of for that matter if anyone would believe me. When I was 7 one of my older cousin who is not the same family as the above was playing with me and then he took me to bed while he was unzipping his pants I ran outside, that memory was still in my head I didn’t know 9 years later I would be in the same situation this time older, I felt so weak I didn’t tell anyone the first time but I was younger this time am older but am not strong I guess. Maybe it is in my head and it is not that big of a deal. I need advice I can barely sleep without jolting in my sleep. Am a light sleeper now and wake up to every move. I dont live in that house anymore.
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2023.06.07 23:53 SubstantialAmoeba347 Lost Kitty (Harlow)
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My elderly calico, Yuffie, got out and she is missing. She would have gotten out sometime on the 6th. She is indoor only, and since we live so near Harlow road, I'm scared for her. She also has never been around dogs. She has no collar (too chonky). She is getting senile. She also has a skin condition on her back that she bites at because of anxiety. She is my baby and my emotional support. Please let me know here if you've seen her. Thank you! submitted by SubstantialAmoeba347 to Eugene [link] [comments]
2023.06.07 23:53 AlexDickle Help finding the right bike for my needs.
As the title says I'm looking for help finding the right E-bike for my needs and I feel lost in a sea of information when I try googling stuff myself. Pertinent info: I live in the Seattle Washington area, so my bike can't be more then 750watts pedal assisted. Nothing higher than a Class 3 E-bike. My intended, near daily, commute would be about 20 miles-ish in total; lots of hills too because I'm in the Seattle area. Thank you to any and all users that can point me in the right direction.
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2023.06.07 23:52 love-foodandtravel Advice needed about MOH
I'm am in the midst of wedding planning and have decided on my bridal party. My future SIL and 4 very close friends as bridesmaids. I am however in a bit of a predicament regarding my MOH.
Potential MOH and I have been friends since we were in school (around 18 years), we used to be best best friends but as we've gotten older and life has got in the way, we've drifted apart a bit. I now feel she has many 'best friends' rather than me being her best friend and for a long time I still classed her as my best friend but in reality it isn't true anymore and I've had to come to terms with that which I struggled with for a few years.
We can go weeks without talking and most the time it's me who reaches out first and I do get this 'main character' vibe from her. My other friends and I have this lovely friendship where we respect one another, ask how each other are and its just a lovely positive environment. I don't feel I get that from her.
I have felt for quite a long time that I don't know if I want to continue our friendship. I won't go into all the details but I just don't feel I get positivity from it and I've reached that point in my life where I want to surround myself in positive relationships. Alot of the time I feel like I am a bit of an inconvenience to her (I suffer from anxiety so I know I can be hard work at times with my worrying and reassurance seeking) she can sometimes make comments to me which make me feel a bit shit about myself and I do feel like most of the time it's me who puts in more effort. She's not done any one bad thing as such, it's just lots of little things that bug me and I find myself getting annoyed nearly every time I talk to her and end up venting to my other half.
Recently we had dinner with her and she made a shitty comment that my fiance also heard and he had to stick up for me. I'm too nice and avoid conflict 😂
That being said, we have been friends for a long time and I do feel sad for thinking these things and wonder if I'm being too sensitive/harsh and I would feel sad in a way if we lost our friendship.
She is getting married next year and asked me to be her 'Co-MOH'. I am also getting married next year, 2 months before her and I'm torn on what to do. In all honesty if it wasn't for the weddings, I'd probably be trying to take a bit of a step back from the friendship but I'm now in an awkward situation where I'm her MOH and feel I need to make her mine.
I can't explain but I keep having this niggle that I don't want her to be my MOH but I've already asked her informally if she would like to be a part of the bridal party and was due to ask her officially next week. I just can't shake this feeling of not being 100% happy with the decision. If I don't ask her, I don't know what I can now say and I don't know how I step back from being her MOH too and feel like that would just be the end of the friendship. But equally I don't want to regret asking her if somethings telling me not too. I feel like natural instinct is important also.
I also feel she hasn't shown that much excitement for my wedding tbh. And as the weddings are close together and both abroad, I do also think it'll be stress and financial stress on both parties if we are each others MOH.
What would you do? Has anyone been in this situation before?
Thank you and sorry for the long post!
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2023.06.07 23:52 buccanearsfan24 Tips & Tricks for Solo Flawless Ghosts of the Deep w/ Arc Hunter
Greeting raidsecrets, I figured I'd post my tips & tricks along with the build that I ran that got me my solo flawless. Hoping this helps for those who might be struggling!
Lengthy detailed post ahead about my run and how I did each encounter. This will be focusing on just the Ecthar and final boss encounters. I achieved my solo flawless run on my Arc Hunter with Assassin’s Cowl build. This build will keep you healed up, keep you invisible so you're safe from enemies shooting at you, and takes use of Gathering Storm which makes doing boss dmg easy. 😃
This is my general Assassin's Cowl build and we'll be changing some stuff out for each encounter: https://dim.gg/cssas7y/Arc
- I was 1822 power level when doing this. (1810 + 12 bonus power)
- For all 3 encounters, I used double specials with at least ONE One Two Punch (OTP) shotgun in either slot for maximum heavy ammo drops.
- This build's main focus is just trying to keep Combination Blow x3 up as often as possible to maximize ad clear, majominiboss kills, and for survivability (invis and heals).
- For the opening encounter I ran around with Wastelander w/OTP, Coldheart, and an Eager Edge Sword. Feel free to use whatever weapons you prefer here, but def keep at least a OTP shotgun on you.
For Ecthar and the things/mods that would need to be changed from what’s shown on the build in the DIM link:
- I ran around with 2 shotguns, both with OTP, then used Lament as my heavy for boss dps.
- On your chest piece you want one arc resist, one lucent blade (this will help with your sword block regen for Lament’s damage rotation), and concussive dampener (this helps with the boss stomps when in their super mode and any moth explosions that may occur). And on your boots you want 2 Solar Surges for extra Lament damage during boss dps.
- Put as much mobility on as you can while staying at 100 resil, because in the water section down low to activate the symbols, it’s going to help staying away from the boss so they don’t damage you. My build had me at 76 so the boss was never a problem when trying to run away. I would recommend at least 50 mobility here, if you can't get 50 with just using stat mods, feel free to run a Font of Agility for the extra 30 mobility when you have an armor charge.
- To start, build up your combo blow x3 with acolyte powered melee kills. Once you get x3, go around and kill each knight with a OTP shotgun shot, dodge, and melee hit. The jolt from lethal current should kill the knights, then do the same when the ogre spawns. Feel free to kill an acolyte nearby to refresh combo blow x3 and to go invis as you go along. After the ogre is dead head down to the middle to activate the deepsight to see what symbols are needed to be activated in the water section.
- For the water section, what helped me the most and to make sure I knew what symbols I had I would talk out loud to myself what symbols I needed. I would then use/reference this map on a secondary monitor to navigate the water for symbol activation. After you successfully located and marked all 3 symbols, it's time to go back up top into the boss room.
- 3 wizards should have spawned and you must kill each lucent wizard and collect their visages. I like killing one at a time, collecting their visage, then move to the next one, then the 3rd one. Quickest way to kill the wizards are going to be with your OTP shotgun and combo blow x3 with lethal current active.
- My rotation for killing the wizards: Building up combo blow x3, charge melee kill a 4th enemy to go invis (which will then refund my dodge), dodge near the wizard to proc lethal current and to refund my charged melee, shoot wizard with OTP shotgun, melee the wizard, and then finish the wizard. This should "1 shot" the wizard due to the damage of the punch and shotgun plus the jolt from lethal current. After the finisher, then repeat that process on the all 3 wizards, then go dunk. Then deposit your visages at each statue and be sure you are ending on one of the side ones. Keep up your Combo Blow x3 while going to each statue.
- After you’ve deposited your 3rd visage, get another powered melee acolyte kill to go invis and to refund your dodge. Run down the stairs and dodge past/next to Ecthar to get your charged melee back + lethal current. Shoot the knight that spawns with your OTP shotgun, melee the knight and it should die from the jolt explosion if your combo blow x3 is up.
- Once the knight is down and you’re standing in its pool, immediately turn around to face the boss and throw your Gathering Storm super (this should help with getting his shield down quick) switch to lament and then wait for the boss to run to you or run to the boss. Once the boss is on you throw your pulse nade at your feet for extra damage on the boss.
- My rotation I used on the boss for Lament to keep my health up as much as possible and to do get quick but strong dmg was: Block, Rev’d Light Attack, Rev’d Light Attack, Rev’d Heavy Attack, then a normal Light Attack, and another normal Light Attack. Repeat. If you can land this combo consistently it will net you a 4 phase but if not it’s a guaranteed 5 phase. If you start taking too much damage or feel like you might die during this do not feel discouraged to disengage and either kill a nearby acolyte with your charged melee for invis & heal or just dip into the water (I would sometimes have to do this -AFTER- the boss goes immune to save my ass lol).
- This fight took me 5 phases due to the combo not always landing correctly. The reason being is I would just phase thru Ecthar and miss, or it do that laggy thing where he'd teleport like 2 feet behind me but overall it was very consistent on damage.
- Knights are the biggest factor in taking damage here during boss dps. Sometimes they like to artillery strike you from the stairs (worst outcome), sometimes they’ll run at you and you can kill them with Lament when you’re dps’ing the boss (better outcome), or they just won’t bother with you at all until dmg phase is over (best outcome). More often than not they will usually arty strike from the stairs. So be cautious.
- For this entire encounter keep Combination Blow x3 up as much as possible as this will allow you to one shot all acolytes in the arena. Land your shotgun shots for OTP, and make sure to get lethal current up as this will basically “one shot” the lucent wizards, knights, and ogres. And as a reminder these kills will keep you invisible as well as heal you whenever you need it, makes navigating the arena just that much safer.
For the final encounter on the build as well things that would need to be changed from what’s shown on the DIM link:
Proof 1 Proof 2 Dungeon Report
- So for this encounter I ran Arby, OTP energy shotgun, and an explosive light rocket with tracking for boss damage. If you don’t have a rocket with explosive and track, ascendancy is in the kiosk at the tower where you can claim past seasonal exotics and legendaries. Main thing for this loadout is to again rock double specials and making sure one of them is a OTP shotgun to help with majors and mini bosses (the lucent hive).
- If rockets aren’t your play or don’t feel comfortable, linears (vorpal, frenzy, bait and switch, etc) will be your next best option, followed by a machine gun (vorpal, target lock, killing tally).
- On the chest piece make sure you have 2 arc resists on (for the boss when she shoots at you) and a concussive dampener. There seems to be some talk about moths ignoring resists, but in my runs it seems the concussive dampener actually helps with this. On the boots use the surge to whatever element your heavy is, mine was Arc cause of Hothead.
- When the battle starts head over to Oryx’s right hand, wait for the ads to spawn. Powered melee kill them to get your combo blow x3 going. Keep up combo blow x3 as much as possible to stay invis from the boss as much as you can during this encounter.
- After you’ve gotten combo blow x3, you’ll want to clear out and kill the 3 major knights in the arena. First one should be near you down by Oryx’s right knee, then the 2nd one will be over by Oryx’s left hand (near where you enteplace down the rally flag), then the final one will be up at the top by Oryx’s head. After you’ve killed all 3 knights activate the deepsight (melee kill an acolyte to go invis so the boss doesn’t blast you while you activate it). Map of the arena for reference.
- Locate which limbs you need to activate. It will always be chest/heart + 2 other limbs, and you must always activate one of the other 2 limbs first. For whatever reason doing chest first doesn’t work when I was doing my runs. When activating the limbs, you don’t actually have to kill Vorlog within the circle that glows (I initially thought you had to), just make sure you're standing in the glowing circle when you kill Vorlog.
- Now this is where Assassin’s Cowl comes into play very nicely for this encounter. Every time you complete the “look thru the circle and line up the symbol” at each limb, the boss likes to spawn those nuke moths. If you complete a limb while invis, these moths will -DESPAWN-. This is a massive benefactor to this fight simply cause you do not have to deal with the moths that are shoot at you. Another note: if you complete a limb and then go invis right after with a melee kill, the moths will spawn but they won’t track for you and will instead just track to a hive npc to give them the shield.
- Once you have all 3 limbs activated it's time to grab visages from the lucent hive. My method was always killing the 3 lucent hive in the exact same order every phase (from hardest to kill to easiest to kill for me) so I knew when I was about to start dps phase. My order was Knight 1st > Acolyte 2nd > Wizard last Every. Single. Time. I always found the knight to be the toughest of the 3 due to the double shield throw and melee/slam damage the knight likes to do. I would usually try to shoot him first while clearing out the ads so he would super and I wouldn't have to worry about a potential death from the shield throws.
- When entering in the area to kill the lucent hive I -ALWAYS- said to myself out loud the symbol a bunch of times so I knew where I was dunking it at. Then before finishing the lucent ghost I would look at it one more time and continue to say it out loud as I killed the ghost. Feel free to type it in the chat, but speaking it out loud helped with remembering it much better for me. Also, same as the Ecthar fight I would build up my combo blow x3 to clear out the acolytes, run up to the lucent hive, dodge for jolt, shoot a OTP shotgun shot, then 2 melee hits to kill.
- After killing the lucent hive and was back in the main boss area I made sure to melee kill an acolyte for invis, go activate deepsite while invis, then dunk the symbol while invis as well. You should have plenty of time between, but if not just get another melee kill to refresh invis.
- Once the 3rd symbol is dunked or you're heading to dunk it make sure you're invis. Once dunked pull out arby, hit the boss once to get rid of the shield, and throw your Gathering Storm super at the boss right after.
- Now here’s where it can get tricky cause I wiped a couple times due to this cause I used rockets. When doing heavy weapon dps on the boss, be sure to clear out any ads (especially thralls) at your feet before starting for extra orbs for surge dmg if you need it.
- Now, when going to shoot your rockets (if you’re using them) either jump up on an area where thralls can’t get you easily or jump and shoot around in the arena (I did a mix of both). This helps with not killing yourself by shooting an ad in your face.
- Another thing to note, when going to shoot your rocket (if you’re using one) make sure the boss is actually shooting at you or else she’ll move and dodge the rocket. Her shooting at you allows you actually land your shots cause she won’t be moving around actively trying to dodge your rockets/shots.
- Rinse and repeat these steps and you should be good. This took me 4 times/phases to beat and just over 90 minutes to complete.
- -DONT FORGET TO FINISH THE BOSSES-
Let me know if you have any questions about it! Took me about 8 hours of grinding over the course of 2 days this past weekend to get thru this dungeon solo flawless.
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2023.06.07 23:50 Rossilaz Why is much of modern society so hateful, and why do people refuse to think more critically?
Over the last few months and years, I have found it increasingly more difficult to avoid people who seem to do nothing but hate others.
The modern internet is the worst example possible. Whatever you post on the internet these days, you will be faced with unrelenting hatred and threats if you do not fall into a very specific "normal."
The issue here is inherently political. I shall try to not be too biased, but my opinion will undoubtedly shine .
When it comes to the internet, if you happen to be Gay, Transgender, Black or any other oppressed group you will not be able to go very far without seeing a comment about how you are "wrong" or "unnatural"
One specific issue I have noticed is racist "jokes" on social media whenever a Black person is in an image or video. You'll find comments of people playing the character of an old white man represented by 👴 and putting out racist statements that are framed as jokes but never seem to be anything more than a poor attempt at disguised racism.
Another issue is just the word "woke" and all that surrounds it in its widely used definition. If any content is "queer" or could even possibly, by any stretch, suggest "queerness," that content will be ravaged with people who seemingly just hate for the sake of hating.
These people say horrible things, and are near impossible to argue with or suggest any view other than their very strict, hateful one.
My question here is,
Why do people hate others with no critical thought, spreading ange and hurting people for no reason? And why is this so extremely widespread? This issue depresses me.
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2023.06.07 23:50 Queenanthropocene Squirrel funeral
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I think I just witnessed a squirrel funeral and I am beside myself 😭 There were 4 squirrels near the body before I accidentally spooked one away by walking by... 2 of them (one that I frightened) looked like juveniles... Maybe this was a parent. I googled if squirrels mourn their dead and there's a lot of evidence that they do- by reducing activity/staying with the body for a few days, grooming the deceased squirrel, vocalizing and gathering other squirrels. This appeared to me to be a little family who lost a loved one. submitted by Queenanthropocene to squirrels [link] [comments]
IM NOT CRYING YOURE CRYING!!!
2023.06.07 23:49 AdHot2640 Will banks consider before tax super contributions for next year's income?
I have a sole trader business that has made me $212,000 profit which counts towards my personal tax. This is a contract and is guaranteed till 2025. Likely next contract after this will be 10 years and will be ongoing as long as the work is satisfactory.
To reduce this personal tax, I intend to put 75k before tax into super using the super rollover from previous years.
Next financial year, I will be putting the business into a company. The reasoning behind this is I intend to purchase a land asset. Suppose I get a loan from a bank personally. I pay tax on my income and then put money into the loan. At the same time, a company can put before-tax money into the loan. Meaning I could put the 47% tax money into the loan instead. Giving the company nearly 47% more buying power(forgetting we have a progressive tax system)
So instead of paying personal tax on the $212,000. I would be paying 19% on a salary of 45k. 20% on fringe benefit tax items, i.e., car, phone, etc., and then full $27,500 super a year.
This means the loan would have to be to the company, although I would be happy to go as a guarantor for the company.
The banks with the lowest rates seem primary online and are difficult to explain, not in person.
Eventually, I intend to continue buying assets through the company and using the small business rollovers to defer Capital Gains Tax and then sell it all at 55, having owned it for 15 years and not paying any CGT.
I have four main questions
- Will the banks take the super contribution into account as, in the future, this is a voluntary payment and would be made into a loan instead?
- Is it worthwhile to go through a mortgage broker as it is a complex scenario?
- Is this the best tax plan for this sort of scenario?
- Is it worth going, personal guarantor? They likely will only do this if they suggest it.
Thank you for your time. Additional information that may be useful. I have no debts. (I paid my hits this year, which is good as I likely won't use my degree) Asset-wise, I have two cars and 10k in computers. A downside of in-person meetings is that I am young, 24 years old, and some people would see that and not take me as seriously regardless of my on-paper cash flow and deposit from the business.
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2023.06.07 23:49 Low-Selection-5446 Trying to get out of a department is impossible at Stop and Shop
I’ve been working in Peapod Online Pickup since February 2021 and it was great the first year or so of it but then we got a really shitty full timer who micromanaged everyone in the department and would constantly snitch on part timers who messed up at all. This has made me dread going to my job and it gives me massive anxiety even being near the store on my days off. Needless to say I’ve been trying to ask the management to transfer me to pushing carts or cashiering and I’ve asked 3 store managers now (we’ve had 3 store managers within the past year now) the first two told me no cause they were short staffed but the third was a little better and told me I could cashier but if Peapod gets slammed with orders that I must go back and do that job while it’s slammed. I’m about to just say screw it and quit cause I don’t want any part of Online Pickup at all. What should I do?
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2023.06.07 23:48 Brazen-Frontier Considering Switching from PhD to Masters (Chemistry)
I never thought I'd be typing these words: I have the sweetest PI in the world, I'm supported by the NSF-GRFP, and my lab mates are some of the greatest folks I've ever had the pleasure of working with. I'm just under two years in: finished my classes, formal teaching requirements, and candidacy exam. And yet, I feel utterly dead inside. None of my projects are working, a recent paper I submitted (with my prof's blessing) was rejected by 3/4 reviewers for low novelty/technical quality, the ideas I generate on my own are published by other researchers (and I find out after-the-fact, as evidenced by the manuscript rejection), and my near obsession to publish, publish, publish (I have a few second/third/fourth author papers) has left me floundering. I just feel lost, confused, and burnt out as hell.
For those who have been in my shoes, is this just the post-candidacy slump? At this point, is it worth it to persevere through 3 more years? For those who switched to a masters track, was it difficult to find a job? Do you regret your decision(s)?
Everything I've written may very well be an emotional response to a really rough past two months. Currently, I'm leaning towards staying, as I don't even know what kind of industry/government job(s) I'd be qualified for with a master's degree.
If anyone has any words of advice, encouragement, direction, whatever: please share them. Thank you so much in advance.
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2023.06.07 23:46 afflictedspeck I (29M) am considering ending the relationship with my (27F) girlfriend of 1.5 years after her roommate (25F) threatened me and we got into a huge fight
I would really appreciate some help here. I’m at a loss on what to do. Apologies for the really long post, TLDR below.
TLDR; I’m considering ending a relationship of 1.5 years with my girlfriend after her roommate and I got into several fights this past weekend over moving a couch into their apartment. Her roommate prohibited me from stepping foot inside ever again, threatened to call the cops on me, threatened to lawyer up, and accused me of aggravating her. She might have also punctured one of my car’s tires as it was flat the following day in their parking lot. My girlfriend has continuously said she understands the situation and will be coming to my place going forward, but I’m afraid of what might happen in the future since she shares her location with her roommate, have been friends for 17 years, have a matching tattoo together, and the roommate has shown to be a very explosive and volatile person. Her roommate has also been convicted in the past for assault and I’m afraid of what she might do. I feel like I don’t fully know my girlfriend and don’t know how to move forward. Should I leave the relationship or continue to fight?
A bit of a background
My girlfriend, let’s call her Ana, and I have been together for 1.5 years. We met through a cousin of mine at an outing back in December 2021 and started dating right away. Ana is caring, loyal, and has always listened to what I have to say. Our relationship has gone through some challenges, but nothing we have not talked through and somewhat agreed on - we see life differently to some extent when it comes to matters like politics and religion but have always sat down to talk through and resolve those issues. My parents did not get a good impression of Ana when I introduced them to each other, but she has worked hard to do so ever since. When we met I also asked her to go back to school to keep pursuing her degree, which she had stopped years ago, but listened to me and is currently on her second semester. It is important to note that Ana (and Betty, shortly introduced) was in a religion for 22 years that prohibited her from making friends outside of it. She left 5 years ago and had to cut all communication with her family.
While together, in June last year, I bought an apartment and moved about 1.5 hours north of her to be closer to my job. Ever since that happened we have had this sort of long distance relationship where we only see each other on the weekends - every other weekend Ana comes to visit me, staying overnight, while I do the same the weekends she does not.
Ana was living in an apartment by herself up until two months ago, when her lease was over and the landlord increased her rent by 30% or so. She had to go somewhere and asked if we could live together, to which I declined as I did not think we were ready - moving in together has been something I’ve refused to do because of a very sour experience with an ex-girlfriend. Since that was not an option, Ana decided to move into a new apartment with one of her best friends, Betty, who I barely knew. They decided to move about 30 minutes closer to me. Betty promised Ana she would take care of her, to some extent, by paying more than half of the rent and covering the security deposit. Ana does not make much money and has racked up some credit card debt which she is managing now, so the arrangement made her financially happy. It’s sort of important to note, however, that with the new arrangement Ana is paying about the same monthly rent. I helped her move out and into the new place with two other friends.
Betty and Ana have known each other for 17 or so years. They have traveled together and even during our relationship Ana, during the weekdays, has visited Betty overnight to watch movies and whatnot, without me there. At the start of our relationship Ana refused presenting me to Betty several times despite my insistence, because Betty had had serious fallouts with two of Ana’s friends and she was afraid I might not like her. Before meeting Betty I had a sense I would not like her when I noticed that Ana, when Betty texted, was afraid of not replying right away, which I thought was odd. I confronted her but she always ignored what I was saying. Other friends of Ana’s had also noticed the same. I ended up meeting Betty six months or so after Ana and I started dating, which was right after Betty’s ex broke up with her after almost five years of a verbal- and physically abusive relationship. Betty, I recently found out, has even been to jail before due to explosive episodes that have ended in physical aggression, and is currently trying to expunge her records. She was also adopted as a kid and her adoptive father has beat her for years in different occasions. Betty and I only hung out then, when we met for the first time, and one other time two months after, for her birthday. I never had any sort of altercation with her, but noticed she always had some fight with someone, always talking down on people and blaming others for her tragedies. Something that took me by surprise last year was when my girlfriend and Betty went one day to a tattoo parlor and got the same exact tattoo in the forearm as a sign of their friendship. Up until then my girlfriend only had two other tattoos that were very small - one by her ankle and another one by her ribcage. This one that she got with Betty is the only truly visible one. That day I remember being extremely surprised when she showed it to me, seeing how she had not even mentioned she was going to get a tattoo, but comes home with the biggest one she has had, and on the forearm.
Fast forward to Saturday: Betty and I lose it with each other
Moving forward to last weekend, I visited Ana at her apartment for only the second time in the last two months after she moved in. I drove over Saturday early in the morning and was greeted by my girlfriend making breakfast for me and her roommate. We all ate and Betty asked to spend the day with us, since she needed to go to the library to study for an exam, which my girlfriend and I had planned on doing, so that she could study for one of her classes. They also made me aware of a couch one of Betty’s friends was giving her for free, and Betty asked for my help to pick it up later. The day went well at the library (4 or so hours) but started to shift when we went out for late lunch after - Betty asked for spicy wings at a local bar and threw a fit when the wings came with not sauce, calling the manager of the place and insulting the cooks and staff. After that ordeal we went to UHAUL to rent a truck for the couch. Like idiots, we ended up breaking what we thought was the ignition key (it wasn’t, just an attached key for the back doors) inside the car’s key hole. This sent Betty screaming and insulting me, out of the blue, calling me an idiot and other words I cannot recall. I yelled back at her which only escalated the situation. UHAUL management stepped in and they got us a pickup truck at no additional cost. We live in a big city in South Florida. I drove with Ana in the middle seat and Betty on the passenger side for about 40 minutes to pick up the couch. It is 10PM on the dot when we get to the community where Betty’s friend lives. A security guard, as I parked the truck, approached us to say the HOA does not allow trucks at that time. Betty starts insulting him several times as I drive away and parked about half a block from the community, at a plaza right next to it. We proceeded, for the next two hours, to carry out the couch from a second floor to the first, moving it over a 5 feet wall (with me jumping over) to avoid going around the community, then walking with it for half a block and than putting it on the bed of the pickup truck. All in 90 degree humid weather.
As I am sweating and huffing while fastening the couch on the bed of the truck by myself, with Betty and Ana talking by the side of the truck, I notice Betty looks tired and miserable, to which I asked jokingly “why the long face?”. Betty proceeds to tell me I am not being funny with that question and starts to yell at Ana, saying how she is useless, how she herself (Betty) had to do everything regarding the couch and no one helped her, how “her man” (meaning me) was not able to afford a couch for her, and other stuff I cannot remember. She called me an idiot, and called me slick, and said I was not funny with my stupid jokes, and kept yelling I was not helpful. I started to yell back at her saying how it had been six hours since we had been helping her. I also, at that point, lost it all and said “where are your friends right now to help you? Holy shit, I am literally on the bed of this truck fastening your couch and you are so ungrateful”. I was yelling as she was yelling back, and in that moment the yelling match turned something like the following:
Betty - “you are so fucking useless, IT’S ALWAYS ME GETTING SHIT DONE, no help from anyone, ALWAYS ME”
Me - “what the fuck are you talking about? We are LITERALLY helping you right now, what the fuck”
Ana - “guys please stop, can’t we all just get along, please?”
Betty - “Bro you are not funny man, who the fuck said you are? I am so tired of your shit, your stupid comments and jokes throughout the day”
Me - “where the fuck are your friends to help you? You are so fucking ungrateful; you jump from dick to dick and will never find love, you have no fucking friends”
Betty - “WHAT THE FUCK. Your bitch is a whore man, she doesn’t even wear condoms. A fucking whore and a fucking submissive bitch, that’s why you are with her”
Ana - “guys please stop”
Me - “Don’t you fucking dare talk about Ana that way, be fucking respectful”
Betty - “A fucking whore is what she is, and submissive, and worthless”
At that point we are yelling at each other and Betty starts saying that I am assaulting her, and threatens to call the cops. She grabs her phone to make a call and I start filming with mine, making it very clear that at no point have I put my hands on her or planning to, at all. She starts yelling at me for recording her and bring up her lawyers and the cops, and how recording her without her consent is illegal. We are calling each other names and I continue to film. She is also in disbelief at how my girlfriend is “not defending HER”. In reality Ana was trying to stay out of it.
Needless to say, the way back to their apartment with the couch was extremely uncomfortable. It was very quiet for the first 20 minutes until Ana asked us why we can’t just get along, which made Betty go off again, yelling at how I am slick, worthless, and so many names I cannot remember. Betty said she does not want me to step foot in HER house, and continued to say she would break the lease and have my girlfriend’s stuff out of her place. When we got to the apartment I let them carry the couch inside and asked my girlfriend to bring my stuff (a backpack and a duffle bag) out of the apartment. I did not want to step foot inside for my own safety. Betty does not have a gun but I am sure she would have used it if she did, either to threaten or God knows what. As I was leaning on the frame of the door Betty asked if I would come in, to which I said no, and she also slammed the door on my face and prevented Ana from opening it, positioning herself in front of the door and yelling that “if she steps foot outside she would kick her out” to which I kept yelling that Ana is also in the lease. When Betty opened the door I told her I would call the cops if she tried one more time to hold Ana hostage inside. She went off again and threatened to lawyer up and kick Ana out. After much yelling and cries from Betty, I ended up stepping inside, closing the door behind me, and talking to them both to de-escalate the situation.
At this point it is 2AM and after much yelling I apologize to my girlfriend’s roommate for stepping over the line when I basically called her a whore. I was a total piece of shit in that regard and sincerely felt like apologizing. Betty did not apologize but she said I could stay over. She said she will forget about the whole situation and that all she needed was to cry and get over what I had said. She went to the balcony to smoke weed and I left the apartment to basically cry out of frustration. Ana followed me and after 30 minutes or so talking outside I told her I had to leave. I did not feel safe sleeping over and did not know if I could ever feel safe again in that space. I walked over to my car and drove home for an hour. I went to bed at 3:30AM and woke up at 6:50AM, took a shower, and headed back to my girlfriend’s apartment complex to return the truck which we had to do by 9AM.
Sunday: flat tire and location sharing
It’s now Sunday morning. I get to my girlfriend’s apartment at 8:15AM, where I leave my car parked, and with her on the passenger seat drive over to the UHAUL, which is about 20 minutes away, to return the truck. Everything is done on time and after getting my girlfriend’s car from the UHAUL parking lot we stop at a diner to have breakfast. We get back to her apartment at around 10:20AM and by 10:25AM we are driving over to my place, each of us in separate cars. About 10 minutes after leaving I get a flat tire notification on my car’s dashboard and pull over at a near gas station to see what was going on. The car had gone from 35PSI in one of the rear tires all the way to 15, and kept going down. I end up driving the car over to a TiresPlus close by, which later confirmed the flat tire was due to a hole on the outside which “had been caused by an object that went in and out, more than likely a screwdriver or a knife”. Needless to say I had to pay ~$200 for a new tire.
I told Ana there is no way this was coincidence and that I suspected Betty had done something to that tire. She said she did not think it could have been the case since there is no way Betty knew where I parked. I did not think that logic made sense since Betty knows exactly what car I drive and she was in the apartment, in her room, when Ana and I left earlier to return the truck. She basically had two hours to do anything. On top of that, I found out that Ana actively shares her location with Betty via iMessage, and vice versa. Ana and I also have that sort of arrangement. They have been doing it for years.
Ana and I spent the Sunday sleeping at my apartment pretty much. I could not get the situation out of my head and barely slept, but being together made me feel better. We talked about the future extensively and Ana promised me that she will cut all communication with Betty once the lease is over, but currently there is nothing she can do. She also brought up living together again, and the following day also told me how she was looking into jobs that are close to my place.
Monday: going on a break with Ana
Ana went to work on Monday morning (5AM) from my house and I worked from home. I did not get anything done thinking about the whole situation and later in the afternoon Ana and I continued to talk about it. Later at night, as Ana was sending me text messages on how she was cleaning the house, Betty was also posting on social media about it. I told the whole story to my best friend who seemed mortified about the situation and asked me to be careful. Monday night I sent Ana a long message explaining that I need some time to think about our relationship. I said that I could not trust her judgement and was afraid for what might happen if she still hangs with this crazy person not now, but in the future as we think of a life together. Will she be at our wedding? At her birthday parties? Will she be involved in our lives? Even though she has told me she will not, I know that Ana has been well aware of how Betty is but nothing has changed in their friendship these past 17 years. It has only become stronger.
Ana was very hurt from my message and called me right away. After a one hour conversation where she pushed me to decide on breaking up or continue the relationship she hung up when I told her to please give me until Friday. She does not understand how it is that I am re-thinking our relationship if it is that I love her. I do care so much about her, but have not been able to move past what happened and the fear that she might introduce me to similarly dangerous people or environments, be it with Betty or with someone else, is severely impacting my ability to think there is a future here. To keep the story short this is the third time Ana has tried to, or has introduced me to, people or situations that pose a danger to me and her. I also have not been able to get out of my head how it is that she is friends with this person, Betty, who is so visibly crazy and with whom she has a matching tattoo, years of friendship, experiences, etc.
Tuesday: Ana’s early morning call and social media login attempt
At 7:30AM of Tuesday, as I was getting ready for work, Ana called me to tell me she was sorry for blocking me on social media and on iMessage. By doing that I no longer have access to her location. I was not aware since she had done that at night, after I had asked for some time. She told me she “did not want me to think the posts from her story were directed toward me”. She also told me that “she wanted to have some sort of control seeing how I was having her wait for a decision and felt lost”. She also confessed she could not sleep and had gotten to work very early, thinking through everything in her car at her workplace parking lot. Ana begged me to please consider our relationship and after trying on the phone we hung up for the day, and have not talked since.
After hanging out with Ana I noticed I also had an unread message of a login attempt into my Instagram. That was never happened before and my mind instantly went to Betty. At this point I might be overthinking, however, after such an awful experience.
I am in a situation where I have to decide whether to have Ana move in with me, live with the fact that she is with a psycho for the next ten months, or simply leave it all behind despite how much I care about her. I don’t know if I am ignoring some red flags and that’s really the reason why I needed the time and am seeking some help on here. I don’t know if I am in the wrong and would like some clarification because I truly feel so lost. Ana has done so much for me in the sense that she listens and I know she loves me, but I am just afraid of her judgement and what she might bring into the relationship in the future. I also feel like I don’t know her like I thought.
Should I lie the relationship or continue to fight? Would sincerely, wholeheartedly appreciate some advice.
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2023.06.07 23:45 gray_squirrels Ways to help, comfort, and support an autistic child.
I currently work in child care and there is this young girl who has yet to be diagnosed, (roughly 5 and not in school until the fall), but I think she has autism spectrum disorder, and so do some of my other older coworkers. I myself may be on the spectrum but I was always functioning well in school and my family doesn't have insurance to cover an actual diagnosis. My symptoms are not nearly as severe as hers, but I feel a close connection with her because I can understand how she feels much of the time.
She of course gets overwhelmed at the daycare center I work at when kids look or stare at her, point at her, are too loud, touch her, or are just doing wild kid things. She has difficulty with change, trouble following directions (but all the kids in my group do so she doesn't stand out in that way), and she often has meltdowns. She has trouble using the bathroom (sometimes she forgets to ask to use the bathroom and just doesn't go when she needs to), she doesn't have any good friends that she plays with (but she often feels content by herself), and she usually hates sharing anything.
So what I am getting at, is that I would like to help her the best ways I can. I try to be extra gentle with her, I let her be alone and independent when she needs to be, but I'd like to help her more in any way I can because I'll be spending the entire summer with her and her peers at this daycare.
Any parents of autistic children, autistic people who may have some insight, etc., what are some ways that I can help this child during her meltdowns, when she is overwhelmed and overstimulated, and struggling with change? Maybe you have tips or exercises for me. Even if she does not get diagnosed with asd before school starts, I think any answer may be helpful.
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