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2013.01.08 22:36 DaedalusMinion Reserving judgement is a matter of infinite hope
Subreddit dedicated to both the book and the movie.
2021.01.15 23:49 ScreamingVegetable Muppets Great Gatsby
Thousands of people have already urged Disney to produce a Muppets adaptation of F. Scott Fitzgerald's classic "The Great Gatsby." Join their voices and show Disney that you want to see this film happen!
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2023.05.30 21:56 JesusIsComing999 Strategy Adaptation
Strategy Adaptation Nen-Type: Enhancement Description: this ability allows the user to uncannily improve in strategy and tactics with every winning battle. This ability seem to be so great due to a harsh restriction the user has placed on themself, which is that they would commit suicide if they were to ever lose a battle.
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2023.05.30 21:55 lackingnormal Being Stretched Thin Regarding Character Progression
In any RGP with multiple playable characters, I will always bring my party up to level in the event I need to use someone for a particular situation. That habit of mine extends to HSR but I feel like I am being stretched thin so I have some questions.
To start, these are the characters that I currently have. All are level 30 with the expectation of Herta who is level 26 right now:
- Trailblazer (Physical)
- March
- Dan Heng
- Asta
- Serval
- Herta
- Natasha
- Clara
- Tingyun
- Qinque
- Sushang
My first question is from my list, Is there anyone I should prioritize? I want to make sure I am making good use of my time and resources.
My second question is regarding elements. I have been swapping characters to respond to enemy weakness for every encounter so do certain elements appear more often than others? If so, should I build a team around that?
Lastly - is there anything general tips/tricks or things I should know as I continue with the game?
This is also my first time playing a gacha game and I will mostly be F2P so any and all help would be greatly appreciated.
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2023.05.30 21:55 ashasaidwhattt Went on a WeHo field trip the other night!
| i just moved to LA and am a HUGE bravo fan. i posted a pic with the toms 2 years ago (🤮) but I liked this shoot a lot better! we hung out in the alley and re-enacted our favorite scenes (LOL) and then a couple girls came up and asked if we wanted our picture taken. we even talked to them about scandoval for 10 minutes 😂 I forced my besties who are in these pics to watch the show so that i’d have someone besides this sub! 😂 submitted by ashasaidwhattt to BravoRealHousewives [link] [comments] |
2023.05.30 21:55 Maxpowh What's the most depraved grinding strat?
So I just finished grinding Anna to 10 in fire emblem Engage on Jean's paralogue, basically there is one cavalier who doesn't move so once I cleared all the other enemies i simply unequipped all my weapons and let my characters get hit to spam great sacrifice and heals, which got me thinking, what other unnecessary and stupid grinding strats are there in the Fire Emblem series? Share your experiences!
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2023.05.30 21:55 lightningmchowski125 $1,200 dollar budget trying to build a system that can do ray tracing
I have been fiddling around with PCPartPicker for the last few days trying to get something that can run ray tracing that isn't too unreasonably price. The build I was looking at is
https://pcpartpicker.com/list/pDwXTn I had a ryzen 7 5800x for my cpu, and a RTX 3060 for my gpu. The total price came out to around 1,400 dollars which I could pay but I'm second guessing myself on whether this is really the best thing to get. I just want to be able to run my games at 1440p if not 4k and have no issues with lag. I may get a lower power supply because I don't need 750w but idk I'm not very knowledgeable about this stuff so any advice would be great.
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2023.05.30 21:55 ZealousidealAd2374 I don't know if this is right place to post but I'm desperate. Looking for people who are familiar with oxygen and nitrogen on the body.
I had a weird physiological and psychological reaction coming down Pikes Peak. On the top of the mountain I indulged in an oxygen bar. I was on top of the mountain for about half a day then started my descent on the Cog railroad. Anyway, I started sweating, not like a little but enough to drench my clothes. It was like a switch was flipped and I felt like I was in a furnace. No one around me was warm, just me. Then I experienced something I can only describe as a highness or drunkenness, like being on marijuana or a strong drink. I started singing to the pine trees and got the giggles. I felt great, stoned, but great. Would anyone know what happened to me? I tried researching altitude sickness but it looks like it only happens when you to from low altitude to high altitude and the symptoms are different- nausea and such which I did not experience. If anyone would have any insight it would be appreciated. Also, drugs and alcohol were not involved, only oxygen.
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2023.05.30 21:55 Sabenja Grassroot Organizations in Uptown
Hello!
I live in Uptown and while I was away at UIUC I took quite a bit or urban planning and sustainability courses. I learned that community involvement is a great service and activity. I was wondering what small businesses, nonprofits, grassroot organizations are around in Uptown to get involved.
I am on the new alderperson's email address and will be attending as many civical (is this a word...?) duties as I can. My goal for getting involved in Uptown is to better the neighborhood and work on projects. Say, repainting all the garbage cans in Uptown to make the neighborhood appear nicer. Meeting new people and working on a project is the goal for the summer. Any and all feedback helps!
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2023.05.30 21:55 Responsible_Method77 In dire need of help. Ndad and enabler mom getting out of hand.
I'm a 22 year old woman who was raised by a neglectful, cunning, arrogant, and self-centered dad (who I suspect to have NPD) and a controlling, gaslighting, emotionally abusive, enabler mother. The relationship between my parents is also not great, as my father was unfaithful to my mother on several occasions, subjecting her to mental and emotional abuse, forbidding her to work, and continuously complaining about household chores.
Living in a culture that doesn't recognize women's empowerment and freedom, I have been unable to escape this miserable household with my two younger sisters. As Indian residents living in the Middle East, we are in dire need of help.
My father's actions toward us have been unforgivable, cruel, and malicious.
//TRIGGER WARNING//
▪︎ He recently abandoned my beloved cat that I raised for 2 years in an unknown place to replace him with a younger kitten. It happened a week ago and he refuses to tell us where it is. He claims it was to demonstrate to my mother how easily he can discard her for someone younger and that he is unaffected by emotions. However, I cannot understand why my cat deserved such inhumane treatment. I miss him to bits and can't stop thinking or crying about him.
▪︎ Another cruel incident occurred when my mother was admitted to the hospital with an intestinal blockage and needed my father's support. Instead, he was out partying and singing, completely neglecting her. Despite the difficulties my mother has caused me, I was appalled at my father's heartless conduct. He seeks praise, attention, and compliments from strangers by attending parties and singing for them.
▪︎ But nothing compares to the trauma that he inflicted when he violently forced me to agree to a marriage to a man that I do not want to be with by emotionally and physically torturing me and my sisters. He threatened to murder us all, rip our faces off with a knife or sell us to a black market if I did not agree to this marriage. I was on my periods and I usually have terrible cramps and it was one of those days when he kicked so hard repeatedly on my back and slapped my face until I almost fainted. He knocked my sister unconscious by slapping her face several times because she cried for help. He threatened to abandon us on streets without any financial support or cut us into pieces and bury them pieces in a desert.
▪︎ All my friends and relatives who came to our aid were threatened and blackmailed by him. He cut off all ties with them, ensuring that they would suffer if they dared to help us.
▪︎ He always called us names, bodyshamed us, told that we deserve to be on the streets, that we can only be prostitutes or beggars and are worth nothing more than that. He has a disgusting perception towards women in general. He told us we will definitely get raped by men out there if we don't have our dad in our lives. Furthermore, he stated that only men can give us lives and if women look forward to be independent, their legs must be broken and they must be forced to serve the men in the household.
▪︎ I was stopped for pursuing my higher education after high school unlike my peers. I wasted 3 years of my life from 2019 until covid got over so that he might change his mind. But he never seemed to so I was forced to study in an online college. I am doing my college with a scholarship as my father refused to pay any money.
▪︎ He never cared about his family, our education, our health, and our development and was always after money, praise, and his selfish desires.
Some of the things that our mom did that affected us emotionally,
▪︎ She was also a bodyshaming, emotionally abusive, contantly bickering, and controlling parent. She told once that she loves our narcissistic cruel dad way more than she will ever love us.
▪︎ She teamed up with my dad to force me into agreeing to the marriage. My engagement is next month with that man and I'm unsure how to get out of this situation than to marry him and leave this cruel household. I was always strong about my opinion on my marriage and career but they've driven me to a point where I've just given up. If I were to leave this house, I can only leave alone which would mean that my sisters would get emotionally tortured or even physically harmed in cruel ways when I'm gone. I cannot let that happen. If I am to leave, I will leave with them which is very difficult.
▪︎ After I finished high school, I cannot remember a day when she had stopped yelling at us and blaming us for the minor inconveniences in the household. It got to a point where I was suicidal.
I can remember all the abuse since I was as young as 3.
Are there any solutions for someone like us? How do I and my sisters live when there are issues as such along with emotional and mental suffering every passing day?
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2023.05.30 21:54 esjay1126 Slight "tearing" pain near armpit while performing dips
I apologize if this is fairly vague, but I wanted to run this by others and possibly get some opinions from people who have experienced something similar prior to spending any time/money figuring this out w/ a professional.
I got heavily into calisthenics around a year ago and have seen great progress, and enjoy doing it. My strength in push-ups, dips, and pull-ups reached a point to where I felt I should start to incorporate more weight, and so I bought a weight vest. At first all was fine and I was slowly progressing w/ more and more weight, however one day when doing dips, I felt what felt like a mini-tear or something of the sort around the right side of my right pec, right in the armpit area. Best way I can describe it was like a small "pop".
Now note, there wasn't any kind of significant initial or lingering pain from this "tear" that I felt outside of a slight burning sensation, but it was enough for me to know not to continue. This spooked me a bit, so I stopped doing dips entirely for about 2-3 weeks to let whatever may have happened heal. However, I felt that exact same "tearing" feeling midway through my first set once I tried them again (this time without the weight vest). Again same thing, no significant pain but enough to know not to continue.
I've continued to repeat this same process for roughly 4-5 months now, taking large amounts of time off that exercise to attempt to let it heal, each time with the same result. At this point, I feel it's greatly affecting my progression. I know I should've seen a professional about it initially, but finding fixes for things like this can sometimes become a time/money pit, so I've been attempting to remedy myself as I never felt until now that it could be a serious issue, given there's very little actual pain.
Has anyone experienced something similar to this and has any tips as to what is wrong/possible solutions?
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2023.05.30 21:54 Beautiful-Piano-185 Tuesday evening Baseball on Ultimate Media IPTV
Hope you enjoyed your long weekend and were able to catch up with friends and family.
Back to the grindstone today, thankfully we have some baseball to enjoy this evening after a hard day's work. Today we have 15 games on the schedule.
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Here is a breakdown of each game, including the start time and the television channel broadcasting the game:
6.40pm ET - Texas Rangers v Detroit Tigers at Comerica Park, Detroit, Michigan. This game is being broadcast on BSSW and BSDET.
6.40pm ET - San Diego Padres v Miami Marlins at LoanDepot Park, Miami, Florida. This game is being broadcast on BSSD and BSFL.
7.05pm ET - Cleveland Guardians v Baltimore Orioles at Oriole Park at Camden Yards, Baltimore, Maryland. This game is being broadcast on BSGL and MASN.
7.07pm ET - Milwaukee Brewers v Toronto Blue Jays at Rogers Centre, Toronto, Ontario. This game is being broadcast on BSWI and SNET.
7.10pm ET - Cincinatti Reds v Boston Red Sox at Fenway Park, Boston, Massachusetts. This game is being broadcast on BSOH and NESN.
7.10pm ET - Philadelphia Phillies v New York Mets at Citi Field, Flushing, New York. This game is being broadcast on NBCSP, SNY and TBS.
7.45pm ET - Kansas City Royals v St. Louis Cardinals at Busch Stadium, St. Louis, Missouri. This game is being broadcast on BSKC and BSMW.
8.05pm ET - Tampa Bay Rays v Chicago Cubs at Wrigley Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSSUN and MARQ.
8.10pm ET - Minnesota Twins v Houston Astros at Minute Maid Park, Houston, Texas. This game is being broadcast on BSNO and ATTH.
8.10pm ET - Los Angeles Angels v Chicago White Sox at Guaranteed Rate Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSW and NBCSCH.
9.40pm ET - Colorado Rockies v Arizona Diamondbacks at Chase Field, Phoenix, Arizona. This game is being broadcast on ATTR and BSAZ.
9.40pm ET - Atlanta Braves v Oakland Athletics at Oakland Coliseum, Oakland, California. This game is being broadcast on BSSO and NBCSCA.
9.40pm ET - New York Yankees v Seattle Mariners at T-Mobile Park, Seattle, Washington. This game is being broadcast on YES, RSNW and MLBN.
9.45pm ET - Pittsburgh Pirates v San Francisco Giants at Oracle Park, San Francisco, California. This game is being broadcast on ATTP, NBCSBA and MLBN.
10.10pm ET - Washington Nationals v Los Angeles Angels at Angel Stadium, Anaheim, California. This game is being broadcast on MSN2.
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2023.05.30 21:54 Gloomy_Advertising31 Should I take the job?
I recently applied to a subway and got an offer. Not sure if it’s a good one or not. They want me to help open up a restaurant that had closed down because the staff wasn’t so great. $12 an hour to train as assistant manager with the regional manager. The two of us will work for the next couple of weeks until I get a hang of things. Wednesday-Sunday, 10am-7pm. I was told the store is slow and gets $500 in sales on a good day. Should I take the job?
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2023.05.30 21:54 willc08214 Am I letting this piss me off more than it should and what should I do?
My girlfriend keeps saying she does everything (in the house) as of right now she is a stay at home mom. I told her while she was pregnant I would take care of the finances so she didn’t have to work. She has had our baby and he just 2 months old. I’m not pushing for her to get a job or anything I don’t even expect her to do stuff around the house (but she does) but she tells me nearly every day that I don’t do anything even though I’m not home for 12 hours a day at work busting my ass I get home have enough time to shower, eat, spend a little time with them, and sleep. On weekends I watch the kids so she doesn’t have to. I asked her if there are things she wants me to do or if she needs help. I’m always told no. I honestly am trying but I don’t know what to do or say to her anymore. And it’s starting way too many fights. Any advice would be great thank you.
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2023.05.30 21:54 Beautiful-Piano-185 Tuesday evening Baseball on Ultimate Media IPTV
Hope you enjoyed your long weekend and were able to catch up with friends and family.
Back to the grindstone today, thankfully we have some baseball to enjoy this evening after a hard day's work. Today we have 15 games on the schedule.
All channels shown below , plus much more great content is available with a subscription from
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Here is a breakdown of each game, including the start time and the television channel broadcasting the game:
6.40pm ET - Texas Rangers v Detroit Tigers at Comerica Park, Detroit, Michigan. This game is being broadcast on BSSW and BSDET.
6.40pm ET - San Diego Padres v Miami Marlins at LoanDepot Park, Miami, Florida. This game is being broadcast on BSSD and BSFL.
7.05pm ET - Cleveland Guardians v Baltimore Orioles at Oriole Park at Camden Yards, Baltimore, Maryland. This game is being broadcast on BSGL and MASN.
7.07pm ET - Milwaukee Brewers v Toronto Blue Jays at Rogers Centre, Toronto, Ontario. This game is being broadcast on BSWI and SNET.
7.10pm ET - Cincinatti Reds v Boston Red Sox at Fenway Park, Boston, Massachusetts. This game is being broadcast on BSOH and NESN.
7.10pm ET - Philadelphia Phillies v New York Mets at Citi Field, Flushing, New York. This game is being broadcast on NBCSP, SNY and TBS.
7.45pm ET - Kansas City Royals v St. Louis Cardinals at Busch Stadium, St. Louis, Missouri. This game is being broadcast on BSKC and BSMW.
8.05pm ET - Tampa Bay Rays v Chicago Cubs at Wrigley Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSSUN and MARQ.
8.10pm ET - Minnesota Twins v Houston Astros at Minute Maid Park, Houston, Texas. This game is being broadcast on BSNO and ATTH.
8.10pm ET - Los Angeles Angels v Chicago White Sox at Guaranteed Rate Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSW and NBCSCH.
9.40pm ET - Colorado Rockies v Arizona Diamondbacks at Chase Field, Phoenix, Arizona. This game is being broadcast on ATTR and BSAZ.
9.40pm ET - Atlanta Braves v Oakland Athletics at Oakland Coliseum, Oakland, California. This game is being broadcast on BSSO and NBCSCA.
9.40pm ET - New York Yankees v Seattle Mariners at T-Mobile Park, Seattle, Washington. This game is being broadcast on YES, RSNW and MLBN.
9.45pm ET - Pittsburgh Pirates v San Francisco Giants at Oracle Park, San Francisco, California. This game is being broadcast on ATTP, NBCSBA and MLBN.
10.10pm ET - Washington Nationals v Los Angeles Angels at Angel Stadium, Anaheim, California. This game is being broadcast on MSN2.
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2023.05.30 21:54 Hxcmetal724 Tahquitz - Cannot beat the view from the top. Great weather out there, go get at it!
2023.05.30 21:54 Khamilyan FTB Infinity Evolved - AE2 Inscriber Automation Question
2023.05.30 21:54 Beautiful-Piano-185 Tuesday evening Baseball on Ultimate Media IPTV
Hope you enjoyed your long weekend and were able to catch up with friends and family.
Back to the grindstone today, thankfully we have some baseball to enjoy this evening after a hard day's work. Today we have 15 games on the schedule.
All channels shown below , plus much more great content is available with a subscription from
Ultimate Media IPTV. Visit today for more information and choose the best IPTV subscription for you.
Here is a breakdown of each game, including the start time and the television channel broadcasting the game:
6.40pm ET - Texas Rangers v Detroit Tigers at Comerica Park, Detroit, Michigan. This game is being broadcast on BSSW and BSDET.
6.40pm ET - San Diego Padres v Miami Marlins at LoanDepot Park, Miami, Florida. This game is being broadcast on BSSD and BSFL.
7.05pm ET - Cleveland Guardians v Baltimore Orioles at Oriole Park at Camden Yards, Baltimore, Maryland. This game is being broadcast on BSGL and MASN.
7.07pm ET - Milwaukee Brewers v Toronto Blue Jays at Rogers Centre, Toronto, Ontario. This game is being broadcast on BSWI and SNET.
7.10pm ET - Cincinatti Reds v Boston Red Sox at Fenway Park, Boston, Massachusetts. This game is being broadcast on BSOH and NESN.
7.10pm ET - Philadelphia Phillies v New York Mets at Citi Field, Flushing, New York. This game is being broadcast on NBCSP, SNY and TBS.
7.45pm ET - Kansas City Royals v St. Louis Cardinals at Busch Stadium, St. Louis, Missouri. This game is being broadcast on BSKC and BSMW.
8.05pm ET - Tampa Bay Rays v Chicago Cubs at Wrigley Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSSUN and MARQ.
8.10pm ET - Minnesota Twins v Houston Astros at Minute Maid Park, Houston, Texas. This game is being broadcast on BSNO and ATTH.
8.10pm ET - Los Angeles Angels v Chicago White Sox at Guaranteed Rate Field, Chicago, Illinois. This game is being broadcast on BSW and NBCSCH.
9.40pm ET - Colorado Rockies v Arizona Diamondbacks at Chase Field, Phoenix, Arizona. This game is being broadcast on ATTR and BSAZ.
9.40pm ET - Atlanta Braves v Oakland Athletics at Oakland Coliseum, Oakland, California. This game is being broadcast on BSSO and NBCSCA.
9.40pm ET - New York Yankees v Seattle Mariners at T-Mobile Park, Seattle, Washington. This game is being broadcast on YES, RSNW and MLBN.
9.45pm ET - Pittsburgh Pirates v San Francisco Giants at Oracle Park, San Francisco, California. This game is being broadcast on ATTP, NBCSBA and MLBN.
10.10pm ET - Washington Nationals v Los Angeles Angels at Angel Stadium, Anaheim, California. This game is being broadcast on MSN2.
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2023.05.30 21:54 alef1113 Still recovering from the finale (kind of)
| Can I turn back time and start watching the show with surprise again? haha All jokes aside I did love the finale, I felt it ended on the right note and it was expected, which doesn’t necessarily mean bad or wrong, but logical. It made all sense that a) it was Tom always on the side quiet and working his way up AND b) the siblings (in their own toxic way) chose the future of the company at the end of the day. I came across this YouTube review/reaction and found it very thorough and agreed with the guy’s comments. What do you think? submitted by alef1113 to SuccessionTV [link] [comments] |
2023.05.30 21:54 GreddyMR2 B450M steel legend won't boot after putting back old CPU
Hi, I hope somebody could help me here as I'm out of ideas.
So the story is this: I have B450M steel legend which was running perfectly with ryzen 2600x and after some time I upgraded CPU to 5600, GPU and PSU. It was all good, I updated bios to latest version and system was great.
Now I built a new PC and took that ryzen 5600 , new GPU and PSU to my new build and fitted old parts to old pc.
But somehow it won't boot up now. It turns on, all the LEDs are on and fans spinning, but nothing appears on the screen, all black.
Tries CMOS reset - nothing Tried another GPU - nothing Tried another RAM - nothing Checked all connections 3 times
Not sure what else to do... Should I fit ryzen 5600 back? Maybe new bios is not working with 2600x? But according to asrock website 2600x works with all bios versions.
Anything else I should check?
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2023.05.30 21:54 sh1zAym Woke up today with the sudden realization that maybe I should ask my psych about bipolar.. but it couldn’t be me, could it??
I’m a 30 yr old guy. Life’s a mess, been a mess since I was a teenager. Been diagnosed with ADHD, no medication ever worked. went through multiple other possible diagnoses, did labs, nothing came up. I never thought in a million years that I might have some type of bipolar. My sister has it, and I’m nothing like her. She’s the most fiery personality I ever knew, and I’m about as mellow as you can get.
Thing is, I started wondering. I do go through stages, I always told people this. Normally, I struggle a ton with depression. Zero energy, bad thoughts, restless nights. Feels like I can’t do anything. Most recently, I had a great couple months. Best I’ve had in years. I started planning a grand trip to Europe, I bought a bunch of clothes that I can’t even fit into, I felt fantastic. I wanted to get shit done. But I would never say I felt manic. To me, this is how I was SUPPOSED to feel. I just felt normal. Then one day, like all the other times I got into a good mood, it stopped. Went right back to feeling depressed, forgot all about vacation time. Didn’t care about anything.
This happens all the time, though I’m depressed wayyyyy more than I’m feeling good.
School was always a struggle. I’d go months being a straight A student, then suddenly never return to class.
Part of the reason I never considered about having bipolar is that sometimes these good moods would last for hours, not weeks or months. This mostly happened when I was a teenager, but still. I would have hours where I felt amazing, I could talk faster, think faster, move faster. Then it’d all stop. I always thought bipolar was something that lasted for a much longer period of time.
I still really doubt I could have anything to do with bipolar but I can’t shake the feeling that maybe it’s possible. I’m going to bring this up next time I see the psych, but I guess I just wanted to ask if any of this sounded familiar? Specifically the mood changing for hours, not even days. I always wanted to know what that was about, no one could ever tell me why that would happen.
Sorry, hope it’s not too weird asking about this. I know I’m probably off.
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2023.05.30 21:54 ThrowRAirnbru Fed up living like a monk
I originally posted this
relationship_advice and got some good replies, but some were quite brutal. Wondered how people here would view the situation.
So me (42m) and my wife (39f} have been married for almost 10 years, together for 12. Relationship has been great up until a couple of years ago when we started to become less physically intimate.
She developed some other symptoms which eventually ended in a diagnosis of early menopause. She started HRT around 6 months ago which has alleviated some of the symptoms but not all. Her libido is now virtually non-existent.
We've always had a physical relationship, and I'm finding it really hard to live without this now. We have sex maybe once a month and to be honest it feels like pity sex most of the time.
I've given up trying to initiate anything now. I feel unloved and unwanted.
She said to me last night (as I was about to fall asleep) that she was sorry she doesn't put out much. She said it along with something else, I just ignored the comment about not putting out as it was too late to talk about it and I was tired. But it woke me up as I thought about the phrasing because it's not something she would normally say - "not putting out" indicates that she doesn't really want to but is doing it more from a sense of duty or obligation.
I don't want that. I want someone who genuinely wants to get physically intimate because they want to, and because they want to with me. Actually struggling to cope with this. I find myself looking at couples out on the street and wondering how many times they do it, how the guy must feel to lie in bed with someone who gets horny, etc. Quite soul-destroying actually. .
I'm not out to blame anyone for this situation. It is what it is.
I can't help the situation as much as my wife can't help the situation. Running her a bath and lighting some candles ain't gonna cut the mustard. Doing more around the house (I already do more than 50% of everything given I work less than she does and it works well for us), again won't change things.
We have a good connection and can talk about anything and everything. We spend time together. We laugh at and with each other. There's no other friction in the relationship that I'm aware of. We actually get on like a house on fire, she's my best friend.
The lack of physical intimacy and desire is taking its toll now. I can't just make my feelings disappear, and I don't feel I should be shamed just because I want/need one of the most basic of human connections.
Any advice on what to do next would be appreciated
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2023.05.30 21:54 jokerisitic If you were forced to take out private student loans, where would you take them out from?
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2023.05.30 21:53 ehu_girl How come we don’t have any Hawaiian apothecaries/Lā’au lapa’au stores?
On O’ahu at least there’s lots of Chinese herbalism stores which is great, but how home we don’t have any places where Lā’au lapa’au practitioners can provide services/herbs/remedies for health issues? I’ve found a lot of relief using Lā’au lapa’au without the side effects medications have
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