I am half way done with my RBT course. I have a company that I will be starting with when I get certified. I am really excited to learn more about this field.
I have 3 questions that I'm concerned about/need help understanding

1. What exactly do we as RBT's do when a child has a tantrum and/or refuses to do the tasks we give them? How do we de-escalate the tantrum? I'm worried that a child having a huge meltdown and me just standing there not knowing what to do is going to look really bad and make me feel very awkward.
2. What are the parents like during home health care? Do the parents watch and monitor you and intervene often? I am kind of nervous of the thought of them not liking what I'm teaching their kid or having them intervene and ask a lot of questions.
3. Just how physical is this job? Obviously besides being up and about engaging w/ the kids. Are there instances where therapy might require me to literally be running wild? Is there a good balance of sitting and being physical? I am in good shape but I actually have asthma that can act up if I over do it physically.

Thank you all so much for helping

Kurkdjian's first new fragrance at Dior and him at his most interesting. Green fig, more herbal than juicy, moves to a soft rose, like a honeyed pear or a buttery chardonnay. In spirit, but not quite, Phyloskos/Baccarat mix.
FK's touch is his balance, he can get away with rich and indulgent because he has just enough restraint or balance to keep rich scents from getting syrupy. This smells full and expensive and classy. Try to get yourself some, it's good stuff.

Recently i've been kind of thinking about recovery a lot more - I'm definitely not exactly ready, but I've always wanted to get better before I go to college, and to be honest time is ticking. I'm a minor (16f), so a lot of recovery advice hinges on talking to my parents. But I don't have any idea where to start. I'm definitely not trying to stereotype or offend anyone, and I understand that white parents too can be extremely insensitive/ignorant of eds, and many POC parents can be very understanding. However, a lot of people with parents from other countries know that their parents don't exactly value mental health or are even aware of it.
My parents are from India. They absolutely don't even know what an eating disorder is. I feel like they would just get angry at me for wasting food? I don't really know how to explain it to them, especially since it's already kind of embarrassing tbh. I've also done a really good job of hiding it or whatever, so there is a possibility they wouldn't even believe me? They don't really talk about therapy or anything ever, but their opinion is probably that it's a waste of time.
Anyway I don't mean to ramble - just wondering if anyone is comfortable sharing any experience talking to their POC/immigrant parents or even just parents who are very unaware about eds/general mental health.

Fiance and I have been together for a number for year but these last couple of months planning the wedding I have seen a side to her I have never seen before.
I have funded most of the wedding from my savings and we have gone over our budget, she is insistents on going on honeymoon somewhere tropical, which we can't afford. She has spent all her savings toward the wedding and we still have to live for a few months (ie rent, bills, food) before we start work.
We have had little support from her family for the wedding and my family is not local so geographically the have done what they can.
We have been gifted a honeymoon, but she says she wants to go away for longer and thinks the place we have been gifted is not good enough. I am completely burnt out from work and planning this wedding and really not looking forward to any of it anymore and quite frankly even getting married or going on honeymoon.
I didn't think my fiance could be this selfish and I am rethinking everything. This was just a vent as I have nowhere else to turn so close the wedding and feel quite empty.

Yes, I know the absolute value is actually just the distance to the origin. But I thought it was always true that x = sqrt(x²⁾ and this is a good way to evaluate absolute values. If we evaluate the sqrt(i^2), we get i, same case if we do the (sqrt(i))^2. So why is it we say the absolute value of i equal to 1 and not just i, as in its “i” units away from the origin?

Why are reddit owners such a bunch of greedy bastards?
Good question! I wish I knew.
Sup shitlords!
I bet you've heard, that reddit is trying to kill of 3rd party apps!
Why, is obvious to everyone. In case it isn't, here's a short documentary.
Seriously though, this article: The ‘Enshittification’ of TikTok, just replace "tiktok" with "reddit" and you get the idea.
Why should you care? honestly, I don't know, but I know why I care. Because the new reddit website and app suck massive balls. No really, have you tried it? If you don't see nothing wrong, go download RiF or something and then use reddit for a bit and try to go back. It's fucking awful.
Maybe I'm just a boomer and I like my websites information dense with everything on display with intuitive UI elements AND NO FUCKING NATIVE ADVERTISING are you fucking kidding me? EVERY 2ND POST IS A FUCKING AD. Holy balls.
UBlock Origin and 3rd party mobile apps are the only thing keeping me from going insane when using this website, and in that way it's actually pretty enjoyable. Without that, it's fucking garbage.
But how are they supposed to make money then reeeeeeeeeee
First off, stop sucking corporate cock. I'm sure they'll be just fine, with us being the product and all. Second, I know everyone hates mods and We Do It FoR fReE but that's exactly it. The fact that I'm not massively inconvenienced while trying to write this is the reason why I'm writing it at all. And considering that the whole website runs on basically volunteer labour with admins seemingly existing only to hand out half-ass suspensions and to yell at us that the beatings will continue until morale improves, pissing off the power-users that make the whole place work seems like a really bad thing.
Not to mention, in the push to make the website increasingly "advertiser friendly" it's losing the "wild west internet" charm. Mark my words, once reddit IPOs half of the subreddits will fucking disappear. I call it The Addening. Censorship will increase under the ever growing threat of advertisers pulling out of reddit. I assume. I hope not, but cmon we've seen what happened before, they come for the porn first and then for the memes. All so you will be marketed to.
Why am I writing all of this? basically to yell at a void, the only relevant information is:

This subreddit will be set to private for 48(ish) hours on the 12th of june.

That's it. it's like a protest or something to get reddit to notice and to postpone their half-assed attempts at over-monetisation for a little bit more till a decent alternative works itself out and then reddit can go eat shit and die, after being milked for any and all revenue it can be.
FAQ:

• I don't care!

Good for you, literally. Also not a question

• What if I like the new website layout and the mobile app?

You are either very naive and ignorant, or have legitimate brain damage. seek further education/medical attention
I literally can't think of any more, sorry.
Class is over, everyone go home.

As a fan of comedy, Matt has been on my radar for awhile, however, the more and more I see of his posts I'm hesitant to go to see him because of "his" type of crowd. I'm would not be happy if he spent a lot of his time with a back and forth for a good chunk of the show. I'm curious if I'm over thinking it and you all can confirm this isn't the case. I get crowd work, I love he is quick and does it, I'm just nervous he doesn't cut it off quicker to ensure it doesn't ruin others experience. As I type this, I think of the woman in the front who made him a shirt, gave him gifts and they held a full on conversation. I also want to add the clips are needed and they don't want to show their jokes, and crowd work allows them to scratch the social media itch. Appreciate any feedback. If you all go see him, I hope you have an amazing time.

I've finished prototyping the first version of the tow bed for my Cayman 6x6 and it turned out great.
I had to print 3 of them before generally getting it right on the 4th one, which I think is pretty good for someone with extremely limited CAD experience. I made the base "adapter" section myself, and then imported and heavily modified a truck bed model I found online, removing the wheel wells for clearance, and stretching and raising it. It overlaps the rear of the cab nicely, and leaves space for the eventual winch that will go there (I'm sure it'll need to be modified to fit).
I'm very happy with it for now. The next step is trying to figure out how to add ramps that stow inside, or make the whole thing articulate somehow... If anyone has any very simple suggestions that are easy to implement in tinkercad, let me know.
It was an issue with just the cab, but now I really need to replace the shocks so it handles better with a load. I have a lot of extra shocks kicking around but haven't found the best setup yet, but I know the springs need to be stiffer. Just for info, the stock shocks aren't bad, but under the weight of the cab they are not smooth and won't return to the level without assistance.
It's a lot of fun to play with. I used some techdeck skateboard ramps to drive the mini z on to the back and hauled it around, and it was pretty stable considering the weight. My spare parts car with a 1/24 hot wheels die cast monster truck body was much less stable haha.
Thanks for looking. If you have any questions, let me know!

Hi, this is a weird one.
Without going into too much detail, I was advised by a coworker when I first started that I could calculate some assets one way. Yesterday I find out that info is wrong and needs to be calculated another way, which would put my client over assets for services they had been given previously since I was literally trained wrong.
I genuinely feel awful. I love this client. But I also know this is the right thing to do for my own job security and for others. Other people who are under assets need this slot.
I'm scared. I know this client will scream at me, berate me, etc, but I'm also worried that they'll tell my boss I'm terrible and stupid. My boss never believes me since I'm new and I'm not exactly a star employee. I'd say I'm painfully average.
I guess I'm asking if anyone knows of any protection workings or even just sending good vibes to protect me from the negative actions of a coworker. Employees are only as good as the tools they're given. I don't even know if a spell like that is possible.
Any advice welcome. Thanks!

Hey everyone,
Me and my partner have been together for 7 years. For about a year now he has been heavily drinking. He drinks about 7 pints on his own every night. I see him a few times a week and I can usually tell instantly that he is drunk. I feel like he isn't present and it's very hard to deal with. I practically have to force him to eat dinner and go to sleep. He's a nice drunk but very annoying sometimes, constantly all over me, in my face and trying to instigate intimate moments but he's so drunk he falls asleep or just can't do it. I wouldn't mind in the slightest if he was sober or we were both having a drink on the weekend, but intimate moments are not fun for me when he's like that. But I do go along with it, because when he's sober and hungover he's practically good for nothing (I feel awful saying that but I find it so difficult).
He is currently doing a degree and failing due to his drinking. I want to do anything I can to help him and have tried. I totally understand how difficult addictions are and I know it's one of the hardest things to overcome. He's had counseling etc, but didn't get on with the therapist he was assigned. I sat him down last night and he said he is not ready to give up drinking yet.
I'm finding it so hard. I come home from work/university and want a nice dinner and a chat with my partner. But, he doesn't listen because he's intoxicated and will call me boring if I go to sleep before '4 am' on a work day. This makes me upset and I start to question if I am boring 🥺. I have just finished my degree and been offered a really good job. I feel like him being up until 4 am listening to music etc will distract me. But I can't stop going to his and seeing him, as I will miss him and he needs me.
I am really stuck, it's making me very upset and making me not want to see him, which is so sad. I love him so much and would help anyone struggling, especially someone I love.
We are also looking to move into together in a few months and I just don't know what to do. It is hurting my mental health. Any advice on what I should do for my mental health whilst still protecting him?

So I don't have a torque wrench, but I plan on doing my sway bar links on the weekend. The torque spec is like 36 ft - lbs. Was just planning on tightening till I though it was enough. I'm not a mechanic but I work in "construction" and have a pretty good feel for how tight is too tight n what not. Thoughts and concerns are appreciated. Thank you!

Anyone has premenstrual dysphoria disorder? I've been prescribed 25mg of sertralin today to help me temper my huge mood swings and premenstrual depression and I would like to know your experience on that and how it did/didn't help you.
I pretty sure that those disorder comes from a hormonal imbalance, I'm 28 and still get huge "acne explosion", depression right after the ovulation and it goes off after the menstruation, huge mood swings, very impatient and irritated, self depreciation, insomnia, no energy at all, feeling exhausted all the time, lost of appetite and I've been crying so much since last week, it's unbearable and I passed 3 days in bed just crying, not even able to enjoy gardening which is my hobby. It's affecting my personal life and work, but I'm glad I have my really patient and supportive boyfriend to help me calm down and see clearly when I'm down. We did a lot of research, turns out that sertralin is really good and works really quick when you have that disorder compared to depression. I would say I feel calmer tonight after my first dose, but it may be just placebo. I normally eat really healthy, takes vitamin supplements, rxercise 5 times a week and garden everyday but I always had some trouble sleeping or to follow a simple schedule due to my ADHD. I lost almost 50lbs since last year, stop smoking weed daily, I feel healthier than ever and take care of my skin but I never had big issues with the lack of sleep until this winter. It doesn't seem to improve, I sleep like 3-4h at best and then I crash and would sleep like 18h and Im full of pimples right before my period. Everything I could do by myself to improve my condition is done but even with that, it seems to get worst.
Anyone with similar issues? What were your solutions and what's your experience with sertralin? Thanks 😊

Preface: There’s really no way to look back at the Chargers’ 2022 season without starting at the end. The team blew a 27-0 lead to the Jaguars in the wild card round in what can only be described as the peak of decades of cruelty by the football gods directed at the Chargers. In a year that began with Super Bowl aspirations thanks to an extremely talented on-paper roster, and included a regular season of injury after injury after injury (Justin Herbert, Rashawn Slater, Keenan Allen, Mike Williams, etc.), the finale could not have been more crushing. Criticism and ridicule has rained down on head coach Brandon Staley and offensive coordinator Joe Lombardi, and the latter was promptly fired at the end of the season to the rejoicing of fans everywhere.
But now we begin, again. The Super Bowl hopes are very much alive. The roster saw very few changes in free agency as the front office and coaching staff clearly believe the failure of the 2022 season was generally not an issue with the assembled players. But there is a much higher sense of urgency this year, and it’s not an exaggeration to say the team is going “all in” on the final cheap year of Justin Herbert’s rookie deal. Contracts have been structured in a way that will force significant cuts after the 2023 season just to get the team to salary cap compliance. This year may be do-or-die for both Tom Telesco and Brandon Staley.

Free Agency Recap

Losses: G Matt Feiler, LB Drue Tranquill, EDGE Kyle Van Noy, QB Chase Daniel, CB Bryce Callahan, WR Deandre Carter, S Nasir Adderley, LB Troy Reeder, DL Breiden Fehoko, WR Michael Bandy, OT Storm Norton
Five starters on this list: Feiler, Tranquill, Callahan, Carter, and Adderley. Letting Drue Tranquill leave is by far the most controversial decision here, especially since he ended up going to the Chiefs. He played very well last year, but seems like the idea here is that he was a factor in the defense’s struggle against the run. Feiler was a disaster last season after a great 2021, and Jamaree Salyer should be an immediate upgrade. Callahan is still a free agent and a reunion is not out of the question. Van Noy was great as a fill-in when Bosa was injured, but the team wants to get younger at the position. Carter was a quiet signing who outperformed his contract and provided much needed depth but again, too old. Adderley was benched in the season finale and then retired. The rest were backups and rotational players.
Additions: LB Eric Kendricks, DL Nick Williams
That’s it, that’s the list. Eric Kendricks steps in as the starter next to Kenneth Murray who he can hopefully help mentor into being a good linebacker. And theoretically, he will be an upgrade in run defense over Drue Tranquill. Williams was signed after the draft as insurance for the injured Austin Johnson and Otito Ogbonnia. He may not make the team. The Chargers used most of the rest of their cap space re-signing free agents like Trey Pipkins, Morgan Fox, and Donald Parham. They still have about $12.5M to work with, pending the upcoming Justin Herbert mega-deal.

Draft Needs

WR: The trio of Keenan Allen, Mike Williams, and Josh Palmer is one of the best in the league. However, with their contracts, there’s really no chance Allen and Williams will be Chargers in 2024. This group also lacks a speed element.
EDGE: Similar to WR, the starting duo of Bosa and Mack is elite but they are expensive and getting older. The depth behind them is just Chris Rumph.
TE: Gerald Everett is solid but on the last year of his deal. Donald Parham has potential but can’t stay healthy. Tre’ McKitty is a blocking TE who isn’t a very good blocker.
CB: JC Jackson is an enormous question mark, both from a health and performance standpoint. Michael Davis is a free agent after 2023. Ja’Sir Taylor is penciled in as the starting slot corner after very limited playing time last year.
OL: This is the strongest starting five the Chargers have had in a decade but the depth behind them both inside and out is weak.
LB: Eric Kendricks and Kenneth Murray will start, but Murray is auditioning to be on the team next year and Kendricks is old. The depth behind them is just Nick Niemann and Amen Ogbongbemiga.
S: JT Woods was a 2022 3rd round pick but barely played in 2022. Alohi Gilman stepped up when needed, but relying on him to start is risky.
RB: Austin Ekeler requested a trade, and even though it looked very unlikely to happen, the team needs to think about life after him in 2024. Neither Josh Kelley or Isaiah Spiller have shown they can handle a full workload.
KPR: With Deandre Carter’s departure, the team has no one with real return experience.

The Draft

1.21: Quentin Johnston - WR, TCU
In hindsight, this pick should have been more obvious. The Chargers have been very strict about their size thresholds for wide receivers over the years, and despite countless debates about Johnston vs Zay Flowers vs Jordan Addison, the big guy from TCU won out. This was an immediately controversial pick among fans as many believed the speedy Flowers or the crafty Addison would be more suited to filling the biggest need in this position group: speed and separation. But while Johnston may not be your traditional deep threat, his game speed and GPS tracking data suggest a more dynamic skillset than he showed at the combine. And one area where he does beat those two guys that was probably overlooked as a need: run after catch ability. Johnston was elite at that in college, and that looks to be his primary role for the Chargers. New OC Kellen Moore will use him like he did Ceedee Lamb in Dallas. And since he will start the year at number three on the depth chart at best, he won’t be under pressure to carry the offense as a rookie while he learns from the veterans in front of him.
2.54: Tuli Tuipulotu - EDGE, USC
After WR, the Chargers’ clear next biggest need was at EDGE and Tuli was the consensus best available. The team has also shown a penchant for drafting local kids from USC and UCLA over the last few years. He was extremely productive in his final season in college where he put up 13.5 sacks playing both on the edge and the interior. In the draft process, many people questioned if he would bulk up to be a full time DT or slim down to play the EDGE. It ended up being the latter as he weighed 266lbs at the combine. Tuli will provide valuable depth behind Bosa and Mack as a rookie, while also having the opportunity to play inside on passing downs like he did in college.
3.85: Daiyan Henley - LB, Washington State
The Chargers lost two linebackers to free agency: Drue Tranquill and Troy Reeder. Tranquill was the team’s best coverage linebacker, and Reeder was key depth while also being a core special teams player. Enter Daiyan Henley, who could fill both of those roles by himself. With Kenneth Murray likely off the team in 2024, Henley has the opportunity to earn a starting job over the course of the season. He is a recent convert to the linebacker position and there is still much room for growth. At the very least, he will be an immediate special teams contributor. Staley and Telesco both raved about his prowess in that phase of the game after picking him.
*4.125: Derius Davis - WR, TCU *
Another TCU receiver! This pick was definitely a surprise, as many people projected him to be a late day 3 pick. But the Chargers coaching staff said after the draft that they believed he was the best return man available, and that they wanted to draft a starter in the 4th round. Davis was indeed one of the best returners in the country at TCU, and also can add some juice on offense even if he ends up limited to a gadget role. Either way, here’s some killer speed for the Chargers offense.
5.156: Jordan McFadden - OL, Clemson
In the last few drafts, the Chargers have shown a lot of love for late round tackle-to-guard converts. Jamaree Salyer was the steal of the 2022 draft in the sixth round. McFadden played both tackle and guard in college on both sides of the line, and some scouts believe he may even be able to play some center. For the Chargers he will compete with Brenden Jaimes for the swing guard role, and maybe even push Foster Sarrell to be the swing tackle. Key depth for a position group that needed it.
6.200: Scott Matlock - DL, Boise State
Matlock is a solid run defender with some pass rush upside who will get to learn behind a strong trio of veteran starters. And with Austin Johnson and Otito Ogbonnia both rehabbing major knee injuries, he may end up seeing some decent playing time this season. I’m very intrigued by his upside, and Staley has a good track record of getting good play from late round DTs.
7.239: Max Duggan - QB, TCU
The Los Angeles Horned Frogs are ready to take the NFL by storm in 2023 (hopefully to face the Philadelphia Bulldogs in a championship rematch). The Chargers historically have carried three QBs on the active roster, and with only two signed going into the draft, it seemed like a strong possibility they would pick one. So here’s Max Duggan, who despite leading TCU to the Natty was generally not loved by scouts. He has a ton of athletic ability but the finer points of playing QB need to be worked on. There is absolutely potential to be a long term backup to Justin Herbert though, if he can beat out Easton Stick.
Notable UDFAs
Jerrod Clark - DL, Coastal Carolina: Most people expected Clark to be drafted, and the Chargers gave him a lot of money for a UDFA. I would not be surprised at all to see him make the roster as an additional run defender.
Cam Jones - CB, Ohio State: Another guy who could have been drafted, there are depth spots at corner up for grabs and Jones is an intriguing option.
Tiawan Mullen - CB, Indiana: Mullen used to have a pretty high draft stock but fell hard in the process. The Chargers are thin at slot corner and he could earn a role.
Mikel Jones - LB, Syracuse: There’s a wide open competition for ILB5 that will most likely be decided by special teams.

Roster Prediction

QB (3): Justin Herbert, Easton Stick, Max Duggan
RB (5): Austin Ekeler, Joshua Kelley, Isaiah Spiller, Larry Rountree, Zander Horvath
WR (5): Keenan Allen, Mike Williams, Josh Palmer, Quentin Johnston, Derius Davis
TE (4): Gerald Everett, Donald Parham, Tre’ McKitty, Stone Smartt
OT (3): Rashawn Slater, Trey Pipkins, Foster Sarrell
OG (4): Zion Johnson, Jamaree Salyer, Brenden Jaimes, Jordan McFadden
C (2): Corey Linsley, Will Clapp
EDGE (4): Joey Bosa, Khalil Mack, Tuli Tuipulotu, Chris Rumph
IDL (6): Sebastian Joseph-Day, Austin Johnson, Morgan Fox, Otito Ogbonnia, Scott Matlock, Jerrod Clark
LB (5): Kenneth Murray, Eric Kendricks, Daiyan Henley, Nick Niemann, Amen Ogbongbemiga
CB (5): Michael Davis, Asante Samuel Jr., JC Jackson, Ja’Sir Taylor, Deane Leonard
S (4): Derwin James, Alohi Gilman, JT Woods, Mark Webb
K (1): Cameron Dicker
P (1): JK Scott
LS (1): Josh Harris

Conclusion

Super Bowl or bust.

This is a bit of a rant, but I genuinely do not know what to do anymore. I try so hard at my job, I work 12-14 hours a day, I try to do the best I can and have never had any complaints over my work quality. However, despite this, my snapshots are always horrible. I'm staffed on a ton of projects with the same senior (i just started as senior, she's acting manager) and she sends me shitty emails constantly if i can't get something turned around the same day. She constantly pulls me hours and mentions that quality of work isn't an issue but I need to communicate more.
I started communicating way more as that snapshot scared the shit out of me and triggered a partner meeting. Snapshots from any other managesm is fine. however, most of my work is with her and therefore, has the biggest impact.
Guess who was just removed from 5 projects and has another partner meeting scheduled now?
I'm so tired of crying nonstop. I'm tired of the emails, I'm tired of not having any work friends, i'm exhausted from the hours just to be met with another crappy message.
The group Im in is basically non-existent outside of b4 and i love the work, so I don't know what to do if I get fired this week.
I got a 1% raise :) I think that was a good indicator. I brought the concerns up to the coach and he thinks it's literal bullying but we're adults, so it's not like I can do anything about it.
All the other B4 seem to be laying off so I'm just stuck.

Well if you start an alt or die in HC, you start with 0 map explored, no way points, no renown progress (so if you were close to max renown in each zone and died, haha start all over again!) Really not fun or good game design. To have something that should be perma on your account be set to 0 is an awful feeling. I know if you unlocked your renown rewards you keep them, the skill points/paragon, but if you died before that, lmao good luck have fun running around for Lilith statues for 3 hours! I'm surprised not more people aren't complaining about this. Surely I can't be the only one who thinks that's just awful?

Hi team!
Looking to upgrade my general earbuds to an ANC pair for use in gym, running, cycling.
Traditionally, I haven't liked earbuds that are pushed in deep into the canal. My current pair are an older Jabra set which has the band that goes behind the head. They tend to just sit in the ear but don't extend into the canal. They're nice, but it also means lots of sound getting in, volume up high etc.
Interesting to hear recommendations or comments as to what my options are. I'm not opposed to ones that go in a bit, but I don't want the situation where the only way they stay put is if they're shoved right in tight. So ones with a clip or little hook would be good.
Budget up to 300aud.

Hello! I'm new to the world of wax based chain lubes. On my current chain (ultegra 12speed) i switched near the end of the chains life to silca super secret drip on lube. I absolutely love it as im amazed at how clean the chain stays and it is just as easy to apply as any dry lube.
The reason i dont dip the chain is that i just dont have the time/interest in the process, however when replacing the chain i figured why not start off with a hot wax and then apply the drip on wax for the rest of the chains life. So then my questions:
1) For the initial waxing, is it common for LBS that specialize in road bikes to wax the chain as a service? Or do i go to them and buy the chain and do all the work myself (i suppose i could?, but i wouldnt mind paying for someone to at least size the chain and strip the factory coating off of it)
2) has anyone done this approach and have any tips or good to knows?

I have a State Department Secret clearance as a contractor right now, trying to upgrade to TS to join the Foreign Service. A little more than 6 years ago, I was hospitalized for a week due to thoughts of self-harm from PTSD and anxiety (mainly PTSD in that case). I made a lot of progress since then, have not been hospitalized since, have been on medication, see a psychiatrist every 3 months and a therapist every two weeks, both at the same practice, and both of whom say that they think I'm qualified for the TS and to go overseas. I disclosed all of this on the SF-86, both when I got my Secret 4 years ago and when I applied to get my TS in April. It's moving along fairly quickly IMO, they've been interviewing my contacts and it's been smooth.
That said, I got a call today from my investigator asking follow up questions about the hospitalization, the diagnoses, and the medication I took then. He then asked about my current therapist and psychiatrist and how long I've been seeing them. All of this was followed up on for my secret as well (2 years after the hospitalization) and I remembered the details, and I assume this is normal and that once he talks to my current therapist and psychiatrist, if they say I'm good for a clearance (as they've told me), then I'd likely not be disqualified for mental health grounds? I'm just struck by the focus on an incident that was 6 years ago and was wondering if this is just normal procedure, something more than that, and whether the mental health guidelines are different for secret than top secret. Thanks!

I waited until I was 32 years old to get my first pet. I had no idea how challenging and rewarding raising a puppy into a dog would be. I know that a pet dog is not equivalent to a human child- but as a woman who isn't having children he is the closest I will probably ever get.
I used to be such a miserable morning person...but ever since he came into my life I wake up every single morning smiling and saying "Good Morning" as he licks my face. I have trained him almost everything he knows, but he has taught me more than I ever could have imagined - about patience, empathy, love, connection.
I am fortunate to be able to bring him to work with me so I am literally almost always with him. We go on so many fun adventures together ...we commute together..we work together....we are very bonded and he is really like my little shadow. I have truly never had a better friend. Maybe that speaks to my bad luck with friends, or maybe it is reminiscent of man's relationship to dog.
I have nursed him back to health twice after illnesses - I have happily cleaned up poop, puke and blood. Almost everything I do is with him in mind - what is best for him, what would make him happy and fulfilled.
I havs struggled with depression and addiction in my life....somedays he is my sole reason...my reason for staying here...my reason for being the best version of myself that I can be. I am digging myself out of almost 30k in debt just so that I can buy a house with a big fenced in back yard ...for him.
He is only 1 year old. I try so hard to just live in the present and enjoy the time we have together but another part of me is sometimes angry at myself....because I have already experienced so much loss and have so much trauma around abandonment that the idea that he won't be here forever just breaks me. Most days I just enjoy what we have....but every once in a while this little voice inside says "this is really going to hurt".
I truly fear the day he's not here anymore...I had a lot of pets growing up and love animals but truly feel there will never be another him. It scares the shit out of me and breaks my heart. He really is my everything.
One of my favorite family dogs passed away 5 years ago and every once in a while I still get teary eyed about it....It is hard to fathom what I am going to feel when it is my boy. My bestfriend.
Is it normal to be so attached to a dog? To think about the end when he is still so young? How do you get over these intrusive thoughts?

I've been doing a good job in handling my BPD symptoms, but there are days where it just gets so hard. I'm currently in a relationship, and before we established it I had let him know that I have BPD. He understood and said he still wanted to pursue the relationship. Lately, I feel as though I am tiring him out and it makes me feel like shit because I know that thats the case. I feel as though I am ruining the relationship by just asking for reassurance so often, and I don't know what else to do. I made the mistake of asking over this sexual history, and he hesitantly told me, knowing how I would react in the future. It made me feel so insecure and the response was completely different from what I was expecting. I can't help but to think ill of him and be paranoid as if the person who he has shown me is a complete lie. I recognize that that is not the case and people can change, as I am not perfect whatsoever either. In fact, it makes me want to tell him all of my sexual history in order for him to feel the same as I do, but I know that'll do only harm and no good at all. , When I tried to explain to him my point of view he got extremely defensive and told me that he shouldn't of said anything, which is true, but I was nagging. I hope that this serves me as experience for me to not ask questions that do not affect our current relationship, because now I am pushing him away with my illness and it makes everything worse.

Sorry for this being so long - I'm an anxious person and I have way too much going on in my head, lol. BTW this is a random username and I'm going to keep things pretty vague, I don't want people to know it's me.
I currently work in government in a STEM field, where I am at the senior level and make good money. Benefits are spectacular, I'm represented by a union, and overall I love my job - I have an incredible supervisor who supports me, great team, and receive OT. The only thing I don't like about my current workplace is the upper management - they're kind people, but they make bad decisions and us employees are always basically crawling through mud to reach the finish line for everything.
The problem is I don't like where I live. I have no family here, neither does my partner (btw, my partner is fully remote and can live anywhere.) I've lived here for a really long time and feel ready for a change. I have a lot of friends and some extended family in Southern CA so I decided why not look and see what's out there. I got a job offer, and this company seems really great - benefits are good and the glassdoor ratings are off the charts. However, the pay cut would be about $30k considering the state I currently live in does not have a state income tax. Also, the job itself - I know I would be good at it because I already do it as part of my current job, but I ultimately want to shift my career in a different direction (still slightly related, it would be a shift towards health and safety) and I would not have the opportunity to do that here. In my current work place, my supervisor has me doing more safety-related things to boost my resume and get me closer to my goals of certification.
I'm struggling because I really want to move, but at the same time I'm worried about a few things:
-Potential recession/layoffs. Private industry worries me because there could be a chance of layoffs if a recession hit...but I also don't know if that would happen, I'm just speculating. There is no way I would be laid off from my current position if a recession occurred.
-Paycut: I don't have kids, but I do have some debt and I would like to be able to continue paying that off + putting money into savings. I know I'd need to budget better, which is 100% fine. I'm more thinking about what kind of setback taking a cut in pay would have on future opportunities down the road.
Am I being crazy?