Hello Reddit I need advise about something {This is my first post so sorry if i do something wrong}. SO in my school hot wheels are popular and i collect them so sometimes i bring them to school and play with them with my friends but Recently i got a new hot wheels set that my Uncle bought for me Yes my uncle bought it for me and it was really expensive like 30$ for 1 set of 4 cars and i was really Grateful for it then i took it to school to play during free time but after i got home i was looking for it in my backpack and I realized that someone stole it and i know who stole it was one of my friends that took it i know this because he steals stuff from people all the time and also someone told me that he said he took it.After i found out he took it i was mad like mad mad to the point i was thinking of doing something bad to him but i went on my phone and texted him that if he stole it but can you guess what he said he said that he did not take it but after i said "then why is every body telling me that you stole it" he left me on seen i don't know if i should be the bigger person or do something about it. Also he knows that my uncle got it for me.

I 22/F and my 22/M boyfriend have been together for roughly 6 months. I feel like I need to give back story to the kind of people we are before i head into this. My boyfriend has always had anxiety over keeping people around in his life. until he went to university he was in an all boys school and he would be constantly left out because hes awkward and hes very poor at reading social cues sometimes. so hes the biggest people pleaser i know, he also had/has verbally abusive parents so that just adds to his need to feel like he needs to make sure everything is peaceful and not stir things up. i may also add we are both half japanese, i spent time abroad so i am very straightforward, i don't believe in people pleasing at the cost of my comfort and i don't care about "maintaining the peace". unfortunately my boyfriend has only been raised in japan, he was raised to never destroy the peace no matter what, this will seemingly come to bite him later in this story.
I have a lot of trust issues, i have been lied to by friends, family, and multiple romantic partners. My boyfriend has also been cheated on not once but twice, and to be honest is very insecure about who will leave him and how he can keep as many people around as possible (this mostly is in the case of friends)
So the actual cheating story. Long before my boyfriend met me he was talking to a girl online, (she lives in the us) and they were romantically speaking just up until a little before december of last year. my boyfriend and i got together at the end of december. the problem is that in the beginning of December the girl had already bought a ticket with her friend to come to a trip to japan, before he met me they had mad plans to meet at that time.
fast forward and hes met me, we are together, i trust him and i love him dearly, he has done everything to keep me stable while my mental health has crashed and burned because of my new job. in February i got a follow request from that girl and when i accepted it she immediately unfollowed me so that put me off. i already felt like that was weird. the problem is while they talked my boyfriend would show me the messages as hes typing. i never SAW anything remotely incriminating. she continues to follow request me two more times throughout these six months and so i ask my boyfriend if they had anything in the past and he says no.
I would like to point out that my boyfriend is terrified of giving people bad news or telling them anything that might remotely hurt their feelings. i knew he was probably lying but i had bigger things to worry about so i let it go.
fast forward march and her trip to japan comes around, she and friend, while my boyfriend and his friend all go out for drinks (my boyfriend invited me but i had work until late so i couldnt attend). now fast forward to yesterday. i get a text from her asking if im his girlfriend and that hes a liar. my heart dropped, i thought i might throw up. she tells me they've been talking but his responses have been less and less since a few months ago and he has posted me multiple times on his Instagram story so she was suspicious that i was his girlfriend. I ask her for screenshots and immediately call my boyfriend to find out what's going on.
Now i will admit i was not very mature about it, i was calling and screaming on the phone asking if he cheated. As per usual, hes a very calm person so he explained to me. She had bought her ticket just before we had met and she had already said she was coming to see him. Now what has me absolutely HEATED is that because he didnt want to hurt her feelings he continued to lead her on and sweet talk her so that she wouldnt refund her ticket because its a lot of money. Her japanese is non existent and his English is garbage, so when she said he was coming to see him, he took it as i am only coming to japan to see you. so basically he decided to entertain her until she came to japan and then when she went back home he would somehow cut her off without hurting her feelings and hopefully remain friends. Boyfriend comes to my house and me, in my uncontrolled rage i am tearing into him, I've told him that because he's too nice he ends up hurting not only himself but people around him. i called him a coward, and that even if he didnt have feelings for her during these past months its messed up to not just her but also me, because i have always been honest and i cut out all the men i had relations with in the early stages of us dating. He is crying, apologizing, begging on his knees for forgiveness but in the moment i am so upset i just keep tearing into him, i do admit i said some not nice things. (not my best moment i am aware). He does tell the girl that around the time we met the reason his messages to her were getting less and less was because he met me, and he was really going to try and make our relationship work but he didnt want her to cancel her ticket because it was so expensive so he chose to entertain some romantic messages here and there. This is where we find out that there was a very large misunderstanding. even if he broke it off with her, the girl was still going to come to japan regardless, and she would have been happy to meet as friends. because my boyfriend is spineless and didnt say what he should have said at the beginning, he did not know this information and just assumed she'd cancel and her ticket was non refundable.
I was raised most of my life in japan but with very progressive parents so I believe that if i say what NEEDS to be said and nothing more, the reaction of the other person is not my responsibility to take. most japanese people dont think this way and it always leads to drama since people wont just put their foot down.
yesterday from noon to 1am, i basically tore him a new one. I also made a few conditions if we were going to work this out. 1. obviously block the girl on everything if she hasnt already blocked him . 2. he has to tell his parents he cheated (his mom and i are pretty close, and in the event this conversation or topic were to ever come up in their presence i didnt want them to find out from me so i made him tell them). 3. from here on out i expect full honesty about everything and anything. if i even get a whiff of some nonsense i told him its over 4. regaining my trust and the level i love ive had before is going to be difficult and take a long time, he has to be willing to do the work. 5. i will never forget this, (i have no intention of holding it over his head in the event of a different fight) but months or even years later if i remember what happened, i want to talk about it and he has to be willing to face that head on.
Did i handle this the right way? We both have our fair share of problems and i admit i didn't completely cut off a guy i was previously in a fling with until maybe a month passed in our relationship because i was scared, but during that month we never spoke romantically. ive never been in this situation and its difficult because i know all the cultural nuances at play and the sheer stupid personality of my boyfriend. everyone tells him hes book smart but not street smart, and it shows the most in these situations.

Good time of day to you all,

 Recently I have had the oddest thing happen to my car. I was dropping off my son and when I returned to my car and put it in reverse my car reversed no problem. When I engaged Drive it just revved the engine. No response from the gear at all. I was able to downshift into 1st and 2nd and the gear caught and I could go, but entering 3rd and then Drive would just get me back to a high RPM rev. Any ideas? I added transmission fluid this evening after running my car for a good ten minutes. I took it for a cruise and the problem persisted. 

Thank you in advance for any advice.

08/11/2019: SummerSlam 2019: The Fiend def. Finn Balor
(The match, the buildup, everything stays the same. Also in future matches, his entrance here stays the same, so no red lights or anything.)
09/30/2019: Raw: Seth Rollins (c) def. Bray Wyatt via DQ - WWE Universal Championship
(Same match as in real life, with The Fiend still attacking Seth post-match.)
10/06/2019: Hell in a Cell 2019: The Fiend def. Seth Rollins (c) - Hell in a Cell Match - WWE Universal Championship
(Same match, same buildup, same everything as in real life, except, oh i don't know, THE FIEND WINS?! Arguably the dumbest booking decision of the past 5 years is avoided by remembering the rules of Hell in a Cell.)
10/31/2019: Crown Jewel 2019: The Fiend (c) def. Seth Rollins - Falls Count Anywhere Match - WWE Universal Championship
(Same underrated match, buildup, everything stays the same here.)
11/24/2019: Survivor Series 2019: The Fiend (c) def. Daniel Bryan - WWE Universal Championship
(Sami Zayn attempted to convince Daniel Bryan to join his faction, but The Fiend attacked him with the Mandible Claw. Wyatt taunted Bryan, leading to Bryan challenging Wyatt for the Universal Championship at Survivor Series. Wyatt accepted, but with Bryan facing The Fiend.)
12/15/2019: TLC 2019: Bray Wyatt (c) def. Braun Strowman - WWE Universal Championship
(On an episode of SmackDown, Wyatt challenged Braun Strowman. A title match was scheduled between the two the week after. Bray showed up in a Firefly Fun House segment on the next weeks episode of SmackDown to confront Strowman, claiming families fight, but Strowman will “let him in”, thus reinstating their rivalry.)
01/26/2020: Royal Rumble 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Daniel Bryan - Strap Match - WWE Universal Championship
(On the SmackDown after Survivor Series, The Fiend appeared and attacked Bryan, ripping out his hair. Following his match with Strowman at TLC, a hooded figure attacked Wyatt and then revealed himself as a returning Bryan, now with a buzz cut and shorter beard. On the following SmackDown, both Bryan and Strowman stated their desire to take the Universal Championship from Wyatt due to their respective personal issues with him. On the next week’s episode, Bryan defeated Strowman to earn another Universal Championship match against The Fiend at the Royal Rumble. On the go home show, Bryan delivered a running knee to The Fiend and attacked him, only for The Fiend to retreat. Frustrated, Bryan changed the stipulation of their match to a strap match so that The Fiend could not run away.)
02/27/2020: Super Showdown 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Goldberg - WWE Universal Championship
(Now I know what you are thinking. However, I am changing some things. On the 02/07/2020 episode of SmackDown, Goldberg was interviewed by Michael Cole. He stated that after watching the Royal Rumble, it made him want to get back in the ring. He said he wanted a shot at the Universal Title. After Bray Wyatt interrupted Goldberg with a special news version of the Firefly Fun House, Goldberg challenged The Fiend for the Universal Championship. Wyatt then stated that The Fiend accepted. This time, THE FIEND wins via squash.)
03/06/2020: SmackDown: Randy Orton def. “The Eater of Worlds” Bray Wyatt
(On the Smackdown after Super Showdown, The Fiend said on the Firefly Funhouse that he hasn’t forgotten nor forgiven what Randy did to him 3 years prior. Randy already had won a #1 Contender’s match for the Universal Title for Elimination Chamber but wanted Bray on the go-home show, thus making this match. Post match, The Fiend attacks Randy.)
03/08/2020: Elimination Chamber 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Randy Orton - WWE Universal Championship
(Basically everything I said on the previous match, except on kickoff show interview, Randy makes it personal by saying Bray will see Sister Abigail again very soon.)
04/05/2020: WrestleMania 36 - Night 2: The Fiend (c) def. John Cena - Firefly Funhouse Match - WWE Universal Championship
(Seemingly announcing his retirement, Cena declared he would not be appearing at the event, stating that WrestleMania spots should be earned. As Cena gave a farewell salute to the audience from the stage, the lights went out. When they illuminated, The Fiend appeared behind Cena. The Fiend then pointed to the WrestleMania sign, signaling a challenge to Cena, who simply nodded in acceptance. A match between the two was then scheduled for the event. On the March 27 episode, Wyatt challenged Cena to a Firefly Fun House match, and Cena accepted.)
05/15/2020: SmackDown: Bray Wyatt (c) def. The Miz - WWE Universal Championship
(While the Miz was in a match, Wyatt interrupted and wanted to "play" with Miz and wanted to become a part of Miz's family, which enticed Miz to search for Wyatt. Later backstage, Miz found a photo-shopped picture of Miz's family with Wyatt in place of Miz, after which, Wyatt attacked Miz. A match between Miz and Wyatt was then made.)
06/14/2020: Backlash 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Kevin Owens - WWE Universal Championship
(Not much story here. Owens won a #1 contender’s match, in the weeks leading up to this, The Fiend threatens him.)
07/19/2020: The Horror Show at Extreme Rules 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Jeff Hardy - Ladder Match - WWE Universal Championship
(In the buildup, The Fiend targets Jeff, claiming that he’ll know what the word “extreme” really means when he faces him. He also makes fun of his past drug addictions.)
08/14/2020: SmackDown: The Fiend (c) def. Bo Dallas - WWE Universal Championship
(The Fiend has gone completely off the rails, nothing is stopping him. WWE Management bring in Bo Dallas (Bray’s IRL brother) to try and talk to him. It almost works, until The Fiend hits Bo with the Mandible Claw, making Bo let him in. Bo Dallas say before this match, if taking the Universal Title from him will end all of this, then so be it. He also says he doesn’t want Bray Wyatt, he wants Windham Rotunda back.)
08/23/2020: SummerSlam 2020: The Fiend (c) def. Brock Lesnar - WWE Universal Championship
(GM Adam Pearce says he has one last trick up his sleeve to take down The Fiend, and on the go-home show, Brock Lesnar makes his first appearance since WrestleMania. This is The Fiend’s longest match since coming back but The Fiend makes him pass out. Post-match, a certain head of the table makes a return…)
08/30/2020: Payback 2020: Roman Reigns def. The Fiend (c) - WWE Universal Championship
(At SummerSlam, Roman made his return, attacking The Fiend. On the SmackDown in the build-up, Roman says The Fiend is only a monster when he’s not there. Roman wins in under 10 minutes, starting his historic title run.)
And that’s how I would’ve booked The Fiend! Let me know if I should book him through WrestleMania 37, or his return last year!

So my parents finally had a divorce in 2020. I say "finally" because I saw it coming and honestly wanted them to. They have been fighting for years and other problems made me just want them to get a divorce because the tension was horrible.
They got a divorce because my dad fucked up, but my mom was the one to move out. For years now my mom has told me that if they ever got a divorce she would take me and my brother and we would live happily alone. But because she already found a new partner while the divorce was still in motion, me and my brother did not want to go live with her because she promised it would only be the three of us. It's childish, I know, but me and my brother have been through a lot.
So me and my brother live with my dad now and it's fucking awful. Even though my dad messed everything up he pretends to be the victim. He acts like we have to pity him. He has always had an alcohol problem but ever since the divorce it got worse. He would always say "your mother did this to me". My dad stopped receiving a bonus at work because he's been slacking off and we spiraled down a financial disaster. He actually quit his job a month ago, making me even more worried about our financial situation.
My mom has always done the cooking and cleaning around the house so when she left I had to take over. I taught myself how to do the laundry and I had experience doing the dishes but never liked doing it because it's gross. My cooking was sometimes good but ive never made something disgusting. I always made sure my brother had clean clothes to wear to school and I would even spend the little money I had to buy something if we really needed it. Where I always spent my money for pleasure I now have to use it like an adult.
So, about my dad... Yeah he's acting like the victim but he also acts in charge, and I mean he felt like he was the boss of EVERYTHING. We had to ask permission for things that didn't need permission. We weren't allowed to do the dishes. He would tell us to leave the dishes because he said he would do it. And because we were scared of him, we listened. The dishes would just pile up for days and when I decide I'd had enough I would do the dishes, only to get yelled at afterwards. Other chores and activities would have the same outcome.
We weren't allowed to be sad. If we had a bad day at school and just wanted to stay in our room and be upset, he would for some reason always accuse my mom for being the reason for all sadness. If we had a disagreement about something he would always say "Why don't you go live with your mother!" "Why am I the bad guy?" It's exhausting.
My dad obviously has a smoking and drinking problem. My mom was strict about the smell of smoke in the house but after she left, my dad didn't care and would smoke indoors and his room was full of askes. A teacher even asked me one day if I was smoking because I came to school smelling like smoke. My dad could easily drink 1.5 litres of alcohol everyday. He would start drinking early in the morning untill he went to sleep so he's never sober. It made me and my brother not want to hang out with him, which made my dad mad.
My dad was emotionally abusive. He never physically hurt us, but his words has a huge impact on us. My dad is the cause of our trust issues, our paranoia, and our insecurities.
We are not allowed to make jokes. We are not allowed to have friends over. We are not allowed to go out with friends. We are not allowed to take part in school activities. We are not allowed to be children. We are not allowed to talk seriously with him. We are not allowed to have problems.
I hate my dad, and I'm sure he hates us as well.
I just finished highschool, so you might think I can finally start my own life, but no, I'm not allowed to leave. I'm not allowed to go to uni. I'm not allowed to get a driver's license.
I'm stuck here

As the title suggests I've been working through covid all week and even with the time off work I'm bored as hell and since actual human contact is off the menu at the moment I figured this might be the next best thing(redditors count as human right?)
My interests are pretty standard I play alot of games(just finished Boltgun and currently playing Zelda TotK), I like reading, movies, cooking and baking. I flip-flop through a lot of interests, for the past while warhammer stuff and scifi in general has been the big one but I'm down to talk about really anything as long as it kills some time. Feel free to send me a message.

26F. Generally healthy despite this.
I have mild appendicitis and am going to get my appendix removed soon. The surgery date is three days before I was expecting my siblings to fly to see/visit me. I understand that you can return to low maintenance work shortly after the surgery and that you should I avoid lifting heavy— what about walking?? I live in nyc and their travel plans were mostly just walking about, seeing the city, and having a beach day.
Should I cancel their trip, or would I be fine to walk upwards of 10k steps a day days after the surgery? I will obviously be talking to my doctor about this also- but I just got news about the surgery date today and want to either delay their trip or manage their expectations of me as soon as possible. Thanks!

I cant tell if her incision is infected and I am so scared. I adopted her on Sunday, she is 2 months old and just got spayed 6 days ago on June 1st. At the shelter, she did not keep her cone often and now that I try to put it on her she refuses. The workers at the shelter told us we can keep it off if we’re watching her, but to put it on her when we’re not. Instead, I made a little suit out of a sock to try to prevent her from touching it. I don’t believe she’s been licking it, but she may have when we weren’t looking. We went to the vet today who said the incision looks fine but she needs to keep her cone on (which seems impossible). Now, i just looked at it again and some of the crust is falling off and looks a bit exposed now. Does it look infected?? I don’t know what to do and i feel so bad :(

Hello!
I have an opportunity for a Field Service Technician position where they will pay $18 for the first 4 weeks. After the 4 weeks of training, online and in the field. They offer a performance-based compensation method (the more I do the more I earn kind of thing). They would like me to work weekends and have varying days off... I said I would like to not work weekends and have set days off. (But might change that later)
Once all the training has passed and I'm on my own they will supply me a van with tools and a gas card, there is benefits such as dental, health, and 401k.

1 As somebody who is newly entering the tech field after college, is this a good start?

2 The second important question for me..

Would this job help me get data analyst positions?

After growing up in an abusive home does anyone else feel an inability to self-regulate emotions especially in situations where you see people acting out narcassistic parts of themselves?
Does anyone else feel like it really is the little things in a person that add up sometimes? I feel like I am constantly in situations where I see things others don't.
Like the other day I was in the car with my friends right? And one of them took an unusual route and I was like, "Hey why are we going this way?"
Their response was "Because its the right way. I always take this way".
And I was confused because in all the times we have gone to place x like 9 out of 10 of them were the original route and 1 out of 10 was an alternate route but we were not even on an alternate route. We were on a third route that we had never taken.
I pointed it out and both my friends sort of laughed it off like oh you are so silly but it sort of reminded me of what it was like driving with my narc family.
It seems everywhere I look in my life and relationships I see people who, just like my family, are prone to treating people unfairly or in manners that I think are sus...
And its like...the above with my friends is not a big deal but it sort of is because now I see a pattern with them thats just a little toxic and I was sort of reminded of all the other times they have taken an invalidating stance towards my feelings even though this particular incident was not bad in anyway...it just set alarms off in my head.
Its also like my parents in that I have noticed they will sort of gaslight me together or sort of say things about my conduct or person that they do not apply to one another.
Its really strange. I just feel like I am somehow on the other side of a toxic dynamic with them that I did not create or ask to be in.
Does anyone else see this stuff everywhere they go?

So I've been dashing for probably like 7 years now. In all that time I don't think I've ever had an order canceled by the system because I did not "arrive" fast enough. It's happened twice in the past week, without literally any notification. It happened again just now - I hit some traffic causing me to be a bit late, and by the time I got there the order was just gone and new ones were already coming in. Did they reduce the time we have to get to restaurants or something? Has anyone else been experiencing this since recently updates?

How's it going? Recently got the last few pieces to put my pc together, hooked everything up and promptly got an amber light on DRAM. I tried moving the ram sticks to different slots, taking the motherboard battery out and putting it back in, and repeating the processor. Google searches aren't getting me anywhere so figured someone here might know.
The specs are:
AMD ryzen 9 7900x MSI MAG b650 Tomahawk wifi gaming motherboard GeForce rtx 3070 DDR5 ram 6400 Mhz
If you need to know any other parts let me know, appreciate the help

Hi all,
Looking for some perspective/advice. I have been a teacher for 3 years this year. I am getting really tired and am interested in leaving education altogether.
I’m not sure what other jobs I would qualify for or be good at, and I’m expecting my first baby in September.
I wish I could take some time off but besides my maternity leave I can’t afford it. My husband is a teacher too. We both work at the same school and he is also miserable and looking into at least trying one more school before quitting teaching.
I will have my mat leave until mid December where I planned to finish out the calendar year and quit in January (at will school). Now I’m hesitating though because many women at work have told me it’s so hard to balance work with a new baby as is, and I’m wondering if a new job on top of that will be too much.
I’m also not sure what other types of industries will take me but I’m so unhappy with my current school and admin and I feel burnt out already. It’s embarrassing to admit but I just don’t feel like a good teacher.
There’s also the question of pay. I work for a charter and got a retention bonus and worked summer school last year so I made $62,000 last year. I’m worried if I switch jobs I will have to take a pay cut and I just bought my house in January and a pay cut really isn’t an option right now.
Have any other moms/parents been through my situation? I feel like if I’m going to leave I need to be preparing now but I’m not sure what to do. Any advice is welcomed.

So, essentially I am an assistant manager at a Corperate automotive repair facility. I spoke to a customer and made an appointment for a regular preventative maintenance service she was thrilled we were able to do the service. She dealt with my colleagues upon coming in for the scheduled appointment who recommended services on the vehicle. Next thing I know roughly a month ago I was served small claims court papers with outrageous numbers she wanted to be compensated for and me marked as a secondary defendant. I have contacted my Corperate office and they say not to appear but after talking to my local clerk of court they advised me the case was still active and I would receive a failure to appear if I don't show. I have no responsibility with this and got caught in crossfire. They scheduled me on this day even with over a month of notice and are trying to force me to use a sick day for this not to mention I have to travel over an hour for court and spend all day there on my own dime. Where should I stand with this? I'm in NC if it matters.
TLDR; I was served papers by a customer. I barely delt with. Corperate doesn't want to respond with any actual proof or even an email stating it will be handled and I have court 2 days from now. I will be sitting in court alone representing a large corporation as a defendant and they don't want to pay for me to go.

This is the post that was removed. Mods said: "Rule 3: No moral judgement requests. Moral judgement requests are asking people to evaluate actions taken or actions you want to take, in the context of right, wrong, selfish, or not selfish etc."
TLDR: My estranged sister has enabled her narcissist husband to do and say some awful things to me and my family, including, but not limited to starting a competing business after hiring him to do work for me. Last night she texted me that she misses me. I am not sure if I even want to open a sliver of a door to allow either of them back in. Should I respond? And if so, what should I say?
My sister and I were very close growing up. Her husband has always been a narcissist which has been directed at me more than a few times over the years, but I have always been able to look past it because "that's just how he is," and I wanted to preserve the relationship with my sister and niece and nephews. He was also the person that introduced me to my husband, who considered my BIL to be his best friend. We moved to the same town as we got older, had the same group of friends. Hung out every weekend. Our kids were close.
I own my own business, and we are very good at what we do. We are industry experts in our field. Every man who has ever worked for me has tried unsuccessfully to undo this success since I started. At one point, I needed to bring someone in for a particular client, whom my BIL was familiar with, and he had worked with this group in the past doing something completely different. He was familiar with what we do, so I hired him as a contractor. I felt good about this because they were family. We paid him very well, albeit sometimes a bit slow in the beginning as he was a contractor and he would get paid when we got paid. We also hired a friend of his. Things were going well so we began to give them more work and they worked well as a team.
We have certain protocol that we have to follow in the course of our work of which they were very aware. One of our more troublesome clients always tried to circumvent this protocol, and I would repeatedly have to tell my BIL and his team not to listen to the client, we have to do it this way or we could lose our status as an approved service provider. Well they didn't listen, which triggered an investigation, and we almost lost our provider privileges which would have essentially ended my business just as it was starting to ramp up. Instead we had to redo the work we had performed to all of the clients that worked with this team free of charge.
Come to find out, they did this on purpose, and started a competing business doing the exact same thing we do, and their first client was the client who triggered the investigation. Then we started getting calls from our very loyal clients that he was calling and telling them that they were taking over our clients as we were about to lose our service provider privileges. I went online and checked there corporate status, and the corporation was started right before the investigation was triggered. Their kids were all listed as officers, their two oldest were actively working for them. One of their kids was delivering the services but using BIL's name (illegal), eventually 2 of their kids were working for the client that triggered the investigation, and the whole time my sister was completely silent on the whole thing.
This is my livelihood. Both my husband and I work for my company, so if my company lost it's provider privileges, I would have had no way to support my family. Upon discovery, I ceased contact with all of them completely because I needed to do spin control and save my company. Eventually, my sister moved out of state, and he went back and forth between that state and ours while he performed work under his new company that was in direct competition with ours. Surprise to nobody, his company did not do well as he expected, and my company only grew. Eventually he moved to the state my sister is in permanently, but before he left, he met up with my husband to give back some things of ours that he was holding hostage. My husband said something along the lines of "I hope we can still be friends," and he said to my husband "we were never friends." So all around they have really hurt me and my husband both personally and professionally. And top of all of this, our friend group knew what was going on, and supported/enabled him completely knowing what it would have done to my family, so I lost my entire group of friends too.
This wasn't even the only thing he has done. At one point I was helping at a business they started (long before I started mine), and my BIL accused me of embezzling. Eventually, right before my wedding, he said to my husband "oh I found the paperwork, and yeah she wasn't embezzling." This was his version of an apology, and he couldn't even say it to me, he had to say it to my husband. And again, my sister stood by and allowed him to treat me like that.
Today is my sister's birthday. Last night she sent me a text that says "I have been thinking of you lately...miss you." I do not know how to respond to this at all. Or even if I should respond. After everything that her family has put us through, and how my sister has enabled this man, I'm not sure if I miss her...I don't know what I feel. I definitely do not want to open any doors to allow him anywhere near me or my family. I don't know what to do. I am guessing one or two of their kids are preparing for a wedding. As much as I miss my niece and nephews, I would not go. I am afraid if given the opportunity, he will do more damage and my sister would let him.

So, I've never been with a man but always wondered what it would be like. I'm recently divorced and figure if I ever want to experiment, now is the time. I'm not looking for a relationship and most likely nothing longer term. Just someone who is wanting to give it a try and see what it's like. If interested, DM me letting me know where you are located (not interested in anyone not local). Preferably, I'm looking for someone who is married with kids, clean cut (no beard/mustache) fairly fit and a bit younger (I'm fairly fit and I'm often told I look/act younger than my age). Let me know what you are interested in and what's off the table and we'll go from there.

Heyo, I'm getting used to working a new shift, I've switched around my toke time to midnight when I get off work. It's beautifully quiet, peaceful, but a bit lonely.
I'm hoping to find a fellow night toker to chat with and see where things go. Ideally you would be an unattached night owl, like me, and either on a similar schedule in my (PST) timezone or elsewhere in the world. 420 friendly would be nice too but not required.
Relevant details, if I miss anything, feel free to ask. Self identified nerd, non-hateful gamer, well travelled, educated, no children though have had long term relationships, short and long distance. Short brown hair, glasses, trimmed beard, 6'5, broad shoulders and a starter dad bod.
I figure we could start with midnight dates, text to see if we vibe but down with voice eventually, I'm happy to talk about your day, my day, interests, anxieties, favourite strains, paraphernalia, tabletop games, cartoons, star wars, hobbies, cooking, and whatever else pops into our heads.
As long as this post is up, I'm still looking.
Hope to hear from you!

Hi there,
I(19f) am in the process of switching to Wellbutrin 150mg XL from Cymbalta 40mg. I've utilized the search bar and found that a few other posts have asked the same thing, but I just wanted to create a post anyways. Maybe it's just my overthinking making me do this. I feel great emotionally, wonderful actually! However, my most recent period since I started the medication in May was really wacky. They're usually regular but around the 1st, when my period usually starts, I just got super light bleeding (kind of like something you would get at the last few days of your period) that lasted for 3 days instead of the 7-day heavy one I usually get. Super weird. I REALLY hope I'm not pregnant (have the copper IUD). I got the typical period symptoms I get, slightly sore boobs, nausea, bloated, but really short period that only lasted for a day or two. Does this kind of sound familiar to anyone here? Any similar experiences?

Currently I'm working as a software engineer at HCL technologies, Noida (HCL TechBee program). I have a 5 year contract out of which 2 are almost done. My CTC is 2.8L right now. I do WFH. There is not much learning in my project, just log in, handle tickets and log off. I'm a software engineer in name only.
I want to start learning something new, but I'm very confused between stuff like data science, DSA, AI, etc. I do love coding though. I don't even know how to switch to a different job/role after contract ends. I am kind of having an existential crisis right now and I'm just 19.
Can someone experienced or someone same age as me who at least has answers to some of my problems share some advice.
Also, I'm currently really interested in the data science field. But a friend of mine told me that you should be a SDE first and then switch to data science, cuz companies prefer that. Going straight to data analyst as a fresher is very hard and struggling he said.
If possible please share roadmaps too with Indian tech market in mind.

As long as i have lived i’ve been surrounded by addicts. My dad has been sober for a considerable while now, but all i ever heard growing up was that i wasn’t like other people. that i wouldn’t be able to drink like my friends do or participate in other substances recreationally. i brushed this off as my dad being a worried father and figured it wouldn’t effect me like that. i am not even 21 yet and i know i’m an alcoholic, high functioning maybe but it’s completely consumed me. it’s all i think about, it’s the only way i get through my day by the promise that i’ll get so drunk and lay in the bath and nearly drown every night. i realized it was bad when i started experiencing withdrawals. i want to go to a meeting, but i don’t know how to go about it. i’m scared and worried that my problem isn’t big enough to go to a meeting.